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Posted: 2/13/2006 9:23:02 PM | this one is tough... even if they tell you there's no way for you to know if it's true or not.. I'd like to leave the past in the past...  | |
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| How many partners
Posted: 2/14/2006 12:15:31 AM | i think id rather know the brutal truth how many they have slept with lol
it may suck but its cool i wouldnt place a judgement on the person then i d know
cuz if someones asks me i hate admitting how many but i do cuz im honest and just cuz some might have slept with lots there isnt anything worng with that just hopefully they played it sae if not
then i wouldnt go there cuz ewwww diseases are gross
but i think the numbers should be know its not that bad lol | |
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| How many partners
Posted: 2/14/2006 12:44:24 AM | | when i get asked how many i go on about how numbers dont give a true indication of a personas sexual history... i ask them whats better... a guy who has had sex with 2 gfs a year since he was 16... or a guy who has only 5 partners but 4 were one nighters... once they get that i tell them "about a dozen"... i lost count recently but i think its around 20 now... who knows for sure though | |
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Posted: 2/14/2006 7:21:07 AM | check out what happened to me:
i start dating my future wife, we are getting along great, sex is awesome, the works. however over time i start to notice as we looked at my photo album she was saying stuff like, "i did him", or i would mention some story from my past about my neighborhood or something and she would say "did that guy, did this guy", not dated, went steady with, just "did". she seemed to think it was funny. i let it go for a long time, but for some weird reason it sarted to hurt more the more i grew to love her. suddenly, like one day, it totaly freaked me out. i almost couldnt breath. my precious baby had been naked, horny, touched, etc by so many diferent men?! now i was very confused, why did this hurt, how could i make it stop?? then one day when we were drinking the subject came up and she told me even more. like the time she did six guys in 5 days, the year she had sex w/ a diferent guy every weekend, the time she did this guy i grew up w/ in a bathroom at a party, the time she did my punky boyhood neighbor.....arhhh.
i am a guy, and i know how most guys talk about their conquests, chicks that slept around, etc. the guys in here that deny this are just trying to get layed by the chicks in this site. why would a single lonely horny dude come in here and say he hated chicks that put out and slept around? it would be counterproductive!!
tell me honestly, for instance even if your wife told you she once did an old aquaintence of yours in a bathroom at a party, then again in a car, you would feel NOTHING??
wow. maybe i am insane.
i still mean no harm, i did not come here to be judged, yelled at whatever. i am hurting and i really cant figure out why or how to stop. i guess i was looking to see if anybody is or was in this situation, and how they felt or got over it. sorry again if i offended anyone. | |
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Posted: 2/15/2006 1:17:57 AM | | I'm not judging you at all. Because my husband and i are in an open realtionship i'm too used to being judged so i don't do it. It's really not about how many men she's been with though. It's about your insecurities. She only "did" them and chose you for the long term. I've had sex with my husbands friend while he was in the next room and he's ok with that because he knows that in the end i'm going home with him and he's the love of my life and the one who truly has my heart. Sex is just sex. It's not personal. She made it personal with you. | |
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SimsZG
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Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 82 | |
| How many partners
Posted: 2/15/2006 1:46:53 AM | LOTS OF SEX = HOW GOOD IS THE PERSON IN BED.
MULTIPLES partners in the past: Not to be tiresome, BUT, someone experienced will be more inclined to do stuff and try things that have worked before, and thus make a better impression in the bedroom. They will have had enough funny and not so funny things happen to them that they are able to assess YOUR needs and devote the right mixture to make you squirm.
FEW BUT OFTEN: I mean what if I have been with only 2 people but had sex every night for the past 10 years? Chances are I would be damn good at pleasing that one person, and probably good at pleasing a few others with similar tastes, but will my confidence be flogged because I am too specialized? Not necessarily. Anyone who has been in a long term relationship has probably ridden the rollercoaster of crappy sex-awesome sex all with the same person. This is good, since it will allow you to be more able to train and coach the person into the partner you want.
MY ANSWER IS: A little bit of both goes a long way. Enough partners to make you realize that you want quality not quantity, and enough of the long term sex partner to know how to aim high rather than the quick fix. In the end, its still about having had plenty of sexual experiences in order to provide yer partner with a better time.
MY 2 CENTS | |
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| How many partners
Posted: 2/15/2006 1:59:36 AM | I agree with Pandy
Sex is amazingly fun and good for your health. The only negative thing to come from sex is STD's and unwanted children so as long as those facts are looked after I could care less how many people I have/will sleep with or how many my partner has slept with. | |
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Posted: 2/15/2006 2:03:10 AM | | There's nothing worse than a someone bragging about all the sex they've had. | |
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Posted: 2/15/2006 7:33:30 AM | | what do you think about a woman who has a one nighter w/ you when you see her in a relationship down the road? do you feel like you kinda know something about her he doesent [what you and her did, how she was easy] almost like you have something on him? | |
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Posted: 2/16/2006 9:55:21 AM |
There's nothing worse than a someone bragging about all the sex they've had.
The only thing worse is a person that would have sex with one. | |
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.Lisa
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Joined: 2/4/2006
Msg: 87 | |
| How many partners
Posted: 2/18/2006 10:16:44 AM |
last count 160 or so
160 woman !!!!!!!!! jesus christ and ur on a dating site cause ??? LMFAO | |
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Posted: 2/18/2006 10:56:54 AM | | Personaly it doesn't matter to me how many people a partner has been with, std's not withstanding. I didn't always live the life of a monk myself before I settled down and started a family 9 years ago. As long as mutual fidelity is important to whoever my partner is in a relationship I have the basis for a potentialy successful union. | |
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| How many partners THE ONLY ANSWER
Posted: 2/18/2006 10:57:29 AM | Look - once you sit and give it some serious thought.... there is ONLY one answer.
There is NO useful purpose served by count and stating the notches on your bedpost. Inevitablly, one or the other or both - are hurt by this information.
So why do it?
Unless your 'Id' needs that stroking such that you have to compare sexual partner numbers - what purpose does counting and sharing that information serve?
Again - not a wise choice. | |
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Posted: 2/18/2006 12:15:07 PM | I think women are afraid to admit the number of partners they've had and like to be perceived as "pure".
I view women who have had many partners (15+) as having low self-esteem, no restraint, and in need of some type of validation.....and, yes, I will date them (I've dated quite a few of them) but I would never get serious with them. They are only good enough to be **** buddies.
Let's face it, there is a double standard, but I don't think it is necessarily wrong.....rather, it's just the way things work in this country. And girls who break the "rules" don't have a shot at someone like me (tall, financially well-off, very good looking, great sense of humor) for a real connection, commitment, or long term relationship.
In summa, I only get serious with high self-esteem girls, but I play with all the rest. :) | |
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Posted: 2/21/2006 1:52:50 PM | it's a pride thing to me. i dont like knowing other dudes know my wife use to be an easy lay. i dont like knowing they know they have been there done that and found a real woman to settle with while i got her.
why else did they not ask her out?? just did her whenever they got the chance.
how do you stand knowing your wife has been naked, touched, f-d by 100 diff guys many who you knew?? | |
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Posted: 2/21/2006 7:08:06 PM | geewhat,
I admit that would bother me also.
I do not think the numbers matter as much as how she let other men treat her.
If she lets men use and discard her over and over, I am supposed marry her exactly why?
Beyond the principle, women who permit this tend to be crazy. But in the end, I have no room to talk and I would rather marry a sane ex porn starlet than a crazy virgin (hi adriana!) | |
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mft
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Joined: 2/11/2006
Msg: 93 | |
| How many partners
Posted: 2/21/2006 7:21:55 PM | | Rule of thumb? whatever a man says (if he's dumb enough to) divide by 4. whatever a woman says, multiply by 4. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2006 7:52:21 PM | No,I don't see the purpose or what business is it of anyone's
besides the men that I have been with.I don't kiss & tell. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 5:35:43 PM | retarded man, who really keeps count?? honestly I stopped 'keeping count' after like grade 10 guys, and if its the triple digits than who cares? when women ask me whats the number I tell them its enough, end of discussion, any women that ask a number have security issues, I never ask a woman how many partners she has been with, I think the important question to ask is when their last check up was while your both walking hand and hand to the clinic to get checked again.
this guy who says 160 last count, do you actually have notches in a bed post or a little black book? either or.... get a life | |
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Derps
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Joined: 2/23/2006
Msg: 96 | |
| How many partners
Posted: 3/2/2006 5:58:40 PM | for me it just depends if she keeps in contact with them, cause do it once ur able to do it again.
plus some people pride themselves on not having to many partners, tend to be old fashion | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 6:02:57 PM | i was honest with a girl i wanted to get serious with about how many women id slept with and she was sickened .i totally blew it..she never talked to me again so to get over her i went out and slept with a few more | |
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Posted: 3/6/2006 2:02:06 AM | Lmao @ tallnhandsome... nice to see the cave man mentality is alive and well. Yes i have been with 15 guys in the past year alone but i always turn down the ones with your mentality who think they're special because they have money. I guess the fact that guys like you have tried to buy me and been rejected makes me the low self esteem whore with morals.
"it's the way things work in the country" yeah and some countries find female genital mutilation socially acceptable too... doesn't make it right or even understandable?
I hope you find your woman though. Someone shallow enough for you but not too sexually experienced. You wouldn't want her to know what shes doing and potentially be disappointed by you ;-) | |
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Posted: 3/6/2006 4:07:38 AM | If anyone asks me that question then they sure as hell are gonna get a shock.
ZERO , NIL , NONE , ZILCH , NADA absolutely 0 | |
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Ki-Ki
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Joined: 4/7/2006
Msg: 100 | |
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