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Posted: 1/29/2006 1:38:19 PM | | I get annoyed because I know so many guys that pay support and dont get to see their kids. I have four kids with two exes. The father of the first 3 has never paid me a sent. I drive the kids to Dunnville and back to see him. The total right now is a little over 8000.The FRO has already suspened his license for his not paying child support on his first son. He owes me 4500 for court costs for his no-show appearances. They cant granish any of his income sources because its all under the table. I cant even prove where he lives but the courts allow him to have the children every other weekend for a nite. I dont even think there is a point in tryin to get him to pay. Everyone keeps telling me the kids deserve the money and he should pay but I cant get anything done about it. My children are 6,5,3 and 18 months, for me to work costs almost as much as the daycare/babysitting. I dont mean to make this look like a sob story, my kids are very well taking care of and I really dont need his money. | |
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ang468
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Joined: 7/19/2005
Msg: 27 | |
| Child support questions...
Posted: 1/29/2006 1:39:18 PM | Well. first of all, just so you are aware, once you take this to court, whatever decisions you and your ex makes, it is always up to the judge. Agreements brought to court are great, especially if you both are willing to do this. 9 out of 10, the judge wiill grant you your "Agreement". That is if you both can agree on a mutual amount you both consent on. If you get a judge that does not agree that he make enough money to pay the "guidelines"... then it will be done. So it really is not what you want. It's what the court decides.
In any event, agreeing to do something is better than quarraling. But you never know, many cases the man says he will do it, and when he is confronted with these issues, then that's when you believe that "talk is cheap".
My advise to you is that you should really get your marital situation cleared up. Especially the custody issue. Many many woman do not know how crucial this really is. Do it now when you can both actually have a conversation. Otherwise one day you can regret it.
Please be realistic.
Good luck. Ang. | |
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ang468
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Joined: 7/19/2005
Msg: 28 | |
| Child support questions...
Posted: 1/29/2006 1:46:33 PM | I read your situation and it upsets me. First of all, FRO is working for you. Not for him. You need to remember that. You need to be more demanding. About what fro has done so far, is a bit confusing. First of all, if your case has been enforced "to the max".... why is he not in jail? His drivers licence is suspended, he is in arrears, you know where he lives and you cannot prove where it is??? This is very confusing. What do you mean you cannot prove where he lives, plus he has access to see the kids and YOU DRIVE OVER TO TAKE YOUR KIDS THERE?? Can you get back with more details.
I just like to tell you that when a case is enforced "to the max"... there is jail time. A warrant for his arrest is then taken into place and he needs to go through these consequences.
The part about you driving the children to see their dead beat dad just boggles me. You should get as much as you can from the government, support, assistance and stop doing what you are doing. You are not making things any better. This man needs to deal with the law you if you're upset with this, he dosn't deserve to see his kids. Your kids are too young to know any better anyhow. They are young now. Don't wait until they get older and they will soon find out what it is that you are doing. Which is not really helping them.
Ang. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2006 2:48:27 PM | | i been paying for my two great little girls 6 and 6 ashley and suzanne plus there are with me from friday to sunday eve every week love it its been over a year since our sep i love just having my girls and paying well its for the part when they are with her | |
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Posted: 1/30/2006 10:03:55 PM | | I don't know about canada but In IL its 20% for one child I have been divorced for a year and my ex pays 60 a week and I am lucky I get that he is suppose to pay half of day care cost and provide insurance and he laughs and said he not paying that is what the child support it for, he got the house and everything in it the truck I got the bills and my angel, and I was married 10 years and got no allimony I would take everything you can get if you don't need it save it for college for the kids | |
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Posted: 1/31/2006 1:03:01 AM |
Bunch of selfish **stards, the only reason I pay without complaint is cause I know my children benefit from it. I think the alimony is complete bullshit, but the judge didnt think so. Some guys think that not paying it will make it go away. But it just accumulates and never goes away.
What makes me mad is, there are lots of men willing to pay. The government catches you, they force you. But they make no effort to see your money is actually getting used for the kids. Maybe not a whole lot, but I'm sure they're are fathers who don't pay for this exact reason. The government sure doesn't feel this way when they have to give their money out. Can someone say food stamps? | |
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Posted: 1/31/2006 4:36:38 AM | | money is nothin as long as the kids see their dad and he loves them surely thats all that matters | |
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Posted: 1/31/2006 9:34:24 PM | if that was all that matters, there'd be alot less broken homes/relationships...
too many people use their kids against the other parent.
some kids were raised wrong and never 'grew-up'... then the new children pay... | |
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Posted: 2/1/2006 6:39:24 PM | What do you think when some liar woman cheat their husband and go behind them for only money? It seems that in Ontario, woman's organization are too much active and destroying the family life. What do you think what woman shelter are doing? They just advising woman in shelter to lie in the court and get sympthy in court.
1). My question to you is why court is always award custody to mother even if woman is liar, deceptive and father can take care of children better than mother?
2). Why woman brain wash their child against their father? Why mother don't let their child to see their father once court case is finished?
3). Why 100% of judge in Superior court [family court] are women,
4). I have seen lots of case where woman accused their husband for non-existent assault charges and then run to family court for child custody. Where is the integrity? Why judge (Woman) always believe that men are liar and women speaks always truth [Infact reality is totally different]
I will appreciate if you can send reply. I can tell you more that you know about this crap. | |
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