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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/22/2006 10:23:29 PM | Dbndon
Hi there I don't know how to make the box with the quote.
But I tend to be very honest with everyone and most people I know follow suite. Sometimes it is wonderful. The CEO however did inform me that at times I was brutally honest and that although they have never rec'd any complaints because as long as you are honest and tact ful and not vindictive people don't mind. I should maybe taper my thoughts lol I am thinking about it. In my line of work it is amazing what some people discuss openly. No one that I work with would knowingly hurt another or be judgemental so there is no reason not to verbalize your opinions. I am sure that many have secrets , that is understood as well but it is also amazing how well we all know each other. Like Family. We are blessed. By this I mean we can discuss this topic and have a difference of opinion without stooping to the low levels of ridiculing others for not having the same beliefs as we do. It is not in me to convince others that I am right, it is not that important. We are adult enough to show others respect for thier opinions and can disagree with out pity or disdain. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/22/2006 10:29:34 PM | I have several male friends who I absolutely WOULD NOT give up if I was in a relationship. Yes, I would continue hanging out with them. If my boyfriend had female friends I would have zero problem with him going out with them. If I met a guy, and for whatever reason he had a problem with me heading out alone with a male friend, then I know that the two of us could not date.
It's a combination of trust in the other person and keeping your insecurities in check. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/22/2006 10:40:22 PM | Can one man be friends with another woman and not trip each other up over sex and remain friends? Well......-................,......................-,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
I GUESS SO!!!
heres to the die hards who never give up and keep trying no matter what. I salute you! Cheers!
Just leave us alone now please we like to **** about how impossible your world is if you dont mind thanks
Friendships require emotional effort. Sex only requires panting and physical exertion. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/22/2006 10:55:01 PM | | Of course. I have lots of female friends that are attractive. Yes they are attractive enough to me that I would sleep with them, doesn't mean I am going to. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/22/2006 11:13:16 PM | | I think , yes. men and women can be friends if they have always been friends. It's more of a problem once you've crossed that line. Can't go back and expect everything to be normal. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/23/2006 12:59:08 AM | | because women are not attracted to their male friends...he did something early on that showed her he was not in her potential mate category...she may realize hes handsome etc, etc, but he lacks the thing that women deisre...the thing that attracts them on a biological level | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/25/2006 6:30:31 AM | Well this is what I heard...and this is from one of my guy friends...Even though they are just freinds..If theyhad the chance they would not pass up a oppuritunity...As for myself I would never cross that line..It would be to wierd...
I think of my freinds as brothers I never had...I do have very good looking guy friends and they are great to use as a excuse to bail outta situation when your not interested in someone..Thank gawd for friends... 
I get the best advice from guys.. when it comes to dating etc...and we all know if the time in life comes when anyof us gets seruious about a special someone ,, that the freindships will take a back burner...As the bf will be the "one"...not the guy friends.. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/25/2006 6:18:04 PM | i think men and women can be friends as long there is agreement that cant be more cuz i think sex can ruin a good friendship. i think it when they are not attracted to each other a friendship can work
i had guys say to me i dont think we can be friends cuz you are hot and hard to be friends with someone who is hot
i do have some male friends in that friend zone
great movie see just friends
my bf trust me and trust him with his single females | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/25/2006 6:59:34 PM | | Of course they would like to sleep with you. They are men not your brothers. Even though they can just be friends doesn't mean they don't want sex with you, it just means they can control it. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/25/2006 9:09:58 PM | YES... men and women can be just friends without sex, I've done it and have male friends I've been friends with for many many years and we've never as much as kissed.
However, when you are in a relationship you have to use good judgement when hanging out with the opposite sex. You do have to respect your SO and behave like you are in a relationship, include him/her with your friends so they do not feel threatened. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/26/2006 10:41:59 PM | | Yes they can be. Why do all woman think that. You go hiking with guy friend and your girl thinks your hunting woman. Do you know how many woman go hiking. Oh, very little. Its that "Where do I go" problem. You go hiking with a mixture of guys and gals, and she thinks your all doing the wild thing in the woods. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/27/2006 5:52:30 PM | First, it is a good thing that a buddy corrected me on my pronounciation of platonic as I was saying plutonic,which would make my message look like a bloody Star Trek freakzoid.
Yes, I fully agree that men and women can be friends without physical intimacy and sex. I had about half a dozen female friends over the years and there was no interest. They or I moved moved away, got married, family, etc. I did not bother making additional as I lived with someone who had a more conservative viewpoint. I mentioned this to her when I was living with her and she said that she would probably have a problem. I am the only post-relation that will communicate with her after the fact.
I consider that it is critical to have platonic relationships today in the nuclear age. And I feel that one who can have a relation with the opposite sex without having to go all the way can make one less sexist. Granted, I enjoy having the input of a woman and I was always more likely to listen to mom than dad. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/27/2006 6:09:39 PM | | I have no idea about you or who you date, but I have several former GF's with whom I have remained friends. We call and sometimes even visit back and forth. No sexual involvement. That's not where we are. Were at one time but have progressed to a place where that is not the issue. I value their friendship. I like them as who they are. Isn't that enough? It is for me. I know that my life style is not something they could live. They need more security that I. Or at least the illusion of security. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/27/2006 6:21:04 PM | | Yes absolutely guys and girls can be just friends. I have probably around 30 female friends that are just that, friends. Its not something thats easy to do, and you have to make a consicous effort to not let things go further. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/28/2006 1:26:56 AM | I've had a female best friend (that I wasn't sleeping with) a few times in my life. The first was a roommate. The second was gay. The third was married. And the fourth I knew when I was married. In each case, the terms of the relationship were set by the circumstances. But the "friends only" category isn't something that can be changed after.
I've read profiles saying, "Friends first." That suggests to me that there are people who think friendship can grow to become more. I'm willing to try that because my previous program of initial lust getting me into things is probably what got me where I am now.
Where I am now is single. As are most people here. Which means that everyone's opinion in these matters is a little suspect. I have to wonder about those who have had a best friend of the opposite sex who's always been there to help pick up the pieces after a failed romance. If you have someone who has a worthwhile personality and so on but you shunt him (or her) to the 'friends' category and go for the excitement of a romance that fails, sometimes over and over, I think you should re-evaluate the program. I'll go read on of the million "nice guy" threads now. LOL. I'm trying to think if my happily married friends have any opposite sex best friends.
I prefer that my best friend be my significant other. Two people of the opposite sex (for my orientation, anyway) who are unattached and enjoy each others company? They're either (A)potential lovers,(B) back-up, or(C) too ugly to sleep with. Since I'm currently on a "friends" setting, I'll be hoping for A, "biding my time". But looking around for someone almost the same but that finds me handsomer. LOL. And if that should happen, then my 'friend' will remain my friend (because I'll then be in a relationship with someone else, as in my first paragraph.) But until then, a female friend who is single is definely potential future lover. I feel like Neo in the Matrix, visiting The Oracle,"No,Neo, you're not The One. I thought you were, but there's something missing." (He gains what was missing, in time.) So "friends first" is a fine beginning. Friends only? That's if one of us is or becomes attached to someone else. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/28/2006 1:47:07 AM |
I have to wonder about those who have had a best friend of the opposite sex who's always been there to help pick up the pieces after a failed romance. If you have someone who has a worthwhile personality and so on but you shunt him (or her) to the 'friends' category and go for the excitement of a romance that fails, sometimes over and over, I think you should re-evaluate the program. I'm trying to think if my happily married friends have any opposite sex best friends.
I was friends with all of my ex-GF's for several months (in one case, well over a year) before it became "more". And I'm still friends with them now, after. It doesn't guarentee (obviously) that it will work out, but I agree, I too often wonder about the people that go for the "excitement of a romance" over and over, usually with the same result, leaving this person that really cares about them, but just isn't so "exciting". Its the mystery of "chemistry" I guess.
As to the other part, yes.. I'm still friends with one of my ex's ex-best-friends (she pretty much alienated all of them after she dumped me, because they all liked me and thought she was stupid for dumping me). She's married, and I'm friends with her hubby too, and I knew them both before they were married, I've just known her longer (and even before they met, there certainly was no "attraction" between her and I other than friends). | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/29/2006 7:07:36 AM | You make a very good point! I could not be with someone that could not trust my judgement as far as my friends are concerned. Sure I would not place any one before my significant other, yet in our attempt to remain secure, I would say it must remain a priority.After all we do some time find ourselves in akward situations and be tempted, even if we are all alone and and no one ever knows what we had thought.
In this day and time, I believe when you have a "true" friend that cares about you, they would not do any thing to foster the kinds of behavior that would jepordize your relationship/marriage. Not to mention, we men tend to think we are right allllllllllll the time, and sometimes we need the objective view of a woman.
I know at least for me, during this time of being single, I have had enough hurt, and the more female friends I have the more I have to ask how to pursue the ONE the Lord puts in my life to be my wife. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/29/2006 10:17:12 PM | the same thing can be said of women. my ex-gf whom i met from this site went on tons of dates with "friends" she had met. and expected me not to be jealous. well, i wasn't jealous, i was hurt. if i'd gone out with other girls while living with her, she would have tossed my stuff out the window! so when i moved out in january, she was all shocked. "why would you leave me?"
"because you wouldn't stop seeing other men." really, it's not a whole lot to ask of someone with whom you've been living for 6 months.
so this garbage about men being "sexual beings" is partially true. but just don't forget that what's good for the goose is good for the gander. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/30/2006 8:11:47 AM | Yes, I have a few female friends that I Love in a platonic way, and I feel like having sex with them would ruin our relationships. I wish to keep the security of Not having to perform as a lover, but as a close friend and confident. Not that they are not attractive, but I think to hit on them would betray trust and security, and I value what we do have more than an affair. I like the Company of Females, but I can't have more than one lover, ever!
If I were in a Relationship, I would have to curtail any visiting or dating to be fair to the commitment of my SO, especially if she is uncomfortable. I would wish that they could be friends as well, and I've always attempted to introduce them to each other. I prefer peace and harmony and there is nothing I'd like better than to have a family of many Sisters to care for. | |
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