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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 7/8/2006 3:11:40 PM | Platonic relationships, where we respect each other almost as brothers and sisters, good old fashioned respect.
I would be lost without my male friends - we help to ground each other and give a balance to each other's lives. It is a balanced relationship yin and yang without the complication of sex.
If you are in a relationship you need to be completely open - let your partner get to know your friends and never exclude him or her. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 7/8/2006 7:20:42 PM | From a very early age, my best friends have always been male. I have always been able to get along with and relate to men more easily than women. So, to answer your question; yes.
If I date someone, he has to understand that I cannot and will not give up my friendships just because most of them happen to be with the opposite sex. I have in turn been understanding and trusting when the individual I date has been friends with other women.
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 7/9/2006 6:09:53 AM | | lol. It depends on whether or not you have sexual feelings towards the other person and then act upon it, as I said me and my mate dont do it but someone mentioned it could be like brother and sister which is spot on. For me it wouldnt happen because it would just feel really, really weird, and not in a good way. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 7/10/2006 9:01:08 AM | It seems to me that one thing that interferes with any discussion about sex in this time and place is the atmosphere of taboo surrounding it. If you look at sex as a perfectly normal human interaction like any other, asking whether "you can be friends without having sex" would sound like whether it is possible to be friends without traveling together, or dancing together, or riding a bicycle together, or doing anything that two people may or may not enjoy doing together in spite of being friends. Of course the answer to all those questions is "yes", you can be friends without doing any of those things, in particular sex is not an essential part of friendship, but on the other hand it does not exclude friendship either, you can be friends and have sex if you both feel like it, why not?
Admittedly, sex can trigger feelings that go beyond friendship, in particular it may be a turning point to transform a mere friendship into a romantic relationship - in fact for many people (mostly women) being romantically involved is a prerequisite to having sex, while for other people (mostly men) it is sex what actually boosts their romantic feelings. So like with any other experience one must be aware of its possible consequences.
Perhaps the real question is whether you can have sex and stay "just friends" without becoming romantically involved with each other. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 7/10/2006 11:29:51 AM | It really depends on the people and the history between you two, if you two have never been with each other then there should be no problem there, but if you have, then that changes things, more than you might think, an example, i was recently with someone for a while, then one day she says i just want to be friends, no more being close, just hang out, do the same things we always did, just cut that from the picture. to a guy that throws up a red flag saying she's seeing other people, and it makes up hella jealous, to the point we get stupid, like little dogs running into a sliding glass door over and over confused running thousands of questions in our minds mostly "why"
but in short, once a guy sleeps with a woman, he will always picture her in a sexual way, maybe not all the time, but the thoughts will be there, and when someone gives something only to take it away, it creates fustration, and most people would rather simply walk away and not deal with the newly added stress of the situation, just have to both be adults and admit you are not going in the same direction and move on from the cross road you are standing at now.
doubt this makes any sense, im still going thru it, but it changes everything. and not for the good for some of us guys, we simply dont like change
now if you both have never slept with each other, he just wants you badly and thats something you have to decide if its worth it to you to have a horn dog trying to hump your leg every five minutes or be adults about it and walk away if he cant change his view on you, not everyone can change how they think of someone, feelings are strong, and sometimes take a frying pan against the head to get out lol ;) | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 7/10/2006 12:16:37 PM |
Perhaps the real question is whether you can have sex and stay "just friends" without becoming romantically involved with each other.
Research suggests that the answer is frequently 'yes'. See my post (pg 18, msg #447) for more details. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 7/10/2006 4:15:40 PM | I am pretty sure that the woman also gets a say in if there is going to be sex or not
and I say NO SEX to guy friends. There is no negotiation on that.
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 7/11/2006 6:44:16 PM | I just remembered a stupid experience I had with an ex boyfriend.
This was years back, 1999 or maybe even 1998...
Anyway my boyfriend (at the time) wanted to introduce me to his friends in Calgary (which is where he grew up). Most of whom were women...
These girls were quite snotty and I felt very awkward around them. I was trying to make conversation and none of them would give me the time of day. Wait, one of them said they liked my dress. That was it. I was having an awful time. We went to a party and I was so uncomfortable that I told my (ex) boyfriend that I wanted to leave. He didn't want to quite yet so I went to the car and waited for him. It was in the middle of winter. Yes I gave him the boot after that...
Anyway, it turns out he used to have sex with one of those girls, and she had feelings for him. What a slime ball for bringing me into that situation!
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 7/11/2006 7:02:10 PM | I have many female friends who I have no intention sleeping with. Just because I enjoy their stimulating conversation doesn't mean I'd like to be stimulated in other ways  | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 7/11/2006 7:51:01 PM | Of course! This one friend of mine who I've known for the past 12 years, is one of my closest best guy friends! And we've never done it! He's always wanted too, & every opportunity he gets he tries to make it known to me just to see if I'll ever budge(his little game?), and I never have and never will! I know his entire family he knows mine, I think of him like a cousin! But we did make a pack-if I am still single by the age of 43 and if he is as well then we should give it a shot a marriage-lol !!
Please pray for me that when I'm 43 I'll be with someone else!! Thanx | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 7/15/2006 7:01:55 AM | | I believe they can. I have had quite a few male friends without anything sexual or intimate happening infact they were some of my best friends. I find it is healthy to be able to relate to both members of the opposite sex. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 7/17/2006 5:18:27 PM | Absolutely! I have a LOT of male friends, most of whom I've known for years, and NONE of whom I have ever or will ever sleep with.
I play matchmaker for them if I know of someone that can make them happy and know or have known all of their girlfriends.
One of my best friends is guy I've known for over 12 years who always tells me that when I get married, we'll probably not be able to hang out unless he's married too because most guys will have this question in their minds. I always tell him that he's going to be stuck being my bridesmaid because the man I'll marry won't such a cynic | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 7/17/2006 7:12:44 PM | | obviously, what kind of question is that, i'm sure everyone knows the answer, just because a lot of people have sex with a lot of their friends does not mean you cannot be friends with somone and not **** them | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 7/17/2006 9:04:31 PM | | Yes definitely, men and women can be friends without sex. I have had male friends over the years and have thought of them like brothers. Even ex-boyfriends have been friends in my life. I haven't seen them often but we have kept in touch periodically. I know other women who have had male friends without sex. I've been told by some men that they can let down their hair better with women than with men since they can let out their emotional side without being judged. I enjoy going out with my friends, both male and female. My friends are very important to me. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 7/17/2006 9:06:25 PM | Men and women can DEFINITELY be friends without sex.
I have a lot of gay male friends. 
But yeah... Even straight males can be freinds with straight females with no sex involved. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 7/19/2006 5:05:22 AM | The Answere if you ask me personally is simply YES!!!. Its just like sitting beside a hot steamy girl in your Classroom when you were in your High School. Just like many ppl hve mentioned, its how you interract with each given situation. Sometimes, a lifemate is found via a good friendship. You just have to have a good strong heart, hope, and tons of patience.
Its also depends on what the girl thinks and behaves like. I have a girl whom I have been in contact with for 6yrs and we are very good friends. We just don't ignore each other in any occasions. Hmmm, so yes....A GIRL AND A BOY/MEN AND WOMEN/OLD LADY AND OLD MAN/ can be FRIENDS!!!!!
If you refuse to accept this as a fact, then you must be calling yourself and occasional drinker/Alcoholic and drink coca cola/pepsi instead of "Beer,Rum,Vodka,Champagne,Wine and blah blah blah blah blah!!!! just like every other COOL DOODS!! hehe | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 7/19/2006 7:31:12 AM | | It takes two to tangle.... I have many male friends that I don't have sex with. I guess the person unable to have platonic relationships with the opposite sex might not trust one who can. It's an insecurity. You have to look at your life and see where you have a friendships with men you don't intend to sleep with to understand. Sometimes a cup of coffee is just a cup of coffee. I would believe there is no sex with your boyfriend cause he goes out not with one woman but as you say 2 to 6 there is safety in numbers. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 7/19/2006 7:49:42 AM | | All my friends are male as I grew up with males..I have even been told by my friends I have a special position amongst men,i fit none of the catagories,that they talk about when talking of women..I am not a tease,a cold fish an easy women,or sneaky...Don't get me wrong i love being a women,but being raised around guys and hanging out with women the things i have observed,the differences between male friends and women..I trust men much more to keep a secret,not stab me in the back or talk about me..And would never ruin a friendship by sleeping with them...I have a couple female friends,but none I do things with because they are busy or too far away...However i do not look at them like that..Just a person trapped in a males body.. | |
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