| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 12/21/2004 6:09:34 PM | Posted By: petiteone(d295614) on 06-09-2004 06:43 PM
Subject: something is wrong with some of men on this site
Message: i recently went out two dates. one was fun at first then i gave a good night kiss the grabbed my breast when i asked him to stop he wouldn't. the second guy was all around a** the first time he didn't call to cancel a date. when he as for a second chance i gave him one. He started putting me down for not having a car and being so called immature. yet this guy lives with his parents and doesn't even work. are there any men that know not to grab and woman and put her down after just meeting
yeah what an arrogant a** ! i think you should have slapped him silly! | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/10/2005 7:50:24 PM | You find numb skulls everywhere...indeed you have some men on here who like getting a rise out of people, just for fun. They are rude, obnoxious, and think they will get somewhere by doing so. Not all guys are jerks though...some are really great guys, I've met here. There are all kinds... Montreal seems to have a lack of good men and women it would seem...such a shame for such a wonderful city.
To the poster...don't ever let a man make you feel badly about yourself. Putting people down is a childish notion, that reflects your own short-comings. You're a great gal...you do your thing, don't let the odd neanderthal, ruin it for you. :)
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/11/2005 8:18:17 AM | "something is wrong with some of men on this site"
Every last one of them eh? Well, I think I've found the problem.
Hey, those two were pricks, plain and simple. Kindly refrain from lumping us all in with them though. | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/11/2005 9:47:07 AM | | wow a guy grabbing your breast on the first night not cool. Thats not my thing on first date. My first date would be like talking all night if possible and just being close to that person and have a nice dinner and who knows what can happen after words but grabing your breast on the first night after a good night kiss lol not cool at all. | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/11/2005 10:16:58 AM |
he said i had to many dating rules
I have had guys tell me this too. One said I was being too demanding. I said...huh? I think it's more demanding to EXPECT sex on a first date.
Hang in there...nothing wrong with being self protective in this scary dating world. | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/11/2005 10:17:48 AM | | The best advise I ever got from my grandpa was when you go to the races,never bet on a dog.Just when you least expect it they'll stop in the middle of the track to shit.The same is true for a lot of braindead men.Unfortunately alot of these men never had a positive male role model and they know not what they do.With todays deadbeat dads and single mothers,boys are sorely lacking in direction from the male of the species and this is a case of reaping what you sow.I don't know that it'll get any better.Choose a man that had a positive influence in his life from a male role model and you most likely won't be disapointed.Having that guidance worked for me.I should note that I'm not ragging single moms but boys do need a man in their lives.Just my thoughts. | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/18/2005 9:50:58 PM | | Well let me give you an advice even talking on the phone won't always work either just because those type of guys like playing games with girls and they are always gonna act like a nice honest man into they get what they want out of you, i guess what i'm trying to say is to be careful specially with ppl online as you don't really know who would be the person at the other end, and unfortunately this kind of things mainly happen to good ppl and then they start loosing their trust and screw up a good relationship sometimes, anyways good luck finding the right person, wish you the very best. | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/18/2005 10:20:01 PM | You know unfortunately men are like this all over... so I think this is a universal problem.The sad part is, if a gal is looking for something more meaningful and you meet or talk to too many like this you get discouraged..BUT..Hold on to hope and try like everyone's said and talk more, get to know him and ask him what his expectations are..I'm sorry any man grabs my Breast and he best be prepared to talk funny and see a doctor about that pain where I kicked where he lived..
There are gentlemen out there and men who are willing to get to know you and won't press the sex issue until you are both ready..They are hard to find, many reasons..Like us women they too have been hurt and don't trust, so they sometimes are out to get what they can get and don't recognize a lady when they meet one..
i've read so many adds on here and I think I've said hello to maybe a hand ful and none of those men were what they claimed...But again, it is a matter of talking, being honest and being very careful...PLease be more so in the future..Things could have been worse with that jerk, so you are lucky..take care and Good luck!.. | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/18/2005 11:48:32 PM | I've talked to some people online for months and they seemd like great people... and then one day out of the blue they turn into freaks... its a really hard thing to tell with people online... you never know if maybe you just havent got into a position where they can act like idiots or not...
Although I'm not looking for anyone.. if I was, I wouldnt meet anybody from online until I've chatted with them for quite a while and that includes on a cam... the excuse of I dont have a cam doesnt cut it anymore considering they are only like 20 or 30 bucks...
Even my current gf... I was intorduced to her through a friend (over the phone) and we talked on the phone and net for close to three months before we actually met, and she had a really good reference.... lol
about the best idea would be for people to meet the ones they talk to at a POF party.. that way everyone around has an idea of what everyone else is going through...
and if you cant make it to one of the parties... make arrangements to meet people at restaurants or other public places with the understanding that at the end of it you will be going home alone from there... that gives you a chance to get to know the person before you are alone with them in any fashion.... | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/19/2005 6:19:55 PM | | There are lots of gentlemen out there. I, for one, open doors for ladies, push in their seats for them, help them on and off with their coats, and wait for the second date to start grabbing their breasts. | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/19/2005 8:51:33 PM | | You are right, something really is wrong with some of the guys. I wish I could tell you that it gets better as you get older, but it doesn't. Just watch out for yourself. | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/19/2005 10:06:54 PM | LOL.. this was a couple of years back... well actually like around 10 years ago or so... lol
I was dating this woman that I had met at a bar (on a wednesday night)... we really hit it off (at the bar) she came back to my place (we were having a party after the bar) had a great time.. no nothing sexual happened that night.. we kissed a bit and tlaked and had a great time...
the next day we went to a show and grabbed some food... the next day I went to her place (she was livig with her mother) and we had supper there and curled up on the couch to watch a movie... part way through the movie her mother went to bed for the night... We're both lying on the couch with her on the inside with my arm aroud her... about ten minutes after her mother went to bed she grabbed my hand and started to move it, assuimg she was getting up to go to the bathroom or something I tried to get out of her way. She yanked (yes actually yanked) my hand back around her and put it on her tit... needless to say, even though I was a little slow in those days when it came to women, I took this as a good sign nontheless...lol... of course thing got a lot more serious fairly quickly after that... later we were talking and rewatching the last part of the movie seems we missed it... lol and I mentioned who surprised I was that she started it.. and glad, seems it was going through my mind that I really wanted to have sex with her... but I had no clue if she would be okay with it or not... she said... I've been waiting for you to try something since the night of the party... I just couldnt take it anymore, you were driving me nuts... I've never been with a guy who just wasnt all hands at the first opportunity... lol
I learned two things that night...
1) subtlety doesnt work on me... lol
2) its much easier on the mind if you let the women start it... lol
for any guy who has the ability to just reach out and grab a womans tit... well the neanderthall part of me thinks... wow, I wish I could be like that... the civilized intelligent part of me thinks... you're an idiot... the women that you get like that, arent the women I would want...
Now... years later... I've hopefully learned a lot more in the passing time... About the main thing I've learned is that I would never want to have a woman I wasnt interested in come up to me and grab my****.. in fact, I'd likely freak... and seems I cant read minds, unless a woman tells me or physically shows me beyond a doubt that she is interested I cant know for sure... so its better to just wait and let it happen on its own... and if I happen to miss some of the possibilites that come my way becasue of it... so be it... because feeling a tit isn't worth anything unless its in a sexual manner and for that to happen it has to be in a good way with full knowledge and desire of both people involved...
To my younger self... specifically the neanderthall part... (he's gone now, I sold him to a museum) Your attitudes went out of style along with your uni-brow.... pack your bags cause your heading to a museum witht he rest of your clan...
On rereading this, I think I should translate it into english... lol
Any civilized, intelligent man will never do what the OP's date did... | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/19/2005 11:23:51 PM | "One method I and my friends use is to state well before hand that you have had trouble with men overstepping their bounds and that you will not tolerate it. If you have to you can state you don't want to be touched on the first date. If the guy wants to see you again he will behave."
From the point of view of the guy I think this is great advise. It's honest and sets the tone for evening. I have always been kind of awkward at the end of a date. Even if I think the signs are there it's still a little scary to move in for a kiss. By saying from the beginning that there will be no touching on the first date then I know that a hand shake or a light hug will have to do. Takes the pressure off. Whew... I feel much better.  | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/20/2005 10:45:36 AM | NO it's not "site specific" , people in general (everywhere ) are a mix bag of nuts LOL
the trick is to find the flavour you like with out biting into the ones you dont
Consider pepper spray or for bigger nuts Bear spray , too bad you cant shoot thier heads off LOL | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/20/2005 11:16:12 AM | Something is wrong with some of the pills in this bottle... 
What kinda lunatic would mix viagra with muscle relaxers!!?? I'm trying to keep it down, not get wood!! | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/20/2005 11:25:26 AM | | Well, where does it say that you have to stay for any length of time? If I were to go out with somebody and they proved beyond a doubt in my mind that they were an idiot and not worth knowing, I'd just get up and tell the person that we obviously made a mistake and its not going to work out and I'd walk away.. lol | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/20/2005 11:27:44 AM | Well petite, one, you might be dating the wrong kinda guys. Think about what you've done to posibly lead them on. Also, you might be looking for the wrong things in a guy. There is no telling. It can be alot of reasons why these things happened to you.
Oh yeah, be careful who you kiss and how you kiss them, because that can also lead them on!!!! | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/20/2005 11:33:46 AM | | Ma'am, yes there are some things wrong with some of the men out there, but the same applies to some of the women I've met. When I go out with someone, I try to make it a safe and comfortable evening. I usually will only "peck" kiss a date at her door, and if I am invited in I'll be nice, polite and reasonable. So to answer your question Miss Petite, Yes, there is a Santa Clause (and a guy that is cool, nice and reasonable) | |
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