| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/20/2006 1:27:38 PM | | I suppose so. I went with an older woman that didnt have the slightest interst in sex. She said she loved me as a friend, but was not IN love with me. So we were good friends until I hurt myself and could not walk as fast as she could. She never held hands with me, just kept on walking about half a block ahead of me. Never looking back to see if I was alright. So I finally drifted away to the point I dont think of her as a friend anymore. But while we were going together I considered her a good friend and sex just was not an issue, but at times she would give me a peck on the cheek. Only it was a soaking wet peck on the cheek. Made me think she didnt now how to really have a sexual relationship and just didnt want to admit it. Guess you never know what's in a persons mind. I think she had a lot to learn as far as just being polite. That's the issue, and under those circumstances I dont have a problem being a friend of hers. Oh well. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/21/2006 12:54:32 AM | I would have to say yes, women and men can be friends without sex. I have many women friends and it is a platonic deal. Of course, I have had women that were "friends with benefits" also. The important part is that you are honest in your friendship from the start and thru it's course. There will always be a point where a friend, of the opposite sex may initiate intimate contact. If you are the one that is initiating it, never be offended or feel spurned if she says that it would endanger your friendship. Respect how she feels and the comfort level that she wishes to keep the friendship at. By that same token, if you are a guy and friends with a gal that may turn to you for intimacy, you should make sure that it is not just a moment of emotional weakness on her part that she may regret later. Especially if there is alcohol involved and such.
Of course, there is generally a bit of harmless flirting involved betweem a guy and gal that are close friends but still never cross "that line". Flirting is actually kind of a way of validating that friend of the opposite sex, as long as it does not get to carried away...lol... It is sometimes nice when I'm feeling down to have a gal I know lightly flirt with me. I feel it is human nature to get a small ego boost when one of the opposite sex makes you feel you are attractive.
Anyways, I'm sorry to have written a book...lol...Just my thoughts... | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/21/2006 1:17:30 AM | I HAVE 2 GUY FRIENDS & HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT SEX WITH THEM, BUT DONT WANT TO LOSE THE FRIENDSHIP. SO YES...............BUT I WOULD NOT GO OUT WITH THEM IF I HAD A STEADY BF. NO WAY!! | |
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Joined: 3/9/2006
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/21/2006 2:25:12 AM | | Yes – it is possible. There is a woman I have been in love with for 30 years and have never stepped over the mark with her. She is married and has kids. We relate on a really good level but I am always conscious that she has a husband and kids. Would I step out of line with her – NO, would I like to Yes, but that is the difference between fantasy and reality. Just because I am attracted to her does not mean we cannot be friends, it is all a matter of where your values lie. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/21/2006 5:17:50 AM | But what if she got divorced and then told you that you were the love of her life?
I had a close male friend for 8 years that was interested in me. When he entered into a serious relationship he stopped calling. I was angry at the time because I only wanted to be friends, but the reality is his feelings were the issue, not mine. So, now I understand his decision. | |
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Joined: 8/18/2006
Msg: 633 | |
| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/21/2006 6:56:16 AM | Absolutely not.
I believe its impossible for a man and woman to just be friends and not have sex.
I never believe anyone who states otherwise  | |
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Joined: 7/31/2006
Msg: 634 | |
| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/21/2006 7:12:51 AM | Of course we can't!!!
We all want to get it on the minute we see each other!!(yes, this is a sarcastic comment)
Jesus God, what are we? Animals. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/21/2006 4:13:47 PM | Absolutely, positively you can be friends with the opposite sex without any sexual contact. I've had a number of close female friends in which nothing physical EVER happened. My best friend I've ever had, who is now happily married and now just a distant friend (by my own choice), was a female and we were essentially joined at the hip for 5-6 years.
I have my own rule about opposite sex friends when dating or in a relationship. You can keep any opposite sex friends you had BEFORE the relationship started, but you can't make new ones. I feel that eliminates many accusations and future arguments. Actually, I've never really settled down with anyone where that became an issue.
I'm not saying ALL men and women have the ability to keep sex out of the equation (especially the men !), but I know firsthand that it's very possible. However, it's probably easier to do if there is no strong physical attraction for each other. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/21/2006 4:35:18 PM | I know I can be, if she states this, and abides by it herself. I can get along with most any woman, provided we know where we stand. If she just wants to flirt and mingle with me, she is not a friend, she is a potential, pink slip. But is she is upfront and mindfull of what 'friendship' means, then I myself so no problems in being, just a 'friend' with a woman.
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Joined: 8/25/2006
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/31/2006 6:30:07 PM | Yes.
But if you're in a relationship his friends should be yours and vice versa..
when partners have sperate friends it shows there's differences that will pull them apart in end.
Partnership is about sharing.. partners that don't inculde you in their friendships aren't partners in long run just heart breakers.
But if a guy has female friends before meeting a girl she can't request he dump them because they female..
she should try to get to know them at least ..
beign partners isn't about losing friends its supposed to be about gaining a whole new additional set of friends.
Women often see other women as threts and want to exculde them..
that will end a relationship too. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/31/2006 6:30:58 PM | I am going to be the last but not least...to comment on here.I think Married people or people in a "committed relationship"....should not "hang-out "...with someone of the opposite sex..especially without their significant other!.It leads to problems.I trusted and believed a ex..when he said the girl he went out with for coffee was just a good ole "friend!".They end up sleeping together.It was okay for him to go out with his female "buddy"..but he never wanted me to go out with my male "buddy".I think if you do have a friend of the opposite sex..invite your girlfriend or boyfriend to come!!..always let them know they are invited so they are not supicious or worried.I just know that whenever my buddies had girlfriends...I never saw much of them..and I just understood that. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/31/2006 7:26:54 PM | | yes has a few girl (friends )with whom i /we carry a great freindship along just fine with no sex involved...so ya i beleave men and women can do fine as friends...... | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/2/2006 3:40:57 AM | | My best friend of 30 years is a man. Our friendship has survived his three marriages and two divorces and my separation. For the past 22 years we have made it our business to get together for one weekend each year. At first, our spouses didn't agree because they didn't understand the bond he and I have. We've been there for one another through the loss of our parents, the loss of our grand parents, the loss of a child, a serious auto accident, you name it, we've been there. We have never been intimate and the thought never crossed my mind. He has been with me since were were 11 and 12 years old and like any sibling, I would not give him up for anyone. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/2/2006 10:12:22 AM | I absolutely agree men and women can be friends without sex. I have had plenty of male friends without sex included. Also I have remained very good friends with most of my ex boy friends. The only ones I no longer remain in contact with are those who were only in it for the sex and when that was over they were also. I prefer male friends over female because we dont have to compete for anything and (except for my gay male friends) they wont try to steal the man I am with.
When I was married I had male friends I went out with without my husband nothing ever happened. The only time anything happened was when I wanted it to and then I told my ex it would happen. And I chose a man who was not a friend at the time. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/3/2006 8:59:15 AM | yes they most certainly can.I have many male friends.I also prefer male over female but it's not about competiton it's the drama.men have different perspective of looking at things then females.When it comes to sexual inuendo's sure we'll play it up,but thats as far as it goes.I'm married and my friendships haven't changed,I go to concerts,bars,hell I even have sleepovers still rather than losing a friend to drinking and driving.My only concern would be is losing a friend to somewho who has him whipped and then after all that is said and done I'd still be here as a friend for him. I love to camp so when it comes to sharing my tent,and sleeping bag,no problem I guess I can even sleep with my friend but thats just it sleep,as sleep is defined!Believe it or not nothing happened to my teddy bear when I was young,nothing would happen to my male friend either!!!!! | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/3/2006 9:51:27 AM | YES, I believe men & women can be 'just' friends.
My very 1st best friend was a guy when I was 4 years old, lol.
Now, one of my very best friends is also a guy who I've known for about 20 years now. Nothing sexual has ever happened between us. We've been through just about everything together and I know we will always be friends.
As for when it comes to my boyfriend, when my friend and I get together, he trusts me, just as I would trust him with his female bestfriend. We also go out together, all of us. Nothing to hide here.
I guess I think that if you know your man has had female friends for awhile and he's honest about the relationships with them, you have to follow your own heart and instincts because if this is a real issue for you then maybe you will never be able to be with a man who has female friends.
WOW, that was a long sentence! sorry!
Anyway, good luck to you in your future relationships! | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/3/2006 10:07:59 AM | | They absolutely can be friends without sex. Been there, done that. The friendship between me and all my male friends are completely platonic. Although I do have to admit that one of them aren;t friends with me anymore because his wife didn't like the fact that we hung out together, but I thought that was unneccesary because I had been friends before they had even met. | |
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