Bk2
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| Beauty in the eye of the beholder
Posted: 4/20/2006 9:19:34 AM | Ladypagey,
Of course he loved you for your whole package!
So many people are unable to express themselves in a poetic way.......look back on the positive......seems he tripped up....
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder -we see the true person that makes us feel the way we do
A persons physical attractiveness is augmented when they are talented, liked, and respected...etc....
Good luck in finding that beautiful person suited for you....
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| Beauty in the eye of the beholder
Posted: 4/20/2006 8:43:03 PM | God made us all equal, some just chose not to use the
good sense god gave us , I was very happy to read all
the replies as i was
most pleasently surprised. I'm sure if your husaband was
here he would tell you he also loved you for whats on the
inside or he could have got what he was looking for somehwere
else. You are a wonderful person and you will find happiness within yourself. | |
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Bk2
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Joined: 4/15/2006
Msg: 203 | |
| Beauty in the eye of the beholder
Posted: 4/20/2006 10:41:32 PM | Now if I was to pick the reply to go by.....I would have to recommend
Jeweles...loving the person within is what it is all about.....
Very nice Jeweles......let me count thy ways.....0:)
Be happy!
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| Beauty in the eye of the beholder
Posted: 4/20/2006 10:59:21 PM | "Beautiful" is highly overrated. I've generally been catagorized as cute. That's perfectly fine with me. I'd much rather be cute and intelligent than beautiful anyday. He probably saw so many other qualities in you that maybe he overlooked exterior beauty. Regardless, the fact that you still think about that single conversation speaks volumes. My son's sperm donor (yes, he's a real person...but did nothing more than that!) said something to me 23 years ago that rings in my ears all the time "You are so pretty.....BUT...." I was overweight at the time. To this day ~ I'm a slave to the scale. How silly is that ??? Unfortunately, sometimes saying something without thinking, even one word ("no.") will stay with us much longer than all of the wonderful things we hear. I've had to replace his nasty comment with positive ones I've heard over the years. I truly think, your husband probably answered in haste and without much thought...that's ok, because in the end, he loved you anyway!!!  | |
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rahowa
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Joined: 4/20/2006
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| Beauty in the eye of the beholder
Posted: 4/20/2006 11:12:22 PM | | who is the beholder? is the beholder one that ultimately judges and decides your fate? if he is human, then no. if he is god, then worry about whether you are beautiful in the eye of the beholder... | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 4:45:51 PM | | Wow, I would think that would really hurt to be told that. I believe when you love someone you think they are beautiful outside and inside. After all we are looking at the whole of the person. I am sorry he told you that. It just isn't true. There is beauty in everyone! | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 8:40:31 PM | | Many years ago ago a friend told me why are you going after that girl, she isn't pretty. A few years later he says, she is a great girl I'm sorry for what I said before. | |
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| Beauty in the eye of the beholder
Posted: 5/14/2006 9:15:44 PM | | I definately agree with that statement.I think Brad Pitt is an ugly guy.But more than half the world thinks he is hot.So go figure. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 11:34:50 PM | | I am 20 and I am cool real nice fun type person. I have had a lot of females say they want someone nice that will do them right. But when the get that they still not happy I don't get it tell me what you think? | |
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| why do famales say they want a nice guy?
Posted: 8/21/2007 5:03:09 PM | | beauty in the eye of the beholder means precisely that. Perhaps to 99% of the population looks scary but to the beholder a dream come true and nice and loyal and just a ray of sunlight and all that. After I started the thread all that time ago I have come to realize with all your help that somewhere the right one is...I will look at him and he will look at me and with time and patience a dream come true..... | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 5:22:27 PM | Oh no, now I get it. The reason why I am so alone. That the beaty is in the eyes of the beholder. I think I am hansome but the girls I have met on line see me as ugly. Shame oH shame. Thats ok, I love me even if nobody else does.
Ok, seriously beauty comes from many places, a person place or even a thing (me). But the best beauty of all is whats inside, this can not change nor be corrupted with various things that effect our every day life. Its something that is felt not sean and this my freinds is something very special in the eyes of the beholder. It has nothing to do with smoking or not, rich or poor, tall or fat. Its something that is so magical, and so special not everyone feels it with just anyone. Its also what binds a couple together in good and bad times. It feeds them with a seed that grows inside like the mighty oak. Its the best adventure that takes both you to places erotic and wonderful. There is so much more that it becomes a poem or even a song made for two. Its bigger then the stars and brighter then the moon. Its has no concept of age but it has brought men to their knees and women to tears. It has no desire to seek more or to give any less. Its the beauty found when two hearts meet and become truly one! | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 6:32:18 PM | Media today seems to portray that the only way a person can be beautiful is by how they look on the outside. Skinny women are far more desired (as per media) then a woman of my size. It gets hard to think of yourself as beautiful when all through life, you have been told the oposite. I have been teased since I can remember about being fat, being ugly... and you know what? No matter how many people try to tell me differently, the negative feeling always seem to win. Beauty is definately in the eyes of the beholder. To one you may be ugly, but yet to another you might just be perfect.
It gets hard to see yourself as the "beholder" seems to see you, when all you can hear is how fat, how ugly... how undesirable you are because of being told that sooo much growing up. I never thought that I would ever have someone to love. I honestly didn't feel worthy of that... and hell even sometimes, I wonder what he sees in me. I will admit I am a totally awesome person inside, mypersonality I wouldnt change even for a million dollars. Oh wait, maybe if I had a million dollars I could make my exterior look better? haha
One thing Ive tried to keep my mind set on is this quote:
"Another persons garbage, might just turn out to be someone else's treasure." | |
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| Beauty in the eye of the beholder
Posted: 8/21/2007 6:36:19 PM | | When other people are judging you, beauty is not in the eye of the beholder. When you are judging yourself, beauty is yours to define! | |
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Posted: 8/22/2007 7:34:41 AM | | As I have aged I have aged like fine wine and thusly a tad more mellow or perhaps zingy.Beauty has come with age..... | |
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Posted: 8/22/2007 8:08:32 AM | Absolutely! I have told my son and his friends that they shouldn't be caught up in looks alone...I have met guys that were very handsome, but their attitude and brain brought their level of attractiveness down considerably. I've also met some that weren't necessarily head turners, but they had a personality that made then the best looking guy in the world. Really, it doesn't matter how attractive you are or think you are, nobody looks good with their foot in their mouth.
Remember there are people in this world that like to be in control, these people will say things to make you feel less about yourself. They want you to feel lucky you have them so you won't leave. You are a lovely person. | |
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Hal9K
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Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 217 | |
| Beauty in the eye of the beholder
Posted: 8/22/2007 8:26:21 AM |
As I have aged I have aged like fine wine and thusly a tad more mellow or perhaps zingy.Beauty has come with age.....
Lady, Beauty is not in the eye the beholder, its the level of perception of the beholder and/or what senses they are currently able to use.
If you want the true answer to a question like this, ask someone who has lost their sight and rely on all their other senses. After all, what would your question mean to someone without this ability? Im sure, based on what I read what others think about you, as well as my basic hunch, that you would would not only get an honest assessment from someone like that but would also get a resounding yes to your question.
Its also, like you said, a time(or maturation issue) after all, what I find beautiful or moving to the senses now didn't have the same impact 20-30 years ago. Ever meet someone who was stunning to the eye, only to find out more about who and what they were later on diminished that initial glaze down to a sneer or snicker the next time you met them? I feel for those who rely on one or only a few perceptions when they evaluate others. It usually ends up only hurting themselves later on in relationships. Your husband may have just chose his words poorly, or maybe not. Whatever the case, he apparently was drawn to something in you. But I think you know that answer better than anyone else to your question. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2007 8:33:25 AM | | I do agree that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. However there are some people who are generally considered to be attractive or unattractive by most other people. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2007 9:01:01 AM | | Beauty being in the eye of the beholder I think means that you can see inner beauty and it is stronger than the outer appearence of the person who has it. I think its awful that our lives are determind by the shape of our bones! Facial beauty is based on mm's of difference in bone sizes as well as societies ideal of beauty (and a whole load of other things im guessin). I would much rather have an inner beauty which people love me for than just the outer appearence and nothing inside to back it up. In an ideal world being both would be great, but if we all had everything we wanted-everything would be really really boring. At the end of the day he loved you for who you are and not what you are, and I think that means a lot more in this day and age. | |
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| Beauty in the eye of the beholder
Posted: 8/22/2007 10:31:19 AM | > (OP) Is beauty in the eye of the beholder?
No.
While there can be no accounting for taste in individual instances, people all over the world pretty much find the same things beautiful, and the same things ugly. What we call beauty is an evolved part of human nature, and since we all have about the same genes we all have about the same beauty detector.
Those who repeat the "eye of the beholder" canard are usually trying to salve the conscience of someone who's suffering from the effects of not being very beautiful. | |
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Hal9K
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Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 222 | |
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| Beauty in the eye of the beholder
Posted: 8/23/2007 7:08:23 AM | | Hal9k.. ^^^ you are right and also about the words of maturing in earlier post. As we mellow we look at ourself with a less critical eye and begin to value others more valuable.. Each of you a treasure... Worth knowing..... | |
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| Beauty in the eye of the beholder
Posted: 8/23/2007 9:57:24 AM | I had to check your profile to make sure what I'm about to say would not offend you. Your profile indicates you are a Christian (Christ-like). Our beauty begins deep within, where the Holy Spirit dwells, and radiates by HIS power in everything we say and do to the glory of God. Depending on who is doing the "beholding" and the condition of their heart, they should see the beautiful individual that you are inside, outside, and through your actions and words.
Now, I'm not trying to preach or appear to be a fanatic, I'm just a Christian lady who believes that "who I am" is a child of God, a joint-heir with Jesus, and beautiful by virtue of my TOTAL APPEARANCE. If I am successful in letting others see Jesus in me, then how can they not see the TRUE beauty?
You are a beautiful lady. There is a glow your face and a sparkle in your eyes that shows in your profile picture. I would imagine that anyone who sees you in person can see much more than the picture shown on this site.
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| Beauty in the eye of the beholder
Posted: 8/23/2007 12:48:23 PM | When I meet someone, looks are not an issue, the man could be short, tall, bald, long hair, thin, bigger, handsome or not....it really doesn't matter...I look for the inner beauty that is in this person. The way he expresses himself, how he looks at you, can you see the tenderness in his eyes?. You can tell so much by a person's eyes...They are to door to one's soul, so it is said...You can generally see the kindness, the love, the affection this person has, if they are at peace or not, ect... if you pay good attention, you can really see the person's inner beauty or not...You can feel it also...So yes beauty is in they eyes of the beholder... Take your time and really see someone for who they really are....makes a big difference...
I think your hubby seen who you really were on the inside and looks did not matter to him...He loved you for your true self... | |
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