| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 10:30:56 AM | | Yes. Sex is not necessary to show you care about someone. If someone wants sex out of every type of acquaintaince, they better stay away from me!!! That said, it will come to it when the time and person is right. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 10:33:17 AM | | Life is not a cheesy porno? So you are saying that lesbian encounters only happen in porno movies? More naivete. My sister had her friend of 25 years proposition her one night! Anyway, that is beside the point. The point is that it happens a lot between men and women. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 10:36:44 AM | I know some lesbians as well - and I am sure I have done a lot more living than you have! (gee please read the postings before responding!)
Your fomer comments said it cannot be done - I am stating it can. And you last comment about straight female friends it happens? Then those females are not straight they are bi (and yes I have plenty of bi friends, men and women also)
But then it is natural for people to disagree.
Its not like two straight friends break out into a pillow fight and end in a sweaty embrace! | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 10:45:47 AM | | I didn't say no two individuals opposite sex friends can resist sex. There are a million examples that do. I said the idea of the strictly platonic relationship is a myth. That means a sexual undercurrent often exists between two such friends. And often, across the general population, that supposedly platonic relationship goes sexual because of that sexual undercurrent. That doesn't mean it will be acted upon by you or anyone in particular. You still need the right situation to arise. And usually the right situation never presents itself. But just because it hasn't, that is not to be taken as proof of the absense of that undercurrent. That therefore indicates to me that for two people to enter into a platonic relationship is risky. Especially if they are married. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 10:49:29 AM | But its a matter of self control - and the people involved!
Yes - a situation like that did arise for me with one of my male friends eons ago - but we just looked at eachother and bursed out laughing - realizing how silly it was...
Since then we are still friends, and nothing like that arose again. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 10:58:16 AM | Aradienne and blue eyed gal seem to be catching on. Good for you two ladies (heck even I just read the chicks posts....kinda fits in with this topic too???).
I am LMAO at women here who say "Most of my friends are male" Take one guess why those guys hang around you? Women should have women friends and men should have men friends. Yes I've had female friends, thats not the point. I was single, one I was hot for and married 14 years later, the other was ugly and I felt sorry for her. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 11:01:06 AM | Thank you fun and confident.
I can drive my car for years without getting in a wreck too so maybe I dont need to wear my safety belt. And you can too, if you are undisciplined and dont care about consequences. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 11:06:56 AM | | i have read a lot of truth in all the posts here......yes, we can have friends who are of the opposite sex and never have sexual contact! the most common link to all these posts is that it boils down to trust and respect for one another, regardless of the hormonal attraction that exists (and yes, it exists for all of us - stop being in denial!). also, you do have to ask yourself just how important that friendship is to you. Sexual encounters come and go, but lasting friendships tend to be rare. Life is all about choices!! | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 6:11:46 PM | "(and yes, it exists for all of us - stop being in denial)"
"You just summed it up perfectly!"
I'm so glad we can all agree! The answer, therefore, is no. Sex is always a part of it. This doesn't imply in any way that a guy has to shove his penis into every female (or person ) he makes friends with but it is always there to greater or lesser degrees. That has been my point from the beginning.
Beyond this simple point, I would go a little further to say that your guy friends really do want to have sex with you for the most part. If you are attractive, your "friends" are waiting for their chance. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 6:28:53 PM | | yes we can all be friends without sex, if we really try and put our mind to it, there has to be trust and respect in the relationship. jealousy breeds contempt, maybe you should have gone with the "girl" friend and your boyfriend to the outing. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 11:32:17 PM | Thankfully fishbill speaks only for himself.
kmoc - summed it up wonderfully.
Sexual attraction can be acknowledged and not acted on when both decide that they would rather not risk the solid friendship that is already there and has been for years (thinking.... at least 4 male friends of various ages have approached me and we discussed it along with pros and cons - we all agreed that sex had screwed up all too many relationships in their past... so, we didn't go there... we still treat one another with love and respect)
None of them were ugly, nor am I... not a one I would consider marriage to. Friends, each of us can stand to have as many friends as is humanly possible.
My libido doesn't rule my choices.
Can men and women be friends without sex? YES! | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 11:42:23 PM | | Yes, men and women can definitly be friends without sex getting involved. A lot of my bestfriends are male and i've never once had any sort of sexual contact with them. It all depends on each person. Some people just can't be friends with the opposite sex without wanting something more out of it. It all depends on the individuals. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/14/2005 12:03:18 AM | | i have guy friends, and we dont have sex, lol...I ....guess........it all depends on the person(s) i think guys and gals can be friends without a sexual relationship... | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/14/2005 12:04:47 AM | | If the person I'm dating doesn't trust me, then I'm not staying with them. I've got tons of female friends, many of whom I've known for a very long time. I'm not going to stop hanging out with them because someone I start seeing has a problem with it. No one has the right to tell me who I can and cannot be friends with. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/14/2005 1:12:34 AM | yep lukky
people say they have opposite friends who are just friends but, guaranteed though you might not be attracted to them, they are to you! lol | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/14/2005 2:07:14 AM | For sex to take place ...of course ..there must be mutual attraction and consent...
having said that if you are in a relationship you should not
if you are not and the other party is..you should not also
Ive had many an occasion to "cheat" when I was in a relationship...but did not...
but thats just me.
The question to ask is..would you condone your partner..having a "bonkfest" (sorry for the crudity) with every person of the opposite sex they had a mutual attraction with ? | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/14/2005 3:44:15 AM | | Yes they can be friends. No I don't think someone who is in a 'committed relationship' with another should be going out in with a bunch of people of the opposite sex. I wouldn't personally. But then again, IF I were in a committed relationship I wouldn't even be on this site...despite the fun to be had in the forums. And yes, I too have had many male friends (or guys I just joked around with/hung out with at work) because in some ways I think I make a better friend than a girlfriend. I don't see the harm in it unless a guy is constantly complaining about his girlfriend/wife etc. or if sexual feelings seem to come out of nowhere. | |
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