Reia80
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Joined: 9/21/2005
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/30/2005 2:10:31 PM | | Only if one is gay...or they're both married and not too great of friends. But close, close friends? No. Someone always has feelings for the other. Typical "When Harry Met Sally". | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/30/2005 2:23:01 PM | yes they can...look around? are all these groups have sex???........if he alone is going out with up to six women???? and not getting/thinking/working on getting laid he's full of it!!!
and how can you feel like a fool? he's your ex.......and if he is your ex what biz is it of your to judge what he does now????? or ami missing something here???? | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/30/2005 3:31:30 PM | Depends on how aggressive he is about wanting to see them!
I personally can be friends with men...but have not had much luck! They usually start telling me they have 'feelings' for me...and then we have THE TALK...the friendship talk. If their voice goes up 10 octaves, you know you hit a sore spot and the 'friendship' is usually doomed.
One married guy professed feelings for me...but promised that his feelings would be his own problem and begged me to not end our friendship. He used manipulation, guilt and anything he could to try to see me and when I didn't fall in line the way he wanted, he found someone else. Started an affair, and left his wife. He had many female 'friends'.
Personally, I would shy away from a guy who has so many female friends and not many male buds. If I end up in a relationship with someone, I would eventually be his very best female 'friend' and he wouldn't have time to hang with others...if he had time to leave me behind to hang with them, I would have to reconsider him and maybe hang out with my boy friends! 
Just sayin...
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/30/2005 4:27:22 PM | Geeez I turn my back for a little while and suddenly reason settles in. Quite the change from before when the whole thread was insulting me personally for daring to suggest that a woman's guy friends might be thinking about them in a slightly more than friendly way.
Notaprincess...again, I totally agree with you and your honesty is never unappreciated. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/30/2005 5:44:51 PM | I agree I have lots of male friends we do things together and have a great times. We all are comfortable with the fact that we r just that FRIENDS it can be done. It is a mind set. Sex is something that has to be there and if it is not the you both just enjoy the company of a good person. Is there a law stating that men and women can not be just that friends. I feel you gain so much from being able to talk to the opposit sex in regarads to feelings regarding how each of our gender thinks and expects. If you don't have the opposite sex friend to bounce things off of how I ask do you learn. A friend no matter male or female to me is a gift. But if your involved with someone they have to be comfortable with that relationship they have to be sure that they are the one in your life. Also they have to be confident in who they are in order to except that. If they r not then you have a prob. But I do think that men and women can be jsut that "FRIENDS" I have provaed that. But thenagain I'm older I have come through the triles of life you young people are just learning about who u r and how to deal with it.
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/30/2005 7:26:25 PM | | of course they can...i have a lot of female friends yeah the thought crossed my mind but never really put much thought to it cause i know them too well...just the mentality you have and how you handle it. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/3/2005 10:24:01 AM | can men and women be friends without sex?
yes for sure, normal ppl do it, but according to some ppl ive met no, they seemed to like trade up partners and shit,and go out with their so called friends and sleep with them.. ya
its ok if u choose to have a friend with benfits if thats what u both want, but i think that anybody male and female can be friends without sex for sure...
most ppl i think can, but some cant, hmm i dont know why, | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/3/2005 11:40:26 AM | Because as one gets older I think it all comes down too - do you still want this friend in your life, or do you want to have sex with them - it gets wierd - and never see them again.
That has happend to me a couple of times. But the male friends I still have, we RESPECT eachother, and haven't crossed that boudary, because we want to be in eachothers lives.
Not everything has to be about sex.
And the comment about yah they can be friends without sex, its called marriage is a little sad.
My parents have been married for 50 years and they are still much in love, and yes, they still get it on lol. (And I know someone here is going to go on how older people are gross when they have sex - whatever) And my Father doesn't need any blue pill for it either from what ma tells me lol. In that retrospect - I hope I have that kind of verility as my parents do now when I get that age! yah I used to think oh my god gross you two when I was younger, now I find it cute they are still attracted to eachother in that way. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/3/2005 12:06:06 PM | I have a number of friends who are girls that I hang out with. If I had a girlfriend at the time, they are more then welcome to hang out too. These people that are girls, I've know since highschool. I've know them so long they just seem like a sister of mine. People I date always have a problem with it. I'm not sure why. I know they have men friends, so why can't we have friends that are girls with out your girlfriend having an issue with it? I wouldn't get rid of a friend that I knew for 15 years to see someone that I've known (girlfriend) for a month. You know what I mean?
There is some kind of insecurity problem there. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/3/2005 12:13:13 PM | | Unless you know the guy is a player and you caught him doing something he shouldn't, then I would question it. I do have friends that are guys. Even my EX, I still talk to. I would never get back with him or have sex with him, but consider him as a friend. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/21/2005 12:54:38 PM | I think "friend" would not be the right word. I have women "acquaintances" that I don't have sex with but I don't date them, don't treat them or really spend any time enjoying doing everyday things with them. We have been acquaintances for years in some cases.
I am 68, in no need of Viagra and I would not consider a LTR with a woman unless she enjoyed having sex.
The upshot of this is that I usually date women that are not really age appropriate for short terms since most women past 50 do not enjoy sex very much. They become docile, retiring, increasingly stereotypes of the old granny. More mature naturally.
I am in search of the mature woman that still enjoys a full relationship between a man and a woman which of course includes sexual activity.
Why is this such a mystery for some people to understand is a mystery to me. :)
If you are ready to go and live in Oceanside, Carlsbad or Vista let me know if you are interested: old, long term lover. :)  | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/9/2006 1:54:53 PM | Ok first off that's a pretty stupid comment, "Can men and women be friends without sex?"
Do you crawl into bed with your best friend? I mean you don't call your buddy up on a Friday night and say "so, we on for the game, couple beer then some freindly sex"... Do you? Cuz personally in my social circle you'd get a little smacked up for making comments like that. NOW...... The REAL issue here is in "friendships" sex is NOT part of the equasion...
If it is ... Then you and your friend are "lovers" or "dity tramps" o have little or no respect for yourself or the other person...
In the end Friends are friends reguardless of gender and sex should not even be a thought related to the word "FRIEND"
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/9/2006 4:04:08 PM | If he ran away with her - first of all you are better off without him...
second of all - they were more than just friends.
I have friends that I have had for close to 20 years that are male - they are more brothers than freinds - and the thought of sleeping with eachother doesn't come up = and non of us would want to ruin the 20 years we have behind us. I knew their girlfriends, they knew my boyfriends. No one was ever threatend. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/10/2006 12:03:51 AM | | Of course men and females can be friends without having sex it's the question that we most recently want to ask ourselves is it really worth having the sex and looking the friendship over something so stupid as like sex. I mean someone you really trust and confid in happens to be one of your best guy friends and you want to have sex with him how stupid would that be it would just make things more awkward for the both of you but in all case yes we can be friends with different genders | |
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ya472
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Joined: 8/8/2005
Msg: 299 | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/10/2006 2:51:58 AM | | Almost all my friends are male, and they are good friends, for MANY years. But they know the bounderies too. I think it's great, and my ex was never jealous either cause he knew that they were just that, FRIENDS. I couldn't live without them! | |
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