| Does everyone in this world really have a soulmate?
Posted: 3/27/2007 4:53:26 AM | | I believe that is correct. Just when I gave up looking, mine found me. Dont give up, I know I almost did. When you meet your soulmate, it will hit you so hard that you wont even be able to hold your balance. Its a lovely feeling......Wish you success in your search. | |
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| Does everyone in this world really have a soulmate?
Posted: 3/27/2007 5:17:11 AM | Hi,
I get so tired of reading every divorced woman's cloned dating ad seeking a soulmate.
It's just not a realistic situation you would really want.. You don't marry your soulmate or a clone of yourself . Soulmates are your closest friends, the closeness of your mom or dad. Your lifemate should be different from you, not a carbon copy.
It would be so boring to have another me as a partner. The varied ideas, likes, wants, looks and hopes are what attracts each of us to one another. While you may find simularities in desires, the attraction in diversity and intrigue fuels our inner fire.
Some beleive we are each born with one wing, finding your partner with the opposing wing enables us to fly or truly soar thru life. Most want the marriage our folks had, loving, solid, true and always supporting each other. marriages go thru phases, lust the first few years, kids the next few, growing individually the next few then the realization that this person is the meaning of life to you. Too bad mine cheated..
Just my take after being single for 5 years after 24 yrs married.
Dusty
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| Does everyone in this world really have a soulmate?
Posted: 3/27/2007 5:18:13 AM | Yes I believe that there are people out there who would be so right for each other, but the sad thing is that alot will never meet, because of distance, they may live in different countries even!, but on the other hand they may be in your town or even street living in an unhappy marriage or relationships. I am just going to have fun and enjoy life | |
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| Does everyone in this world really have a soulmate?
Posted: 3/27/2007 5:36:17 AM | Calanne, Mimosa - exactly *my* point.
The other thing that I believe is that your soulmate/s are destined to come into your life at a particular time and are destined to stay only until their purpose for entering your life is finished.
I am so thankful not to have become so jaded and cynical in my search for a partner that I fail to see the infinite possibilities that exist in this world. I agree that most people who advertise that they are searching for a soulmate have no idea whatsoever what they are talking about.
By searching desperately for the perfect soul mate we may pass by our real soul mate. And if my Twin soul is floating around somewhere we'll meet when the time is right. Searching won't bring him any quicker. | |
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| Does everyone in this world really have a soulmate?
Posted: 3/27/2007 5:44:59 AM | Responding to Shieldvulf
[Sure Suju, feelings are reactions. Some of them, anyway. That doesn't make them rational or explainable. ] - Personally I think all emotions have a rational explanation. Most people are simply not introspective enough to figure out why they are having the emotion or reacting the way they are to any given circumstance
[Haven't you ever come upon the same person in the same context on two different days and felt differently about them? Explain that.] - It probably has something to do with the way that person interacted, something said or done which turned an alarm switch on or introduced an attraction - both still explainable
[Or haven't you seen a movie with a friend, and one of you was deeply moved, and the other was bored and irritated? If feelings have a rational basis, one of you had the wrong feelings. Which one, and why?] - No 2 people are emotionally or character wise alike thus they react different to the same stimuli. For instance a crowd can see the same accident yet react differently & remember the events in a different light
[For that matter, haven't you ever felt an emotion that you thought was one feeling, and, only later, you decided that it was really some other feeling? Or hasn't some feeling shifted in you and become some other feeling, without any apparent cause?] - Again, easily understood with introspection or with having an new opinion brought forth... we are complex creatures, natures, ideas & emotions change
[Sure, you were "responding" to "things" in every case. But does that mean any of it makes sense? Remember, making sense means that you can explain it successfully to someone else.] - One can explain everything rationally, one way or another. Not one explanation will fit all people as we all have different world-views
No hard feeling at all - this is a forum - a place to exchange ideas, after all
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| Does everyone in this world really have a soulmate?
Posted: 3/27/2007 7:15:03 AM | | I think that we all have different needs at different times in our lives. In order to find our soulmate, we not only have to find someone that is compatible but we have to be receptive to that person. The needier we are, the more receptive we are - and depending on how great the need is, some people could refer to this as "settling". | |
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| Does everyone in this world really have a soulmate?
Posted: 3/27/2007 8:17:23 AM | I doubt we'd disagree if we really got into it, Suju. For now, we're just addressing different questions. For instance, I was speaking strictly of emotions, while you preferred to generalize about emotions, experiences, opinions, and other things. Not so much like apples and oranges as like apples and fruit salad.
Just please be sure that I don't quibble with anyone's feelings. In fact, I insist that there are no wrong feelings, no feelings felt in error, no unhealthy feelings. That's precisely what makes emotion different from perception and idea and action. It is entirely possible - and happens all the time - that we misperceive, or think our way to an incorrect conclusion, or act in error, even self-destructively. OTOH, we cannot err in feeling. Every feeling is what it is and there is no logical or moral standard it has to meet to be legitimate.
That's what I was trying to get at earlier. I agree that contemplation can reveal sources of our feelings, of course. It's only that, if we tried to hold feeling to a logical standard, some feelings would have to be errors, and I reject that.
And the "hard feelings?" That was a joke, but thanks, anyway, for your courtesy. It's a pleasure to exchange ideas, as you say, with someone who knows the difference.
Cheers!
Vulf 
Oh, and "soulmate" is a childish idea, just to stay on topic. Even the people who use the term here recognise this, or they wouldn't bend the word over double to mean things it doesn't.
For the record, "soulmate" has long meant the "one and only one person on earth with whom another is perfectly matched and whom one is destined to meet and recognise."
I've noticed in this thread that, stupid as that idea is, many are redefining the word to include multiple "soulmates" (and there goes monogamy as destiny), some kind of "partial" soulmating, and even "soulmates" they didn't recognise when they met them, which denies the whole point of the idea, that destiny would reveal the one to the other.
Some even seem to use the word to romanticize the simple idea of compatibility, which is real, of course. The difference is, one has to choose to be compatible, and then work at it, fail, work some more, get better at it, and take his/her lumps along the way, with no guarantees. It ain't a fairy tale, but at least it gives everyone a shot. | |
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| Does everyone in this world really have a soulmate?
Posted: 3/27/2007 9:50:53 AM | Shieldvulf:
I totally agree that there are no right or wrong emotions... It is the action(s) or reaction(s), which follow or stem from the said emotion, which may be labelled so. - Everything is relative!
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| Does everyone in this world really have a soulmate?
Posted: 3/27/2007 12:33:45 PM | well dusty knight your soul mate is not a clone of ones self where did you ever get that idea. Yes you can have similarities but usually opposites attract. Like you I was married a long time 29 years, I know he was not my soul mate part of why I chose to be single after all that time, and nowhere is it stated that a soul mate has to be your love mate, your best friend for life you can also consider your soul mate, some people do. Just my opinion...
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| Does everyone in this world really have a soulmate?
Posted: 3/27/2007 1:16:25 PM | there isnt just one person meant for each one of us thats not true. the only person that was true for was adam when God brought eve to him.
the rest of us mortals have choices. i was once very much in love with a english women , that ended .anyway a few years later i was involved with a black south african lady and i had feelings for her just as much as the first one.
my point is there isnt only one person on the planet you can fall in love with . if you didnt have to work and could date a new guy every day. at the end of the year you would be surprised how many of those guys you would have fallen for and vice versa.
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| Read this and you will know for sure about soulmates!
Posted: 3/30/2007 6:15:05 PM | Hi Sarah,
Very well said, well written. The hard part is actually meeting that person though. All you wrote is so very true, and I do believe there is someone for each person and for myself out there, sad thing is many never meet them and settle. Being lonely can cause a person to settle and by doing that they sometimes pass up perhaps their true soulmate. | |
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| Does everyone in this world really have a soulmate?
Posted: 3/30/2007 8:02:55 PM | cdn_guy...I believe that there may be more than one. I believe that certain people are destined to cross your path at a certain time in your life...all with unique reasons for being there. I also believe that once your 'soulmate's' purpose has ended...they will move on. With both 'soulmate' romantic relationships...the situations were so unusual, I can't pass them off as mere chance.....with my other "Anam Caras"...each has a story.... | |
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| Does everyone in this world really have a soulmate?
Posted: 3/31/2007 12:53:57 AM | in reality no not everyone has a soul mate
there are many people who have like myself been in love.
but i know so many people who have not,i dont think love is for everyone
its not somethink that happens often.in our life but once you have had that feeling
& things have not worked out with your ex,u want that feeling again as theres no
better feeling in the world & hopefuly this time round if am lucky enuff 2 fall
in love once again he will be my soul mate for the rest of my life j x | |
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| Does everyone in this world really have a soulmate?
Posted: 3/31/2007 10:55:57 AM | The answer is "NO." The sooner you accept this the better off you'll be. Most people don't even come close to this false hood. There is a thing called respect thats tried and true it will put you where you need to be.
During the times of Christ people often married their relatives but now thats called incest which is outlawed in most jurisdictions.
"There’s no such thing as destiny. You cannot simply wait for the one whom fate has planned for you. It’s an ages old argument. Once you believe in destiny, you believe in predestination. This renders the concept of free will as moot. "
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| Does everyone in this world really have a soulmate?
Posted: 4/1/2007 1:52:12 PM | | If it exists then it has to be beyond gender. I just call it rapport. I do know people who have that quality, but I wouldn't wish to marry them especially as they may be of the opposite sex. So far as the marriage bit goes, that seems to wrongly mixed in with it. The last one is far more complex . | |
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| Does everyone in this world really have a soulmate?
Posted: 4/1/2007 7:14:13 PM | | the answer is YES. there are 6 billion people in this world, roughl half of each gender. its way more than enough to find someone that matches ou almost perfectl, no matter how strange and weird you are | |
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