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| Beauty in the eye of the beholder
Posted: 1/17/2006 6:38:51 AM | | I think the man just relly loved you...and in his own words was telling you that no matter what you looked like....he loved you. | |
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| Beauty in the eye of the beholder
Posted: 1/19/2006 5:47:07 PM | | He loved someone else, which I have said before... thanks mesna for the imput earlier. I have aged gracefully and have learned a lot about life. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2006 7:57:46 PM | You know what ladypagey.. that is what life is about. As we age we have to learn to accept the good and bad in our lives. Appreciate the good.. use those memories for smiles during bad times and the bad things in our lives, we need to just use them for lessons of life. Once something negative happens in our life there is nothing much you can do to change it, but don't let it happen in vain, use it for something good. Either learn from it.. or try and see some good that might come from it. If you dwell on everything rotten that's happened to you then you are not living... you are not going forward with your life you are standing still or going backwards. God only gives us so many minutes on this earth and we need to make the best out of each and every one of them.
OUCH.. I just fell off my soap box... dang it.... | |
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Posted: 1/19/2006 8:37:13 PM | | all those years I was so into the past... now I want the present and future and treasure each of you for the words of wisdom and sage advice you can offer. If only I can offer a word or two back to someone else. I'll feel my life worth lived. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2006 9:41:01 PM | Beauty in the eye of the beholder
True, its just that some have more "beholders" than others -but numbers dont matter,
if its the right one , 1 is enough. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2006 10:34:32 PM | carribean king... that is so sweet... I burst into tears... all misty eyes... just wish to be considered a beauty in the right one's eyes... Thanks mesna... you are the greatest.... | |
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Posted: 1/19/2006 10:54:22 PM | | Lady, I do believe beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I happen to think you are beautiful. Both physically, as well as inside. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2006 11:27:49 PM | | I think that beauty comes out through your eyes,your interactions with people and your family,and physically there are always different areas which are gorgeous-eyes,hands,the way you walk, your legs,your hair-and HEY we all have at least one of those areas we are pretty in-mabe yr husband didn't get a chance to tell you all of the ways you ARE beautiful in- some guys are pretty horrid with expressing feelings and thoughts-but he was with you for a long time so there was beauty in the relationship...and a long partenership is beautiful and so RARE!!! | |
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Posted: 1/21/2006 1:16:05 PM | ..Ladypagey you are a beautiful woman, this man you were married to was obviously blind. It took a lot of courage for you to stay in a bad marriage. We all love you.  | |
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| Beauty in the eye of the beholder
Posted: 1/21/2006 8:35:35 PM | | I agree. I don't find Uma Thurman or Gwyneth Paltrow all THAT attractive, but alot of guys I know think they are bombshells. Or even Camren Diaz. Those girls are considered very pretty by alot of people, but to me they are so so. Now, Eva Mendez, Leah Remini(King of Queens) and Salma Hayek - WHOAH! Those girls float my boat like nobody. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. That's why I kind of chuckle to myself when I hear someone label someone else as being pretty or ugly and they say it as if their opinions are absolute. Each individual is different. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2006 6:10:11 PM | | each individual is a unique creation.. no two exactly alike and each perfection to someone out there. Thanks to each for being who they are. Beauties or diamonds in the rough. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 12:31:26 AM | It shocks and saddens me. I started reading this thread (can't sleep) and I was supprised at what I was reading in many ways. The tender beauty that I can see on the internet???
I had to open your profile, looked just at your picture and saw such tender beauty. I can not figure how a man would not say that you are beautiful. There are a lot of beautiful people on this site, and a lot of kind people on this site. But to have both the tender and beauty shine through on the internet is a rare thing that I treasure.
I do not mean to sound mushy, just damn honest. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 2:10:10 AM | | Thanks little lady... your words were needed at this moment. I burst into tears at your words as I needed comfort of words heart felt... super hero you have become. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 2:16:49 AM | I had/have a mother that years ago was a very beautiful woman. Through the years her insides became her outside. After two face lifts (never should have been needed) her looks just kept deteriating so badly. She could not understand why, I am so sorry to say I understood. Her inside became her outside and no doctor could fix what was inside of her.
I say I had/have, she is very much alive. But in my life I choose who to allow to be unkind to me. I have a choice to open a door, go in a room and be abused or to just stay away.
I choose who I am with therefore I choose how I am treated. We all have to remember it is in our control even if it is so difficult to walk away from family or friends.
You my dear lady, are beautiful and I could only wish, and I mean wish hard, that my mother was able to keep her beauty as you have done. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 5:38:04 AM | My heartfelt condolences and prayers, dear Lady on the passing of your beloved father.
I know how you feel right now, because my own dad was my main source of support, growing up in a household of 3 sisters and mom. They picked my self esteem apart because they were smaller than I was, and he would tell them to leave me alone, I was fine the way I was. The school children were even more cruel and it was so bad that they even made me think I was so fugly that I would overeat. It wasn't till my dad passed that I lost his support and kind words. I went on a starvation diet, and suddenly started having more men notice me in my 20's. My sisters and mom had beat my self esteem into the ground, so I found men that would try to bring that back up, but it was so ingrained in my mind that I felt unattractive still. I hit a stumbling block when I met and lived with an abusive jealous man over 10 years ago. He too tore me down, and when we split, I went back to my own destructive behaviour, so he wouldn't try to come back. Till 2004, I hadn't wanted to go out of my comfort zone, to meet anyone. It's been an amazing experience to meet so many people that would tell me that I was beautiful. I think we're all a work in progress, and we all try to improve on what God gave us, except my X. He's gotten fuglier in the last 10 years, because of the way he treats people and his fugly attitude towards life in general. It's even affecting his health too.
So yes dear Lady, if you love yourself and see yourself as beautiful, believe it, you are. Others will perceive it as well, and so will your love of your life. If others try to say you're not, get away from them. They don't love themselves period and will try to bring you down with them. As was mentioned ealier on the first page, that when he took the time to get to know a lady, he saw her as beautiful, whereas his friends did not. I feel that would be key in finding someone that is truly the one you're were meant to love and cherish.
I wish y'all the best, especially Lady and M. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2006 10:47:02 AM | | sometimes something or someone comes along to undermine the very core of what you believe and causes doubt as how you look to come about. Recently I have some nagging self doubts. When this happens I reflect on this thread and each of your comments. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2006 10:21:43 AM | Well my lady,
How are things? My neice just brought to my attention POF Speed Dating events
Next one in Waterloo...I go to local POF dances and events. I have found I just have to have my emotions balance me after coffee dates etc and sit back and see where friendship goes. Even online friendships. I am new as of Nov/05...controlling..self esteem went down..my side of the street is' I let the sultle control get worse....suggested counselor..to show us how to treat one another..but he said we're not going to counseling so you can get the use of the car back..that was one of the last straws...................but this butterfly underneath, I remember the strong athletic 17 year old woman I was; and still attend and taught water aerobics. I buy local theater events and get out to movies myself...I just sit in car window down with sun to rejuvenate me and tunes playing...kicking my feet out the window; talk to everyone, parking lot, grocery store...pool, the more encounters in life..the more alive I feel...a part of...I was debating to take a glass blowing class $495; "classes" promote company and inter action, fun....I also sing alto in choir, another family and read bible at breakfast to my 17 yr old and send e-mails to my 22 yr old, including neat affirming verses..There is change and if we start liking changes and go for things...we'll bounce back and thrive...Best of luck gal ladypagey | |
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