EB1
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Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 351 | |
| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/10/2006 2:21:42 PM | yes, they can be friends without sex.
I mean come on, we are human beings not animals. We can control our urges.
Besides I have never been attracted to my male friends ever. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/12/2006 12:26:51 PM | Sooner or later its bound to happen?
Um no...
I have male friends I have had for 15 years - and neither of us would ever think of sleeping with the other. We are like brothers and sisters - and have respect for eachother - would you sleep with your sister?
Just because they have a penis - doesn't mean they cannot be friends. I would never sleep with my girlfriends - so why would I sleep with my male friends? Hey - you can by dildos- so having a penis shouldn't mean anything. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/15/2006 4:18:04 PM | | yes, men and women can be sexless friends if they think of each other as human beings first and not as their respective plumbing. whether i am having sex with a friend or not, i would prefer they thought of me as a human being. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/15/2006 7:43:44 PM | EXACTLY! Its a matter of respect for eachother and thinking them as your FRIEND.
And if that line is crossed for some reason or another - again its not friends its lovers.
And I ruined a wonderful relationship by doing that years ago. We were great friends, but decided to take it further. He became jealous and things just got so fd up. You can never go back from that - again because once that line is crossed and it doesn't work - so many feelings are hurt. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/16/2006 4:13:08 AM | Yes they can be. I have a boyfriend that has over 50 online female friends. At first I was skeptical,but realized that he chose me to spend all his time with. He talks to them, but that is all. He has friendship and concerns for them.
What does everybody think about that? I want to know. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/16/2006 4:24:07 AM | Yes they can. I have had lots of male friends over the years... no sex at all.
There were a lot of things about them though that I felt made them not bf material. Either personality or physical chemistry. But they were usually really fun to be around on a casual basis.
Quite often though, these male friends would disappear when they got a girlfriend. Many women don't like the idea of their bf's having female friends. For me, it depends on the friend and whether or not they were crossing a boundary that I wasn't comfortable with.
Unless she is a massage therapist, NO, I do not want her massaging my bf's back. | |
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Darrko
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Joined: 2/16/2006
Msg: 364 | |
| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/16/2006 6:58:02 AM |
queenrhiannon said :Yes you can be friends without sex, if there is sex, you are not friends, you are lovers.
Spot on, I have had friends that have become lovers and lovers that have become friends. I guess, how much time has to pass before you can just be friends? Or will you always be someone’s ex?
Mikey | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/16/2006 7:25:09 AM | | IN MY EXPERIENCE YES....... OFTEN IN STRICTLY PLATONIC FRIENDSHIPS BETWEEN MEN &WOMEN IF THINGS DO TURN SEXUAL IT CAN OFTEN CHANGE THE DYNAMIC AND KILL THE FRIENDSHIP | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/16/2006 7:26:51 AM | | yes it can be true as long atleast one of them isn't attracted to the other but if they both are attracted then chances are something will come of it sooner or later. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/16/2006 12:07:52 PM | | absolutly 100% possible!!! I've been BEST friends with a guy for 10 years....he's gotten no more than a kiss on the cheek from me!!! It's totally possible....I don't look at my friend as someone I would date or sleep with...(it kinda makes me want to throw up:)) I look at him as a brother and visa versa! I've had a lot of guy friends that I've never slept with....but....there's 2 sides to every story...some people aren't mature enough to be able to be alone with the opposite sex with out wanting to get some! :) | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/16/2006 12:28:53 PM | Hi Lep
I can most definitely vouch for the fact that a man and a woman can remain friends without rumpy pumpy between them. Been there myself on the odd occasion.
However, meeting up to six women at a time would make most partners suspect that not all was as it might seem. Maybe in your ex partner's case, all was actually not as it seemed. Or perhaps he just likes regular contact with an additional half-dozen or so females as a means to polish his ego?
Like you women, us men function equally as individuals. Only he knows the answers to the questions you have every right to ask. You certainly aint no fool for wondering. Keep on  Who knows, you might just catch him out, in which case he's the fool for taking you for a fool.
Regards
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/17/2006 12:03:48 AM | It's possible for men and women to be JUST friends, but if you've got a boyfriend or girlfriend, it's probably the friends they have of the opposite sex who they hang out with ALONE you should be worried about, not when they go out in groups...Of course, if they're doing group stuff, whether it's all friends of the opposite sex from your significant other, or both sexes, I'd be wondering: "Why the F**K can't I come, too?!?!?"
I wouldn't like my girlfriend going and hanging out with a bunch of guys only, but I sure like it a lot more than if she was doing something with just one guy...And of course, the setting and situation make a difference, too...My girlfriend goes and has lunch out in public with guys only, well, that's okay...My girlfriend goes and drinks at some guys house with a group of guys only, HELL NO! Even if I trust her completely, that would still be HELL NO! Because, I wouldn't trust the guys...Enough of my rant, I'm sure you all get what I'm saying. | |
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DeepC
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Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 372 | |
| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/17/2006 2:10:51 AM | | Yea sure they can. Lesbians and married women can easily be my mates. It's the single straight women who are mostly ahem, are a bit odd. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/17/2006 4:26:24 AM | Yes men and women can be friends without sex.
I have a few male friends that have been a part of my life for years. Have been in a couple of situations where a new love interest didnt  like the idea that i had male friends.
The male friends were not hidden from him. He would know where they live, if i was going anywhere with that person. Alot of times he would be included-he chose to not make the effort to get along. Those love interests didnt last long, yet i still have the great friendships.
What would one say to another? "oh by the way i have a love interest now, thanks for being in my life, i dont need you anymore" - what would that say about the type of friendship one really had with that person?
A dear friend of mine chose to practically end our friendship because of a new love interest he had. She would argue with him every time he would talk with me. I tried to be friendly with her, she was also included in some outings we would go on, but she remained negative towards me.
She accused him of having sex with me. (yet in the meantime she was cheating on him)...
Eventually i found out from another male friend of mine that he was having sex with her, Being the close friend of his i felt he needed to know. He confronted her, she tried to say that i was lying, and wanting him for myself. After that, i didnt tell him anymore of what i knew about her, he found out the truth on his own one night. He did apologize to me, saying he will never allow another human to come between any genuine friendships he may have.
If some guy or woman "suddenly" has "friends" you never heard of, are not invited along, nor get to meet them, then i would be suspicious of that and probably wouldnt be with that person much longer. Perhaps there is some sort of sexual thing going on with the other "friends", or in the making of a new sex or love interest.
Have also been on the other side of the fence, where my love interest suddenly had the new female friend that was married (so no threat )"liar liar pants on fire." She was someone from the same place of employment and he was "just"  ing her with situations. At first i trusted him as i had no reason to not.
When we were in a couple of situations, like dinners, parties at the home, i observed how she was following him around the house (sure didnt seem like just a friend). Lots of clues were present. The truth eventually came and our relationship ended. So did theirs as it was just a "sex" thing.
Just because there are a few bad apples, doesnt have to ruin it for others who are genuine about their definition of friendship. My male friends would be like they are my brothers or even like one of the girls (except they are male). And i dont sleep with my brothers or my female friends. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/17/2006 6:57:00 PM |  Blastkist has got it right! I have had some male friends that have been better friends than alot of my female friends! I consider them to be like brothers.... we've all had realtionships over the years and the new partners had no choice but to accept it... we are family and a package deal! We all socialize together & current partners are always invited and included. I was in a relationship and overheard a conversation where my now X, was trying to get my friend to admit that we had slept together & the X was told that after 30 years it hadn't happened, wasn't gonna in the next 30, and wasn't looking real good for the 30 after that and then proceeded to tell him in very animated and colorful language just how narrow-minded his views were... | |
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