| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/16/2005 11:22:21 PM | ~*i grew up with mostly boys as friends...simply because the girls in my neighborhood mostly wanted to do girl stuff like play dolls and do their make-up what not an whatever...i had more fun playing basketball and kickin it with the boys...which to this day...my best friend is a guy...growing up they protected me sexually probably more then i did myself...lol...even if i wanted to have sex...they were mean muggin anyone i was interested in...lol...im more of their sister than anything else...never ever would i ever consider one of my homeboys someone i would have sex with...hahaha omg never...only because i know all the dirt...but i love them all the same...and i think they would feel the same way about me...not to mention it also helped me understand guys...so yeahhhh def guys and girls can be friends without sex being involved...as for going out with my homeboys...when im single..yeah def kick it with them...but when im in a relationship...i include my man but once he gets to know my friends...he totally trusts in me lol...that sounds so bad...but it goes both ways...i get along great with most of my friends girls...especially my best friends girl...haha sometimes when she cant stand him or he is real crunked up she calls me up and says..."make him stay there tonight"...just so she dont have to hear his big mouth...hahaha...*~  | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/16/2005 11:36:57 PM | TDH, lets give it up, I dont see anyone actually answered the OP real question, just kinda looked at the "Headline" or title. Luckily for you and me, we would never let our "friends" interfere with our lovers. I dont know, for some reason, my lover is very special to me. Sure someday we may not be together, and guess what, my friends will be here still. IN the meantime, we rock each others world like men and women should.
I hope you have a special lover TDH, maybe you have some "friends" who are hiding their feelings, unless they are psychologically perfect. I know I am not psychologically perfect, so I have to make sure my lover knows I am trustworthy person.
I dont know if anyone else here has addressed the concern intimate partners have of others being "alone" or in private with their SO. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/16/2005 11:42:51 PM | Here's another way to see this situation. A guy is hot for a girl that thinks of him as only a friend but he figures she'll "come around" eventually. She finds a new boyfriend and her "friend", being jealous, looks for every opportunity to hammer wedges in between her and her boyfriend. The boyfriend can see that there is something wrong there, the "friend" is too close with his girlfriend and is sabotaging the relationship. He mentions it to her, she accuses him of being jealous, the "friend" says "I told you so" .....Eventually he convinces her the guy is no good and she dumps him. Now he has her all to himself again and she come and cry on his shoulder.....this is exactly the problem.
You know what aquarium, I don't agree with everything you wrote but I hear you on this one for sure. It is entirely pointless. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/16/2005 11:43:11 PM | Oh, and TDH, why not introduce some ecstacy into the mix (them's powerful!)...for good measure....lot's
of chocolate, alchohol....and then why stop there...just watch the movie naked...oh yeah!!!
Hell, TDH, if you were at the party I'd being doing you too | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/16/2005 11:46:33 PM | | This question started me thinking. Going out with friends as lovers or going out with friends for simply pure reasons. Say for example... Going out with a group of people to the movies or to hang out and enjoy their company after a hard day at work may not be sexual at all. It may be just a way to be with people from work on a off duty situation and the last thought in ones mind is getting it on. In my case I do hang around a wide variety of ages at work, both men and women and sometimes I go to movies with two or three of my fellow employees. Just because we wish to see a particular movie. Then we head out for a blizzard or something. They are my friends but not love interests. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/16/2005 11:46:41 PM | | What is it with all these women who need guy friends to tell them what loosers they are dating anyway? What does that tell ya? Lets talk about having good judgment, shall we? | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/16/2005 11:48:11 PM | ^^^no you wouldn't.
If I was there with my "brothers" or even my "sisters" you could add all the mood altering drugs you wanted and it wouldn't become an orgy. There is no element of sexual desire between your actual family members...well, in most families I suppose (ok this is getting all Freudian suddenly). The point is that there is an element of sexual desire between friends in many cases - the whole point of this thread. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/16/2005 11:48:40 PM | @Ladypagey
A word of advice....don't be going to any movie w/ TDH & Aguariam; they won't be watching the movie with you, I'm afraid. You may be into the plot lines but they'd be 'into' something else. Sorry to be so graphic. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/17/2005 12:06:21 AM | | Well to put my words into perspective....I have never once cheated on a lover. I've been tempted many times, often by "friends" yet I have never once ever betrayed that trust. I wonder how many of you railing against my words can say the same. Oh I know how many of you will swear that you haven't.....lol. All I have is what I know of this world and if 800,000 of you lined up to scream in my face that it wasn't true and I must be the one with the problem it wouldn't change a damn thing. I would be very surprised if you could find a single professional sociologist, biologist, behavioural psychologist, etc. who would deny that sex plays a major role in human relationships....hide in the shaddows and protect yourselves with lies if you need to....I find the truth to be very liberating. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/17/2005 12:14:33 AM | | truthfully i think your ex was absolutely right it is possible, But you not only need to trust your spouse but the friends they are hangin with. I have never really had girl friends they've always been guys and it has caused problems but it was always everything but a sexual relationship. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/17/2005 12:16:02 AM | | Since I sincerely do not think myself sexy enough to capture the interest of fellows I can be totally pure in thought. Maybe I am way wrong in that but that is how I honestly feel. I have never been hit on by any of my friends. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/17/2005 12:18:31 AM | Somebody's been editing their posts after I've responded - naughty boy's!!
Learn to play fair - it makes me look like I'm arguing with a ghost.
Very sneaky! | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/17/2005 12:20:27 AM | ^^^^Well I think you're pretty sexy for a 64 yr old and if you were hanging out with guys your own age, they'd be wanting a piece of that! My own mother lives in a senior's building (she's quite a bit older than you are) and those guys can barely get around but they are still as horny as hell. In fact, they are so old they don't care what people think anymore, they are totally beyond these coy games of pretending and denying the truth...it's like watching Benny Hill or something...lol
@lazy....who are you trying to impress? I really hope this whole "I don't have a libido" game of yours will get you laid. I don't know how many times I have to repeat my same arguments over and over again...it's sooooo annoying. If I'm in a relationship and my "friend" makes a pass at me....she ain't no friend. How does the fact that I have never cheated diminish my argument that sex plays a major role in human relationships? I am speaking english here right?
edit: lazy...you're the only one editing your posts after people respond...in fact you entirely removed your last post after my response in this one. WTF? | |
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Posted: 9/17/2005 12:31:13 AM | @tdh:
Have you ever considered the fact that your labido is OFF THE SCALE!! That your
perspective on human sexuality is based on your own bench mark? Can you appreciate
there are sex adicts in society and then on the other scale people who go to
therapy because they have ZERO interest in sex?...go to the thread where it discusses
this issue. And then, there is the rest of us. Why is that so difficult to appreciate.
I don't give a d@mn what you believe about me...my girlfriends don't care what u
think.
If your life has been so altered because of your intense sexuality...that it affects
who your friends can be, it's time to go for the talk. It's totally, my personal opinion,
warped. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/17/2005 9:14:54 AM | @LadyPagey
"Since I sincerely do not think myself sexy enough to capture the interest of fellows I can be totally pure in thought."
Consider that sexuality is a reciprocal event/energy and you might attract someone ( of any age) if you let a little of that out. I mean no disrespect to you. I personally know that it's difficult to think of myself as sexually attractive after putting those interest aside to raise two children by myself, but now they are all grown up and after a few years finding out how I want to spend all my free time I think I might be "sexy" after all. LOL
BTW - this is the best current picture of me so don't look for others right now. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/17/2005 9:40:49 AM | | They sure can. However, it's my personal belief that most really good friends have at least some level of physical attraction towards one another and have at least considered the idea from time to time. | |
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