| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 8/25/2005 7:03:05 AM | Salary Shouldn't Determine a Relasionship, That's my Opinion, I'm 32 and had only 2 REAL Relasionships in my Life, both Broke up with me to save money or to get more money from a richer guy
I Don't believe however that a woman who ask's: What do you do for a Living, is Shallow. | |
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| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 8/25/2005 7:23:22 AM | nothing. showing a car and saying "waaaaaaaaaah waaaaaaaaaaah women only want me for my money waaaaaaaaaaaaaah waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah"
that's wrong. and stupid. and insulting.
besides, screw a beemer i want a new accord with navigation | |
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| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 8/25/2005 8:17:16 AM |
Hey Biz and Sparkle........will ya all kiss and make up? U both have made yur points!! hahah
U2 must be Taurus's???????
OK, OK I'll quit the roughhousing with Biz...I'll even kiss him, but I ain't slippin him the tongue
Actually, Biz...I really liked what you said in one of your posts.
my2cents - Virgo here...
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Posted: 8/25/2005 8:35:45 AM | ...from what I have read...seems like a split decision... ...the women that have money , don't need a man that makes "a lot" of money , but still have to come up with half of the bill money , and pay for thier own haircut.... ...the women that do not have finacial secutiry , seek a man who does , and most likely won't go out with a fry cook...
...the men that have finacial security , don't seem to care what the woman does , as long as she takes care of his needs {whatever they may be}... ...the men that do not have finacial
security are just s... outta luck... ...wich would put me in the S.O.T. catagory... | |
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Posted: 8/25/2005 8:52:23 AM | We DID forget to bring up sex, didn't we? 
Sheezzz what a couple of dorks...fighting about $$ all night instead of sexin' each other up!
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Posted: 8/25/2005 8:56:32 AM | | i don't know slappy when i was married and working the money was in one account and it wasn't about splitting or paying for anyone's own haircut. wasn't that big of a deal | |
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Posted: 8/25/2005 9:16:37 AM | @ dejavue2005
Shallow, depth as nothing to do with it, not everyone works 9-5 I like to know the occupation. I work 11-3,days and 6-10 four evenings 2 of which are on Friday and Saturday.
Also a lot of women make between 50 & 100k. Myself I want some equal but not poor.
I had been engaged to a guy, bought a house he paid out $500.00 in support. I carried most of the expenses. When parted he received ½ of the worth of the house, He left very happy, had enough to buy his own house.
A friend who has her own business, again guy left, he was classed as wealthy.
Just a reverse of what a lot of men go through, I realize that.
Of course we know we have pre nups. But sometimes a guy is making 40,000.00 and the woman is making 90,000.00 It not always the guy making the big dough.
In most cases it a valid question.
Depth as nothing to do with it.
It’s called being a smart business women.
As we all know there are always exceptions to the rule. | |
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Posted: 8/25/2005 9:25:32 AM | well to be perfectly honest i would not date a guy that works at walmart i know that sounds shallow but i believe it is a mans job to finacialy take care of his family you put a roof over their heads food on the table clothes on their backs i am not saying he has to be rich but he should be able to do this if he can not then he is not much of a man this is just the way i was raised and in return he get the love of a good women a clean house and a hot meal it only fair
i allso like a man who is able to spoil me a little you know afford flowers and dinner somewhere nice maybe a nice pair of earings a girl would be lying if she said she did not like to be spoiled | |
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Posted: 8/25/2005 9:37:57 AM | Silver -
OK, you're being honest, so you get props for that...
Seriously, though...are you saying you're only willing to contribute love, cleaning, and cooking? This, in exchange for a home, all expenses paid, plus bling, flowers, dinners out, etc.?
Doesn't really seem all that fair to me, but hey, you may just find it if that's really what you're looking for. Good luck!
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Posted: 8/25/2005 10:20:36 AM | Slaphappy -
I'll give you my thoughts on your summation...
the women that have money , don't need a man that makes "a lot" of money , but still have to come up with half of the bill money , and pay for thier own haircut..
First off, please DO NOT consider the Biz/Sparkle game as reality. Read our other posts, and the others in this thread and base your summation upon those.
Different types of women want different types of things in a relationship. The young ones who haven't yet gotten themselves on their feet financially seem to be looking for the financially stable guys...I don't knock them for that, really...it's kind of scary for a young woman who's living paycheck to paycheck, but dreams of being a stay at home mom, living in a comfortable home...and the easiest way for them to get there is to marry someone who will get them there. They may be waiting for a very, very long time...while not even giving the super sweet guy in the apartment next door a fighting chance, and *he* may actually be the one with whom she would truly love and find happiness.
the men that do not have finacial
security are just s... outta luck... ...wich would put me in the S.O.T. catagory
I don't agree that you're SOT. Is your financial situation really what defines you, as a person? A great personality, a sense of humor, and an honest effort to show a woman your true self should at least get you started...then it's up to you to figure out which women are worth your time and effort.
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Posted: 8/25/2005 12:26:36 PM | I really dont see this as a money issue. I know us men like to turn it into that, because in a sense some men are being rejected because they dont have jobs, or make enough money. I see it more as these ladies looking for a man that is responsible. They are looking for someone who has taken the proper steps in life to not be stuck in a minimum wage paying job, or someone that has planned ahead well enough that know that they had to get an education and secure a decent paying job. It is not about $25K compared to $50K. It is about, how can a "man" be trusted to take care of another person, if he didnt even take the proper steps to take care of himself?
This is no different than going through college so you could apply for a job that required a specific degree. But when you went out at applied, what did you find? They didnt ask a darn thing about your education, degree, or field of study. Most employers make a college degree a condition for the sole purpose of showing that you are responsible and followed through with achieving your education.
We all want security. Men women, children, everybody. And let's face it, the honest truth is that most women dont want to be stuck with someone that they have to take care of financially. Despite social norms changing as they are, and women gaining more financial equality, men are still expected to be providers for the most part. Many of us are 30+ years old and we are old enough to understand that the warm fuzzies are not enough to make a lasting relationship work. Yes they are nice, but when push comes to shove, money issues can throw water on those warm fuzzies real quickly. That is just life. | |
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
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| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 8/25/2005 2:07:26 PM | Well as I stated in one of my boards, I had one girl who thought I was sexy, cute, wanted to meet. She messages me and say's this
" I am free tonight to hook up if you want too, as I would love to see your eyes in person, anyhow there is a problem if we do meet. I don't have any money, so would it be a problem if you paid for the babysitter and the dinner/movie/dancing whatever you wanted to do, and I will pay you back once my mother allowance comes in"
I told her I wanted to meet for a coffee, and she blocked me -- now is that shallow or what lol | |
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Shaps
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Msg: 125 | |
| Should salary determine relationships?
Posted: 8/25/2005 2:30:34 PM | Goverment assistance for single moms or low income homes.
Yeah it was a nice jesture on her part, only problem is, if it comes on the first of the month, what the hell was she doing being broke by the 17th of the month.
Oh well, I will wait for the next girl to ask me for a loan, as it seems that is one of the things I seem to be useful for. | |
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