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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 4/27/2008 5:05:52 PM | Most of my friends tend to be male because I am in a traditionally male field of work We tend to think the same a bit more than most women that I meet. Not that I don't have some great women friends as well, but those I have tend to think out of the ordinary as well.
I was close to my male university friends also as we studied and suffered through the same workload, sometimes getting together to work all night long on projects. There had to be a lot of trust on my partners part for that to happen but there was never an issue. Those bonds are still there years after and I still keep up with these guys from time to time. If I had not had the capacity to strike up males friends, or if I had reservations with how it looked I would have had a lonely time of it and no doubt lost a lot of important resources as well. Networking is very important in some occupations. While they were my pals only my partner ignited that special space inside of me reserved for relationship.
My advice is to deal with your trust issues. Satisfy yourself once and for all and let it go. If you suspect him and it worries you that should be dealt with. There are lots of way of testing the waters to see how genuine it all is. For examples what does he like most about his female friends? Is he concerned about their personal issues and what special things does he have in common with them. If he just seems to be 'dating' them, and they change regularly maybe you have something to address.
If they are long termers and real friends then he shouldn't mind them being part of your life also - invite them over, get to know them! While women can be predatory most will not date a man where they know and like his current wife or girlfriend. This is often your best protection. I know this is not true for all cases and it will not entirely protect you against him having liasons if he wants to, but that will be another issue. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 4/28/2008 11:40:36 AM | I would love to say yes  ...
I am a man that connects with women much easier then men..... I usally like there company and they usally like mine.
The problem is that sooner or later, intimacy and attackments grow to the point that both of us want to go to the next step...  thats when the problems starts, because a once care free relationship looses all those freedoms that made it so much fun...
I think it is better to have friendship first, but with intenions to life long comitment or else u r just tiffleing each others affections.
As far as casuall relationships with women i have many, but im not sure it was good thing for my wife... i think, i would do things different now.... and am going to conseling, about this very thing.
hellow !! my name is gxxx and im a recovering relationship addict....
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 4/28/2008 12:25:09 PM | | Yes, women and men can be friends without sex. Just have to ask yourself if he's one of the guys who won't give into temptation? type you sleep with his female friends, expecially when alrdy in a relationship? has he really given you any reason to believe he's betraying you with these female friends? | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 4/28/2008 1:08:55 PM | Yes, Of course males and females could be friends.
They just have to set the record straight with their expectations about the friendship. It gets difficult if one person really likes the other person as more of a friend.
Nowadays, it's not easy to make a good friend. So whatever solid friendships I have, I absolutely treasure. And if a friendships is solid & honorable, it should be able to last thru thick & thin. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/6/2008 5:22:28 AM | Most of my friends, are male. I think you can be friends without sex becoming involved but it depends on the friend.
My best friend in the whole entire world and i, are very close. Sleeping in each others beds and so on, inevitably, sex happened. It ruined our friendship for a while. Once past that, we became closer than ever.
But on the other hand, i have another almost as best friend, who i cuddle, cry on his shoulder etc, and the most we ever exchange is a sad goodbye with a kiss on the cheek.
Alot of it, depends on the chemistry between the two. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/6/2008 5:47:49 AM | As I've gotten older and more experienced I went from "sure" to "depends on time". ;)
But there is context:
If the guy is gay and the girl has him locked in friend mode, sure. Any other situation, *eventually* one or the other will "catch feelings" if the relationship goes on long enough , what makes you good friends is the same thing that makes you good lovers and if you give it nurture by promoting the friendship you only increase the chances of the latter developing from the former from one party or the other. Now if these feelings give way to sex is another story, and can be avoided if the "friends" make sure not to stoke the possibility but I've found the desire for a physical attraction is like gravity, it makes ones actions move one toward getting that physical stimulation desired!
So like space and time, whether or not sex comes out of it is relative. ;) | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/7/2008 1:18:02 PM | they can be friends if neither finds the other sexually attractive....show me a guy who is "pals" with a woman that he finds attractive and I'll show you a guy who's just biding his time to strike. lol...
Women are probably a little different in this regard..they can be friends with a guy who they think is "cute" (as long as they aren't *too* attracted to him) without wanting something more than friendship. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/25/2008 10:05:27 AM | sure they can be friends without sex
if she keeps you away from them then yeah I can see there being a problem with that...but if he brings you around and they respect you then thats a true friend. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 5/25/2008 1:42:44 PM | | The fact is, if a man and woman spend a lot of time together as "friends", one or both of them is always bound to start feeling an attraction. It's normal though... and they say friends make the best lovers. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/2/2008 12:51:22 PM | Just was scrolling through threads and found this.
I have to say that I have alot of guy friends and I have not slept with ANY of them. Alot of people seem to think I'ma whore because of having all these guy friends and they automatically say I'm sleepin' with 'em. It's so annoying because they get ragged on for it too.
Pssst. I'm not, fu*ckers.  | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/5/2008 5:37:21 PM | I personally think a man and woman can be friends only to a certain extent.... at the beginning its all fun and games until someone gets hurt or feelings get involved. Never a good idea unless you can seperate the two. Two co workers can be friends...but than again if its the man approaching the woman, usually they want sex. Not all the time but 98% of the time! | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/8/2008 1:45:54 PM | | I have about half a dozen friends of the opposite sex that I have never been sexual with or even had sexual thoughts about. Two of them are my closest friends, it does get to be a problem though when in a relationship, you have to respect your S.O.s feelings. I have completely lost contact with friends before because of my relationships or theirs, but we usually re-connect at some point. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/9/2008 12:37:37 PM | All my friends are women, I'm not gay and we have some great times together.
I think women tend to over-estimate their sexual influence on men a little too much. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/9/2008 12:53:18 PM | Hmmm valentino? Yes Yes We can be friends but we are all sexual beings....some of us have a harder time controlling sexual urges......
When I'm in a serious relationship my guy friends are kept at arms legnth out of respect for my partner....
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 11/9/2008 6:25:47 PM | | You most certainly can be friends with someone of the opposite sex without "sex" being involved. Most of my closest friends are men -- and I've NEVER had sex with them or want to have sex with them. They are my friends -- I value my friends alot -- I've never had a bf who stuck around for 18 years... and yet I have at least 5 male friends who have (and none of these were ever boyfriends). So yes, its very possible to have friends like these. I count myself very lucky. I always have someone who can come rescue me when I get a flat, someone to call about my computer problems, someone who will pick me up if I'm too drunk to drive, someone who will let me crash at their place, someone who will help with the "heavy" items, someone who has the power tools when I'm trying to fix or make something. Someone who I can pretend is my bf when I'm getting hit on. :) | |
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