| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 2/25/2008 1:35:05 AM | Yes, definitely! I can attest to that.
I have told a friend that we can only be friends and that if we cannot do that, I would have to say goodbye. I encouraged him to look for another girl. He agreed and we have been going out and it remains a platonic friendship. I feel we are better friends now than before. Better said than done but it definitely can be done if both are mature and actually care for one another.
If you are sure that there is no future for both of you as a couple, sex will just complicate matters. Maybe the reason it is working is we have never been intimate. If we have earlier, then it might be difficult to just completely change our relationship.
I think it is dependent on communication. If you spell out what you are, and why you are there, and have a real discussion, you can enjoy companionship and friendship and not become FWB. I have actually two such great friends. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 2/25/2008 4:25:48 AM | Yes you can, I have several female friends, that are just friends. Would I sleep with them if the opportunity arouse , no, I just don't see them as sex partners. | |
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Esro
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 2/26/2008 6:57:42 PM | I most defiantly say they can.
My best friend is a woman. When we were younger we slept together and had a short relationship. We both knew that we were better friends and have know each other for over 19 years.
She has even gone so far as introducing her 2nd husband to me and telling him that if I don't like him they are gonna have a problem. Needless to say I liked him and they got married.
From what I am reading though my situation is rare. This I find to be sad. I have a few female friends and they are defiantly stronger friendships than I have with guys.
Guys you just gotta realize the best resource you have is your friends. If you can't have a female friendship then you are missing out on a very honest and strong friendship. Females are way more dependable as friends and are way more blunt and to the point. Not to mention more reliable and trustworthy. Any guy that is lucky enough to have a female friend will benefit in the long run.
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 2/26/2008 8:24:25 PM | | Something I've noticed over the years is that there are alot of men and women on earth. Not quite sure of the percentages though. I think its healthy to have friends of the opposite sex and I think its cool that opposites can have plutonic relatioships. I also think that we should be considerate of our Lover's perspectives and nuture them so that no inhibitions will taint their thoughts of us. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 4:10:00 PM | | yes we can I got a lot of women friends and alot of them have a lot of guy friends but if you were my friend I suspect that would not be the case if the right lady was agreeing but that would be for the very long term if things worked out | |
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Joined: 1/8/2008
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 4:18:23 PM | Yeah. Unless one of you is attracted to the other. It is really impossbile to be friends with a girl if she wants to F*** your brains out from the moment she first saw you because it just is. At first they will play along as the role of friend and be throwing hints out. When you don't respond they will talk about some guy they are really into trying to see if it bothers you or makes you jealous and when it doesn't they will say they are dating that person. Then they will claim they think they are getting engagned to this person you know they don't like and will and then see if you try to make some kind of desperate attempt to come out and go after them. Finnally when they realize you just are not interested they will break up with that boyfirend and be really short tempered at you all the time when you didn't really do anything wrong.
This is a condensed version of my autobiography. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 3/4/2008 6:55:02 AM | | Only when the other person lacks the qualities you require in a mate. Essentially, it has to be someone that you just could not live with but like to spend short periods of time with. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 3/4/2008 8:43:16 AM | Hey there ....
I think that a man and a women can have a platonic relationship ...HOWEVER ... I also think that at some point or another one or the other will think about sex/feelings for their friend... therefore leading to possible confusion or a relationship ....
But In a relationship if one party was going out with their friends that were of the opposite sex then it has got to be trust issue .... Most of my friends are guys and we all hang out at least once a week sooo therefore I would try and reassure my partner that it is purely platonic and even introduce them to my friends.... I would also respect my male friends partners as i would not like them to consider me as a threat ...
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 3/4/2008 9:31:49 AM | Tyric - I completely agree! We must protect our relationships.
Perhaps the couple could both go out with the "friend" - if she's a platonic (sp?) friend, there shouldn't be a problem. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 3/4/2008 10:06:36 AM | 2-6 women. What is he a manwhore? Females should stay with females and men with men.
I'd NEVER allow my man to do that. Barely even 1 girl.
But yeah duh!!! Friends don't have sex. Whoever does is retarded! | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 3/4/2008 10:22:51 AM | | For me, it would be good to have friends of the opposite sex. I'm not saying that, as someone who is not currently in a relationship, it's just that if you have friends of the opposite sex you can discover qualities that you would like a future partner to have. However, I do see the point, if I was in a relationship/ dating and I said to my partner, 'I'm off out tonight with the girls', that would seem a little suspicious. So I will sit on the fence with this subject. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 3/4/2008 10:37:36 AM | | In my experience men have told me they always fantasize about having sex with almost every women they know. And yet, if the female has male friends they get so jealous over it. Sounds like a double standard to me. And most of my male friends want more than just friendship even though I don't give out that impression. I make it very clear where I stand. I never get too personal with them, even in conversation. Maybe I have male friends who want someone to take care of them. LOL Either way, if they can't be a friend then I move on. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 3/4/2008 10:38:57 AM | Yes, I believe that women and men can be friends. Well at least that's the way it's been for me. I like hearing the male perspective on things and I enjoy the company of both men and women equally.
My granddaughter has many friends and although she's at an age where she's starting to gravitate towards hanging mainly with girls her own age, she still has a fair amount of boys she considers her friends. I think this is a positive thing. We have a lot more
in common than we do differences...well in my opinion anyway but to each their own.
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 3/4/2008 11:03:50 AM | This is such a touchy subject for many friendships, relationships and even marriages. It really depends on the individuals involved. If the girl or guy is seeking or expecting sex from there so call friendship, I really wouldn't consider that a friendship. Some people just have problems controling there feelings and urges.
I can't recollect anyone that I know that doesn't have a friend of the opposite sex including myself these days. I have great male friends and none of them has come on to me in that way. I suspect that they would know what would happen if they did.
I do believe there are certain bountaries and respect you have to consider if your in a serious relationship.
I was told by many guys that it's impossible and way to hard to have guys as just friends. The reason is that guys will always be thinking about having sex with you if they get the chance. Well for some guys that might be true but if he respects, trust and enjoys the friendship he or she would not even go there in the first place.
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 3/4/2008 1:07:47 PM | | I believe most men will say they cant be friends with a girl without having sex...I can HONESTLY say I can and have/had. I personally never and never will had any sexual intentions with them at all, so I think it really depends on who you're dealing with. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 3/6/2008 10:58:41 AM | these conversations are beginning to get old .
Has any one heard the term it takes two to tango .
If two people decide to have sex after being friends , somehow its the guy fault .
He's the dog ?
And her decision making process was pure and virtuous .
gimme a friggin' break! | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 3/6/2008 11:02:46 AM | ps
thank you to all the woman on this thread who have said they have male friends and have left sex out of the equation, and that the guys have not ADVANCED on them
That is simply the truth . We like women for other reasons than sexual objects .
I appologize on behalf of my gender for the multitude of meatheads that do exist.
ciao. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 3/7/2008 10:37:27 PM |
my ex boyfriend 18-8...says women and men can be friends with out any sex.. at times he would go out with anywhere from two to six women. An when I had a problem with it he made me feel like a fool...what do you think?
i definitely dont think men and women can be "legitimate friends" without sex or wanting to sex each other..obviously there is exception but i doubt you could actually find it lol..i mean its just a natural ting for a human beign to have sexual imagery of a person they are close to or want to have sex with them... | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 3/7/2008 11:56:09 PM | | Thats the word without theT word you have nothing-no trust .Sure I have lots of girlfriends-----But as friends its easy you dont have to have sex .They are just friends like my male friends we have a laugh. My friends that are female we talk ---we still laugh but were-not having sex.Simply put love comes in many different forms--and thats coming from a guy born in Glasgow Scotland----go figure. | |
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