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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 7/31/2006 12:15:21 AM | "Men aren't sure how to deal with the fact that someone that just had a baby is instantly looking soon after. Perhaps it is a fear that she's only looking for someone to help take care of the kid or that they don't know if the real father will come back one day and say "What the hell are you doing with my wife and child?"
Very true. It's a big adjustment for many guys and a common perception among many guys.
"I think it is because men can be selfish. They know that they are not going to get the attention they need or want. They are loosing out in most cases. I’ll take a good mother any day over someone who is single."
....drum roll please, and this is why some of them don't last with a single mom or date them period. BTW, I've dated both and I'll tell ya, I disagree with the last part of this quote because I'll take the single girl with no kids over the one with kids anyday. If, however they are as mature and responsible as the ones with kids. Believe it or not, there are some. I'm dating one now with no kids, doesn't want any and I gotta admit, I love it! She treats me like a king, because she has the time and that's a good feeling. I wouldn't trade that for some girl with two kids and less attention.
I love the fact that when we want to go out, we don't have to worry about a babysitter. Our money is our own, not going to raise kids. We can have sex whenever and whereever we like. It's not really selfishness, that's the totally wrong word to use for this, it's freedom! We want to LIVE our lives and not be tied down, or be dragging kids EVERWHERE we go, or worrying about the kids safety/welfare/health. Don't want, nor need the responsibilites. We love kids, don't get me wrong, just everybody else's kids. At the end of the day you can hand them back and you've got your paternal fix without all the other BS that goes with raising kids.  So, to answer your question, Yes many guys are terrified of women with babies. One post in here said "that it's not so much older kids because the boyfriend can talk and relate to them, whereas with babies it's harder. | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 7/31/2006 5:22:11 AM | I'm dating one now with no kids, doesn't want any and I gotta admit, I love it! She treats me like a king, because she has the time and that's a good feeling. I wouldn't trade that for some girl with two kids and less attention.
I love the fact that when we want to go out, we don't have to worry about a babysitter. Our money is our own, not going to raise kids. We can have sex whenever and whereever we like. It's not really selfishness, that's the totally wrong word to use for this, it's freedom! We want to LIVE our lives and not be tied down, or be dragging kids EVERWHERE we go, or worrying about the kids safety/welfare/health. Don't want, nor need the responsibilites. We love kids, don't get me wrong, just everybody else's kids. At the end of the day you can hand them back and you've got your paternal fix without all the other BS that goes with raising kids. So, to answer your question, Yes many guys are terrified of women with babies. One post in here said "that it's not so much older kids because the boyfriend can talk and relate to them, whereas with babies it's harder.
I Agree we do love kids, but we choose to not have any of our own, I love the freedom that we have, and trust me we do get our share of kids, i have a large family, yesterday we spent the day at my brothers with my family as it was my 3 yr old nieces birthday, and we had our fill of kids for a bit...lol no really it is fun to just play with them and not have the worries that go with being a parent.... so I agree and I am happy that I have a man that does not want kids, because it makes it easier in a sense because he understands why i dont want to have children, but to all the single moms out there maybe just maybe if you didnt throw your children at the guys you date it may just work out better for you....and you know what it does not matter how old the kids are it is hard for anyone to adjust i dated a guy who had kids and you know what it was not for me... i love my life and i love my freedom to do as i want when i want..... and hey baby you treat me like a queen too and i love it...... | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 7/31/2006 11:00:01 AM | All, i can say is my lil girl is going to be a year next month, and i find men love her. But , her dad left when i was 16 weeks preggo and I dated on and off had 2 dates while i was preggo but that was way to weird ! but, girl enjoy that baby, i love kids and she has given me so much joy! I have an 11 yr old boy so , it has been fun! God has a plan for you sweetie! | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 7/31/2006 4:32:42 PM | | babies rock, i have a daughter myself, and i love being a parent, now im not every man in the world. but i do have a fear of becomeing finanially responsible for someone elses child, that would be the only thing keeping me from getting too serious, but then again thats my lack of trust for the opposit sex comeing into play. | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 8/3/2006 6:03:35 AM | I am very sorry that you haven't been able to find someone because you are a good looking woman and I would date you in a heartbeat but its not just women who are having trouble with finding someone that will accept children. I have 2 myself that I am raising on my own. I hope you find what you are looking for and when you do he will be someone special.
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 9/6/2006 4:25:12 AM | I do very well with babies....and by that I dont mean frying them up and serving em with a side order of rice.
I'm single. I'm middle aged in the dating world (34) never married and no kids. But I have friends with kids and have dated women with children. Babies are just alot of work, and some men wont be interested. Even if they are their own progeny. Making this a sex issue is pointless. Alot of women dont care much for a baby (ok time to get ready for flak, but there are piles of woment that mistreat kids on a daily basis. see several webpages before attacking me)
What it comes down to is what an individual wants. If a guy genuinely wants the woman in question he already knows the child is part of the package. Respect everything about a woman, especially her motherhood because most often that bond between herself and her child will outweig any new guy on the scene | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 12/26/2006 10:51:23 AM |
There is no "kid card" and if a woman can't do things because of her kids, it should show to you that she's a responsible loving and loyal person who cares about her children. I mean really, would you want to date a woman who just dumps her kids off with anyone just to party with your selfish behind? Y ou should admire that quality. Most of the GOOD mothers, while we like to have a good time and party once in awhile, it's not a priority. We're homebodies who seek men similar to that.
Well said!!! I care too much about my daughter to just drop her off at the babysitters when a guy sees fit. A real man understands that its not always possible to go out when you have kids. Its a sacrifice i made, i dont expect them to make it too, but if they care and are a decent person, its not an issue.
If the guy is worth my time, my being a mother is just another reason to respect me, not to reject me. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2006 11:09:59 AM | okay, upon reading some of the posts...... i find it just a weeeeeeeeeeeeeee bit RUDE to gloat in a single parents forum about how wonderful life is without children.. to gloat about your 'freedom'... to say things like 'BS that goes with raising kids'... and no, MOST of us dont 'throw our kids at dates'
if you dont have kids and dont care for them...............please stay the out of a single parents forum 
oh and 'is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?'.... yes,men are but only the ones who are terrified of babies lol | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 12/26/2006 6:37:09 PM | hi hun i, i know the feeling ive met some great guys and the minute you mention a baby their off like a shot i think its because men must assume we're man eaters looking for new prey to father our children its ridicolous! i started talking to a great guy on the internet that lived not far from me we were really getting on and was arranging to meet (i was a few months pregnant by then) and i thought i'll have to tell him before i start showing, and the ever so nice guy ran like hell, he said im too young to be a father i was like what the hell are you talking about i didnt ask you to be my sons dad i wanted some company for me but if thats your attitude sod you. and in response to your question hun yes guys do exist that will date women with kids ive been talking to ste now on here for about two weeks and he's great he's everything i could want in a boyfriend, he wants to have kids later on and settle down and his heart is in the right place what more could any girl ask for we're taking things slowly but hes my diamond geezer = ) keep looking hunny your is out there trust me, maybe you'll meet him one day when you least expect it. let me know how you get on if you meet anyone and let me see a pic of your baby x all the best sweet lesley  | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 12/27/2006 5:01:26 PM | | well sugar high i was a single lad when i met my ex wife and she was already pregnant but i fell head over hells for her and took the baby on as my stepson, we stayed together for over ten years and had to more kids and i was very much i love. so if the right guy meets you he will love you and your child. i split from my wife she left me but my stepson is still living with me he's my best mate, so im sure you will meet someone to love soon, all the best for the up coming year. | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 12/27/2006 9:57:22 PM | I find that men over the age of 30 are less intimidated by babies. But overall, I would have to say that in general men are more comfortable with older children (ones out of diapers).
It's not to say that they don't like babies, just that babies take alot of work.
And believe it or not, there are women also that would hesitate to date a man that has full custody of his baby. My son's school director is one of those women. Her kids are entering their teenage years and she's not interested in potentially being stepmommy of a baby. As a single woman in her 40s with teens and a full fledged career, starting over with a baby would be difficult. | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 12/27/2006 10:02:48 PM | | Some men just have diffrent things they want out of life right just like us girls but the way i see it who cares if you have 10 kids if they like you they will like them too, arent our children reflections of ourselves! You'll find a decent one just keep looking. | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 12/28/2006 11:57:52 AM | | It all comes down to the individual man, I've always wanted a family and started one early. While I don't like to generalize, it could be more of an issue of many of the men who don't mind women with kids are already in relationships?... | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 12/28/2006 12:05:58 PM | it has been 6 weeks!
give it a few months before getting to worried about it.
Most of my friends with kids spend the first 6 months trying to get some sleep before worrying about dating.
Yes you will date again, some men do like kids others do not!
I have dated women with kids and am understanding to it, does that make me different or an 
NOPE
lots of guys are cool with it, but get into a patern with your baby and enjoy... they grow soo fast at that time of life... enjoy it and then let the dating thing fall into place later...much later | |
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| is it just me or are men terified of women with babies?
Posted: 1/16/2007 4:26:40 PM |
ive met a few guys that dont mind my older ones but are slightly more freaked out by my 15 month old, i think some guys think that if your single with a baby, you cant be fully over the childs father yet. they also think the father will play an active role and that may be a threat.
Another thing that probably turns a lot of guys off about younger kids is maybe they don't know how to take care of one. Older kids can take care of themselves, more or less. I, myself, grew up with 4 siblings (and helped raise them all) so I'm not turned off by single moms with babies. | |
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