| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/21/2005 8:18:20 PM | Im sure a lot are married or in a relationship and dont want to get caught
some not confident enough to post a pic and if thats the case I wont consider going out with them. Im not a shrink
some dont want to be judged by looks...that bothers me..they dont have a problem checking out others.
some their profession..valid excuse if its true
I dont understand why some of the ones who dont post for pics ask for the most.  I dont oblige, I find that insulting and unfair. | |
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| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/21/2005 8:35:48 PM | | I agree with Jackfrost. Maybe they just never got round to it or found one they want to post yet. Surely most of us have pics of us before we got married, so finding a pic isn't the issue and has no role in whether or not someone is married. | |
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| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/21/2005 9:47:03 PM |
I don't want to risk one of my staff seeing me on here.
Arent a lotta ppl on pof risking the same thing when they post a pic of themseleves up? Not an excuse. | |
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| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/21/2005 11:02:18 PM | No photo = ugly as a can of crushed ***holes. Probably a stalker, ex con or serial killer as well.
Avoid these people at all costs. | |
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| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/22/2005 12:49:25 AM | | Or it means he's to proud to admit hes on a dating site even if it's just for chat... Wouldnt want to be reconized .. GASP !!! People might see you at the same site their at... how gosh darn aful.. Reminds me of grade seven when we hid our kmart bags.. and hid from anyone we knew in kmart... | |
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| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/22/2005 11:57:36 AM | That could be true, but think about as adoloescent as it might sound, this is a dangerous world we live in now. Its not just some coworker, etc that may recognize you and embarrass you (maybe, if they really gave a darn), but it also protects you from stalkers, robbers, all sorts of wackos. THere's always other alternatives to just "gee its adolescent". :)
Again maybe they just haven't done it yet and if hasseled often enuff about it, they'll just put some picture on to shut everyone up about it. May not even be them, but at least they've gotten you off there backs about it.
So why worry about it? They'll put one up if/when they are ready. If ya don't wanna talk to em...then don't. Easy enuff. | |
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| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/22/2005 12:06:23 PM | That harsh Robert -- coming from a guy with a dog for his pic... lolol
Why would no pic automatically mean they are ugly? That's kinda over generalizing I think. There's lots of possibilities. Sure vanity or fear of rejection is one, but what if there other reasons? Like wanting to have a picture of their car, a sunset, or ...an animal for instance (ahem)... or maybe they haven't scanned in any pictures or don't know how or just don't have a scanner. Maybe they just use this forum at work and have no way or real desure to post a picture from there since this is just a fun thing to do to make the slow hours go by on a slow day at the office. Or Maybe whenever they try it, they always get an error message stating the server is down. I know that happens to me sometimes. Give people a break, its not always about looks or marital status. Some people just simply don't have a picture up yet and there's no real reason, they just...don't.
Have a great day and don't be so quick to ASS-U-ME things about total strangers.
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| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/22/2005 4:57:50 PM | I doubt someone would take down their pic, etc just because one person "found them out" or had suspicions. I mean, you can just block that person and no one is ever the wiser. I mean we're all strangers here for the most part, so who is the person going to tell?
Even if they are totally blackballed and everyone knows "who they are" or "what they are about" they can just create a new profile and start over again. Not like its real hard on this thing.
With plenty of ways to avoid problems, I doubt someone would just leave and never be seen again because someone got "on them".
Just my opinion | |
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| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/22/2005 8:25:55 PM | MArried men sometimes post a picture thats not even theirs, in other words, its someone elses picture!! | |
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| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/23/2005 3:11:34 AM | Thats kinda what I meant...
That way no ones on em about having a picture
That way no one can ID them in real life
That way they can just have a conversation without being judged by their appearance
Some are probly hoping for some safe online "action". Ya know. So when they turn off the computer, no one's ever the wiser. So yeah there are those unaaceptable, immoral people.
But I'm sure there's a minority of people (NOT JUST MEN) that have the fake pictures for those other reasons I named too. They just wanna chat, but they don't want to be be pre-judged or recognized. That's probly a small amount, but I don't like to just assume its always "this one reason" and that's all it could ever be. I like to be more open minded about stuff. Not everyone is evil and coniving. Some people are just paranoid, trying to get over that 1st impression hill, and covering their butts just to get a conversation. Who knows?
I mean I've known some middle aged, slightly overweight, married women who have posted pictures of toothpick 20 year old girls just so that guys will flirt with em to boost their self esteem. So its not just men, although I'm sure its most of em, don't just shoot the blame at the guys. | |
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Posted: 12/25/2005 10:44:00 AM | | My God! That makes about as much sense as every guy only wants to have a one night stand....or....all women are golddiggers...etc...you get the point. To those women who feel that only married men don't post pics then I say...if you're that paranoid then you have the choice of not answering the ad or...even better....delete your profile and safely sit in front of your TV and watch reruns of Green Acres! GEEZ!...that crap really gets old! | |
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| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/25/2005 7:22:18 PM | I dont have a photo anymore, because i'm just here for the forums now.
So no. | |
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| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/25/2005 8:40:25 PM | Theres a dozen reasons for not posting a pic on here. ( I may have a few extra pounds on my profile, but don't think I look like a ham either). I live in a small town, work with the public, don't want people knowing my business. I also worry about stalkers. Had one before, scary stuff. I also will email a pic to someone I am talking to. But, have to admit, am so impressed with the men who chat and don't ask. Tells me alot about them. I talk to men with no picture as well as the ones who have one. Also found, that the pictures are not a reliable way to judge someone. Met a few men who had pictures posted only to realize that people post pics that they love. Doesn't mean they actually look that good. I usually talk long enough with a person, that looks really don't matter that much once we meet. . (Within reason). Haven't had the married thing happen to me, but don't think that no picture is any reason to think they are. Still surprised at how people react to the no picture thing. Myself, don't think it means anything. | |
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| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/25/2005 8:45:03 PM | | i sometimes take my photo off because i dont wanna be judged by looks and if someone from work sees me on here. they dont need to know my personal life, | |
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| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/25/2005 9:00:34 PM |
No photo means married?
No, maybe he's just ugly. *dodging shoes flying my direction* | |
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Joined: 5/19/2005
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| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/25/2005 9:05:08 PM | I dated two men who turned out to be married that use the internet dating sites to meet women. One actually put his photo up, the guy had a lot of brass. The other guy didn't.
Danger Signs:
He sounds too good be true: Probably feeding you lines.
His cell always goes to message.
He phones you, but you can never get a hold of him or if you can't: 'only during certain time periods.'
You talk to him on an internet messenger service and he drops off suddenly all the time without explanation.
He never stays overnight.
Wedding band tan lines.
Pay cash or pads his expense account to pay for things.
Never takes you to his place.
Claims his place is too mess, his roomie is home etc... | |
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| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/26/2005 3:50:05 AM | I never understood the credit card thing. Don't people have credit cards when they are single and just keep into the marriage without turning into a joint account?
I have a couple cards myself that have always been and still are only in my name. Doesn't anyone else have that? I always find it funny when people say married people won't use their credit cards for fear of their spouse finding out about some charge. And thats assuming your spouse looks at the statements or even knows about your card's existence.
My guy didn't know (or need to know) about the credit cards I was carrying into the marriage. Why should he? He probly had one himself. Its a matter of trust. Helps when you wanna keep Xmas and birthday presents a secret too if they don't know about your account or have a reason to check on it.
Hell if all else fails they could still use a joint credit card, just get a cash advance and pay that insane fee. lol
I still maintain that people without pics are not necessarily married. That's silly and baseless. Even if you are marriedyou can still have a pic of yourself on the profile and it doesn't "prove" your married or single: its just the person's mug shot. | |
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| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/26/2005 10:09:45 AM | | I totally disagree with no photo means married. I am single and I don't give my photo out due to freaks. I am sorry you got a couple of diahonest guys but please don't judge everyone from a couple of bad experiences. I feel getting to know someone is very important! | |
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Joined: 12/26/2005
Msg: 71 | |
| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/26/2005 12:43:06 PM | SERIOUSLY l'm scared...well, because it will trap my sprit you must understand | |
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| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/26/2005 1:02:09 PM | The only dealings I've had with a married man he had a photo up, albeit of him in his hockey kit so he wouldn't have been instantly recognizable to friends of the wife.
He did have his marital status selected as "single" so he would be able to sneak in past the "must not married" filter, but he was quite open about being married.
After a few IC chats he suggested we meet up during the daytime so I joked, "What's wrong with the evening - are you afraid your wife will find out?" To which he replied,"That would be a problem - yes" 
I do agree with you though, Pandora.
Whilst not all men without a photo are married, the majority of married men don't include a photo. | |
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| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/26/2005 1:03:04 PM | married ,overweight, disfigured, daughter,son, teenager, incarcerated prisoner, psychoanalist,.............................................. | |
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w00f
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Joined: 12/26/2005
Msg: 74 | |
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w00f
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Joined: 12/26/2005
Msg: 75 | |
| No photo means married?
Posted: 12/26/2005 1:34:58 PM | Wait a second here...do you hear yourslef...OVERWEIGHT, is there something wrong with that, what do you mean by this statment...   | |
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