| WHY DO MEN RUIN RELATIONSHIPS WITH VIDEO GAMES?
Posted: 2/23/2008 12:42:13 AM | | It strikes me as odd that woman will complain when their man spends hours playing video games...u mean to tell me that the whole time you were getting to know him in the beginning of the relationship that u were unaware that he was a "gamer"?, this seems like pettiness to me...so he plays video games and ignores u...maybe he finds your company boring, think about that. How many hours do u spend yapping on the phone and gossiping with your friends, or watching your favorite shows that u HAVE to watch every night....these things are just as annoying...everybody has an addiction to something, thats life for you...be it coffee, cigarettes, tv, computers etc etc the list goes on, the solution is simple, if ya dont like it, move on, he wont change for you as much as u wont change for him...life is to short to **** about trivial things, take a look at yourself and think about the things that could annoy him as well. | |
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| WHY DO MEN RUIN RELATIONSHIPS WITH VIDEO GAMES?
Posted: 2/23/2008 4:52:57 AM | LoL... this is such a ridiculous topic based on a silly assumption.
Video games don't ruin relationships... PEOPLE ruin relationships...
I am a gamer, and I am a former WoW addict. It took a lot of my free time, I admit, but I wasn't in a relationship at the time. I started after a bad breakup and got hooked.
Games can fill a void in a guy's life for whatever reasons, but when the game becomes the priority even when he has a GF, then it's not the game's fault. It's yours and his and what you have to find out is why the game comes first and you, second. | |
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| WHY DO MEN RUIN RELATIONSHIPS WITH VIDEO GAMES?
Posted: 2/23/2008 3:17:37 PM | I rarely look at the OP but add on to what the threads have become and where they go. Taking the original post as a premise.
WHY DO MEN RUIN RELATIONSHIPS WITH VIDEO GAMES?
I would ask why would a woman think that any man (not mentally deranged) would pick a cold, heartless, anonymous, unfeeling video game over a warm and loving woman in a good relationship?
Trick question, answer is no man would. Video games are a good escape from a sad reality of a bad relationship or a needy, nagging woman.
To all women if your man is playing games excessively his goal is not to make lvl 50 but to avoid you. What are you doing wrong? | |
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| WHY DO MEN RUIN RELATIONSHIPS WITH VIDEO GAMES?
Posted: 2/23/2008 5:59:11 PM | | Funny how many posts here trying to say it's the "womans fault" for the game play.. you can give a man EVERYTHING, and he can just show no appreciation, some men are selfish and care ONLY about their own "fun" and not about the person they are with, or their feelings, men like this should be single(including my ex) | |
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| WHY DO MEN RUIN RELATIONSHIPS WITH VIDEO GAMES?
Posted: 2/23/2008 6:16:45 PM | ^ When people break up it is always two peoples' fault.
One person is often more to blame than another.
It is rarely one persons problem-- except for cases of psychological problems-- which yours might qualify for if you're being honest about your behavior and his. | |
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| WHY DO MEN RUIN RELATIONSHIPS WITH VIDEO GAMES?
Posted: 2/23/2008 6:42:57 PM |
Funny how many posts here trying to say it's the "womans fault" for the game play.. you can give a man EVERYTHING, and he can just show no appreciation, some men are selfish and care ONLY about their own "fun" and not about the person they are with, or their feelings, men like this should be single(including my ex)
In many cases it is the woman. When you say you give a man everything you probably also mean nagging and aggravation as well. Some men are selfish but a smart woman can use that against a man to get what she wants. A truely selfish person is easy to spot so why are you getting together and staying with one? " Feelings" is often a misused womans term. Women like to act on feelings more than fact. Then when fact hurts their feelings they strike out. This is a typical womans post that fails to understand how simple men are. Women can control men but men cannot control women.
If you really want to know what you can do let me know and I'll tell you. | |
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| WHY DO MEN RUIN RELATIONSHIPS WITH VIDEO GAMES?
Posted: 2/24/2008 2:02:39 AM | Ummmm........cause nipples ain't "Joy sticks". Well, maybe they are, I dunno.
Also, thank Frank Frazettas' depiction of women (GOOGLE). Oh, and Angelina "Tomb Raider" Jolie. You can say Thank you now. | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 2/24/2008 2:17:13 AM | | It's because they desire more out of life it's self. It's not you- no really. I ruined my first marriage much the same way- no everquest, but it was video games. The guy simply wants a true adventure, but doesn't have the motivation to get out there and go on one. I got into the army, and mesteriously, the whole videogame aspect deminished conciderably. I attribute it to some adventure with unknown variables being involved. This is my honest answer. | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 2/27/2008 12:02:58 AM | So the ex-navy guy is in the army? I was going to ask him where he was at I've been there twice and probably visited the same places. Been to Osan and Yongsan, visited Casey, Paige, Stanly. LaGuardia, Humphries, Suwon, YongDang Po and the DMZ.
It is not always the womans fault. I just said that because most woman will always blame the man and not realize they may be at fault and can control most mens behavior good and bad. | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 2/27/2008 1:53:33 AM |
Not to worry: guys have perfectly fine relationships with video games. Relationships with women are a bit dicier.
True dat. Video games don't nag, they don't whine, games are not moody, they don't have headaches. The game may take you where you don't want to go but you reset or can blast your way out and take it where you want it to go, women take you you where you don't want to go and if you resist, fogedaboutit. The game does punish you when you do wrong but then it's over and you start fresh unlike how women punish you and never let you forget.
Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
P.S. I left out Red Cloud 2 posts up. Others I forgot too but it'll come to me eventually. | |
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| WHY DO MEN RUIN RELATIONSHIPS WITH VIDEO GAMES?
Posted: 2/27/2008 6:26:04 AM | Jaime020277
Your comment struck a cord with me. While somewhat a tangent "thought", it is the same kind of person who complains about the military commitment or a law enforcement officer commitment that a spouse has to do. Most of complainers (men and women) were attracted to their SO because they were in the military or law enforcement, then resent that career later in the relationship. I've seen time and time again, where guys and gals in the military get railroaded by their spouse b/c of time complaints. It's the same complaint on this thread, not enough time. I think they are attracted to the idea of a gamer or a sailor or a policewoman but when the reality (or the dust settles) and the relationship takes second fiddle to something else, it bugs them. I concede gaming is not military service, but I have done both so I can speak from direct experience. I believe (IMHO) that people who demand top billing in a relationship will never be satisfied with me. I have too many other obligations and responsibilities. That is the nature of life. Of my life. | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 2/27/2008 6:57:44 AM | If you have ever read that book, "Men are from Mars, Women from Venus" it gives a pretty good idea of why this happens allot. Men need time to themselves "Entering the Cave: as stated in the book" and if they don't get it they become frustrated and anxious. It used to be that men would sit in front of the tv for periods of a time and just zone everything out, or they would do some other hobby and zone things out. According to the book it's the way that men cope with stress, anxiety, challenges, and require it to "mellow" for some reason.
The computer is interactive, which means that unlike TV which is a one way communication (TV -> You), the computer offers an extra social value and is two way (computer -> You -> computer). It's an escape for many guys and sometimes can turn into a crutch.
Games like World of Warcraft, Everquest, Guild Wars, and others can be an addictive time sink for many and they can have a hard time budgeting their time. If this is the case it's probably best to sit them down and talk with them about it.
Another approach is to join them and see what it is they find so facinating and you never know it may bring you both closer. | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 2/27/2008 10:52:07 PM | Well, I'm actually currently dating a gamer....at first, it began to drive me INSANE. I felt practically neglected at times, and it was hard for me to understand why the hell something so ridiculous could consume so much of his spare time. I guess I just needed to realize that if I choose to date a nerd, they will do what they do. He took my feelings into consideration after I told him how I felt though, and things have definitely improved since then.
But..seeing as I'm female, and the only video games I really play are Guitar Hero and Counterstrike Source...I can't really answer your question. I just thought I'd give my story though.  | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 2/28/2008 7:31:55 AM |
He took my feelings into consideration after I told him how I felt though, and things have definitely improved since then.
But you talked to him, you discussed your feelings and I'm guessing by the tone of your post you listened to him as well, right? Good for the both of you! That's how it's supposed to work, and I hope you'll continue to have a happy and successful relationship.
I see a lot of bashing going on against each gender in this thread. Folks, your past experiences are with an individual person (or occasionally people) not an entire gender. Don't fall into the intellectual lazy trap of thinking that all men/women/wookies/whatever are the same. Give each individual a chance to prove themselves and their quality to you. If they're not giving you what you want/need, tell them so and if they continue to under perform then get out your bait and go fishing again. | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 2/28/2008 9:08:40 AM | ^ Exactly. A good number of people don't communicate! They join forums or talk to friends. Why not cut right to the source and say, "Hey--- why do you do this?!"
If it doesn't work, well--- why waste time? | |
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| WHY DO MEN RUIN RELATIONSHIPS WITH VIDEO GAMES?
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 2/29/2008 3:27:42 AM | I think its very sad to see grown men sitting on their backsides all day doing nothing but playing these games.... i mean seriously ... werent they meant for kids???
As for it being a hobby...... Fishing is a hobby..... Sport is a hobby. .... Get a life guys!!
Not to mention the amount of men who will get RSI and arthritis in their hands when they get older.....lol.... | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 2/29/2008 9:05:37 AM |
I think its very sad to see grown men sitting on their backsides all day doing nothing but playing these games
I agree with this part. Playing games to the exclusion of all other activities isn't healthy. But sometimes it's fun just to go on a 12 hour gaming blitz too.
werent they meant for kids?
No, they weren't, and they aren't.
As for it being a hobby...... Fishing is a hobby..... Sport is a hobby. .... Get a life guys!!
That's a pretty short list of hobbies. What are your criteria?
Not to mention the amount of men who will get RSI and arthritis in their hands when they get older.....lol....
Lots of people will get repetitive stress injuries and arthritis. I've already got a bit in my hands and my knees. Do you do a lot of texting on your phone? Type a lot? Masturbate?
Sorry, but you're just ignorant and wrong, and it makes me happy to flame people like you.
Have the best day ever. | |
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| WHY DO MEN RUIN RELATIONSHIPS WITH VIDEO GAMES?
Posted: 2/29/2008 11:13:05 AM | | That's not always the case.. I do play video games from time to time, but I do know the quitting point. Let's say it's time to go to work, time to find a save spot... Oh, you don't have a job, then don't sit on the puter playing video games for 6-14 hours straight, get off your dead butt and find a job.. Oh, you did that, then lost it because you didn't want to get up on the mornings because you were on the PC until 3am... HUM.. it can and does become a problem.. And if you're a video game/pc addict, atleast tell the other person in the beginning of the relationship, don't wait til you have them reeled in then sucker punch them with: sorry honey, but this video game comes before anything other than eating, even my children and s/o.... | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 2/29/2008 11:29:21 AM | Why is it that sports count as a hobby but not games?
Ok, so I'm allowed to play the exact same games that I played when I was 11, but only if my middle school offered it as an option?
No thanks.
I got into games because I love books and films. Being able to BE the main character is something that I enjoy. (Some games do this well, others don't.)
As for RSI and arthritis- a lot of people who work in offices are going to get that anyhow. My father only played a few games with me when I was growing up-- story games that I told him he'd enjoy.... and I did all of the clicking, and he still has arthritis from years of writing. (And for a long time he had someone to do his typing for him...)
As for the "Games are for kids!!111" comment.... again--- read the boxes. How many games are marked "ages 17+"?
A lot of modern games are NOT intended for kids.
(I can't say what the original marketing of games was, 'cause I don't go back that far. I do know that animation wasn't originally marketed as a thing for kids... but can't really say much about games.) | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 2/29/2008 6:56:27 PM | I remember Intellivision. Was a total addict. Was a pup too.
The cool part about the history of gaming is it went full circle - from Pong on the TV to consoles for the TV to computer gaming for better graphics etc when compared to NES to the PS3 Wii XBox360 generation.
The great part about the move back to consoles, is it allowed for everyone else to experience the game with you instead of being a hermit who debated eating bathing sleeping and working over reaching the next level.
Moderation. Totally. I play Guitar Hero when my g/f is out. I may play a bit while she watches. I won't play at expense of communication. That's just taking away from time better spent. | |
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