| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 12/1/2006 10:14:36 AM | Diversity in friendships, as in all things is the key for me. Men are but one half of the human spectrum. I would be remiss not to enjoy the insights of the other gendre.
With that said, reconoitering the tricky waters of lust--especially under the evil influences of tequila--can be astronomically more difficult with women than it is (for me) with men. Maybe it's just me. Guys tend to look more absurd when in that state; women not so.
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 12/1/2006 2:54:01 PM | Absolutely!!! Some of my most meaningful and long lasting friendship are with men that I do not have sexual relations with (no FWB here). It is actually quite useful to have a good friend of the opposite sex ... helps to understand the other sex...at least to the extent that it is possible to do that!  | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 12/1/2006 3:03:27 PM | | Amen!!! the only problem is that men always want sex no matter what (and so don't women don't get me wrong) and can't distinguish between friends and friends with benefits...sooner or later you'll be out of the picture if you don't put out...as far as "coworkers" they are just that....they are not friends they are aquaintences.... | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 12/1/2006 6:25:15 PM | Of course they can. I was in the military, served in S.Korea for a year and a half, was one of only three women on the base so I HAD to have male friends. However, I had always had more male friends than female while in the Navy. I have to say men make GREAT friends. They are low matenance, accept you for who you are, don't get jealous, treat you the same as any other friend (i.e. no bff's) and are a heck of a lot of fun. Most of the time a guy was my best friend and rarely did I find a woman who was as easy to be around.
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 12/1/2006 7:26:36 PM | I am a typical guy.
I can be platonic friends with a woman, but only if I do not find her attractive.
I can also limit my relationship to frendship in other instances. Any time a woman is married or otherwise permanently taken I obviously don't consider sleeping with her. But of course in a different world without restrictions, I would want to have sex. To develop a good friendship with a woman, I need to be attracted to her personality. I cannot think of any instances in my life where I made friends with an attractive female (good personality) and did not also want to sleep with her. It hasn't happened in 27 years for me. Moreover, I can't even think of a reason why I wouldn't want to sleep with her. The "lets just be friends" comment has always made me chuckle.
I don't expect it to happen in the future either. When I am in a committed relationship, the last thing I am looking to do is make female friends. I am not worried about cheating personally, but I know my intentions would not be in the right place. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 12/1/2006 7:44:32 PM | Yes Majority of my friends are Male friends & I hang out with them from time to time - going out for dinner, watching movies at my place & so on...
I have hang out with them despite they have an attraction towards me & I have towards them.. We made it a point through our friendship to avoid crossing that line because once u do & things dont work out ..... You have thrown your entire friendship away because of lust & passion & its not worth it. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 12/1/2006 7:55:04 PM |
My best friend is a man, and we have never had sex. I love him to death but am not attracted to him. It is possible.
so true. except with me the best mate is a girl........... | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 12/1/2006 9:07:43 PM | | For me I believe it is possible to just be friends with the opposite sex....BUT that doesn't mean I would disrespect my bf by not inviting him with me when Im hanging with my guy friends, and therefore I would also be completely honest and open with my bf about my friendship with my guy friends. In other words Id have nothing to hide from my bf when it came to my guy friends. I would never go and hang out with my guy friends with out my bf knowing, cause as soon as one person hides something then the trust issues begin to show up and suspisions begin to occur. Thats when problems arise...my 2 cents worth :) | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 12/1/2006 9:16:50 PM | No they cant,They can try,But if they r drinking,lonely,bored,are just talking alot u become friends with benafits...witch is good,I think I want one of those type of friends,If u have no boyfriend at the time and he has needs you do to......HAVE FUN....Enjoy...patty   | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 12/1/2006 10:50:54 PM | "Friends" are "Friends" and "attracted" ones are even better "Friends" You gotta have fun being as "Friendly" as you're both comfortable with | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 12/2/2006 2:23:09 AM | Of course. You're not attracted to every woman you befriend, are you? I'm attracted to some girls who I am friends with, but we get along just fine. Some are attracted to me, and we're just friends.
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 12/2/2006 7:59:36 AM | | I have 2 male friends that have been around for over 30 yrs they are 2 out of 3 of my best friends and no sex involved.They know i love them as brothers .I have introduced them as my adopted bros which is funny as they were both adopted. They have been there for me thru my teen yrs on up thru kids marriages divorces whatever. I know their mates and exes all their kids. I live in a different state now but stay in constant contact at least every week or so thank god for free long distance. I think they have come to know me better then i know me haha aqnd can predict my reactions to things 95 percent of the time. I am so glad i have them as I was an only child and family have all passed away so without both these people would be so lost . So if you are honest you can love a man just as a friend. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 12/2/2006 8:07:36 AM | | I have a number of male friends, and if I was to have sex with all of them, I'd be a busy girl. Plus, I'd have a lot of pissed off female friends. Of course it's possible. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 12/2/2006 12:19:01 PM | I'm sitting here laughing as im reading through the replies, you dont have to look to see the name of the person I think you can tell from the answers as to whether they are female or male, and I honestly dont mean that from a sexist point of view.
Personally I have more male friends than female, the reason being that since becoming single alot of my girlfriends partners have started giving them a hard time if they say we're going out, it was ok when I was part of a couple but they now assume when I,m out i'm only interested in one thing - a man. I know that 2 of the partners have even commented on my dress sense now that i'm single, this hasnt changed at all lol - We're putting this down to the men not trusting their partners but looking for someone else to blame for it. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 12/2/2006 2:23:11 PM | Definately...and to be honest with you 3 yrs ago i would have not understood it...being separated for over 2 and a half years and meeting guys ..i have become great friends with a few and i have no intentions of ever giving up my male friends...the guy i meet always knows i have male friends and my male friends always know if there is a guy in my life..i keep it honest...i have 1 particular 36 yr old friend who has done more for me in the short amount of time that i have known him than my X did for me in 17 yrs of marriage...and he does out of the goodness of his heart not looking for anything other than a cup of coffee when im in his area..."D" tyVm for being my best friend...  | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 12/2/2006 2:26:36 PM | most men don't take women seriously if its platonic. most of them don't even pretend to care about what you think if they don't have plans to "lay the pipe." it can be done. women can be friends with anyone and not have sex, men, thats another story. not all but most would rather hang with fellas than ladies. oftentimes their homies will be superior sidekicks to chicks. it reminds me of that double standard of two girls kissing and two guys kissing. its just not fair | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 12/2/2006 6:01:10 PM | | Its possible, but it is very hard to just be friends with any ex's that you had a serious relationship with if you decide to hang out together. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 12/2/2006 8:28:50 PM | i very much think that they can!
i have tonnes of guy friends and get along with them great. just because your friends with the opppsite sex doesnt mean you sleep with them!
i even had the best guy friend of my life and we would even cuddle. nothing ever happened and we are still friends to this day! you cant limit yourself to just having friends of the same sex, thats what i think about that one.  | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 12/2/2006 10:00:19 PM | | Can men and women be friends without sex? Yes. Will they? Probably not given time or the right circumstance. That's why I don't keep a harem of women friends, especially if I expect to be in a committed relationship. It's also why I ask that they don't keep guy friends calling, or email-ing, or meeting, or things that I wouldn't do. In short, abstain from all appearance of evil.... | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 12/11/2006 10:21:50 PM | | Of course they can!!! I'm living proof.. my two bestest friends ever are male! and there has never been anything sexual between us at all! | |
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