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MI4YOU
| | Joined: 7/29/2007
Msg: 77 | |
| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 8/25/2007 4:53:28 AM | I have experienced this first hand and recently......and this is after 10 months of being together. With all the professing of love and commitment going on by both parties.
I understand what a lot of you are saying about the "contact" and "forums" but the big question that I have is..
If staying on the site for those reasons is really why......why wouldn't you change the "what your looking for" in your profile.
Wouldn't leaving it as "long-term", "dating" etc be an indicator that your still looking.
Isn't that what the honest a decent thing would be to do? | |
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| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 5/15/2009 1:35:19 PM | LOL "maybe they are on here chatting or on the forums' Yup, maybe. And maybe I used to buy Playboy to read the articles!
People are on here to see what else is out there and may be interested in them. I do it, I think most of us do. Do I look to see if people I dated are logging on. Yup. If they are and I don't hear from them thats a sure sign they are really not interested. But if they do but are still in touch with me I still see them, why not? Like someone said have fun. Of course if I am gettinng hosed for my wallet and then its a different story. I'mnot a fool either.
But thats human nature we all do that even in the real world. Married or dating we still wonder if that woman or guy in the supermarket or Wal Mart just checked us out.
I wouldn't take it personal just keep fishing. Keep your options open and have fun. If its meant to be it is, if not......NEXT! Remember this is an online candy store, a fantasy land. Don't take it too serious. Get out in the real world...speakingof which its gym time then real world time! | |
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| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 5/15/2009 1:51:02 PM | Why not? Plenty of fish in this pond are here for other purposes than dating. It could be the friends they've made here and/or the forums. I've often felt like this more of a social networking site nowadays than the dating site it was supposed to be. It equates to the digital age version of pen pals.
On the other hand, why drive the Lincoln all week when you can rent a Porsche for the weekend? [and the Lincoln won't b1tch when you take the Porche for a spin!] | |
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| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 5/15/2009 2:02:58 PM | You are absolutely right!!
If i have met with you then you are the only one i have time for until we discover that we just cant make the connection.
I log in all the time when im home. I do it to share mail with her, but i also do it because i have some open requests to other females. and so i look for there response to me as well. But im not trying to play a game. Im not searching for any other during that time. It is important that the other person not contact me and then be neglected. That may cause big problems should i want to contact them later if i find that the person i am seeing now is not compatible.
On the otherside of this.. yes, i see her logged in too. wonder what that means? same thing? hmmm. just dont know. | |
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| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 5/15/2009 2:19:34 PM | Honestly, if I made friends on here, I'd give them other ways to contact me...
MSN, Yahoo, AIM, e-mail addresses...so I wouldn't have to log onto here once I started dating someone.
I know that some people may view POF as more of a social site than a true dating site, and that's fine.
It's just for me, I'd rather not have any gray area at all. | |
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| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 5/17/2009 8:20:30 AM | I agree...I think that if someone is in a serious relationship, he/she should not be so eager to communicate with other people who may not know this status . Why waste anyone's time? Why cause conflict with the person you claim to be committed to?
Personally, I am just waiting for the word from my guy, and when we both agree that we have an exclusive, long-term relationship, I'm done with POF.
If he realizes over time that I'm not "the One" for him, I'll stay on the site, keep dating, and not worry about it. That's how it goes sometimes. | |
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| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 5/17/2009 10:38:41 AM |
When you find a woman who you have been dating and you profess to love them and want to spend the rest of your life waking up beside them ... why ... oh please tell me why...would you continue to go "online"?
That's a question that only your significant other can answer for you. | |
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| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 2/7/2010 4:42:41 PM | I'm experiencing this myself, mind you the relationship is brand new. So I guess, he's just not ready to close any doors yet. BUT he isn't on this site, he is on a site that is purely for relationships and he says that he doesn't see the harm in meeting new people/ making friends......which OK fine whatever, I won't win that argument. But looking for friends on a purely dating site doesn't connect for me....
Guess I always figured I would stop looking once I found someone. Guess I don't get it.
Oh and just so that I don't get called out...I'm on here looking for feedback/ opinions about my issue......not dating. :) | |
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| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 2/8/2010 12:22:27 PM | Assuming he's not here for forums or chat to acquaintances... logging in can be a habit like any other
a) He is serious but sort of still vaguely curious what is out there, confirming his decision
b) He's not serious and treading water until he picks up a better offer...
You might call him out on it. Of course, if he didn't give you a straight story then he maybe won't now etc .... good luck | |
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| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 2/8/2010 2:21:16 PM | Thanks for the response. He basically explained that it was "a)". It was just rather suprising to hear seeing as I've already been told that he is falling for me...just find it weird to be shopping around if someone has such strong feelings for another, but obviously not everyone thinks like me.
Thanks again! :) | |
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B1945
| | Joined: 1/20/2010
Msg: 87 | |
| People who are in a relationship - still looking online....
Posted: 2/19/2010 4:26:24 PM | I have been dating a man I met on this site and we both log in every day. I have a few friends that I keep in touch with.
On the other hand the gentleman I am dating is on here to find new friends. I know this because he contacted a friend of mine and she told me about it. He didn't know we were friends.
He says he has never met anyone else or set up a date with them but my friend set him up and sure enough he took the bait. They were going to meet at a specific place for coffee. I waited there until he went in. We were together for a year this March. Needless to say we are no longer. All I heard from him were lies. I loved him so much I believed him. I even set up a fake profile to catch him. I hate to admit it but he was so sweet to me as Jessica. He told her more about his life than he told me. It kind of makes you not trust anymore. My heart was crushed.As it is he is married and he met his wife on a dating site. PITIFUL........ | |
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