| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/8/2005 3:59:03 PM | Because he was dumb enough to not delete the emails they store right here on the site for you? I know I don't delete mine every day from who contacts me. But then again I am single so I have no worries!  | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/8/2005 4:00:36 PM | Nope.. my browser remembers my profile name AND password (let's not generalize here)
I don't have anything to hide. I am, in fact, single and although a friend does access my computer he would have no reason to care one way or the other who contacts me or I them. I often leave windows open and even encourage him to read some of the profiles (I got him, a nice guy btw, a computer and am waiting for him to get enough confidence at using a computer to go online)
Shifting blame is a move of a defensive person. Checking out browser history is often done by someone who is not feeling confident.
Yes, I am one of the few that believes cyber relationships are just as real emotionally as a RT one. If one was to invest as much time and effort in their present relationships as they spend looking for a 'greener pasture' their own would be in better condition.
My 10 cents (inflation IS rampant) | |
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Jan762
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Joined: 5/19/2005
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kedco
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Joined: 9/5/2005
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/8/2005 6:26:17 PM | | you can't be sure he was looking for someone else, i'm not making excuses for your now EX boyfriend, but I can tell you that sometimes, people in relationships get a little bored at work, with the relationship. It doesn't mean they're unhappy. i get bored with my hair, that doesn't mean i'm gonna chop it all off. That you caught him 'online' is one thing, i'd put money on it that he lost faith in you first after he discovered you talking to someone, his own wicked little mind worked overtime-shame on him for not trusting you. he was talking to other women online, is that a crime, are you married? are you telling me that you would never talk to another man because you are in a serious relationship with one. It's not because you are looking for someone better, but because you should always feel entitled to your freedom. What is most worrisome is that he hid this from you, and that he attached blame to you. as if you deserved to be deceived. I wish you lots of love in your future relationships. I promise you'll be alot wiser and more careful in the next one. | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/8/2005 6:45:36 PM | | belle-6 you had better run from this piece of work. Hes looking to replace you for what ever reason. Run girl ,,,, RUN | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/8/2005 6:46:53 PM | | oh you guys stop complaining ! ONE TIME long ago , i stumbled upon a profile only on another site, while at my guys home, when i returned home after my trip, i logged into profiles to check out the name, and it was him allright, complete with long blond wig, boobs, a dress and painted nails as a woman! like someone said, if you dont want to know, dont look! | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/8/2005 7:02:53 PM | From what I read here, she did not name him HERE..she CONTACTED those women HE contacted and let them know ..I'm sorry, I see nothing wrong in her doing that to protect those women who may not have known this info...
We all know we take a chance on these site and there are Dogs and Bitc*** out there that do this sort of cheating thing...If she had plastered his name here then I would have said she had gone too far as far as the rules for this forum, but she Did not...I'm sure at least one of the women she let know what happened was although maybe not happy to hear she'd been deceived was at least happy to know he was a dog before things went further.....
Sorry this happened but at least you found out... | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/8/2005 7:54:15 PM | | Why is it everyone takes her post as gospel? Ever think maybe she is a jilted girlfriend or ex wife that happened across his profile and is just trying to cause problems for him? Remember there are always two sides to every story. Sounds like you have already convicted him and he may not have did anything wrong."Obviousy he is whoring around" You do not even know this guy | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/8/2005 9:41:14 PM | wow I guess we can look at this from both sides of the coin..first: he should have been honest with you-and how do you know he wasn't just here for the forums?
Now-when a woman has wronged a man and told him -he will throw it in her face every grievance they have together.
Another thing if you are around each other every waking min. 'cept for labor hours-what makes you think he has done anything wrong//?? even if he did email them-going into his pc and personal files is intrusive and invasive-heck even when vinny was alive I never even went into his pockets or wallet or nothing..too many bad feelings come about when one does not trust someone.
If you aren't satisfied with the way things are going-change that-you can forgive and forget or walk on.
Wow-looks like you wiped that smile right off his face too. when a man is cheating a woman always knows-but if it is a conversation on a pc without physical contact-why are you so worried and jealous?? If any of those women were friends -you are gonna feel pretty foolish.
Remember: you are not married..he was just a bf. anyway-did he commit totally?sounds like he is holding grudges just to have control over something to hold over your head-ah who needs that??Is your profile new???a guilty party always gets angry first too.. | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/9/2005 6:11:33 AM | | His sign on is not set to automatic. I simply clicked on history and "today's most visited sites" and every profile and instant message he sent came up on the screen. He deleted the history listed under "Today" but not under "most visited sites". It's over and done now so all this doesn't matter anymore. In fact, I'll post a copy of a reply I sent to a harsh person on this board who was not one of the women he contacted fyi. People, in the future please don't say anything at all if you're not going to support someone in their time of need. That's rude and demonstrates your need to hurt others. | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/9/2005 6:28:43 AM | This is a copy of my response to someone who rudely emailed me.
I'm no naive chick but I expected more from him AT THIS TIME in our relationship. I've been married before so I am fully aware of the shortcomings of humans. However, we were closer than I have ever been with anyone. We slept, ate and bathed together. We were in each others arms every hour except for work. His one day off and a few hours away from me and he goes on this site. Life goes on now that I'm over the shock. But everyone's allowed time to process something so unexpected. | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/9/2005 8:23:12 AM |  OMG PROOF that all men think the same. I DID hack into my x b/f yahoo message archives and read them and when I saw where he was chatting with a woman calling her lover and planning to leave the next week to go and be with her he said the same as your b/f, that he knew I was reading his archives and that it was all a setup and that the woman was actually his cousin. Now...my b/f is black, the woman was white, she had lots of pics in her profile and what did he say???? The pictures were a setup too, they were fake. She posted them over a period of 3 yrs beginning in 2002. Men think women are sooooo freaking ignorant, or most of the men I have delt with anyway. Why when they get busted red handed can't they just fess up?? Needless to say within 3 days...2 days earlier than he had planned he was on a bus to maine to her. I say...goodbye, and to her I say...goodluck. Do I still love him?? HELL YES! Not sure about you guys but I don't stop loving someone that I have loved for 3 yrs overnite, but do I want him back? HELL NO!! 3 yrs of woman after woman, lie after lie, secret after secret is enough for me. I will one day find the right man that will be honest, faithful and nonabusive!!!
Anyway, just thought it was amusing that this b/f said basically the same as mine when he was busted wide open in a lie! | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/9/2005 8:33:12 AM | | I was thinking the same thing. I never saw where she named him on this thread so was wondering why anyone would think the thread should be locked. Of course I thought maybe I just missed something somewhere. I don't see what is wrong with her contacting the women either. I would probably do the same thing just to see if he is chatting with them as friends or making plans for his great escape. I have no problem with a man I am with having women friends, chatting with them, or even socializing with them. I am not that insecure, but the first sign it has gone further than JUST friends thats when I will start investigating, then get the hell out. I despise a cheater. If I feel the need to cheat on a man I am with I will break off the relationship FIRST. | |
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Joined: 8/26/2005
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/9/2005 9:35:46 AM | @belle-6 - Good for you! I hope you will be able to move on in a healthy way. Please don't get the idea that all men are this way, it could wreck future relationships.
@ everyone - The admins have access to get into the posts and edit them. I'll bet that's what happened to the guys name.
@OMG
PROOF that all men think the same.
I want let you know that two of the women I had semi-long term relationships with in my past had cheated on me. One I was with for 5 years and the other for only 18 months. Would that mean that all women think the same? I don't think so. I would like to point out that not all men cheat. I could never cause somone the kind of pain that comes with that, I know it all so well.
I would not try to change anyones mind, I just want to add my experience for what it may be worth.
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/9/2005 10:07:58 AM | Well girl, I'm glad you found out about that pig.....I'd like to know his nickname so I can tell him where to go.......what a prick!!......no not a prick because pricks are useful ......he's garbage!!
Kick that one to the curb!
Take care of yourself!!!!
Knoxgirl | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/9/2005 10:17:03 AM | | There's a BIG difference between actively seeking someone while you are living with someone else and talking to someone while being broken up. He is trying to shift the blame onto you to try and cover up his own guilt and deceit. This guy is a royal loser. And the kind of idiot that makes some women think ALL men are jerks. Guys like this make it hard for the good guys. | |
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Posted: 9/9/2005 10:33:17 AM | danigrl,sorry but this needs to be said, but who made you judge and juror? Why are you being so harsh on her? The way your acting towards her anyone would think that you had been chatting/dating with him.Questioning her on how she found his password,some peoples passwords are initially set, already on their pc's.And like she stated by the history caus unless it's wiped everything is stored on there...
Lets just hope that you yourself,should never find yourself in ever a similar predicament. Put the shoe on the other foot,and for one minute,think about how you yourself would of felt. If you found out your man had done that to you...
We are all individuals,and react differently when rage sets in.She has every right to be upset and annoyed with him.And i see nothing wrong with her exposing him to these women, that he contacted.
If he had nothing to hide, why has he then reacted that way towards her,caus his action's to me indicate a man that is guilty. Caus if it had of been nothing, i'm sure he would of went out off his way, to prove to her otherwise.
You may just be here for the forums, but not everbody else is ok. So just have a bit of compassion for the women as she obviously totally distraught..  pity his name got taken off,but dont suppose it really matters now as there not a couple anymore.. | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/9/2005 12:40:04 PM | i wouldnt worry about it, i caught my gf cheating on me with 2 guys in toronto, and 1 cuban dude who lives in cuba when she was down on vacation there, she slept with all of em, i did my hiv check and came out clean thank goodness, and she freaked out when i found out she was cheating ,saying i was stalking her, damn right i was stalking her and i found out the deal
. but ive moved on, and i feel better of her shitty intentions, damn right plenty of fish in the sea 
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