| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 9/4/2005 11:46:24 AM |  You just havn't meet the right man. There are plenty of us willing to date single moms. The one's that don't aproch you are not ready for children. Just take your time. As someone stated earlier your babys more importent. I know for me I'm more attracted to a woman that can put her baby's needs above her own or mine. A goof man will understand that. Don't worry he's out there and Im sur you'll find himor hell find you. Good Luck and remember your baby comes first. 
P.S. I'd date you in a minute. | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 9/4/2005 11:53:06 AM | Well I'm a single mother, I left my son's father 6 years ago now because he was violent, my son was 2 years old at the time, he's 8 now.
I've had 2 serious relationships since him but I'm back to being single again now and I have been since April 2004....its hard work bringing up my son all alone and when he goes to bed its so lonely.
I think the guys get jealous of my paying attention to my son and putting him first.... but I hope I'll meet that special someone soon, the one that make my heart skip a beat when I hear from him, whether its a text message or phone call!
Good luck to all you single parents looking for love  | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 9/4/2005 12:01:20 PM | | well some guys just dont like competing for the affection when children are involved. They complicate dating and make it harder to actually enjoy each others company. Not saying that kids are a bad thing ive dated one who had a 11yrold but a baby is just a lil much to put on some guys. They might also be scared your going to try and wrangle them into being a daddy but who really knows what goes thru each guys head when put thru that situation | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 9/4/2005 1:42:08 PM | Now see this is the trouble that all people have, is that people don't understand the difference beteen love for each other and the love for a child.... Well I got to say is that a man or a woman jumping into a relationship with someone that has kids has to know what the difference is, love for a child is way way way different then the love of your partener !!!
!! hope this make sence !! | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 9/4/2005 7:09:48 PM | | Let me say this, I for one am not afraid of dating a woman with a baby. I dated a pregnant woman before(not mine) and was with her all through the pregnancy and continued to date her after she gave birth. That was until she got in touch with a friend of her ex's from the past and then gave me the ol heave ho, c ya dude. Still, I would do it all over again, it makes no difference whether she has kids, babies, or what, it doesn't change who she is and as a single father I wholly understand that the kids come first. | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 9/4/2005 7:14:49 PM | | @Leanne, that is so sad that a man could or would hurt/harm you in any way shape or form. You are a very beautiful woman and there is a very lucky man for you out there. Good luck and I praise adn commend you for leaving him and going it alone. Take care. | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 9/4/2005 7:43:09 PM | Trust me u will find a guy that loves kids......I have 2 of my own and they are my world.....I'm kind of in the same boat u are with trying to find a girl who will accept me for the same reason!!!! But think positive I'm trying too!!!!
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 9/4/2005 8:33:09 PM | I haven't read each post individually.. but I can agree with the first... I have a 6 year old.. but also "most" men my age want children of their own too.. which I can't help with... or "some" men who don't have kids are not all togehter in the understanding that I can't get of the house whenever they call... I am happy being single which leaves more time for my son...
I would also welcome anyone else's children into my life as I would hope they would do the same... | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 9/4/2005 9:58:13 PM |
I will not touch any woman with a baby with a 100-foot pole.
Not even if you find someone you truly care about and she ends up pregnant with your child, hunor? Seems to me like you don't need to be on a dating service being that closed minded. | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 9/4/2005 10:41:56 PM | I love kids, but ever since this little fling I had abroad with a mother (I'd just turned 20) I felt so bad about messing with the kid's world. And so even guys, honourable one's at least, that love kids and are willing to develop as much a relationship with the child as you are going to be very careful in getting involved with you. Even, no, especially if you and your child are totally awesome for me I'm going to take it real easy and make sure no whirlwind romance kicks up.
But then it get's into the issue of the chemistry window, the amount of time a woman and man have to hit if off before the spark just doesn't fly so often. So all around difficult.
And even though it really does take a village to raise a child most of us really don't know how to allow for that or are weirded out when a second man comes on the scene. Especially cause most of us guys are so competitive it can be hard to be the second man in a kids life even though it does take a village.
I feel for you mom's. How do y'all feel about flings? If you could keep it away from your child how do you feel about them? I hear lots of moms say, "hey, I have needs to". | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 9/4/2005 11:02:23 PM | | blah. "my needs" are what got me pregnant in the first place. i don't even feel like thinking about sex ever again to tell you the truth. what i miss is the comfort and sercurity of someone. i miss the being held and complimented and feeling loved. | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 9/5/2005 3:45:21 AM | | It's called being human. It's normal to want the things you do. I truly believe you will find it. We've all had those days when we really needed someone to share it with or just plain be there for us. Just keep in mind that's what most of us are here for, so your far from alone with your feelings. Beside you already have someone that doesn't want to let you go when they hug you, and thinks your the greatist person that ever lived, and probably loves you more right now than anyone else would ever be capable of. And she seems to have a really great mom. | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 9/5/2005 4:17:19 AM | When a guy is assesing if you will make a good partner, children are a MAJOR factor. You state right in your profile the dude is going to be # 2. A responsible guy already knows that, or at least knows it better be the case is you have any values at all. Single Moms date with serious intentions... and the two of you clicking isn't enough! He has to love you AND you child, because eventually you'll become #2 to your own baby if he's really worth keeping. There are lots of guys who would take the resonsibility and run with it in a n instant... but let's just say it "complicates" things.
My younger brother just got dumped by his GF, a single mom. Not only does he love her... her loves her son. Now he will NEVER get to see him agian through no fault of his own. The pain is twice as bad, as he now has two failed relationships to deal with. | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 9/5/2005 9:19:33 AM |
the thread was pretty much me venting about some of my loneliness. that paticular day i was having a rough day and the fear of being alone forever popped into my mind.
I have no idea how a woman as attractive as you could fear being alone.  Don't worry!!! There is a man out there that will fall over himself to be with you and would be happy to be apart of you and your childs life. I can understand loneliness (it happens to us all) but there's no chance you're going to be alone forever. | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 9/5/2005 9:25:07 AM | | I don't think it's just you alot of men are scared silly of us single moms...I should know cause I am a single mom but my kids have never gotten the idea that the men in my life weither they are friends, family or boyfriends are their "new daddy". My kids know that they have a dad who loves and supports them and they have grown up knowing this. They also don't expect every person that walks in the front door to support them. I guess this is mostly because I raised them to understand that they have a dad and if I do meet mr. right that he will never replace their dad but he may become a part of their lives. I believe that as a mother I have my rights to a personal life may it be sexual or just hanging out for beer and pizza and I hope that the people I meet can enjoy time with me and on occasion with my kids. I am also the same person who believes that kids deserve to be raised by both parents and that is why I have my kids living with their dad for a year. | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 9/5/2005 9:49:54 AM | | Seeing a man that is willing to take that kind of responsibility is a great sign that he has character and is the kind of man I would rather be with. Now with that being said it's sad that in our society there aren't more men like you. It's not an easy situation for any of us and unfortunately for the men it's not the norm and most don't understand (such as an employer, it's not expected that the man could be the single parent). | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 9/5/2005 11:08:11 AM | Well I thought I would add too...
It can definitely be a long journey...and a lonely on at the that...but sometimes things happen when you least expect them.
Men that are in their early twenty's can be "afraid", but if they feel strongly for someone they will try...unfortunately...once in awhile they just can't hack it.
I have dated men who were just absolutely wonderful to my daughter...bringing her flowers, walking and talking with her about important issues...but there wasn't a chemistry between us. Then, again I have dated guys that ...really in the end...only worried about me.
You should definitely keep trying on POF...their are alot of decent men on here that are genuine in their quest for love. You will never really know if someone can fit into your life until you truly get to know them. I have talked to a few...that according to their profile...do not want kids...but they still want to meet me???~ Needless to say...hit the road jack!
Believe in yourself 100%...and you will find your match...optimisism is the key to life because if you don't believe in yourself, no one else will.
Our children are a part of us...they will be with us...teach us...and you already have the everlasting love you have always looked for...nothing beats a hug and kiss from my girl.
If a man has no desire...that's their choice...we choose to raise children...dating will always come as a second | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 9/6/2005 10:36:13 AM | | 2nd post on forums. iwas in arelationship with a woman with a child for over ten years,things went south,always felt like it was me against them.children can be quite manipulativeof their birth parent and the stepparent is at a adisadvantage.saw a tv show that ALL single and coupled parents should watch.il mention show later.for those that know of the shows episode im refering to,please,let the point be made b4 we let the others in on the answer. now im probably going to get alot flak for this but before you start spitting venom,take aday to think of all aspects to an answer. the scenario is this,a woman writes in the paper that she is not in love with her children and places her husband first.is this right or wrong and why?[maybe not the exact pharsing but close enough]remember,take some time to think b4 you answer. btw,never did this forum thing yesterday. well see how it goes | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 9/7/2005 8:09:12 AM | | You're just gonna have to be patient. There are many guys like us out there but it may be either the age range your looking in or where your looking. Love happens at the most unexpected time and unfortunately forcing the issue only put you in line for disappointment. We're here you just need to keep an open mind. | |
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