| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/6/2007 4:23:34 PM | | Yes Women and Men can be friends without sex. You don't have to have sex with a man to be friends. I have male friends and that's all they are friends. Not sex buddies or anything like that besides I think that would be disgusting | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/6/2007 4:27:44 PM | | Okeanos has a good point. I have quite a few girl friends that have been there for me through the good times and bad. As a matter a fact all but one of my exes are still my friends. They have given me auite a bit of life and relationship advice, and if nothing else they have helped my relationships. It is always good to have the opposite sexes point of view. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/6/2007 4:32:40 PM | | Yes, I have throughout my life had many good male friends that i have never had sex with and I have very much enjoyed their company. Its a shame that some of them just weren't sincere about the friendship and they got confused about the differnce between female/male friend chemistry and thought they could score. I'm not friends with those guys anymore. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/7/2007 1:53:30 PM | Women make better "Friends",sometimes they can haveome "benefits" "Friends" are "Friends" and "How can we be Lovers if we can't be "Friends" Cheers all and Happy New Year and Fishing too GO FISHIES GO My new years resolution:"BEST LADYFRIEND WITH BENEFITS" They sure can  If they agrre on it ,that is "you and me go fishing and get eaten by a "shark"  | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/10/2007 10:52:24 AM | | no really,i do,nt bel..it will automatically start with different thinking,but meetup over this point...specially when they are alone...yukiss | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/10/2007 3:09:26 PM | Yes they can
Most of my friends have always been guys and we can actually manage to be friends without having to jump into bed with each other
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/10/2007 5:54:21 PM | | has anyone noticed this forum was originally posted in 2005? What a hot topic...I think music nut is keeping it alive with his pro FWB comments. You go music nut..your posts are funny even if they are true! | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/10/2007 6:08:06 PM | | I think it's possible actually. I have male friends I would never think of getting involved with, there's just not any attraction there. The idea of them kissing me or something... no thanks lol. Whether a male and female can be friends all depends on whether there is an attraction that could get in the way of being "just friends". | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/11/2007 11:52:52 AM | Can men and women be friends? I've found it only works "safely" for me with men who I once dated and have made peace with, over time, or co-workers or others who are absolutely "casual" confidantes with some there's no any possibility of sexual tension. Otherwise...someone is bound to be hurt.
My daughter and I have been talking about this a lot lately. We've both had experiences with guys we really enjoyed but didn't want to "date," who were really upset later when they tried to take it to the next step and found out how we felt even when we'd announced from jump that we weren't interested in a romantic relationship. Conversely, we've had men flirt with and seem to "court" us, and leave us in he "friendzone," too. I'm old enough now to know when even the most attentive man isn't really that into me--and I usually let go immediately. If he's someone I was initially attracted to romantically, I feel it's dangerous to do what some do--prolong the friendship a bit too long, hoping. It really does a number on self-esteem.
Three of my best friends in the world are former lovers, who know me better than anyone and can advise me about everything from my career to my romantic encounters in valuable ways. But I have vowed never to stick with a "friendship" with a man to whom I'm attracted who doesn't feel the same! | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/11/2007 8:50:11 PM | And why shouldn't they be "friends",what are most "married's" anyway?It's possible and not "Illegal" either Some Woman are so "hot" even just online,could never think of "meeting" themWierdest thing is get to know a "hottie" online,find-out she's too damn wonderful to "date" and become bestfriends My last"girlfriend" rediscovered me online and took a hike,my new "sweetie's" moving cause they be neighbours | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/16/2007 9:08:47 PM | | My best friend is an ex-girlfriend. What makes us best friends is how well we know one another and that part comes in really handy when advice is needed. I understand why anyone would have issues with that but it's usually jealousy that drives the issue. After saying that, if I was approached by whoever I was dating with some issues about it I certainly wouldn't make them feel like a fool. If I'm dating someone exclusively then obviously their feelings will come first without being controlled. I do think the circumstances have a lot to do with how it's handled though. If there is any physical chemistry that exists between the friends then I think it might become a legitimate concern. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/16/2007 9:30:38 PM | Most of my friends are male, there is no sexual attraction to them period. More like a brother. I get offended when the s/o doesn't trust me with my male friends. BUT, would I feel compfortable with him hanging out with his female friends. Probably not. There is such a fine line with the trust issue when it comes to this. I guess its up to the individual that you are with. You can understand how it would be a little nerve wracking knowing your s/o is hanging out with the opposite sex.
Go along with them, see how the interact together. Is there something to worry about? | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/20/2007 4:52:52 PM | Yes they can! But that's not always the case...
Did you ever meet these friends? Or did he try to keep you separate? Had he included you when he went out with his "friends", would you have had a problem with it?
If I were involved with someone, I wouldn't want to have to choose between him and my friends. My friends are tried and true...and a man worth having in my life would embrace the people who love me, and hopefully not feel threatened by them.
I lost a 20 year friendship due to a SO's insecurity, and it just doesn't seem quite fair... | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/20/2007 6:46:48 PM | | ABSOLUTELY!!!! I have a lot of male friends...I look forward to their insights, their convo..what they teach me as well as what I teach them..friends on the truest level ..if needed we know we can count on each other be it an ear to bend w/ their lady love problems or shoulder to lean on when life smacks ya one...Do I want to take them to bed...nope. I want my SO to be my friend first and lover second...but there are boundries and BIG differences between what I do for a friend and what I do for someone I am interested in k ...two things to ask yourself 1) do you trust him...I mean really trust him?...if so...relax since he comes home to you doesn't he???...by his OWN free will and 2) Friends talk and can share most everything when close...lovers and SO's share even deeper ...so hows the convo level...??? there is your clue if you ask me | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/20/2007 6:51:36 PM | Of course they can! The majority of my friends are male! Most of them have been around for more than 15 years, I couldn't even fathom having sex with any of them...ew.
Friendships with the opposite sex are very healthy. It allows you insight into their minds, actions, thoughts, etc. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/20/2007 7:08:25 PM | Yes some men and women can, but not all men and women .... I have a guy friend who has been my friend for about 15 years. We have never slept together or anything even close. We are like brother and sister. I know guys are a bit different than women, I don't know if he has ever thought of crossing the line, if he has he never told me. Once we were out with a group of people who thought we were a couple and when they realized we weren't they said we should be... we laughed and both of us said no way would we ever cross that line, that our friendship meant way too much to risk losing it if the dating aspect didn't work out. We are such good friends and we are satisfied with that.
Some men and women however cannot do this without crossing the line or atleast thinking about crossin the line.
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/21/2007 4:47:20 AM | I have two, very close, best friends. One is a woman and one is a man.
I value my friendship with the guy, because I can go to him for the male perspective and I know he will be completely honest with me because he has no alterior motive. In other words, he has nothing to hide and is not trying impress me or deceive me in order to sleep with me. I also try to give him the benefit of my experiences as a woman and let him know if I think he is on the wrong tract with a potential partner he is pursuing or I try to give him some insight into his girlfriend's behavoir.
After 7 years as best friends, I would be devistated if we actually ended up in bed together and it ruined out friendship!
So the answer is yes, men and women can be friends without sex. If all you want from a person is sex, then you will never truly get to know another person well and you will miss out on some fantastic relationships. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/21/2007 8:06:01 AM | This is a "When Harry Met Sally" question....Well here is my two cents. Men and woman are drawn to each other naturally. It is just an innate characteristic of our beingness. For me, I would not spend insurmountable amounts of time with a man that I did not find intriguing in friendship or otherwise. As for being in his pressence all of the time and not developing feelings that would lead to sex, well I think eventually if boundary lines are not established it will happen...maybe not now but in the future. I have a tone of male friends and invariably one or both of us have been attracted to each other at some point in the friendship. There had to be someting luring me into the friendship with them. Woman hold the cards I believe. Alot of the time we give away our power by giving up the goods too soon. It depends on what we are looking for sex or the real deal. Sure I can say anything such as he is just my friend and nothing will ever happen...but I am teetering on the truth and a lie.
We really have to be really honest within ourselves when we answer this question. What motivates us to pursue friendships with the opposite sex. Are we toying with the idea that we or they might grow on us like a fungus if we are around them enough?
Some people love to have a lot of friends of the opposite sex. Sometimes this is a copout for them insofars, why do they enjoy the company of so many people of the opposite sex? What are they not receiving in their current relationship that would warrant them wanting to do this? Or could it be that they have a half-hearted commitment or none at all.
I think you prettty much know what's up. The fact that you felt like a fool tells me that you don't like this crap one bit. If he is still okay with it, them maybe he is not a good fit for what you are looking for in a man or ultimate relationship. Drop it like it's hot! | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/21/2007 9:43:17 AM | Answer, yes, of course they can.
I have some female friends that are not someone I would even remotely consider having sex with. It's really easy when you are of different ages and different martial status.
Boundries have to drawn early in a relationship to let it be know that one or both are not considering anything further than friends. So there is grey areas when one wants more and the other doesn't. We just have to recognize when we are in one of those grey moments and make it clear to the other!
Usually I know in my mind right away if I desire to be anything more than friends after meeting a woman...or at least the potential. It takes two to make a thing go right, so both of us would have to be on the same page with that. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/21/2007 10:45:33 AM | Depends on the age.
The younger generation aka the the "echo boomers" which are the children of the baby boomers seem to be able to. The baby boomers themselves, no way...not the majority.
Kids today seem to have a better handle on that then we do. I have daughters who have boys who are their best friends or very close friends. The guys they are dating have no problem when they go out together.
Personally, I wouldnt like it. I dont think most men can resist the temptation.. and some women for that matter.
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/21/2007 10:52:38 AM | | I have many women friends--from work and from life. they love me dearly but want to be a friend rather than a lover. I call them my lady friends vs girlfriends. They have given me good conversations over the years and also advice. But even though they are my lady friends, my significant other comes 1st, above all else. | |
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