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Posted: 12/2/2004 7:15:16 PM | I can only speak from experience.
As to my question, I am asking you this, as I have asked myself innumerable times. Are you greater than these mere circumstances, or do you choose to let them rule over you?
I am also a sufferer of depression. For over two decades.
I only speak from my own perspective, as always.
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anchi
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Joined: 6/16/2004
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| depressed and lonely.....
Posted: 12/2/2004 7:26:23 PM | i thought it was something like that. and right now it seems that they are ruling me. but i will get a handle on it. i usually do.
seems like i have been depressed for most of my life, just keep looking for ways to conquer the whole thing.
thanks so much for the advice.
you have a great perspective.
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Posted: 12/2/2004 7:31:05 PM | As I read your post, I instantly found myself transposed to a memory of familiarity. And I have only to wish you steps that I had taken to get the funk out of me...so to speak.
a physical ( with bloodwork )
analysis ( most insurance plans cover twenty sessions)
Breathing.
Meditations.
Awareness of the moment, and living in it.
Start giving of yourself in new ways. ( a truth in life is that when you practice giving is that you will transform your brain, body and spirt).
Get a vision, think about it, talk about it, work on it, concetrate on it, be diligent in all of your vision, be constantly aware of it, .....
Blessings. | |
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anchi
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Joined: 6/16/2004
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| depressed and lonely.....
Posted: 12/2/2004 7:39:05 PM | No one rules you but you.
If you choose to listen to your doubts, then you've lost before you've begun.
~W.S. | |
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Posted: 12/2/2004 7:45:01 PM | Sorry, I have to ask:
You usually get a handle on it?
...usually?
I can give my email or Yahoo IM, if you wish. Perhaps a perspective of one that has ridden that horse...and continues, still.
~W.S. | |
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anchi
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Joined: 6/16/2004
Msg: 32 | |
| depressed and lonely.....
Posted: 12/2/2004 8:08:17 PM | great p.m. and i will tell you the whole story.
yes, usually, i get a handle on it. sometimes quicker than other times. sometimes my low points can last for a few months. | |
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anchi
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Joined: 6/16/2004
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Msg: 36 | |
| depressed and lonely.....
Posted: 12/3/2004 1:32:41 PM | There is nothing wrong with you.
Wish I was not so far away.
You are vey attractive...your prince is out there.
Doug. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2004 9:52:07 AM | Hey there,
Sorry to hear that your feeling that way. I went through the depression thing in 1995 and it wasn't pretty. I was scared to be alone, I couldn't sleep at all - I would go to bed and just stare at the ceiling. I was only 26yrs old. I had a boyfriend at the time and I didn't even want to be around him. I lost weight and I was never hungry but ate just to have something in my stomach. I went to see a doctor and he put me on Prozac - well let me tell you I hate taking medication but I never felt so relieved when I could actually sleep and eat and socialize with people and feel normal again. My doctor also told me to buy this book called "Feeling Good About Yourself" (I think thats the name-I still have it but its put away). Its a really good book. I am 35 now and I'm still on medication (Paxil & Rivotril) and I've tried to go off of them but it didn't work. I am married to that same man that I was with when I first went through that - he was and is a God send. We will be toghether for 12 yrs in January 2005 and will be married 1 year on Dec 19th/04. Another Doctor also mentioned Cognitive Therapy - you may want to read about it on the internet. Its like a group of people that talk about things.
Anyway, hope your feeling better and if you want to talk, let me know.
Good Luck!!  | |
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Posted: 12/5/2004 10:20:56 AM | | There are lots of options for individuals who are enduring situational depression or long term depressions. Mind based Cognitive therapy is great. Also, medications in conjunction with therapy work well too. Some people have a chemical imbalance of neurotransmitters. That chemical imbalance intensifies negative thinking. Through depression, lots of people aquire anxiety disorders and social phobias. You are a beautiful woman, I feel for you, you seem very nice. This does not have to take over your life! | |
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| depressed and lonely.....
Posted: 12/5/2004 11:33:44 AM | the best therapy i found is to surround one's self around happy people. it's contagious!
and smile alot | |
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Posted: 12/5/2004 11:44:57 AM | Carbon, you are so right. My doctor told me the same thing thats its usually a chemical imbalance that causes you to think negative things. It's not a bad thing to take medication for it - I use to think it was terrible to depend on medication for the rest of your life but you have to look at individuals that have diabetes or take medication for other things.
Things will get better!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 12/5/2004 5:19:03 PM | | Its the whole noone wants me complex we all have been thro it.I still wonder why me or when will i find someone but all ya can do is take one day at a time and try to enjoy life.If it wasnt for my kids i would have crawled in a hole somewhere but they helped me thro a very hard spot in my life and true friends dont hurt when ya need a shoulder to cry on.I was always told The best things come to those who wait.Waiting sux dont get me wrong but ya just have to have faith and believe that it will find you when you least expect it..............Good Luck :) | |
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Posted: 12/5/2004 6:04:12 PM | | Anchi, you look really beautiful to me, and if I lived near you, I would be really proud to date you. If I felt and looked like you do, I would just keep reminding myself that I am a really beautiful person and try to learn to be happy with myself. Cultivate your interests and hobbies so you don't get bored. Engage in strenuous aerobic exercise because it increases the production of those good brain hormones. God, you are such a doll that it is really too bad that you're depressed, especially when to outside observers you seem to have so little reason to be. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2004 8:50:36 PM | I think that you may need to find yourself a hobby. See if someone will babysit your kids once in a while and join people of like intestest like playing chest or photography. It gets you out and you meet people.
Or maybe take a night course. There are usually some courses which revolve around peoples passion and interests. They're not usually that expensive and usually only once or twicr a week. | |
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Joined: 5/2/2004
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| depressed and lonely.....
Posted: 12/7/2004 10:13:46 AM | | Best cure for depression...get laid often...hopefully by the same guy...make it into a relationship....a sex based realtionship can work. BUT, the best part is the chemical balances of the brain work great when indulging in this exercise and makes you feel way better. (ok...this post was written "tongue in cheek"....but hey...it COULD work...) | |
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Joined: 6/16/2004
Msg: 45 | |
| depressed and lonely.....
Posted: 12/7/2004 10:47:54 AM | | well, thanks. i could try to make it work, but not with the same partner. seems that i am just ****able but not relationship material. | |
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Posted: 12/7/2004 4:44:20 PM | anchi,
i have not read every post but it seems that everyone who replied except that one guy is offering some sincere advice with your best interests at heart. Also i am not over thirty and likely not all people who have heard my oppinions liked them much, but here is what i have to offer.
Above all, never give up on yourself, you can make it through this time.
Be sure to try and extend the moments in your day that leave you with a pleasant thought, get the most out of them.
Maybe you can pick something negative from the past and let go of it. This might let you change the direction of your life a little at a time if it works.
Whenever it gets really hard, reach for help, its ok and it works.
Really try to avoid spending time actively being depressed, these moments can esculate to crisis. The least amount of your life spent in that place the easier it will be to develop a positive, healthy state of mind.
It gets easier.
Maybe try to make a friend, but don't sleep with them. It will leave you vulnerable if they aren't good to you.
I want to say that you should be a little carefull about what you choose to accept because right now you are easily shaped by your perception.
Don't expect the quick fix, i will probably let you down.
I do not know if you have sought any therapy, or if that is scary to you, but it could help.
I also do not know if you like DR. Phil, but he has a really great book out right now with exercises in it. they are like little worksheets you can fill out to try to understand and gain some controll of how you feel. A friend of mine who is going through a really hard time says it helped her alot and it is private, ie, no therapist.
You are not alone. Many of us have had really hard times mentaly and emotionaly, people can understand and relate to what you are going through. It can get easier.
Good luck  ~m | |
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anchi
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Joined: 6/16/2004
Msg: 47 | |
| depressed and lonely.....
Posted: 12/7/2004 7:53:43 PM | wow, i feel really lucky and blessed because so many people reached out to help me.
i will take all the advice and keep the best and what works for me.
thanks so much to all of those who posted here. i know that others have tough times too, and that this too shall pass.
hugs to you all...
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Joined: 5/2/2004
Msg: 48 | |
| depressed and lonely.....
Posted: 12/8/2004 12:26:28 AM | ***able huh? Cool.....but...back to REAL life.....just for a minute anyways....yeah. Get out a bit...do something. Become involved in some community activity...anything. Even a schoolguard crossing person....you can hold that little stop sign up and check out all the cute drivers!
Boobshots appreciated here!
Have fun, good luck!
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Posted: 12/8/2004 7:26:12 PM | | i was wondering, do you believe in prayer? 3 months ago i fell into a horrible depression that was so bad i thought i would never come out of it. for no particular reason i became so depressed and could not sleep at night. to put it mildy, i was a total mess! i didn't know what to do so i prayed. i prayed very hard every day. then all of a sudden, almost overnight i came out of it. it was gone just as fast as it came. i honestly believe it was God who brought me out of it. | |
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