| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 9/5/2005 9:58:14 PM | Thank you Malizia ... I just did not think I was the only one that thought this! I have had so many people saying to me that there is nothing wrong with checking into a dating site daily even though you are seeing someone seriously! I was beginning to think it was just me that had the problem!
Perhaps if I have friends that I met from a site such as this I would have them on my MSN or whatever and I would not need to be on the "site" to chat with them.....
Anyhow I a glad I saw the light with my previous relationship before it was too late! | |
|
| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 9/5/2005 10:31:52 PM | Obviously it's fine to be on a dating site if your intention is just for friends, even if your married it's fine to be on a dating site as long as your profile says as much.
Your profile still says looking for "long term" and "single"
Ever think that he's checking you out here?
weird!!!!
 | |
|
| |
| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 9/5/2005 11:48:01 PM | | I am in a relationship and I jst log onto this site for the forums.. I do glance at my emails as well but everyone who emails me and who reads my profile knows that I am looking for noffin but friendship.. he might jst b doing the same?!? Jst a thought.. only way to know for sure is to ask him. | |
|
| |
| |
PAWLAW
|
Joined: 5/16/2005
Msg: 32 | |
| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 9/6/2005 1:26:05 PM | not sure why either men or women who start seeing each other need to be online after start a relationship, it all comes down to the readily avialble next person around the corner, that or they know an endless supply of online mates
what do I call this "TROLLING"
better yet how would you like a friend to question you after seeing that person online when supposedly things are going very well
some thoughts but only thing I can say is what comes around goes around
good luck fishing peoples | |
|
| WTF are you talking about?
Posted: 9/6/2005 1:29:44 PM | | There's no such thing as somewhat committing to eachother. Either the two people agreed to commit to oneanother or they didn't. Like being prego !!!! | |
|
| WTF are you talking about?
Posted: 9/6/2005 6:42:39 PM | | This place makes me sick! and i am not meaning this internet web site.......leave it up to humans and they can screw everything up........including places like earth, and even when the great powers of the world screw up time and time again and lose our trust time and time again ,,,,,,,,,we all still sit on our hands and say "it'll get better' it really will......look how far we've gotten when the people back in the first world war sat around saying the exact same thing.........Keep voting......at least that way they'll stil know who's brain washed and who's picked up on the whole scheme of things......... | |
|
| |
| |
| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 9/10/2005 12:03:07 AM | Being busted on a dating site by your current is.... well lets just say that its usually a sign that things are not going to pan out. I can see that you want to log in to see if that special someone has been checking in. I've done it myself. I'm not that unique so I imagine they do it as well. I usually create another profile to keep my name clear just in case. But how funny the track record is when every time I found that person I thought was special returning to the site to also find myself single the following week. Stranger than fiction.
The rev has spoken.
 | |
|
| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 9/10/2005 6:43:46 AM | Rev. That is the usual way things go but there are always exceptions to the norm. Sometimes things are not as they appear. I just know that much from personal experience of online dating on POF. Now if it were another site without forums I might be more inclined to wonder what the heck Mr. Wonderful is doing there if we are in a committed relationship. And you know if someone is gonna cheat you can't stop them anyway. If not online they will find another way if that is what they are about. So if my gut tells me there is something wrong there usually is and so I go with my gut.
Good luck in your search though and hope you find the right woman for you!
Cat | |
|
| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 9/10/2005 7:32:19 AM | My thoughts are that if you are in a serious relationship you shouldn't still be looking...but I guess for some people you would have to define serious.
I was with a man for a year and a half and it was an exclusive relationship, by accident one day when I was checking the history on my computer as I have teenagers and like to make sure they aren't on sites they shouldn't be. I discovered that he had been on the web site we met on. I found out that he had been sending "I am interested emails" to several women. I was hurt that he was still looking after all this time together and mad that he had the nerve to do it from MY computer....When I confronted him about it he said it didn't mean anything...I told him there was something fundamentally wrong with the realtionship if he was still looking for someone else...I told him to hit the road....I don't need to feel like I am second best or only good enough until someone better comes along... | |
|
| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 9/10/2005 8:09:39 AM | I think it's something that can be discussed before the relationship truly begins..if they aren't willing to give up the site or at least hide their profile or change it to reflect that they're seeing someone then it's your decision as to whether or not you want to continue seeing them.
Personally, I think anyone that wants to continue chatting and flirting with single/seeking people while dating someone else is just playin and they have no intentions of being sincere and I wouldn't waste my time on them. | |
|
| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 9/10/2005 8:46:24 AM | | oh the possible answers to that 1, i could sit here and type 4 hours but u will jus have 2 ask him, mayb he is feelin insecure about bein attached so much and wants to know that he can still'pull' even if it is on the net!be grateful if thats wat he is doin then this is how he is doin it, if he loves u i dont think u have anythin 2 worry about!good luck! | |
|
| |
| |
| |
| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 10/4/2005 1:34:53 PM | Clearly they are still interested at some level in conversing with people on sites like this.
What I wonder about are people who put their profiles on "hold", or whatever, when they meet someone, instead of simply deleting them. What a show of confidence in the new relationship !
I'm on another dating site where you CAN check on when someone last logged in, without logging in yourself.
Call me a snoop, but I check every now and then on this lady I have been interested in, just to see what she is up to. She says she is not interested in meeting anyone else, yet logs in apparently every couple of days.
I asked her about it, and she told me she just logged in to check her messages. Why is what I wanted to know. She tells me one day she never gets messages, then the next day that she logs in to to check them.
I think the message is clear. She wants me to think she is just serious enough about me that I won't end things.
Both you and I are obviously a little bit paranoid and possessive ... but I have to admit, when I see this, it makes me sort of fortify the defenses and batton down the hatches, if you know what I mean.
I certainly wouldn't break up with someone over such a thing, but on a more subtle level it makes me wonder where the relationship is going, and makes me more skeptical and watchful.
BTW, I have probably over estimated her interest in me anyway ... and I am this bad ... ha. No telling how I would feel if we were definitely and 100% committed. | |
|
| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 10/4/2005 9:20:29 PM | | Interesting question. I just had my first date with a man I met on here. It was absolutely wonderful. He suggested that maybe we should quit, he was quite happy with me. I vetoed the idea. Saw no reason for it. Today, while checking my mail, I saw he had checked his. Surprised me that it bothered me. We talked, and both agreed to quit this site. I believe that no good can come being in a site like this while in a relationship. Too much temptation. And I know we just met. But D*mn! What a guy. We can always rejoin if things don't work out. I will miss the forums, but would miss him more. | |
|
| |
| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 10/4/2005 11:11:09 PM | Obviously, if a person is on a dating site they are just sitting waiting for something to bite their hook. Curiousity killed the cat. Sooner or later trouble will be arising.
People in relationships and messaging like they are not need to give themselves a shake.
period. | |
|
| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 9/26/2006 11:42:23 AM | Monkeybeanz....interesting post I might add.....bit outdated.....just thought I would bring it back to life as many have asked about this situation.....:)
All I can say is if a person has a boyfriend/girlfriend that continues to go online....it might just be a habitual thing.....or, he might just love the POF forums....:)) Of course I would start to wonder if his profile was still in the search mode if you know what I mean.
On a personal note -if I found a Christian woman and I was dating and I professed my love for them and wanted to spend the rest of my life waking up beside them......wow, this would be the ultimate experience.......would I go online......?
Better still would I go on a dating site...... definitely not.....as my search would have been very successful.........of course I would go online to give my status....and to share my happiness with them....and goodbyes.....
Hope that helps.....
0:)
PS when you love someone....Definitely a Brian Adams song.....:)
| |
|
| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 9/26/2006 12:29:16 PM | Nobody is mongomous unless they are too timid to cheat.
Is this the sad state that relationships are in these days? Where monogamy is paramount to timidity?
i pity them
And we pity you... Funny how that works, isn't it... | |
|
Home
login 
