| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 9/6/2006 12:29:21 PM | Depends upon what is important...
If large amounts of money and the many aspects of variety and instant gratification it can buy you is highly valued...then that's probably what you're geared for, and possibly you'd be happier with someone whom feels the same way...at least the both of you will have something in common...and no fighting...at least until finances decide to take a turn for the worst... | |
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| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 9/6/2006 2:05:53 PM | yeah most women wont ask. They will see it from your actions. It really doesnt matter ive experienced alot of guys with wealth that acts cheap and think all women want them for their money . Ive met guys with enough money to live on but gave like they had money. so to sum it all up just get a real man who gives to a person he likes and stop looking at all womens at being the same. we are all different but guys come on how r u going to help pay the bills if u dont have an income. I heard of hustlin but come on at least bring something to the table its not being a gold digger its common sense.  | |
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| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 9/6/2006 2:38:27 PM | Well according to the second post I am a real lady then, because money honestly doesn't matter to me. I don't make enough money make any demands about what a guy should make.
It shouldn't at all make any difference, but some women are unfortunately shallow. Others have needs that must be met such as children etc. No man should be rejected solely on income. Good luck finding an unshallow woman.
Just a side note I usually end up having more fun on cheap creative dates than I do on the real expensive ones. I'm not talking dinner and a movie I'm talking double date scavenger hunts. Or just going on a picnic and a romantic hike etc. I had one date take me up to my favorite picnic spot and then pull out a can of soup, open it slightly, and put it on a rock in the fire to cook it. It worked really well, and the soup was great. Not expensive, but orginal and fun.
Money isn't everything, but having enough to pay the bills so you don't have to stress out is definitely nice. | |
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| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 8/21/2008 8:31:32 PM | The amount of the salary should not make that much difference. But what matters to me most is that the man is hard working, and has the mindset that he desires to provide for his family, even if I'm working. I don't want or expect a man to pay my old bills. I think current expenses should be divided in half equally, money kept separate except for maybe a joint account for stuff we both want.
I don't do well with a lazy man, and I won't support one. Did that once. Not again. Things should be equal. And I'm not materialistic at all. I don't need fancy gifts or extravagant vacations to make me happy. But I've been very poor raising my kids, and now I'm not poor, and I'm proud of that. I want a man to have worked as hard to get where he is as I have. | |
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| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 8/21/2008 10:49:56 PM | | I hear ya. Its garbage nowdays, if you dont have this or that, you dont get a date. Bullshit. Thats the one thing i hate on here, many women just want taken out of their shitty environment, and if its not perfect they dont want you. I gave up , and just stick to the forums. I went out to a shopping mall, a county fair, and got some dates that way. I could care less what people think about my profile. I have met atleast 6 women who ****in lied, and another thing about this site. Whats up with once you get their number, and you call each other, then decide to make a meeting point. Then its time to turn stag. You dont hear from em ever again. Well personally if their is going to be issues with looks on this site. Many chicks are either used townie meat,or look 10 yrs older than most of the other sites. Dont worry man. Shit clears up. | |
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| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 8/22/2008 12:14:41 AM | Anyone that asks questions about money almost right off the bat, is just asking to be kicked to the curb.
Sometimes it's a pissing contest.
Sometimes it's genuine old fashioned greed.
In either case, what you're worth isn't dictated by your annual revenue. That's just what the Taxman thinks you're worth so he knows how much to claw back come income tax season.
Be glad you're living humble means right now. At least you'll have a better chance of knowing that whoever ends up with you is after YOU and not your wallet. If you fit their petty/shallow measures, you'd always be askin' yourself if she's with you for the money.
You deserve better than being treated like a walkin' ATM machine. Just keep being ok with who you are and what you do, instead of trying to live up to materialistic and unrealistic goals. | |
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| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 8/22/2008 6:56:23 AM | | a person's salary is not the sole criterion for most people, but it can tell you a lot about a their education, ambition, interests, and capabilities. longer-term, people want to be with someone they have some substantial things in common with. in most cases, a person that makes $200k a year is just going to be interested in someone who makes $33k a year, and it isn't the money per se but the underlying reasons behind it. the only ones whining about this the $33k people. come on. | |
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| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 8/22/2008 7:07:42 AM | I'LL TAKE A SHOT AT THIS ONE. MOST DIVORCED OR SPERATEDWOMEN HAVE HAD ISSUE TO DEAL WITH THEREFORE THEY ARE DIVORCED. WE ALL WANTTHE SECOND TIME AROUND TO BE NICER. AT OYR AGE (40'S) IF AFTER 20 YEARS OF WORKING YOU MAKING ON 25,000 IT SHOWS YOU NOT MOTIVATED OR A GO GETTER AND MIGHT JUST BE LOOKING FOR A SUGAR MOMMA. MOST WOMEN WANT TO MEET MEN THAT MAKE THE SAME OR MORE AND I DONT HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THAT. THE SAME AS I DONT WANT TO MEET A WOMEN WHO IS UNEMPLOYED OR MAKE 5.OO A HOUR. IT'S LIFE DUDE, WANT TO SWIN WITH THE BIG FISHES GOT TO MAKE BIG BUCKS.
YOU CANT SAY ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT BUT YOU CANT BLAME THEM IF THEY ARE. WOULD I DATE A WOMEN WHO WORKS AT MC DONALDS, I DONT THINK SO! | |
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| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 8/22/2008 12:49:45 PM | OP most women are too emotional to use their intelligence when dealing with men. If they want a wealthy man they have to look smoking hot. Even average dudes with low salaries can pull smoking hot babes.
All women can think about is getting prego. Even if their chances of getting prego are slim, having a child dominates their thoughts. But it is crazy to me how they want to get prego by a Matt Damon, Brad Pitt, or some wealthy dude when they are too old or don't look good enough.
Intelligent females adjust their standards accordingly and focus on meeting intelligent dudes or satisfying some other more important desires.
Being rejected by some chick is the best thing that can happen to you. Imagine what the poor sap she accepted has to deal with. | |
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| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 8/23/2008 1:43:08 PM | | I do not think that you look unattractive in your photo. Of course there are women that are looking for a man that will provide them with a comfortable life. But not all are like this. Personally I am a working professional and I would not accept a man that could not equal me intellectually or financially. | |
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| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 8/23/2008 1:55:33 PM | The long and short of it is that as a society, we are vain. The norm these days is for women to date older, wealthy men and for Men to date young, brainless trash with gorgeous figures. Get used to it. There are women out there who don't give a damn about your money, and are happy earning their own. Stick to those women. They are the ones that will hang around if times gets rough.
Off topic, looking at your profile OP it says you have your Bachelors Degree in advertising. How is it possible that with that degree you don't make a substanial amount of money? A good friend of mine just graduated with his Degree in advertising and landed a job making $80k/year. Advertising is extremely profitable in this day and age, so not sure where you are going wrong. Maybe that is a the red flag women see? | |
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| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 9/9/2008 9:02:18 PM | | Like it or not salary and socio-economic status does partially determine the success of a relationship. In addition to emotional, mental, and physical needs...most relationships that are successful are based on socio-economic status. I know it is politically incorrect to say that the rich should be with the rich, the middle class only with the middle class, and the poor with the poor, but take a hard long look around you. That's the way it is in most relationships everywhere in the world. At least in my opinion, there is nothing wrong with this. Whether people want to admit it or not...we do live mostly by a caste system (although not as extreme as formerly practiced in India and other nations). It's human nature. People with similar socio-economic status can identify with each other much better than someone from another income level. Now, some people will say well I'm rich and my spouse is struggling. Well, that may be true but you're the exception to the rule and we all know there are exceptions to the rule for everything in life. But here's the reality check for most of us. Rich women and men don't want to date someone making significantly lower than themselves in the salary department because they don't want to feel like a "Sugar Daddy or Momma". Most people who have worked hard and have made good money don't want to support someone else. They want monetary equality. Can't really blame them for that. Most of us people who fall under the "Middle Class" label also don't want to date someone who is barely making it and can not quite hang with the lifestyles of the rich either. Some rich people blow money on things that don't make any sense to middle class people. For example, our friends in Hollywood that buy a piece of celery on a plate with a slice of fish for $100 dollars a plate. What's up with that? Or take their poodle to the pet salon for an equally mindboggling cost. Fortunately, most rich people don't do go to such extremes with their disposible income. Anyways, on to the subject at hand. Poor people also can't feel too comfortable dating a rich person because their lack of money seems to always come up in conversations. Not all rich people are arrogant, but a lot of them whether they know it or not offend others with the way they live their lifestyles, the words they choose, and their manorisms. How can you have a relationship with someone when your vocabulary is totally different than theirs and much more advanced or lower? Not all people that are poor are trashy. However, several of them whether they care or not offend others with their excessive disregard for the environment and excessive littering in their neighborhoods. Now some people might say that if they were rich they would date someone with a lot less money if they knew they had the potential to someday match them monetary. But honestly, how many people are really willing to wait for anything in today's society? | |
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| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 9/10/2008 1:07:20 AM | it shouldnt but to shallow superficial materialistic people it does.
then 1o or 20 years down the line when thoses people are getting a divorce they will wonder what went wrong.
what a bunch of dumbasses shallow snobs are. | |
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| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 9/10/2008 9:11:54 AM | | Any person who bases a relationship or dating on what a person owns,education,makes,or looks is a fool waiting for a" player" or "pimp" trying to but them,,,I would NEVER consider dating,or even having some one like that as a "friend" as those "for sale" are just that,,,I have dated those with great welth,,,they will be the first to tell you that those" money diggers",those bar hoppers,those looking for the big score are always chasing the next rung up the ladder,,those who have money and those who have not seek one main aspect "core values",,,today medicine can produce results on any appearence for any person,,,it is not the body of a race car that wins the race,,its the "motor" that drives it,,,D. | |
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| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 9/10/2008 9:14:26 AM | | All I ever ask is that the man make enough money to support HIMSELF, and not expect me to do it. Beyond that, I don't use income as a checklist item for dating. | |
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| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 9/10/2008 2:32:44 PM | | To think that income isn't a valid consideration for a relationship is like sticking your head in the sand. Life, whether you like it or not, is about money. if I were looking for a partner, I wouldn't even consider a wealthy woman. Not that she would consider this poor man, either. A possible partner would have to be on my financial level for us to even think we have something to build on | |
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