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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 6/13/2006 11:35:48 PM | I find women are only my friend really if they think we might 'hook up'
If they find out I am only going to be their friend, and they are on their 'husband hunt '
they have little room in there life for guy friends | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 6/13/2006 11:39:36 PM | Yes you can...but only if neither of you has a thing for the other...or...the one who does, has a total grip on the reality that it's never gonna happen...if not...NOOOOOOO...
Don't kid yourself...you fester and linger and ache and yearn and want...and then...it gets ugly...I never want that...don't even go there!! :)
Good luck...but if he is honest, I think you should trust him...if I'm with a woman, I'll be faithful...doesn't matter how many hit on me...but not all are the same..you be the judge..go with you gut :)
Good luck^^
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 6/14/2006 3:51:30 AM | Oh yes, indeed men and women can share a platonic relationship without even having a sexual thought cross their mind. I have plenty of those types of relationships, but as far as him going out with all of them, that's another story.
I think that he should have at least invited you to come along so that you would be able to meet his friends and be involved in that part of his life that he's obviously not compromising. And if you weren't able to go out, or anything like that, just for him to make an effort to say, hey, well maybe we should have a little get together and meet my friends.
My ex husband was the jealous type, and I knew it. He was in the army and I would occasionally have a night out with my friends, which were not usually girls. But he always had the comfort in knowing that he'd met them before, and even if he didn't, I'd always talk to him about them and tell him they're like my brothers and nothing would happen and that he had to trust me even if he didn't trust them. And that worked for us. I know it can be different in every situation b/c every person is different too.
And it wasn't the trust that tore us apart...it was the stress of being apart and in the Army...we just grew apart...just a little disclaimer for anyone that may suggest that even though we did those things, then why did you break up type questions....
hah
Anyway, that's my opinion and I'm stickin to it...
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 6/14/2006 1:18:03 PM | | wow jesiebunnies----------------------that was wrong..double standard...men can be friends with girls and not be sleeping with the,,just as ladies can have men friends...and just as you women think we should be cool that you all hang out with tons of men....come on..give us a break...if you can hang with men and we should be cool with it..then you should be cool when we hang with women....can we say PSYCHO!..(that is what you would call US if we got jealous..)LOL | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 6/14/2006 1:19:10 PM | | wow jesiebunnies----msg.#8------------------that was wrong..double standard...men can be friends with girls and not be sleeping with them just as ladies can have men friends...and just as you women think we should be cool that you all hang out with tons of men....come on..give us a break...if you can hang with men and we should be cool with it..then you should be cool when we hang with women....can we say PSYCHO!..(that is what you would call US if we got jealous..)LOL | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 6/14/2006 1:26:15 PM | | I agree. I have been friends why two ladies for over 20 years. I have sleep in the same bed at times, drunk together, talked, seen each other nude and alway been there for each other. I would never look at them for sex. And no they are not ugly by for. I have other ladies that are just friends too. I won't say that I am not a male and that it has never crossed my mind. But there is a differents in the feeling for a friend. I would like to know that I could be a friend to a lady before we had sex. I believe if not then you miss out on the best part. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 6/16/2006 12:07:18 AM | I agree Tantric. I've had male best friends most of my life. I always felt more connected to them than I did women and honestly, most women didn't like me when I was younger. I've had and have many male friends who I don't and won't have sex with and then there are the very few who I would consider or have considered, but as was said early on in this thread, most likely nothing will ever come of any of it. I think the only way to have a truly balanced life and even begin to understand the opposite sex, is to have friendships of all kinds.
I think the original post of this thread may have been lost along the way as I would question if I was in a relationship and my significant other was going out with his "girlfriends" even somewhat regularly. I do have many male friends, but we don't typically "hang out" together as a group in a way that I wouldn't want to include my better half in.
I hope by now she has moved on and found a man who treats her as she deserves to be treated; with respect and dignity.
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 6/16/2006 5:23:36 AM | | Yes, most of my friends are guys and (I never) had sex with anyone of them; and I have been "pals" with most of them for over ten years. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 6/18/2006 4:53:48 PM | Its not right in my book ! and ,ps i have alot of friends that is in that situation to and i dont see much in there relationships .  and if a man our a woman need's that to me it dosent say much about them ! and the relationship they are in . | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 6/18/2006 4:59:59 PM | | Its not right in my book ! and ,ps i have alot of friends that is in that situation to and i dont see much in there relationships . and if a man our a woman need's that to me it dosent say much about them ! and the relationship they are in . now if your not in a serious relationship with some girl than it's ok. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 6/18/2006 8:58:27 PM | Definately. I have many women friends with whom I have been close, but never had any sex nor even thought about it.
I guess you can call em ****buddies and not friends... | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 6/19/2006 12:57:46 PM | | I can't believe that question is even being asked? I have had so many male friends over the years, partied with, did everything with and not once did i have sex with ANY of them. They were and still are my friends. My male friends have even spent the night ON THE COUCH, many times. Do u really need to ask that question, of course men and women can be friends without having sex. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 6/19/2006 6:54:04 PM | Now, refresh my memory since I'm just an old fart......what was sex again??????
I have many Lady friends and there is no chance that either of us what more. And no I'm not gay...lol. I believe that you can be friends with both sexes and not have sex hanging over to spoil a good friendship. I'm not saying that if something started to grow between us, I would try to put out the fire, but how can you have a meaningful relationship if you don't start out as friends. And last, I guess I'm just old fashion, but I have never believed in "one night stands". It's all or nothing........
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 6/19/2006 8:25:39 PM | | I think that men and women can definitely be friends without sex. I have many male friends who I do think of as brothers. On some level am I attracted to them and are they attracted to me - probably - but I have never had the inclination to act upon that attraction when i have been in a long term relationship or even, when single. The truth of the matter is - if your partner wants to cheat on you, they will - whether they hang out with friends of the opposite sex or not. Sometimes as a woman, when you are having man dilemma's - you will go to your male best friends and ask their advice - just to get a man's perspective and vice versa, men - listening to their female friends **** about other men can become more aware of womens needs and concerns. TRUST is what it all comes down to - if you can't trust your partner, then why are you there? | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 6/19/2006 8:55:08 PM | | thats a tough question... i would be upset yup i would. its one thing to have a couple friends who are the opposite sex, but to be going out with them thats not right. I do have a couple male friends that i have known forever and when i was with my ex i never hung out with them without him around. I think that would be very disrespectful | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 6/19/2006 8:57:09 PM | | I would also like to add ... men and woman can be just friends. I have been friends with a guy for 4 years and we have never done anything sexual together, and we have partyed together alone... but i should ad.. when we first met we talked about fooling around but it never went any further then that and now 4 years later lol | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 6/20/2006 2:05:02 AM | | absolutely... depending on their maturity levels, interests, and current situations. my male friends come to me for advice or a womans point of view and vice versa. we totally respect each other. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 6/21/2006 6:31:29 PM | | No! When a man and a woman try to be friends sex always gets in the way. Lets face it the guy always wants to bang the girl. Because he loves or just for the heck of it. Just ask Billy Crystal. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 6/21/2006 6:33:30 PM | | No! When a man and a woman try to be friends sex always gets in the way. Lets face it the guy always wants to bang the girl. Because he loves her or just for the heck of it. Just ask Billy Crystal. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 6/21/2006 7:15:07 PM | | Yes this is very possible I have had many guy friends who were just that "friends" we would go out to the movies, play pool, go for a drink, go to the beach etc and just hung out. Sex was never brought up we were just close freinds and it was great. | |
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