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Posted: 8/24/2005 1:51:18 PM | traveller - bring at least $200 american :)
moondancer - thanks!! most of the time it does have to be it's own reward | |
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| Advice for Nice Guys
Posted: 8/24/2005 1:53:58 PM | I used to be a kind, sweet, caring, nice guy
now I'm a kind, sweet, caring, bitter, ranting, nice guy :P
ranting about life's problems is fun  | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 1:59:36 PM | unreal!!!! really 200$ wow no prob.....let me know when! st lu here i come!!!! | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 2:01:59 PM | ranting is fun!!!!!!!
tickets are outrageous, then there's parking and snacks and stuff. bleh | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 2:03:46 PM | ah take public transport make sure i don`t get mugged and hell beer and dogs and mabey hit a tailgate party why not would be worth it.....lol | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 2:11:52 PM | then you have to sit through three hours of football 
hehehee | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 2:14:02 PM | | not funny lol....................never met an american that doesn`t love there football!!! wow you are unreal.....does your friend like football??? lol have a great day! | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 2:18:27 PM | i'm a baseball gal.
we're gonna get spanked for chatting. it's against the rules. i'll mail ya | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 4:07:22 PM | | I say try going to church, you'll have a great luck getting friends and what you need later | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 4:08:37 PM | | hmmmm...doesn't work if you aren't religious..you just spend a lot of time having theological "discusssions". | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 5:11:00 PM | | I hate football and most sports (tennis okay) I just used that as a example. I was just being goofy or if you will Daffy. I just know for a fact that men should be a little egotistical...it's okay. There is a fine line I agree........but nice doesn't cut it what cuts it is honesty and loyalty something most "nice people aren't" I learned a long time ago that people who lacked social graces but had attributes such as loyalty and doing what needed to be done even if was painful were people I looked up to. Most nice people are actually only timid. I don't do things because they feel good now. I do things that will feel good later. No one is perfect and life is scary and hard for everyone who trys to break out of his/her Skinner's box. That is just fact and sometimes people would be better off if they just tried and failed tried and failed like everyone else who succeeds at anything, because that is the nature of growth. I am a person that won't cut people down and will do things in a pinch for others....if they are loyal and good to me. I don't put up with garbage.....I see people live there whole life putting up with abuse, fear and misery. I accept life is painful; therefore I will grow and not retract into a metaphorical shell. It's good to have healthy anger (anger that motivates a person to be a better person), If I can do anything to boost someone up in a healthy way I do, because it's the right thing to do. Its amazing people will drink them selves to death so they lose their fear and they consider themselves macho. These same people won't risk trying new things if there is a high chance of failure, but heavy drinking and drug use is the worst failure out there. Failure isn't bad...just shortcomings that have no intrinsic value do. Hey, I like people, because I know we are all intelligently designed creations by a creator of some sort. I also have love and feeling for people, but that's not enough to be good. People pleasing is only good enough to be "nice." | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 6:16:19 PM |
toro you're just getting with the wrong girls. there are a lot of women who will appreciate genuine kindness and manliness. keep looking. you'll find her
Yeah I tend to make the wrong choices.
Here's hoping when I move to Toronto, a much bigger city than Hamilton which is where I live now that I meet someone. Maybe this singles cruise will be a lucky thing for me. :D
A manager at my old job told me that she feels someday a girl will appreciate me. Maybe. I'd like to think so.
Thanks for the kind words. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 6:28:49 PM | I used to be a nice guy and I never even got a date.
Then I became a jerk and got some action.
Now I'm nice again and I couldn't get laid in a whorehouse.
Methinks there's a pattern here. Methinks being an a-hole attracts women. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 6:39:22 PM | Well im really an ***hole!!! weeewww pressures off!!lol | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 6:41:22 PM | | For me the problem with being a nice guy is that people will eventually walk all over you, and once they figure out that you will let them they will continue. After a while the only way to stop this is to blow up and get mad, but if you do this you are no longer the nice guy you are now the crazy guy with a temper that no one wants to talk to in fear of getting yelled at. So you see how being a nice guy will eventually drive you crazy. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 8:49:08 PM | This is what I wrote in another thread about nice guys:
I think this relates to the "nice guys finish last" theme. It's not that women in general are attracted to jerks but they are attracted to men who maintain their sense of self and independent thinking. A nice guy tends to cater to a woman, be too agreeable and is too willing to cave into a woman's apparent desires in order to please her. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 9:29:40 PM | Kinda reminds me of the MTV commercial where the dork tries to get the girl.He tells her that she looks good and she wants to file a lawsuit for sexual harrasment.But a good looking guy comes up in his underwear and says the same thing and the girl falls in love.
That's about how it is.It doesn't matter how you act or what you say if you look good.But if your ugly well you better be rich.But then you'll only find a hot model that wants to marry you then wait for you to die so she can get the riches. | |
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Posted: 8/25/2005 6:14:10 AM | reading comprehension people reading comprehension
nice people ARE loyal and honest. lying and bretraying aren't exactly nice qualities.
nice does not equal dork
being too agreeable does not equal nice. equals jellyfish
and um.....jimmy..........models probably have their own money.
and being bitter and unable to comprehend won't draw the ladies either folks. just a tip | |
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Posted: 8/25/2005 6:59:40 AM | Since i have been on here i have seen so many arguments over the nice guy bad boy topic....in my opinion which really might not matter, is this. a girl sees a bad boy and the girl wants to be with one and you the nice guy wants the same type of girl, then become the so called bad boy then and stop making issues of it, look at my pic do i look like a bad boy, does this sound like a badboy...i have a great job no tatoos do not drive a bike, and actually treat women like people,.......does this sound like a good guy. i wear deisles, drink jack, hang out with buddys who date rippers,.......its all a matter of perception....as for just being a solid human being with values and yes very important just treat people like you want to be treated, and does the above label you as a person (nice guy, or bad boy), whatever, if you can sleep at night being the way you are then thats all that matters.
(geez i feel better now) | |
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Posted: 8/25/2005 8:05:20 AM | I totally agree with you SICutie...., but I also have to disagree with you on one thing though...I passed the good guy test with flying colours and I do believe that nice guys finish last all the time.... I've been on here for like three months and have been the nicest guy...but never get any responses from any women cause they are either shallow and go only for looks or say they are looking for nice guys, but are looking for the bad boys...
What is a really nice guy like me suppose to think when girls are like that...
I know I may sound bitter....but it's just that Nice Guys finish last all the time I guess.... | |
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Posted: 8/25/2005 8:18:03 AM | aww! drop them they don't deserve you. i'm not at all hating on younger women but maybe try just a little bit older. it took me awhile to appreciate a truly nice guy.
my kevin is a truly nice guy. wouldn't trade him in for all the hot jerks in town.
lucky for me kev's a cutie too.
you don't look too bad yourself, sweetguy. don't be discouraged. ok?
traveller - i don't think how a person has fun, their mode of transportation or any surface thing makes a person good or bad. you seem nice to me and i'm always right :) | |
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Posted: 8/25/2005 8:39:26 AM | | Where are the nice girls?????? Everywhere look around!!! Only we are probably busy working, volunteering for charities and trying to wash the scum off of ourselves after a long day of dealing with jerks who think that they are all that. | |
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Posted: 8/25/2005 2:40:01 PM | Now, can a nice guy be at all critical of others?
I can't say I'm a nice guy because of my self-hating and judgemental ways (i know its not healthy, yes i am trying to work on it), but decency, values and respect for others should still be appreciated right?
One other thing i've noticed, when someone is telling you about a problem they are having, it doesn't mean that they want your input or assistance unless they ask for it (another thing i'm still trying to learn).
hopefully that's not too off topic (thought it may be pointless). | |
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| Advice for Nice Guys
Posted: 8/25/2005 5:03:06 PM |
maybe, just maybe, if we were all nicer to each other none of us would end up jaded
ya and if the queen had balls she'd be the king... so what | |
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