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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/5/2006 8:35:48 PM | | I was just talking to someone from this site about the same subject. She can't believe that I have close female friends. Most even know that I am getting a divorce and they still have not made any moves on me. Could be that they truly value our friendship. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/5/2006 9:19:33 PM | Hehe - There have been a few at some point I would have liked to date. There were a few I did date. Of the current group of female friends, I am close friends with all of them, no head nodding or slice hoping going on. To be honest 3/4 of my friends are female and I am better friends with them than any of the guys.
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/5/2006 9:57:04 PM | | I'm the same way Jimmy. But people still don't believe that it is going on between the genders. I'm not going to even try to convince anyone else. Let them believe what they want. Doesn't change my life you know! | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/5/2006 11:04:40 PM | Yes I think you can have friends with out sex, when you are single...
But when involved its not seen the same...
For what ever reason feelings get involved and ppl read more into the friendship.
Even with trust ppl have a hard time seeing their SO with the opposite sex.
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/5/2006 11:16:28 PM | | ABSOLUTELY! My very best friend is a guy (100 male); and there has never been anything between us. I can talk to him about anything and everything and trust him with anything I tell him. That's hard to say about anyone - male or female. He's always on the other end of the phone; and I try to be as good a friend to him. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/5/2006 11:24:30 PM | | IMO .... Yes you can if you are single. However, if you are married or living with someone then I think it best to cut ties with people of the opposite sex. These friendships only cause problems in serious realionships. It is not wise to risk losing someone you truly love for a friend of the opposite sex. I would expect my boyfriend or spouse to cut ties and I would do the same for him. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/7/2006 11:03:38 AM | When a gal tell you she wants to be freinds. She has just told you that she does not find you sexually attrative.
On the other hand as a man i can only be a freind truely to girl i don't find attractive | |
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JJSG
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Joined: 7/27/2006
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/12/2006 10:30:47 PM | | I think that if he is making you feel like a fool, then he is the fool. I think men, who hang out with so many females at once, when they are in a relationship are insecure and need to be the centre of attention. I think the same thing with women who hang out with groups of guys, at the same time. I believe people from the opposite sex, can be friends, and have a platonic relationship, but when you need to surround yourself with lots of people of the opposite sex, i believe that there are usually underlying issues there. | |
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zemag
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Joined: 8/9/2006
Msg: 614 | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/13/2006 10:40:34 PM | I have had women friends without sex being involved. When it stays that way it can be a great friendship.
I wouldn't want women to be my only friends but to have one now (again) would be great.
I just find it was easier to be friends with a woman during my 30's than it is now. It seems I mostly meet woman who want a more involved relationship or nothing.  | |
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kdf99
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Joined: 8/3/2006
Msg: 619 | |
| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/14/2006 1:59:02 PM | | Yes, men and women can be just friends. Even if there is an attraction, it does not have to be acted upon. I have male friends who are an important part of my life. Those who are married/in relationships simply supply another dimension to the friendship with their wives or significant others i.e. they become friends also. If a man tries to keep the female friendships away from his significant other then there is a problem! And, if he does not respect her feelings about things...he is not the right man. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/14/2006 2:29:45 PM | | Without sex?...I have many male friends and acquaintances that I don't have sex with. Just people I bump into, out dancing, out in public, professionally in the community, in school, co-workers. My friend's boyfriends or husbands. Thats what impulse control is all about....lol | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/14/2006 3:04:22 PM | According to the almighty Ladder Theory, those who think it can be done are only fooling themselves.
http://www.intellectualwhores.com/foundations.html
Whether or not I prescribe to the Ladder Theory is another story... but it definitely is interesting (and uber cynical)! | |
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Joined: 8/10/2006
Msg: 622 | |
| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/14/2006 5:34:31 PM | | I think that what attracts us to being GOOD friends with someone of the opposite sex is because there are personality traits that attracts us.... which i agree could be friendly in nature, but we still like those traits in people surrounding us, so there is some kind of attraction there at some level... and if by any chance we also find the guy charming (and maybe even attractive) and he feels the same too, there could always be a slightl chance that this is taking a stronger part in your life than what you partner would appreciate..... sometimes two two people are only friends because they don't think they would match on other levels, but it doesn't mean that there could never be a moment of weakness or attraction .... and so, yes guy friends are nice sometimes to have but when you get to have a partner, then maybe for lighter kinds of meetings like lunch or coffee or getting together with your partner, him and other people.... i know i would feel quite uncomfortable if my partner had many female friends and wanted to go out with them (without me) on a regular basis. I feel it really depends a lot on the guy and his attitude and the kind of relationship the two have, but I agree that you should keep a good friend if he was there before, but maybe the meetings should be of a little different nature than before you had your partner. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/14/2006 6:21:13 PM | | It has to depend on the situation and the people involved. 1) Yes, guys and girls can be just friends. 2) When in a relationship, I dont spend time alone with an other woman but do spend time with other women. 3) If your BF loves you then your feelings are important to him, If he knows you aren't comfortable with it then he needs to adjust his behavior. You shouldnt be offended if he is with other women, but he shouldnt be with another woman. But what ever your feelings are he should respect them, and make decissions based on your feelings, and if thats a problem with him then you should look elseware. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/15/2006 10:01:03 AM | Why don't most males have sex with their male friends yet remain friends?
Simple, they aren't sexually attracted to their friend even though the two have a lot of shared interests. The same can go for men and women.
I've had attractive female friends as well as others whom held their beauty inside. Of course there was sexual tension at times. I could tell when they're attracted to me, however I know what I'm doing and ultimately decide my own actions... most of the time.
Sometimes you just can't resist but who's to say that's a bad thing? If the two of you connect well and there's mutual attraction then the friendship can be taken to the next level. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/16/2006 6:36:58 PM | That's an interesting theory, and one that might have some merit.
Yet, I have had good friendships with men. Yes, they had some element of sexual attraction to them, but for one reason or another, we'd chosen not to go there. I think in all cases, we were both aware of it, but it was simply not a problem.
Sometimes though, a platonic friendship can turn bad, if suddenly the other person wants more. I've had it happen - person a breaks up with his g/f, and suddenly thinks you might be more. That can be messy, and in my experience, usually spells the end of the friendship.
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