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 taurus516
Joined: 11/3/2004
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I love when guys get mad at me yet in my profile it says I'm just here for the forums, go figure!


Just out of curiousity,why do you love it when guys get mad?I never have understood why that sparks interest in some people.I myself am not into hostile feelings.Yes,guys do write one liners and unless you're a natural entertainer or comedy writer coming up with something original,witty and funny for everyone is not something that comes easy.You try it some time.So what if it's a line?How are you going to know if the guy is decent unless you answer him and find out further?The first email is only an ice breaker or introduction.So what if a guy emails a bunch of women,you can't make an omelette without breaking a few eggs.Isn't it just a little egocentric to think that you are so special that a man must be work himself into a creative frenzy just to get your attention?
I think women get dissillusioned because they're expecting sparks and magic like the movies portray.Relationships don't always start like that and sometimes it takes a bit of time for attraction to build.You may have missed out on a really decent guy only because he failed to entertain you with his first email.It's no less shallow than the guy who by passes the women who aren't as cute or sexy as his fantasy dream girls.He may miss out on a potential soul mate because he is too consumed looking for that perfect 10.If I had blown off my current g/f because of some of the criteria you women expect from men I would still be looking and have missed out on real happiness.

I see this and again,I rejoice in the fact that this part of my life is over.I don't miss it.

One more side note.Be careful and wary of who you are attracted to.Remember attraction is NOT a choice.You may find yourself with the wrong person and disastrous results following after what you think is your heart talking.Use your logical and analytical side as well.God gave us two hemispheres of the brain for a reason.
 _chrissy_
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 52
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Posted: 9/5/2005 12:41:02 PM
Sorry the "I love it when" was sarcasm.. Should have wrote JJ
Lots of us arent always expecting something entertaining or whitty, just something sincere or eye catching, a little effort. I know if I write someone I have reason, something that caught my eye that I say... not just something u write to anyone and everyone. Having guys like u for the wrong reasons gets annoying and sorry some of us get a little Jaded from the unsincerity of it all!
 taurus516
Joined: 11/3/2004
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Posted: 9/5/2005 12:54:53 PM
know if I write someone I have reason, something that caught my eye that I say... not just something u write to anyone and everyone.

This is why I suggested a form rejection letter to the guys who send out form type line intros.If it's obvious that it's the same letter,then it may send a message to the one liner writers that you're on to their game and it's not working.

The internet is a relatively new toy for people to hook up.It reminds me much of what TV was like in it's infancy.I would like to see forums like this help bridge the gap of understanding that exists between men and women.Hopefully since it involves interaction,it won't become the mindless idiot box TV became.Over 200 channels and still nothing to watch,most of it being reruns.
 thebomb1971
Joined: 6/22/2005
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set to ignore after she lost interest (found better?)
Posted: 9/5/2005 1:28:06 PM
A woman and myself were emailing each other.... things were going smashingly. Then things just stopped. I let it slide about a week (she was busy?). I then invited her to a company party that is happening this sat and I got a response. It said something about being sorry about not being able to make it. I looked at and realized from the wording that she had picked things up with some other guy. So I sent her a letter stating good luck in her jouirney but she never got it. She had set me to ignore! That made me mad. Not the rejection (I am sooooo used to it) but being set to ignore. Oh well.
 thebomb1971
Joined: 6/22/2005
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Posted: 9/5/2005 1:38:05 PM
sarah 38, you get so many email because your pics are so suggestive of you being easy. I doubt you are but your pics are borderline soft-porn. What do you expect?
 taurus516
Joined: 11/3/2004
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Posted: 9/5/2005 1:38:49 PM
I had that happen too.A woman I met on another site and went out with a few times.Things went well for awhile,she went from calling and emailing me almost constantly to zip.I found out later she had attempted to get things going again with her ex b/f.OK fine,that's cool,but why not just come out and tell me?Men and women can be friends.

I can take rejection.You get it enough,you learn it's part of life.Getting ignored is part of life too.But then so are all other forms of rude behavior.No matter how you justify it,ignoring people who may be genuinly interested is just plain rude.I can understand it if someone gets ugly and the other person blocks them,but to leave a guy to just sit there thinking wtf to me is the epitome of snobbish elitism.
 CinnamonCat
Joined: 7/21/2005
Msg: 57
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Posted: 9/5/2005 2:10:15 PM
zhoozhoo said:


Hey man that's a Montecristo No. 2, my favourite cigar. But I agree, maybe not all the women find it interesting. I don't have too many good pictures, maybe I should take a few new pics.


I was actually thinking it looks kind of like that classic photo of Fidel Castro. Plus it's kind of nonfriendly looking. But you mention that your profile says you do drugs sometimes, and I know that I walk away from a profile that mentions that, just because it's a potential source of future problems, if only legal ones.

I've responded to someone that their profile says they are interested in completely different things from me or that they have a personal situation that is not compatible with what I'm looking for, and I sometimes get notes back saying "but that's only sometimes" or "but that shouldn't be a problem" etc. Sometimes people just don't take "no thank you" for an answer even if a polite explanation is given.
 kris1082
Joined: 5/23/2006
Msg: 58
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Posted: 6/11/2006 5:19:13 PM
I respond to all emails I get - unless they are really lame. Like a 1 liner "How'r you" - and nothing at all in their profile. If someone wants to initiate contact, they need to at least tell me why I might be interested in them.

That said, what do you think about guys who initiate contact with a nice email. And I respond in kind, with some additional information about myself that's not in my profile. And they never mail again?!? 3 times in the last week that's happened. If you initiate contact, and for whatever reason don't want to continue it after they reply to you, wouldn't you at least say "sorry, guess we're not suited after all" or something?
My email is still sitting (read) in their inbox - how long do you wait, before giving up on getting a response?
 Gaelen
Joined: 1/27/2006
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Posted: 6/12/2006 11:55:10 AM
I take time to write emails to people...I get very bored at work....and some reply and some don't

Its not lie I ask them out or anything I usually just want to spark a conversation for someone to talk to. I feel the more people I talk to the better, I always like meeting new people.

and if someone takes the time to write me I am sure to write them back
 1gentlelady
Joined: 5/12/2006
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Posted: 6/12/2006 11:58:31 AM
You know...it seems like we're ****ed if we do and ****ed if we don't respond. I have tried responding with a "thanks but no thanks" and have gotten angry responses back.....but if we don't respond, we get accused of being snobs. So, I have decided to respond politely with the "thanks but no thanks". I know I will get some angry responses, but at least I know I was polite and courteous.
 taurus516
Joined: 11/3/2004
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Posted: 6/12/2006 2:09:47 PM

So, I have decided to respond politely with the "thanks but no thanks". I know I will get some angry responses, but at least I know I was polite and courteous.


You can always delete nasty responses to your "no thanks" and block the offending idiot.You have at least covered your base with a polite response that left no one wondering.
 MarkMc
Joined: 3/11/2006
Msg: 62
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Posted: 6/12/2006 4:40:02 PM
In the end , it all comes down to respect. If someone replies thanks but no thanks , I have respect for the person. If someone cannot bother to respond , then do I really want to know someone who is lacking in basic manners and civility in the first place ?

There are exceptions of course , " I am only here for the forums " , doesn't require a response , or when things are spelled out and the person emailing hasn't bothered trying to read what you have written , then its not impolite to not respond.

As for the returned hate mail things , apparently you can set the emails for a certain length , if the email is only a short cursative one liner , it doesn't get sent in the first place.

This isn't telemarketing where someone is contacting you at random , someone is contacting you because you have hung up a sign and asked them to contact you. So it is only polite if someone has made an effort to do what you have asked , to acknowledge the effort.

That being said , there are a lot of people that won't thank you for finding their wallet , for doing a kind deed , or helps you in some form or fashion. I have the same amount of respect for these people too.

All I can say is "whew" , I am glad I didn't meet this person or get to know them as they are not really the form of friends that I am looking for.
 sexymuma1
Joined: 12/14/2005
Msg: 63
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Posted: 6/12/2006 4:52:55 PM
This is life people...why is it so hurtful or just annoying when someone doesn't respond? (I personally do)
We are all here as adults, didn't your parents ever teach you that we can't change other people's behavior we can only change the way we react to their behavior.
So here you go, it's very simple, if you hear no response then that means that they are not interested. PERIOD!
That's pretty basic knowledge, and you should just let it role off your back, so you thought they would be kind and respond, they didn't. So move on to the next and don't take it so personally.
It's not ideal, but in this great big world there are many people that have manners, many that have some manners and many that have no manners!
 D_olnae
Joined: 2/26/2006
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Posted: 6/12/2006 8:44:43 PM
Don't expect courtesy from the discourtesous; you'll have better luck milking a bull. If you send an e-mail to someone and that person doesn't respond, that's a person you DON'T want a response from.
 digitalsanity
Joined: 5/1/2006
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Posted: 6/12/2006 10:24:01 PM
It is just the internet. If she does not reply, move on she was not worthy of you. No need to get soo frustrated over something so minor.
I feel I do not owe anyone anything, if I want to reply I will. If that makes me a snob or whatever then so be it.
If some dude walking down the street stop to try to chat with me, I would not stop just for anyone. Some people are scary, in real life and online.
 Sigi
Joined: 5/26/2005
Msg: 66
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Posted: 6/13/2006 5:01:23 AM
Yesterday....

He: "Let me know if your interested in talking sometime"

Me: "Thanks, but I'm not interested. Sigi"

He: "I believe proper internet etiquette is to just not respond!"

Haha...Now I'm 'confused'....
 CityWomanSK
Joined: 6/9/2006
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Posted: 6/13/2006 5:27:13 AM
You shouldn't become angry because someone doesn't respond the way you want them too.
 Splinter
Joined: 1/6/2006
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Posted: 6/13/2006 5:30:23 AM
I find that guys are the same way. If a person has enough time to read and delete an email then they have enough time to respond to the email. I guess there are a lot of lazy people on this site.
 rdmolan
Joined: 11/28/2005
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Posted: 6/13/2006 5:54:02 AM
There is actually a very simple answer that came from Dr. Einstein, when during an interview with his wife, someone asked him if there was anything that he didn't understand. After a moment of pondering and with his usual smile, he stated: That of all the things in the universe that he had thought about, the two things that he had the most trouble understanding were cats and women. I think if you remember this-you will be just fine. When one of these delightful mysteries is meant to be put in your life, then it will happen. Have patience my friend.
 Crane Man
Joined: 10/22/2005
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Posted: 6/13/2006 12:21:34 PM
This topic has been done to death, but I do agree it can be frustrating. You have to realize though women get a lot more emails than guys do so maybe it takes too long to respond to each message. Just move on to the next one.
 bonanza123
Joined: 9/24/2009
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Posted: 10/18/2009 3:39:57 PM
Yes, go with your instincts. They're usually stuck-up snobs who like to think they are sincere. Let's face it, most women are full of mental contradictions. Don't worry, when they've held out for the top 1% they think they deserve and achieve nothing they'll come running to you when their bio clock counts down and they get desperate.

Contrary to what women tell you, most older guys are gentlemen and would accept a polite "no thanks" without incident.
 josh2h2
Joined: 3/22/2010
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Posted: 4/6/2010 11:17:29 AM
It confuses me as well.

As of right now, the majority of those whom I've emailed have checked the email and have neither deleted it NOR responded. I'm not sure anyone could send a more confusing signal at the "first contact" - you don't delete my message, you don't respond, what gives?

This is easily the most frustrating aspect of meeting people online - it truly makes one feel unwanted, sadly, when you spend weeks, 20 different matches and 20 different emails for absolutely nothing.
 cmd1957a
Joined: 1/19/2009
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Posted: 4/6/2010 11:39:44 AM
Exactly, When ever I sent out an email I would delete it as soon as I sent it. I am not going to go through the BS to try and figure out what she is thinking, it is a waste of time. If she responds Ill take it from there.
 mr.evil
Joined: 11/14/2009
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Posted: 4/6/2010 11:41:13 AM
"have neither deleted it NOR responded."

That is an answer of sorts, it means they aren't interested. As for "feel unwanted" wait until you get a few unread/deleted's!! Online you need a thicker skin, no answer=no interest, just keep fishing, don't take it personally. They think your not a match is all.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
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Posted: 4/6/2010 11:49:30 AM

As of right now, the majority of those whom I've emailed have checked the email and have neither deleted it NOR responded. I'm not sure anyone could send a more confusing signal at the "first contact" - you don't delete my message, you don't respond, what gives?


Yabut, they aren't sending you anything...nor do they need to, so how can their
"first contact" be a confusing signal?

Some people get lots of mail. Some people think everyone should answer every
message even if its to say no thanks. Some people think you only need to respond
to the ones you're interested in.

"shrug"

It's the nature of online dating...it's not for the faint of heart!
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