| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 7/24/2007 10:38:18 PM | Sex is what is unique to a romantic relationship, compared to any other relationship, like friendship. In my internal definition of romantic relationship, it isn't real, or committed, prior to being sexual, which is not to say that having sex means you're in a relationship.
It's the gateway, and the foundation. If you are having sex, it makes you want to grow closer in all the other ways too. If the sex is boring, or nonexistent, why bother?
It's also crucial in times of strife. Just as it's counter-productive and damaging to stop talking, when stress comes along, sex affirms the relationship, and communicates committment, desire, and affection. It's a lot more likely to be able to want to resolve things, if you've just made love, than if sex stops, when there are challenges in the relationship. | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 3/4/2008 11:03:28 AM | Well if my man didn't like it, I don't like it. I only enjoy it if he enjoys it.
2 times a day every other weekend? Wow. That's REALLY small compared to me. More like 24/7 if I could. LOL Hoo Yaa! LOL | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 3/4/2008 11:06:56 AM | Personally, if you are into someone and you are "making it" it just a mater of slaking your thirst . . . problems arise if one is more thirsty than the other. Try feeding your dates, pretzels, chips or other salty snacks it tends to balance them out.  | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 3/4/2008 11:44:51 AM | Sex issues are the number one reason cited for divorce.
Number two was money issues, Number three was children.
How important is sex? Extremely. Thing is, this isn't a who is right vs who is wrong issue. It's a compatibility issue, nothing more.
You need to be with someone who shares the same desire for sex on the same frequency as you. Ditto for the type of sex as well. If you're ultra conservative, then dating someone who is extremely kinky isn't going to work. The key is NOT to try to change others, but rather, to find someone who shares the same desires, frequency of sex, and type of sex you do. | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 3/4/2008 11:49:31 AM | | I think it depends on the people, but THEY have to be on the same page. With the last person I was with, I would have liked sex every day, and she never wanted it - not just rarely wanted it, but literally never. We didn't break up because of it, but it was a significant factor. | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 3/4/2008 11:57:49 AM | | Your on here telling us all you want more sex.. I call that solicitation .Yes sex is important but ... I think you better let your boyfriend in on the fact you are shopping for some action on POF ..so he can also find someone new who stimulates his sexual desires a little more then 2 times a day every other weekend.. | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 3/4/2008 1:38:35 PM | To me, sex in a loving and committed relationship is more of a reflection of the "whole" rather than just "sex". It's hard to explain exactly what I mean as it makes sense in my head but not on paper...lol!
I mean, of course sex is sex and sex can stand on it's own. And of course sex is and should be good and satisfying on a physical level for both partners.
But if you are really lucky and you find someone with whom you can connect with that goes beyond just the physical level, then sex takes care of itself and sort of becomes a moot point.
Because when that happens, every touch, every look...every smile....every caress becomes an intimate moment in and by itself.
And that feeling of connectedness you get from those little shared moments can sustain you through many "dry spells' your relationship may go through due to circumstances that are beyond your control.
It might not sustain your relationship forever, but it might help carry you over till better times come along. I know it's possible because I lived it.
And although my relationship didn't last forever, it lasted 20 years in which there were many "dry spells" but where for the most part we still felt very committed and connected to one another.
Unfortunately in the end, our relationship didn't survive, hence why I'm here. But I know we could have weathered the worst of the storm had we hanged on a little tighter and a little while longer. But we didn't and such is life.
But I know for a fact that a relationship can survive long periods of having no sex if the level of intimacy and commitment is still
there between the two. I'm not advocating it or saying that the couple shouldn't try to get at the bottom of the problem, obviously, but I'm just saying that it's possible. Anyway, that's my story and I'm sticking to it:)
JMHO | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 3/4/2008 1:44:39 PM | SEX is VERY IMPORTANT in a healthy relationship. If you don't have a great sex life you don't have a healthy love relationship and if you have a good relationship when he grins at me and gives me that look my knees go weak because I want him. | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 5/21/2008 10:34:19 PM | | Oh my god, sex is very important in a relationship,in my opinion anyway. Once a day and thensome... Physical attraction...foreplay, mmmm. | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 5/22/2008 1:19:23 PM | | thats not enough, at the end of the day a girl needs it everyday its not good at all, i have it every other day but thats because im used to not having it so much with my partner working x | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 5/22/2008 1:32:37 PM | Hmm, lets see. You can have a good friendship with sex.
I say sex is important. But not TO important. I mean, you wanna go like bunnies, and he is more of a once every two months type of guy, that means,well...sexually you are not compatible. I know it horrible to say, but there are people you can be emotionally and sexually compatable with. And well, a good relationship makes sure both partners are feeling fullfilled emotionally and sexually.
At least, thats my two cents. >:3 I'm going to get flamed but open relationships do work for some people. My co-worker is in one. And he has been happily married like 5 yrs now. | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 5/22/2008 1:34:14 PM | The important thing with sex is to have a couple who want it a similar amount.
If one is not getting enough its unlikely to last. | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 5/28/2008 8:49:09 PM | | it's was very important as soon as think that there could be a relationship i ask "What's the Frequency, Kenneth?" no joke and if the number is not high enough it's a no pho sho. not need for all of that pseudo rejection. | |
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