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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/10/2006 5:11:47 PM | are you saying life long friends cannot keep a friendship - but has to go to sex?
Like I said - I have male friends I have had longer than most of my female friends.
Even when we get snockered - nothing happens - we respect eachother that much. My friendships with my male friends are more like siblings - and I don't want to friggin boink my brothers.
Friendship is different that passion. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/10/2006 6:16:41 PM | No. once I started dating a man that we had begun as friends, but not only did the relationship not work out -the freindship was dead - and couldn't go back to it. and I was more in pain over the loss of the friendship - than the relationship.
You are a friend or a lover.
True friendships don't consist for everyone of sex.
Again, I have female friends that I feel the same way about...and I don't sleep with them. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/11/2006 8:56:38 PM | | No queen what I was saying that male/female frienships usually turn into more and then last a lifetime or they disappear. The one that lasts a lifetime usualy is your partner! | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/11/2006 9:03:25 PM | Yea of cource............ive done it many times...i find it cool to have the woman as your friend...im not sayin everytime you wanna be friend inbetween, but you gotta be careful in what you seek because inless your gay..thing will get "un-easy" i suppose...attraction can ovwhelm you and increase.....but then again by that time i find its mutual if you play your deck right....
then it can become weird because now you got that commitment thing going on, and now your more than friends and now your doing things that our phychologically weird so my advice is "go with the flow" and be like "whatever" lol dont think to much...but know when you crossed the line.... | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/11/2006 9:05:35 PM | Well most good life long loves do start out as friends - but there is the initial 'twitterpation' that happens to you - you know that there is something more there.
My mom and dad have been together for 51 years, no cheating, and eachothers firsts. They were introduced and started a friendship - but as mom said - they both knew it was more than that.
See with my male friends, there isn't that, nor will there ever be - its been over 15 years.
But I think some on here were saying that generally men and women cannot have a friendship without sex being involved - which is hogwash. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/12/2006 8:43:09 AM | queenrhiannon...your right
people lable the FRIEND thing so we keep it apart from the dates. you say friends i treat you just like a friend...nothing more. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/12/2006 5:52:50 PM | Once I had a lady friend who was emotionally distressed,
She did not want to be alone,
So we shared the same bed for 4 days....
there was nothing sexual involved.....
now y'all figure that one out..........LOL | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 4/14/2006 3:01:38 AM | | Yes, not every man thinks with his penis. Some do and I (as a young man) apologize for those****heads. I like sex just like the next person, but there are real guys out there that would rather have a good friend than a sex partner, no matter what thier sexuality is. The person I use as my "shoulder to cry on" is a female and I couldn't ask for a better friend. Never once have I thought about having sex with her. Actually, the thought of it grosses me out. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 4/24/2006 9:47:48 PM | | I've got one that's saved my ass plenty of times from being a lot more ****ed up than usual. She's married with 2 kids, and I play the younger horny pervert to her older all-knowing vixen. We sit there all day and talk to each other back and forth like that. I get to flirt like the shameless crazy **stard I am, and she gets a release to take out her sexual frustrations (her old man sounds boring as hell). Nothing ever comes of it, simply because she would never do anything to break up her family for her daughters sake, but we both have fun. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 4/30/2006 8:54:52 PM | | yes they can my best friend in the world is.... and she just calld me while i was typing this LMAO.... but she is married and her husband is jelous as all hell because i treat her better than he dose she is my best friend she has 3 kids and she trusts me more than her husband Infact they are debating a devorce because he keeps treating her like crud trying to controll her.... eh but what do i know im just a guy | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 4/30/2006 9:51:08 PM | I think it's possible but it depends on the two people in question. Also Ive noted that it's not that easy if the person has a significant other. Also a age gap seems to make it work better.
I mean from what ive observed of one female freind that I have. I got to know her online a year ago met her in person two days ago. I have no interest in her in any manner thats love wise or physical but I still kept my best distance from talking to her far to much. She was with her fiance at the particular function I attended and notably she didn't spend much more time talking to me than to awknowledge me once and not that much. She didn't seem too intent on talking to me far too much in front of the BF. Yet theres another male freind 32 years old and shes 23 and they acted like brother and sister in the presence of her fiancee. So I guess she felt uncomfortable with showing too much closeness to me. Since im only 2 years older and so forth. Granted the age gap between 32 and 23 isn't much but it still is quite a bit.
A lot of my interests are almost identical to hers so much that it's scary to be honest and she is a very beautiful woman but I have no desire for her in that way. So im sure definately im not a threat in anyway to her relationship. Im not sure her BF is the jealous type or what he seemed like a nice enough guy and I wouldve appreciated a chance to get to know the guy better as well. Oh well, despite talking to her quite a bit online she seemed very dodgy in person of me to a point other than the whole hi yeah I know you so and so etc. Maybe something about my character scares her or something I said mightve offended her and it didn't come out. Though I have the suspicion she just dosen't want her BF to know I talked to her quite a bit maybe out of fear. I have no real idea. Ive been very apathetic about it and I don't really care. Just felt a little offended because she encouraged me to go to the function and I went partially because of her encouragement. So it just seems weird when someone encourages you to meet them and then they don't really show much camaderie with you.
It's no big deal I don't care that much. Plus im keeping my thoughts on it to myself around her because I don't want to give the false impression that im interested in her in a incorrect manner which would be beyond freindship. Plus givng that wrong impression scares me too much to really be involved with her as a freind. Im really scared of that whole what if she does end up liking me when im not interested and it will make her look like she went against her fiance. It just scares me too much to really want to bother pursuing our freindship anymore. Other than maybe just chatting on the messageboard that led to our freindship in the public with the rest of the people on that forum. Instead of in a private discussion anywhere else like on MSN.
So yeah it's hard to be freinds with a female. Though I think it's more because of societys stigmas, the people that can't hold themselves back from another guys gal/Girls guy and possibly that one person could end up liking the other eventually by accident in a more than just freinds way.
I think it works better if the persons of both sexes are single or like I said theres a gap that makes it impossible for them to be any more than freinds.
So it's not too much of a thing worth bothering with I think. Me personally I don't care a woman could have male freinds and a Man could have female freinds. I don't think it's threatning to the partner in the relationship. If anything if someone is likely to cheat they will cheat. If love happens it happens. I have no right to lock anyone in a cage and deprieve them of a social life. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 4/30/2006 9:57:16 PM | "Yes, not every man thinks with his penis. Some do and I (as a young man) apologize for those****heads. I like sex just like the next person, but there are real guys out there that would rather have a good friend than a sex partner, no matter what thier sexuality is. The person I use as my "shoulder to cry on" is a female and I couldn't ask for a better friend. Never once have I thought about having sex with her. Actually, the thought of it grosses me out. "
I feel the same way. When your dating someone your interested in having a serious relationship, it's a little different from seeing a person as a freind. You love the person your dating, you desire them intellectually and physically and on top of that they are a freind sometimes to some level as well.
A freind is different though they could be sexually attractive but me personally I can't think of female freinds in a sexual manner. It would be like sleeping with your mom, sister or aunt even if their stunningly georgeous. It's just that when the status is freind it just feels like your breaking a boundary an ethical one.
Unless your meeting as freinds with the possible intention of future dating and your definately both single and uninvolved with any long term partner.
I mean, the girl I know a lot of guys online desire her badly and joke about it too. Knowing her on a personal level, I don't feel like making flirtatious jokes with her and the idea of sleeping with her is just not for me. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 4/30/2006 11:03:00 PM | yes they can..... but guys sumtimes make it hard....
i think if men and women can be friends with out sex they have a good friend ship.. sumtimes when you throw sex in it ...it can fall apart....
but then again sumtimes it can also be a good thing so either way its hard to say i guess it depends on the ppl involved and what they want or need.... | |
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