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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/3/2006 5:31:13 PM | I have some very very close single male friends. We are friends, nothing more we talk and give each other the support we need from the opposite sex questions and the like. Hopefully adults can be adults I have no problem with it. The way I figure it is I trust you, you have to look at you in the mirror, not me, and I will not fade away, because someone chooses to stray with a friend..... | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/4/2006 10:59:57 PM | | Of course they can! Lots of times you meet a great guy or gal who is not ringing your bell but that you like alot - as a friend - They are fun to talk to and perhaps spend some brief time with but there is no chemistry - the stuff that zoomz you - so you get together and talk about the peole in your life that really push your buttons and get feedback on what bugging you and whats good and such stuff - it's good to have positive "other" friends - but if they are trying to sway your feelings - watch out! Support is good - Control is bad! | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/4/2006 11:42:23 PM | | I have female friends its strictly platonic,anyone can have friends of the opposite sex.now as your boyfriend theres nothing wrong with him havin friends but do you know these females? also in any relationship there has to be trust!and I know it can be hard especially for the fact hes got alot of females as friends...but it is a fact men and females can be friends without sex.I have metalot of women that have known more guys than women.so i hope that answered your question | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/5/2006 6:11:56 AM | definately
most of my close friends have been men - and i end up nearly losing them when they date jealous women - who do not want them to have female friends...
also have dated men who could not deal with the fact my friends are male... | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/6/2006 2:30:12 AM | Look i have had a few lovey dovey relationships where theirs been alot of sex and then i have found out after a couple of months i don,t even like the person, friendship is the most important thing to me now not sex. I have also noticed that the people who have the best relationships are good friends and respect one another. (of course they have their disagreements from time to time.
If you have a good loving relationship it only follows that sex will be loving and intimate between you. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/6/2006 9:58:21 AM | I think the opposite question should be asked: Can men and women be friends AFTER having sex.
I had a female friend in her 50's who I discussed this with. I said that I thought she and I could be friends even after sex. She strongly disagreed and wouldn't even discuss it with me. She said "having sex changes everything". I shrugged my shoulders and didn't say a word, so I dropped the idea. If I gave her a hug, and I touched her bra strap, she would recoil and said "you aren't allowed there". So I said "fine...it was an accident anyway".
I did the same thing, though accidentally at a nice dinner that *I* was paying for and she reacted the same way.
I don't know...maybe she did really believe that ...and maybe she just wasn't attracted to me. Doesn't really make any difference anyway, but we are no longer friends, but not just because of that. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/6/2006 10:16:55 AM | Its actully a good question... but my first instinct was to say no... and that we should all start having sex. :P
Ahem. Back to the question... yes men and women become platonic friends all the time. :) | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/6/2006 10:24:46 AM | | Sure....it happens all the time. I guess as long as there both happy with there boyfriend/girlfriend. Then on the other hand, there's always the friend who's secret is that they would like to hook up with there 'friend'. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/6/2006 10:26:13 AM | Yes! Let's start another thread  Hurry hury...pple (including me) will have lots to say bout it....who's doin it? Or is it already done? Im in a different time zone here, am getting excited... | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/7/2006 6:20:14 PM | Sure they can! I have guy friends, and it's one of my main stipulations that we never have sex.
This works best when you are not physically/emotionally attracted to them. Case example:
My friend Rick is a total sweetheart...to a fault. He always come off too eager to please, not just with girls either. He makes loads of people uncomfortable. Me, I have lotsa patience and I know he's a great guy, but not THE guy. We play sports and go out for wings together, then go off on our separate dates. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/7/2006 6:39:24 PM | i have a lot o flady friends that i dont have sex with. many of them are very beautiful.
we hug and kiss each other in greeting and saying goodbye but never even think about sex with each other. it would ruin the friendship.
so yes men and women can be friends with each other without having sex. on the other hand, why does your boyfriend go out with these women without taking you with him? that is another question. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/7/2006 7:16:28 PM | I have to see proof first.... I know a lot of guy-girl friends who at some point slept together but figured out that they made much better friends than lovers.
I personally don't know.... been under a rock most of my life and am only recently learning about FB from this website... yes, PoF is corrupting my innocent mind.... | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/8/2006 2:05:47 PM | | Thats a good question and On some level we all hope that we can go back to being friends when you break up but after you have had sex with that person it's always in the back of your mind so no After sex they can't be freinds. It never works out that way. Unless you never had it with that person and don't want to. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/9/2006 9:26:04 PM | I think that men and women can be friends without sex. I have quite a number of male friends, and while some have admitted to wanting to hookup they know I don't feel the same. To them, losing a great friend isn't worth that risk knowing I love them like a brother. Granted there are a few I'd enjoy hooking up with myself, but I'm very much in love with my boyfriend and wouldn't do anything like that and screw up the relationship he and I have. He knows my friends are almost all men, and he trusts me to got out with them and not to cheat on him. He even trusts me to go out with my best friend alone, when all my best friend does is talk about sex in front of my boyfriend...but thankfully my boyfriend has already figured out my best friends personality, and knows that he's just seeing how serioushe is about me and the relationship we have together.
I trust my boyfriend and he trusts me, and that's what it comes down to. Even if you a person tends to be the jealous type, it still comes down to trust. Trust and respect, if you don't trust or respect your partner then you should remain friends and not date. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/10/2006 2:21:04 PM | That has to be heavily considered.I'd been friends with this guy for twelve years, during which
he'd vanish for a couple of years, and then call me out of the blue like nothing was the matter, for f***'s sake!I dumped his sorry ass two weeks ago, by the way!
I had a seriously BAD crush on this guy, and if he wanted sex, I'd have said"Name the time and place!I'll bring the condoms!"
To tell how and where I'd met him would take too long!He never reciprocated my feelings of love. We were just"good friends".That still never let the feelings I had for him, die.
Sometimes, sex CAN ruin a good friendship.Other times, the "friend's" behavior may be what
destroys the relationship!
The REALLY hard part was, I DID love him! Not anymore! Those feelings are gone.
Now, it's time for me to move on! | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/14/2006 9:54:47 PM | | Yes, this I know for a fact. I don't know how long this is possible but I know that some hard feelings can exist in this type of relationship. Not everyone's motives are the same. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/17/2006 3:01:59 PM | yes its possible just not probible.
all my female friends except one i have slept with atleast ounce, usually there was booze involved(I dont drink much now lol), or a break-up inwhich a shoulder to cry on led to a bed to lay on.
In all of those times I dont believe the sex was planned on either of our parts it was just the right timing.
Thats why to this day I avoid women with male friends because all it takes is for us to get in a fight(and all couples will at one point) and her friend that smiles in your face will be on my girl.
And if you dont believe me ask yourself if there was ever a boyfriend/girlfriend that started of as just a friend for months or even years and grew to be more? | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/17/2006 3:19:37 PM | All I have to say about this.....because I've been through this quite a few times.
ALL it comes down to is the guy and how much they trust you, and how trustworthy you are and vis versa. That is it! | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/17/2006 3:30:10 PM | Well I say "YES" .. I do it all the time. Some girls [women] are just cool to hang around with but I don't feel sexually attracted to them. I have found that being honest is the best way to go though.
I have had "sex friendships" and I don't like em at all. Everyone agrees and at some point down the road someone seems to get hurt somehow.
All-in-all though, yes I say you can be friends with a women and keep it as just a friendship.
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/17/2006 3:43:02 PM | | Without a doubt they can!! Some of my best friends have been male and they bring something different to a friendship that sometimes women can't .... in terms of giving their standpoint on issues from a MALE point of view! Not only that, but if I want to challenge myself physically and go do some activity that requires more than a bit of athleticism, I think it is great to have a male friend who might also be highly athletic and make my feminine side whine a bit but yet have me become pissed off enough to keep up with the challenge. Men make great friends and I respect them for reaching a comfortable level where they can appreciate my feminine side and not cringe like an immature school boy if I want to talk about things that women should only discuss (not). | |
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