| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 3/8/2008 8:48:18 AM | ^ Someone said it "should be."
I like that game. Mostly I just drive around, but it has more story than most games. I love games that feel cinematic.
The boxes have age ratings for a reason. People buy them for their kids, 'cause they think "my kid can handle that!" ... then they see the game and yell, "Why is that in my kid's game!?"
Sure, the hot coffee thing was a cause for complaint..... but I'm still somewhat shocked by the, "OH NO! My kid's theft, drug, violence game has SEX in it!" (Though you can argue that the Hot Coffee bit was 90% lazy coding and 10% "it'll take years for people to find THIS.")
We talk about violence in games--- but what about TV and movies? Sex, something that most adults supposedly see as healthy, is more taboo for children to see than violence... or even violent death.
Doesn't that say something about the values of our culture as a whole? | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 3/8/2008 8:57:43 AM | lol, maybe because it's more fun than sex? Once done you don't have to comfort the computer?
This is just one more case about the divide from not having essential interests as I brought up in a forum topic. Games can be exhilerating, but if spent the time cooking instead of getting a pizza delivery, going on walks, and doing more things in a self-sufficent manner, focus could be retained on these other things and video games could be a half-hour thing instead of 6 hours.
I'd make a suggestion how the women could be involved, but I don't think it'd be well-received! Heehehehehee | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 3/8/2008 9:07:48 AM | | ^ Because they're not judgmental, and they recognize that it's a hobby that no longer has an age restriction in this country. Maybe they also don't have a false definition of "man" that the person will constantly have to live up to. | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 3/8/2008 4:26:33 PM | Some people are also allergic to peanuts. I wish there was a game where you blow up peanuts and if you get enough points you get to the goober round. Like getting to the Kilimanjaro level in Halo2. ( you have to be a hard core gamer to understand that one.)
Back to peanuts, I even hate them damn Styrofoam peanuts they use for packing they get everywhere. Some games are packed in peanuts. | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 3/8/2008 6:18:59 PM | VG addiction is an "impluse control disorder", much like addiction to gambling, alcohol, food, any number of things. Any time your hobby affects your career or social life, it can be said to be an addiction. With video games specifically, this hasn't been professionally studied with any accuracy yet, but there ARE around 9 million WoW players, and about half of them play for 4 hours a day or more; to the average person that's crazy.
If you have a specific problem, there is help available, http://www.olganonboard.org/ is a 12 step program for VG addiction, and I'm sure googling would come up with a dozen more.
Although you need to be able to look at things from both sides; if someone is neglecting their obligations in favor of games, then it's a problem, but if you just don't "get" video-games, then, well, too bad.
I personally haven't had time to play anything new for like 6 months... I'm stuck with a game or two of Warcraft III a night. :( | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 3/10/2008 8:53:56 AM | | Would you rather your man play video games at home or be out running the streets screwing around on you? Video games are an outlet....just like Grey's Anatomy and Sex in the City are for women. | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 3/14/2008 8:13:25 AM | Wow, 30 pages of responses... I want a turn... give me the controls >:)
I have a pic of my x-wife breastfeeding our firstborn while playing age of empires. Those were the days :)
Computer games are fun, they are cheaper than crack, alcohol or weed. It's just another kind of escapism that needs to be managed.
Try this perspective on for size...
I think most women like to just put all the blame on the guy. Video games are perfect for blaming because they can focus all the attention on the obvious obsession. What you should be asking yourself is, why does the guy feel like he needs to escape from his woman. Does she listen to him when he DOES try to communicate with her. What has the woman in that relationship done to make herself a better lover? Does she know is primary love language? Does she have the maturity to accept him the way he is without whining and nagging or trying to get him to fit some mold? Does she show him affection? Or is he just a resource to her?
What is that saying again? "many married men live lives of quiet desparation"
may as well get some back with Burnout Revenge, Rallysport Challenge 2, Operation Flashpoint, Dawn of War, or Supreme Commander. At least these games demand just enough concentration to dull the pain of being alone in a marriage.
Seriously tho, if your relationship is a marriage, it takes two to fu.ck that up. Don't blame it on some machine, the bottle, or the bong. But most of all, don't blame it on the person who feels the need to escape to these things. A marriage is supposed to be a journey where two people help each other climb the mountain of life. If one of them falls down, the other shouldn't be standing there, whining [or screaming] at them and kicking them in the guts.
I think computer screens suck the life out of you. Get away! GET AWAY NOW!
GWAN! RUN!!! | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 3/21/2008 11:22:13 AM | I was just glancing around at different forums and saw this post and your answer... I have to admit, I cracked up.
I am a woman and used to love video games ... then when my son moved out I got out of touch w/them, but would love to learn again...
Hell, let the grass can grow :-)
Have a Great weekend! | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 3/21/2008 3:03:49 PM | I like playing video games, though I must admit I don't play as much as I used to in previous years.
Of course, in moderation I see nothing wrong with it, as I play with my cousins when I see them and we seem to have a fun time.
I like playing games like Final Fantasy (mostly the older ones like 3,4,and 6), whenever I'm on a long bus/plane ride to kill some time.
If the guy is doing it for an absurd amount of hours to the point where he doesn't bother to shower/brush his teeth, then something is seriously wrong with him and not so much the video game itself. | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 3/22/2008 7:02:13 PM | I haven't read the whole thread but...
video games don't ruin relationships. the people in the relationships do.
women ruin it by thinking that the man likes the video game more than them.
men ruin it by playing a video game for 12 hours while their girlfriend cleans the house, takes out the dog, and folds the laundry.
it's a partnership. video games are a healthy escape for some people. I don't begrudge my guy his video games; he doesn't begrudge me time with my horses. It would become an issue if he played them constantly. As it is, picking up the controller every other day or so is fine with me. I know how to pick my battles.
Now, World of Warcraft is capable of creating obsessions the likes of which I've never seen. That I don't tolerate in a mate. RPG games in which you interact with other people (as in, hundreds of them) ARE a detriment to real life relationships. | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 3/22/2008 8:25:41 PM |
WHY DO MEN RUIN RELATIONSHIPS WITH VIDEO GAMES?
Maybe you are just boring and he needs to get away from your raging, boring vagina.
OR
He has something wrong with him...
I play video games, but that doesn't mean it's all I do. When I was dating my previous GF I still played video games, she didn't care, but thats because I only did it a little bit.
It's all about balance. | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 3/22/2008 11:37:25 PM | | Pretty... it's an addiction - I've seen people not only lose relationships, but jobs and fail out of school because of this as well. It's got nothing to do with anyone involved... and it's not gender specific. | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 3/23/2008 3:18:26 AM | If women would give us better things to play with than video games...we'ed play with them more and less on the games!! 
Thank God my current gal has a nice, healthy drive!! Less gaming, more BOINGY BOINGY BOINGY!!! | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 3/23/2008 6:52:26 AM |
Pretty... it's an addiction - I've seen people not only lose relationships, but jobs and fail out of school because of this as well. It's got nothing to do with anyone involved... and it's not gender specific.
An addiction??? Oh boy.... Then if thats the case, I have an addiction to a lot of things, least of all is my blender and kitchen mate.......
I would think that its more of a problem with addictive personality traits, than an actual addiction. It seems to me people are not willing to accept RESPONSIBILITY for thier actions, are more apt to place blame, than to do what it takes to fix the problem... because in fixing the problem, they may not come to realize that they are as much a part of it, as they are trying to become a part of the solution. Either way they are not going to come out as clean as they think they are.
To blame a flipppin game that you can turn on and off, is ridiculous... Take a look at yourself before you start blaming things around you. | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 3/23/2008 8:07:35 AM | I've had boyfriends who, when offered sex on a platter, chose video games instead. And I know that wasn't about me because it was typically just a couple of months in (when they began to really show me what they do when I'm not there). So for all of those fellahs who say the ladies just need to tempt them more...some men think that nothing IS better than video games.
I really like the 'Then entertain ME more!' theory though. It's....interesting. Some sort of projection of responsibility to help you avoid responsibility.
I do feel bad for the women who were already married and their husbands found that addiction though. I can understand some escapism, and I think that's healthy in any life- it's why I read novels. But it hurts your partner quite a bit when pretending to live someone else's life becomes preferable to living your own, and to being involved with your family. | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 3/23/2008 8:20:43 AM | | You guys are too cute! :) love the responses now as for my guy, he can play all he wants but when I'm there trust me its all about me & I don't even have to ask him not to play cause he wants to play w/ me :) | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 3/23/2008 8:24:53 AM |
Is your boyfriend 12?
Tell him to go outside and play.
EXACTLY!!!
wtf! If he would rather play Video Games than spend time with you than YOU need to
UPGRADE!!!
... And Do It Now! DOH!!!
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 3/23/2008 9:54:00 AM | Well first of all it is not just men, that is just like saying only men can have a corporate job. Women do it too. Unfortunately games can be adicting and this is bad for those who have addicting personalities need to find a way to moderate things in life. I will admit I love playing a video game with friends or my son, I would much prefer to spend my attention on my precious beautiful girlfriend. If your significant other cannot take themselves away from a fantasy world to deal with real life then they need to admit they have a problem. This could stem from being addictected (they don't call it Evercrack for nothing) or maybe even depression. But to say playing games ruins relationships is just like blaming the alcohol on ruining a relationship with a alcoholic.
But you have 3 choices, leave them (as it seems most women prefer), get them to stop (again another preference with most women) or you can sit down and see why he enjoys it so much and in turn share an experience with him and maybe be able to get him out of his fantasy world for a while. | |
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 3/24/2008 5:49:21 PM |
You guys are too cute! :) love the responses now as for my guy, he can play all he wants but when I'm there trust me its all about me & I don't even have to ask him not to play cause he wants to play w/ me :)
Then what are you doing here if you already have a guy??? Playing??
EXACTLY!!!
wtf! If he would rather play Video Games than spend time with you than YOU need to
UPGRADE!!!
... And Do It Now! DOH!!!
Wow... another man trying to gain the acceptance of a woman. LOL!!
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| Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted: 3/25/2008 3:47:57 PM | | In horny moments I have turned to my man, only to be turned away in favor of his new video game. He later came to me when he got bored. Damn I wish I had more will power so I could teach him a lesson... | |
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