mogami
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Joined: 8/28/2005
Msg: 76 | |
| WHY DO MEN RUIN RELATIONSHIPS WITH VIDEO GAMES?
Posted: 8/31/2005 10:04:08 AM | Hi, I think the thread could be renamed "Why people ruin relationships by being preoccupied"
Because really it boils down to one person being so caught up in an activity that they ignore the other. The ignored party then ends the relationship.
The preoccupied person is left thinking "What I do"? | |
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| WHY DO MEN RUIN RELATIONSHIPS WITH VIDEO GAMES?
Posted: 8/31/2005 12:19:23 PM | Some men know when to say when.
Hell I get dragged into playing half the time. When I kill him a few times he gets bored and wants to stop playing!! Thats my secret! | |
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Posted: 8/31/2005 12:50:50 PM | LOL..No this is not my rant with "my" man. This has just been an annoyance. I was listening to the radio the morning I put that up and they were discussing it on there...also on there people could only say "I play video games, whats wrong with that?" "My" man's problem is communicating..but hell... he is in Iraq going out on missions and all that... so I have to learn not to be annoyed with him over that... Some of my exes did play VGs, that didn't bother me, I just wondered what makes them that way, like if someone does and it continually gets worse that sort of thing... like a disease..You know? If its a disease, it has warning signs, and it has a CURE! LOL.. If I sounded like I was ranting its because it does annoy me that people are not staying on topic.
I don't care who plays the games.
I don't care to read chicks trying to catch guys using Strip VGs.
I don't want to have to keep reminding everyone to talk about the addiction...not the games. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2005 12:53:50 PM | I agree...
Still though..my question revovles around this.. Sex, Porn, Gambling etc. have been around for a long time and people have been ADDICTED to them for a long time too... now lets add VGs and you've got yourself a child's game (They are made for children, teens, etc...they were originally for children..do NOT talk about this..this is purely for argument..thank you for being so kind as to stay on topic.) a child's game that adult men are ignoring women and sex for. I had always believed sex was number one on all men's charts...why would a video game come in between that. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2005 12:58:58 PM | | heres an idea use your best weapons your body and mind no guy can resist a woman when she is really on and has his attention its worked on me i've dropped the game controller, and jaw along with it when anyone i'm with would come in my bedroom ready to play ;-) | |
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Posted: 8/31/2005 12:59:41 PM | I really don't understand the VG thing. You sit in front of a tv and shut the world out and zone in on a life that's not yours. You live through a fictitious character which in turn becomes your hero. The only thing that moves on your body is your fingers, how good is this for you?
VG's and t.v's are two things that will never be in my house. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2005 1:31:15 PM | | We like to play video games because it allows us to get some peace and quiet after being asked why we're not like so and so on the soaps or the guy in the romance novels. Men get stressed out at work and playing video games is the perfect why to release all the stresses before dumping all the stress on their g/f or wife. Women have their own way of doing the exact same thing. If it gets too the point where the guy or gal is doing their activity more than the amount of time spent with their loved one...then there are some issues that should be brought up...they need to be reminding to spend sometime with the person they love. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2005 1:33:10 PM |
I really don't understand the VG thing. You sit in front of a tv and shut the world out and zone in on a life that's not yours. You live through a fictitious character which in turn becomes your hero. The only thing that moves on your body is your fingers, how good is this for you?
VG's and t.v's are two things that will never be in my house.
Well, you can paint anything in a bad light like that if you focus on the negatives. Games also bring people together from various areas of the world, much like these forums. The online gaming component has grown for several years now through PC gaming, and Xbox Live has you talking to 15 or 16 other people at a time while you're playing a game together. You'd be surprised how little people actually talk about the games sometimes. It's a social experience. The games are just the common interest that bring people together.
Even without online, you can have a bunch of buddies over, pop in Madden and have a great time.
Most things aren't bad for you when used in moderation.
As far as nothing moving but your fingers, you've obviously never seen true gamers after a round of head to head shooter action. Not going to say it will replace your 3 workouts a week, but I've come out with bruises on occasion. 
Don't knock it 'til ya try it. :) | |
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Posted: 8/31/2005 3:12:35 PM | Video games should be a hobby, not a lifestyle. To that end, if you don't like video games, and they tick you off even seeing them on, don't date someone who is into video games. It's the same principle as if you hate sailboat builders (models), and you date someone who is into that, you're either asking him/her to change thier hobby which they enjoy, or find someone else. It's really unfair to take away something someone enjoys.
Get involved with them while they are doing it. If they are playing Everquest, make a new character with them, and play together. If they are playing Unreal tournament 2004, log on and blow thier brains out and laugh at them, right before they have a playful retort and splatter you all over the place. It's healthy venting of every day stress, and can sometimes be a mental challenge as well.
Again, I'll restate that you shouldn't let it consume you though. It's not healthy to play games for hours upon hours. 2 hours TOPS, just like watching a movie, then it's time to go outside and get some fresh air.
People that play games so much that they stop bathing, eating, ect. ect. Yeah, call a therapist. Cause whoever that is, has some real issues. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2005 3:17:06 PM | i was just trying to put some humor here
maybe thats the problem...maybe some women are too serious and boring...they forget about having fun, they don't want to play with their man so they have to find other ways to entertain themselves...escape from the boring reality | |
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 88 | |
| WHY DO MEN RUIN RELATIONSHIPS WITH VIDEO GAMES?
Posted: 8/31/2005 3:52:37 PM | | If you can't beat em at it, join them! I'd put a timer on it and once the gong goes off, the computer shuts off. Meanwhile, I can do my own thing - chick flick; hanging out with my friends; or spending his $$$. If he lives around the game 24/7 his game, computer and perhaps himself will star in a new flick "Video Game Massacre". Okay - I'll leave him out of the role because the gray bar motel (a.k.a. jail) isn't worth it. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2005 6:14:03 PM | Anyone know when the new Final Fantasy: Advent Children comes out? I have a way of dumping girlfriends while playing RPG's. 
It's like having another woman move in, except she's way cooler. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2005 6:22:51 PM | ha, dumb reason, but I have seen the addiction, it is ugly, demeaning, and leaves you homeless and unloved, lonely, desperate, and nearsighted.....There should be a support group for those that still suffer, and a party room for those that have no TV~
I say go on to those that are hooked, if it 'grabs your fancy' than that's one left off the streets! | |
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Posted: 8/31/2005 6:27:47 PM | | I dose seem like women are jealous of them.. even if you not on them all the time.. i second you set down and load it up... BINGO! there they are making noise, asking questions, wanting to be lovey... but turn it off.. and back to normal?? | |
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Posted: 8/31/2005 6:41:25 PM | | Video games aren't bad things. Just like a lot of things, it all depends on the person involved with them. I've heard of countless marriages destroyed by games such as everquest and entire lives ruined. I'll always be a gamer, that can't be denied, but I play them because I don't have anyone special that I could be spending that time with. I play video games, i read books, I rarely watch tv, I haven't watched any television in two months, but here and there, I do, I also work out almost every day. These things are nothing more than ways to pass the time when there's nothing else to do. I am sure I should get out more, but I am happy with my life for the most part and my hobbies. As long as you know what's important in life, I don't see the harm and playing a game here or there. You can blame the video games or the people playing them as much as you want, but this is just another hindrence in the world of relaxation. | |
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 97 | |
| WHY DO MEN RUIN RELATIONSHIPS WITH VIDEO GAMES?
Posted: 8/31/2005 8:22:00 PM | | If you can't beat em - join em! I wouldn't have a problem setting a timer, let my man play the games, while I do my own thing. The timer goes off, viola, he's off the computer and we can reunite. Anyone is a complete fool if they have to play games 24/7 and it interferes with their lives to the point is an addiction. At that point, that's when you have to ask, would you like to star in a feature film "The Texas Video Game Massacre"? | |
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Posted: 8/31/2005 8:27:53 PM | I once got hooked an old version of Quake - in an effort to talk about the addicition. The reason I became hooked, was no not depressed or trying to escape life - but i just loved the thrill of the game. I would rush home from work, eat and jump on the pc. I would play til 11pm at night. It had quests and clues and exploring castles and monsters and stuff. I dont why but I just loved solving the riddles, blowing the monster to pieces and navigating the hundreds of different levels. Teh graphics were extremely realistic so you felt like you there - There was a certain amount of adrenalin involved, it was very 3D and the monster could actually follow you up stairwells and elevators and through secret doors, so there was a lot of being scared crapless as well. I would play it all weekend and blow off my friends to stay in - I just loved this game, because it was thrilling and i was like a person wtih a puzzle - i couldnt stop till i solved the mystery...
However the reason why I asked before how long this was going on...was eventually I got over it. i scored high points, got to the secret level....found out the mystery..it was like well thats cool..but I was over it...
so maybe its just FUN???? and I was going to say not be too concerned because it could wear off. I was in a relationship at the time but my b/f didnt mind at all. He would potter on his car, make me coffee and bring it to me, watch tv -maybe he liked the peace and quiet..lol...I guess i was hooked on and off for a month or two. | |
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