| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/20/2005 12:00:17 PM | Well petite, one, you might be dating the wrong kinda guys. Think about what you've done to posibly lead them on. Also, you might be looking for the wrong things in a guy. There is no telling. It can be alot of reasons why these things happened to you.
Oh yeah, be careful who you kiss and how you kiss them, because that can also lead them on!!!! | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/20/2005 12:23:02 PM | hey petiteone,
sorry to hear about your bad experiences on both dates; at the same time, just because 2 out of hundreds (or even thousands) of users on this site are morons, it does not make us all morons; also, it is idiots like that who make it difficult for the rest of us because now we are "guilty until proven innocent" or "guilty by association" simply because we are men using a free dating internet site
speaking of which, it's true what they say sometimes about getting what u pay for and while some people see a free dating site as a blessing, it does tend to attract some of the lowlifes
having said that, i had been using another well-known dating site where one had to pay for credits and i still heard many horror stories from some women; and had a few of my own!
anyway, i will step off my soap box now - i just wanted to say that we are not all morons and some guys do know what respect is and how to treat a woman
good luck
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/20/2005 3:56:38 PM | Hey petite one...
you just picked a couple of bad guys. Its hard to tell from a profile what a guys going to really be like. The first guy you mentioned assaulted you. The second guy sounds like a user. I am sure this doesn't define all males, lol!! There are a lot of nice guys out there...if you look hard enough, long enough, one will come crawling out of the woodwork...
and then you'll just want to be friends, lol!! | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/20/2005 4:11:10 PM | I don't know ow old you are? I agree women shouldn't have to put up with this c~~~
It' like a shopping list, have you got this , do you do that, and then they disappear. I went out with a guy, and his 'friend' text and phoned throughout the day!!!! Supposedly the ex but maybe changed her mind when he went out with me. He was just looking to me for the physical, and groomed me all day to see if I was forthcoming. Stick to your values and pinciples, values, and don't compromise. I think these sites breed a kind of person, not healthy! Be careful, I am | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/20/2005 4:16:00 PM | | lol, mangamonkey. Kinda make this place sound like "if you date one (download) then you could get a psycho (virus) that makes you all wired" heh heh. I'm kinda scared now... *sneaks away* | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/22/2005 4:36:14 AM | | Absolutely agree. In fact, there is something wrong with all the people on this site. We're not perfect. All the women I meet that are unhappy are looking for the perfect man. What a shame there are so few to go around. We all have faults, you just have to figure out which faults you are willing to put up with, so you kind of have to work backwards when you go out looking for a mate. So search again, with a different point of view. | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/22/2005 4:47:57 AM | The population of this site is a smaller version of the larger population around us ; that means it will include it's own share of scumbags, liars, cheats, "playas", and all of the others that we could happily live without.
But, like most "populations", this pond also includes lots of good and decent people who know how to behave themselves and treat others decently.
Don't get discouraged or shut down because of a couple of bad experiences. But DO exercise a reasonable amount of caution before meeting people and going out with them. The world won't stop revolving if you don't have a date for the weekend. But better to spend some nights at home getting to know the other people a little better, than to go out, for the sake of it, and have an unpleasant experience...or, worse, something beyond "unpleasant". Trust the squirrel...he knows a nut when he sees one ! 
Best of luck to you, for the future ! | |
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kbr40
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Joined: 7/19/2005
Msg: 83 | |
| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/22/2005 5:12:02 AM | I agree, it takes for all of us to really acknowledge that - none of us a re perfect. However you've gotta keep believing that someone out there is perfect FOR YOU.
I agree that today we are encouraged (men & women alike) to get as much as we can for ourselves out of every situation, including relationships which seems silly to me when a relationship is actually about giving. Ideally it's where we can be vulnerable too...
Here's a long forgotten concept which would serve us all well to remember...
A relationship is about being there for the other person; being considerate of the other person. It doesn't mean being a martry, it's just about being kind, considerate & respectful. Imagine if both of u doing this WOW!!! If you're both there for each other, it's gotta be a win/win situ yeah? Think about it a bit deeper, it DOES leave room for individuality.
and it's not just for relationships, it's for all human interactions... I think more women than men get it, no offence intended to men, that's just my observation is all.
And dammit, I'm straight!! | |
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Joined: 5/6/2005
Msg: 84 | |
| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/22/2005 2:19:42 PM | true I was going to go with a guy, ( i wont name) what a creep, i gave him the wrong place to meet by mistake (an honest one) well he called me, emailed me real nasty letters & acted imature, what a jerk, do be careful u might get a serial killer, stalker, creep or rapist,
I am traveling soon to london & hope to find a nice gentlemen to show me around, I live originally in Florida, but plan to travel n meet nice guys )hopefully lol. | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/24/2005 3:31:40 AM |
something is wrong with some of men on this site
Yes, the good ones are still single, and we keep trying to find someone to marry.
So, stop hating men, and blame yourself for picking the bad ones. | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/24/2005 6:59:46 AM | | Its funny because I am finding quite the oposite, I am a single man who wants to meet someone thats not high on them selves but I find most of the woman (Not All), are thinking there the cats ass and think that they are better then you and your not worthy of going out with them,And then they are bashing men, Your standards are too high your weeding out all the good ones you probably could have had, Ever wonder why your still single yourself, Just because you attract winners doesnt mean were all bad on here, Yes there are a lot of Guys/Girls on these dating sites that are after one thing There are some of us that are looking for the real thing and I myself are geting very frustrated with these sites.. My suggestion to Petite one You sound like a very nice girl You need to meet in a Tim Hortons or something very private first, Just in case things dont work out If he seems to push you pretend you like him offer him a 2nd date at a later time give him a fake phone number when you get home Block him, Vala Hes history and he can move on to torment the next person! Hah!! See were not all ***holes But you do have to be on your toes on these sites.. Chritters Best of luck to everyone on here!! I am chris looking for a non cyco slim.slender like myself Tall would be nice , In the Durham Region with No Children, If you fit that description give me a e-mail.. Feel free to grab my boobs!! Haha!! Later!! | |
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Joined: 3/18/2005
Msg: 88 | |
| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/24/2005 9:25:06 AM | | hey there you got the wrong title on here the real men on this site wouldnt even dream of such behavior this guy sounds like a punk with no respect for women give us all a bad name , i hope you smacked his face a good one ... | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/25/2005 6:58:13 AM | I don't think there is something wrong with the men on this site. Well not all of them anyway.
If you have struck up a conversation and want to meet then just choose a safe place to do it in. That way if you need to make a quick exit, its available to you.
You never know someone until you meet. Body language and eye contact make powerful decisions for you. | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/25/2005 7:18:08 AM | Petiteone .. Yes, there is something wrong with many men; not just on this site. Unfortunately the behavior of these immuture grunts was probably positively re-inforced at some point (for something meaningless in the long run). One has to wonder about the women that positive respond to that crap (but lets not go there).
Most men do realize that a true connection, of mutal interest and chemistry, needs to be made before anything physical is acceptable.
I could go on and on. But, I won't. I'll leave you with this: 'for all the crude men out there that give us a bad rap, i appologize'.
Good luck. And just be more careful. | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/25/2005 8:41:26 AM | Hi Sweetheart,
How was the conversation with them before the dates?
Was there any hint they would behave like this?
I am sorry you went thorugh that, but dont give up, there are good guys here and everywhere, just give it time. I had the "honor" to be contacted by several "gentlemen"
asking if I wanted a good f...., "how about a bj?" etc., well garbage can, right away, no wonder they are still here and looking, no woman in her right mind will answer that, well I told one of them what to do but I am not going to repeat it here on the public forum.
Don't think that everybody is like that though, I am finding many really good and good looking guys on the top of that here that I am sure will treat you like a Queen, on the first and all the next dates. | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/25/2005 8:57:11 AM | I'm not a guy my name is starlight-star what is wrong with you girl?
do you know you could have had him charged I never meet guys on this line until I've known him for awhile and even then I'd be cautious I've had some bad experiances to know that trust me.
starlight-star | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/25/2005 3:25:27 PM | Yah, you had two bad experiences so that means that all men who use this website have serious emotional problems. Very sound induction. 
Seriously, now be honest. You have to ask yourself why a person would use internet dating to begin with. Most men are using it because they are socially inept and its the only way they think they can get a piece. But then there are guys who just want to stop meeting the same type of girl over and over, who actually have some self control and are looking for more than that. But it takes a little work to find those guys.
Now, chances are there were subtle clues in the communication with these guys that would have been a good indication of what thier real motives were and that they were jack a$$es. And if there were no cues, its because you didn't ask enough questions.
Most of the guys who use internet dating sites are little more than disembodied male sex organs who have learned to use a keyboard to access the internet. Most of the gals who use internet dating are trying to hook up with an ideal man that only exists in thier fantasies, or a rich moron (which is sort of an oxymoron), that they can use and manipulate.
You have to go through the trouble of fishing through all the dead wood to get anything worthwhile. If you aren't willing to do that, then maybe you should try dating people from the singles group at church. Probably a lot less likely to wind up with a stalker or a pervert. | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/25/2005 3:30:35 PM | Melissa22 has a real good point. You really need to be more careful than that. You never know what kind of wacko you could be dealing with. Always talk to the other person for a good period of time first and make sure you meet them in a public place and if you can't double date with friends bring your cell and make sure your friends know where you are every step of the way.
Guys aren't in as much danger, but some women can create awfully embarassing situations or even make things up and call the police if the date doesn't go there way.
But you can usually sniff the nuts out by talking to them for a little while. The main people who cause problems are the control freaks. People who start demanding and commanding right after the initial sweet talking is over.
My 2 cents. | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/25/2005 3:53:45 PM | that really sucks.. I've got the other end w/ girls, there's a girl that' I'm friends w/ that wants me to show her I'm serious by making out w/ her.. We haven't even gone out on a "date" .. we've hung out a few times w/ others..
oh well.. I hope that the next experience will be a pleasant one.. I know that I'd make it one, but I'm probably not near ya | |
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| Get a stun gun.
Posted: 7/25/2005 4:04:01 PM | Not a good idea to try to physically over power a guy, unless you are Bruce Lee's wife or something. You need to make NOISE and get away.
But 50,000 voltz in his crotch is gauranteed to make him stop and reflect and the proper way to respect your body.
And it might guarantee his kind won't multiply in the future. | |
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| Get a stun gun.
Posted: 7/25/2005 4:18:06 PM | | i have to admit no guy has ever disrespected me so i have no idea really what it's like to be grabbed and fondled (without permission of course). | |
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| something is wrong with some of men on this site
Posted: 7/25/2005 6:20:18 PM | | there are still a few of us who act like gentlemen and still have a greta time. Personally in this website my experience is that once i send messages the women don't reply so i've been on and off on the site. i'm, sure there must be a bunch of great women, but why as soon as you say let's get together for a cup of coffe or a rollerblade ride, they play the magician and disapear. anyway the point is there are abunch of nice people on this site . bye | |
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