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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 10/30/2006 7:14:03 PM | I have male friends I haven't had sex with, but it is mostly due to lack of opportunity, because one or the other is comitted.
This is probably due to the fact that I've never been friends with someone I wasn't attracted to. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 10/31/2006 12:05:05 AM | I believe that women and men can just be friends. A lot of it has to do with their self control. If either one can not control their impulses when they are alone with each other then they wouldn't be able to be faithful to the one they are dating, engaged to or married to.
I have a few female friends and, while one is an ex-girlfriend and we have remained good friends, I haven't had sex with any of them, especially after we had broken up. I have even given these ladies some VERY erotic massages and, while they were completely nude during the massage, I never had sex with them. I have gained a great deal of self-control over the years, but there are times when i WOULD love to have sex with them, but I can control those impulses, unless I am given permission to, or it was understood at the begining, to have sex with them. Otherwise, regardless of what I am doing to the gal during the massage, I do not even get turned on. My female friends are amazed at the degree of control I have over myself and return to me whenever they want an erotic massage. So, if you can't control yourself, should you put yourself in a compromising situation? | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 10/31/2006 1:02:55 AM | Yes they can be friends, I have male friends back to our teen years. Some very close and we are still friends! Society has alot to answer for. We are to isolated and it causes us to leave the boundaries of standard relationships. Loneliness and desires are there but we need to resist in order for our friendships to last. The paranoia exists because usually one has committed an act of violation to another friend. That starts the cycle of mistrust. We all need each other and it is a perfect example of why we are in the political time because we feel no solidarity. No bond for the betterment of society. We are stagnant and don't work together for a better society because it doesn't exist. As long as it doesn't exist the bad guy wins. The bad guys are the ones whom tell us how to live, what to eat and what is considered a family. The ones whom are trying to frighten us with talk of terrorism. The people controlling our freedoms. Fears of relationships going bad are keeping us apart. Well be adult and deal with it...that is a freeing experience. Try to touch anyone you can with a smile and be kind. The world becomes a better place when 2 adults, 1 man, 1 woman can be friends.      | |
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cleed
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Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 730 | |
| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/2/2006 6:57:11 PM | It is hard for both men an women. It is not impossible. I have found many women are worse than I heard men are.
I have many female friends that I don't have sex with. Many leave when they can't control themselves and I don't give in. I don't need friends like that. If you want to give yourself to a person it should be for a lifetime. Otherwise you aren't truly giving all of yourself. When the physical leaves the relationship fails, but when the relationship last a lifetime so does the physical. | |
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Sigi
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Joined: 5/26/2005
Msg: 731 | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/3/2006 2:42:02 PM | with out a dought..i have many female friends...an when i nearly got married my best man was going to be a female friend.....may be that why my ex is my ex,,,lol | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/3/2006 6:02:13 PM | | most of my friends are guys, and i dont have, or want to have sex with them. is that all you think about when in the presence of someone of the opposite sex?? | |
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mackz
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Joined: 10/1/2006
Msg: 735 | |
| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/3/2006 9:25:45 PM | Of course we can be friends....sometimes....in our hearts , we do want more, cuz that person we are friends with has become close to us, knows our ins and outs, we know them as well. When you share a bond as friends, co- workers, pen-pals, someone you talk to on the subway everyday ..........there is a friendly bond. Great friendships can exhist without sexual involvement, the talks, the laughter, sometimes the tears...( all naked, but no sex  ) kidding...... As long as there is mutual chemistry in the friendship / relationship, in the sense that the 2 people can be mature about it.....why not? | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/3/2006 10:53:32 PM | Are you asking if he can be dating and still have female friends? I was in a relationship and the guy had a few female friends and personally I didn't like it when he would spend time alone with them. In fact 3 weeks after we broke up he started living with one of them.
However if neither are in a relationship they can be friends without sex. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/3/2006 11:06:47 PM | Opposite Sex Friend: A member of the opposite sex in your acquaintance who has some flaw which makes sleeping with him/her totally unappealing.
OT: Of course they can... assuming they aren't working backwards... sex to friendship. JMO. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/4/2006 6:43:15 PM | | As for myself, it's very difficult to be friends with a guy, for it always happens that he want's to go a lil further than being friends.......... It's sad cause alot of these guys could have been great friends if they could have left it there and not think any further...... Now, if I were in a relationship, I wouldn't go out with male friends without my guy. I feel that if there is someone in your life, it's only right to include them..... Now again, if he suggests that you go without him, well, that's a call you'd have to make....... | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/4/2006 6:43:28 PM | | As for myself, it's very difficult to be friends with a guy, for it always happens that he want's to go a lil further than being friends.......... It's sad cause alot of these guys could have been great friends if they could have left it there and not think any further...... Now, if I were in a relationship, I wouldn't go out with male friends without my guy. I feel that if there is someone in your life, it's only right to include them..... Now again, if he suggests that you go without him, well, that's a call you'd have to make....... | |
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errnst
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Joined: 3/21/2005
Msg: 741 | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/5/2006 7:25:49 PM | I know that opposites can be friends without sex..I have 2 men friends whom i have known for 30 years and it does not cross our minds about having sex with each other..When my late husband was alive we both had friends of the opposite sex and when i meet my late boy friend he had lady friends who was just that friends and he knew that i had male friends..But i think that you do have to respect each others feeling and you must have TRUST because if theres no trust and respect then you have nothing to begain with..My late Boy Friend always said go out have fun but bring it home to popa when your done and i never wanted to go out... | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/12/2006 9:10:42 PM | | Yes,men and women CAN be friends with out sex...My roomate and I have been friends for years,and we have never slept together.We go out to bars and have a great time together,ive had plenty of times that i was so waisted,he could of gotton what he wanted,but loves me enough to respect me and our friendship..Oh,yeh...he just wanted me to add that hes single,and looking...Hes 6'4 and weighs 250,built really nice....My point is we are both good looking people and we dont have sex,friends are like that....When i was dating my ex,he accepted the fact that all of my friends are guys,im a little bit of a tom boy and thats what he liked,so if your ex-boyfriend wants to be an idiot and act like a child,then its better off hes your ex...keep him that way.. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/17/2006 10:05:10 AM | | But if your girlfriend saw your female friends as a threat to your relationship, that to me, would indicate that she does not trust you enough to have those feale friends. The same would be true of the woman having guy friends! | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/17/2006 10:14:00 AM | | 2 of three of my closest friends are men. one is such a great person.... its almost the brother i never had, the other.. well.... hes gay so i am just his hand bag LOL | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/17/2006 10:19:35 AM | | And it might be the "new generation" thing.. I don't know- my male friends NEVEr have disrespected me.. and if they have- they are the ones I'm not friends with!! | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/19/2006 8:16:09 PM | | if you are in a serious relationship then there should be enough trust there about your friends.. my BEST friend is a male and we hang out regularly and talk on the phone all of the time, I have never dated anyone that had a problem with this and his wife is okay with it.. We have only slept together once, i was single and so was he (so it was a long time ago) a little alcohol made one thing lead to another. Neither one of us regret it, but it was a mistake... so yes i do believe that men and women can be friends with out being sexually involved... | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/19/2006 8:39:42 PM | I may be wrong, but I think that the problem arises when you go to your friend male or female with problems about your relationship..... Those are the very things that you should be working out with your guy/gal.
It doesn't always have to be about sex. By sharing what belongs in your relationship with someone else, you are cheating on your "mate" and yourself. | |
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