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Posted: 8/24/2005 11:47:47 AM | traveller - they're everywhere!!!! keep looking. and newbies on the dating scene.........wasn't that long ago that's what i was. keep your head up, stay positve, you're worthy of love and someone will notice that!!
hadenuf - i replied to your mail dear :) | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 11:53:24 AM | | You would think that si but guesse what....they are not everywhere.....but back to your post.....your right in my case i would say i a a regular guy. a decent human being depending on who u talk to and considermyself nice. in that respect. and due to that i can sleep at night. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 12:01:09 PM | | and you should be fine with that. don't let dating bring you down either. it sucks we all know it. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 12:07:46 PM | Well in my small area of the pond, the guys I see that have the most success dating are total a**holes, they can't keep a relationship for very long, but always have something on the go. Girls lined up for them to knock down.
I have been told i'm a very nice guy by numerous girls and testimonials on another website.
I'm not sure, I just know i'd rather be decent to ppl.
Personally, I like to do good things for people because to me, it's the right thing to do. Makes me feel good. I'd rather contribute to the world than leech off it.
Only thing is, this can be sometimes mistaken for being a door mat. which is something I am not. Granted I can take a lot. But why is it that I should change who I am to be accepted by a girl?, why can't someone just accept that it makes me feel good, to be good to people. especially someone I care about.
I'm never going to aritificially throw in a bit of "jerk" just to keep a girls interest. Also if I like a girl, why is it so wrong to show it, isn't going for what you want a sign of confidence? Seems to be a taboo thing for a guy to do. To get a girls interest you have to act like you are not interested in her. :S what's the deal with that? lol
Saying all that, i can see the interest of the "bad" type. I have been attracted to a number of "bad girls" because of the excitement I thought they would bring to my life. Which always ended up being a disaster in the end.
Anyhow i've rambled enough. hehe
Good day to all! | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 12:08:52 PM | I dunno, sounds unrealistic to me. I'd calssify nice as being seen in a positive light by the majority of people you contact. Some people, and some situations are not deserving of nice. I think that's when a nice guy shows his true colours.
Throw down being nice to defend yourself and others? Or step up to the doormat role?
I'm a nice guy, just don't F*** with me or my family.
Do unto others and all that jazz. So you are definatly correct in saying it has to be a generalized niceness. A classic scenario is how your date trates you vs. how they treat, say the wait staff.
Sort of a shame that nice guys are lebelled as doormats. Sure i'm a shy nice guy, but that doesn't mean i'm a corpse or a tool. I'm a tool for completely different reasons.
But think of all the built up rage some of us nice guys have, like I said, don't F*** with the true nice guy's friends and family, they are just waiting for an excuse to give something back to all these people that shun the polite, abuse the sincere, corrupt the innocent.
Beleive it people.... there are some who just wanna do good, because it feels good. The ignorance to it out there Frustrates the hell outta me, but i'll stick with my guns, Karma is it's own reward. Someday, it will return in one form or another. As long as I can make at least one other person smile in the day, I'm doin all right.
I apologize for the rant. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 12:11:58 PM |
I dunno, sounds unrealistic to me. I'd calssify nice as being seen in a positive light by the majority of people you contact. Some people, and some situations are not deserving of nice. I think that's when a nice guy shows his true colours.
Throw down being nice to defend yourself and others? Or step up to the doormat role?
I'm a nice guy, just don't F*** with me or my family.
Do unto others and all that jazz. So you are definatly correct in saying it has to be a generalized niceness. A classic scenario is how your date trates you vs. how they treat, say the wait staff.
Sort of a shame that nice guys are lebelled as doormats. Sure i'm a shy nice guy, but that doesn't mean i'm a corpse or a tool. I'm a tool for completely different reasons.
But think of all the built up rage some of us nice guys have, like I said, don't F*** with the true nice guy's friends and family, they are just waiting for an excuse to give something back to all these people that shun the polite, abuse the sincere, corrupt the innocent.
Beleive it people.... there are some who just wanna do good, because it feels good. The ignorance to it out there Frustrates the hell outta me, but i'll stick with my guns, Karma is it's own reward. Someday, it will return in one form or another. As long as I can make at least one other person smile in the day, I'm doin all right.
I apologize for the rant.
That was f'n brilliant! I could not have said it better myself! Thanks Neohippy. Echoed my feelings to a "T" | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 12:22:44 PM | well obviously when you're talking about self defense or defense of your family or even your property nice doesn't and shouldn't come into play. besides, isn't being a hero nice? i would think so.
you are ABSOLUTELY right about generalized niceness. everyone deserves respect. at least in my opinion. rudeness to the wait staff is totally unacceptable and definitely means you're not a nice guy.
you're right, it is a shame some nice guys are labelled as doormats. i believe i called people that do that fools.
everyone has their breaking points. you're right. it's been my experience that the truly nice are the long fuse BIG bomb types. no one is perfect. no one can be the almighty JC. a truly nice guy will be truly sorry for and ask forgiveness of the people he's taken his bad day out on.
in my humble opinion, you really do seem to be a genuine nice guy. no apologies for rant needed. you're absolutely correct | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 12:24:42 PM | Thanks si.....no dating doesn`t bring me down. just the whole aspect of being new to it again after so many years and finding things differnt than back in 1984 lol..... | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 12:28:26 PM | | oh you ain't even kidding! do you find that people are a lot creepier now than they were the first time you were single? | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 12:38:04 PM | | SI no not creepier just anal i guesse this whole internet thing....speed dating....other impersonal ways of meeting people so different. just for instance i have no clue for the whole profile thing, how do you get a true idea about someone from a profile it`s like a police report lol.....and now people are so carefull which is not a bad thing but for goodness sake you still have to take chances right??? hell mabey i need a time machine.....lol whats your take si | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 12:44:21 PM | i think internet dating and speed dating is VERY impersonal. it's just so easy to "delete" someone.
writing a profile SUCKS! they have a profile review forum you may want to check out. that could help.
i signed up here orginally looking but i was so glad i met someone offline first. just works better for me.
a time machine would be nice! i agree.
i know there are a lot of wacky chicks out there and they'll say and do stupid things to you. my only advice is just don't give up. i've been love's bytch and i refuse to have a bad outlook on it or be bitter or sad. really, i think we've all been love's bytch a time or two. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 12:54:08 PM | | :) she's not canadian though!! is immigration tough? | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 1:00:31 PM | the thing about people who claim they're nice guys is that for the most part, many seem to have too much self-pity and not enough of a go get em attitude. you have to be forward and aggressive in the right situations and you have to make it clear through actions and words that you are interested in a girl romantically. if you don't make your intentions clear at the outset, you have no right to be disappointed at the lack of results.
for myself, i know i haven't had too much luck meeting women of late, but it's because i don't have much place to meet them. i don't sit around and mope about it though (although i did have a phase where i was kind of down about my love life). i know when i'm around people at work and school there will be more opportunities. i also know girls don't avoid me cause i'm a nice guy. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 1:01:19 PM | Hell i can get a green card!!! as for imigaration havn`t you heard we let anybody in!!!! i need a vacation how is st lu in sept? help a brother out!!!! lol  | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 1:08:44 PM | hey rocboy we all go through droughts. best of luck to you! you're right! niceness isn't usually avoided. and you're right on with everything else you said too
traveller - stl in september is hot, muggy and crime ridden. but i love it | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 1:21:32 PM | | SI i can deal with the hot muggy part...crime ridden hmmmm well.......... lol mabey the imigration would be easier for her lol | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 1:24:30 PM |
toro - what's the problem? you seem nice to me!
Thanks, I appreciate that.
Not really sure what the problem is, I have more female friends than I can count.
I quite often am told "I love you, your so good to me" but they always go home with someone else, then come back to me when they get hurt again.
And I never turn away someone in need. I can't.
Just wish one of them would take a chance on me....
I'm going on to a great job, and within 5 years I will own my own home, have a nice car and property up north. But it's kind of hollow knowing I won't have someone to share any of it with. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 1:28:27 PM | SI.......forget imigration just walk across the border!......i would love to go to a pro nfl game...does your friend have tics!!! wow am i way off topic!!! sorry. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 1:37:22 PM | toro you're just getting with the wrong girls. there are a lot of women who will appreciate genuine kindness and manliness. keep looking. you'll find her
traveller- are you kidding!? rams tickets!!! who can afford those!! :) | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 1:41:50 PM | SI how much they can`t cost that much??? even with the exchange rate i would have to pay!!! hell if she can get enm i will pay no prob!!! | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 1:47:31 PM | I think you are really cute, smart, funny...and kevin is a lucky guy.
And I would help anyone who needed my help...if I was in a position to do so. Sometimes, being nice is not rewarded by others...so, I figure it has to be its own reward.
Could be wrong though... | |
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