| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/12/2005 8:55:45 AM | | Maybe if you didn't spend every waking moment with him there would still have been some mystery. If anyone was in my space every moment I'd cheat on them out of spite! | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/12/2005 9:07:20 AM | | Yeah, case in point. This world gets crappier by the minute. And I'm talking across the board. Anyway, what women and men must remember is if you get the person by stealing from another...that's most likely how you'll lose them. Some are callus and don't care. I'm not built like that. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2005 9:08:38 AM | | I guess you didn't see the part where he INSISTED that it be that way. And of course I loved every minute of it. And so did he. He still wants it that way. This weekend he went nowhere and just waited for my next move. Even followed me a few times to see where I was going. Reread what I wrote. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2005 9:26:01 AM | yep it is sad to hear about that. But 3/4 of men population act like that. My b/f did the same, but difference is that he called and tried to date most of my best g/f. They warn me that he calls them and when I tried to talk to him about thet he just got crazy.
I had to forget about him | |
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Tom3
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Joined: 9/6/2005
Msg: 80 | |
| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/12/2005 9:39:13 AM | Contacting the women he contacted is a waste of energy. If you have to "police" a relationship, you dont have one. You do not want to be a mommy. You are better than that.
On the flip side, to say that you are both happy and then to find he is looking
indicates one of you is happy. Get on with your life, find someone else, somewhere else.
Good luck,
tom | |
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Posted: 9/12/2005 9:46:50 AM | | First of all living together is a sin and these days the world just turns their back to it. But god cannot have the wool pulled over his eyes just by being ignored. If you love someone as much as you indicate you do then marry them! I found from personal experience that when you just let a person live with you it almost always ends in heartache. I am not a holier that thou person ,just one who lived through the same thing you have. I found out that god knew what he was doing by instituting marriage between a man and a woman. Sorry for your pain. Been there,done that! | |
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Posted: 9/12/2005 9:47:11 AM | | Yeah Tom, I have decided to move on and I'm not policing the relationship nor was I when I contacted the women. I just wanted to let them know and wouldn't rest til I did. That's just the kind of person I am. We come in all forms. Even though some of you wouldn't have done that, I'm sure there are things you've done that I wouldn't either. I don't regret it and I'd do it again. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2005 9:49:32 AM | | Just to add on to this note...let the board be about this topic in general instead of my isolated incident. I have let go of the episode. It was/is painful for me and you just don't get over this overnight. I'll allow myself the time I need to get past it and nobody has the right to "rush" me. This was the most important relationship of my life. I got over my divorce much easier than it is to get past not being with him anymore. So different strokes for different folks. | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/12/2005 9:53:00 AM | | I did the same thing when I was married to my wife. Internet is fun, cyber sex is fun, it is not like he cheated on you!!!!!! He is only talking to women on it! If you are with him all the time then you know that he is not screwing anyone, right? Let him have cyber sex, who cares if you are as good as married, it is no harm, it is NOT cheating. As for him getting mad, he should! He did not cheat on you, he is only having internet sex. I used to do it all the time and I was married and who cares???? | |
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Posted: 9/12/2005 10:14:17 AM | BElle-6,
boys WILL be boys, but not all of us are like that. I was married 11 years, and had a relationship after my divorce that lasted 4 1/2 years. I have never cheated on anyone that I was in a relationship with. This does not mean that I didn't look at other ladies or THINK about it, but I never acted on it. Strength of character counts!
Give him another chance or toss his butt out. No one can make the decision for you. | |
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gvo
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Joined: 6/1/2005
Msg: 86 | |
| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/12/2005 10:17:22 AM | LONGBOW<<< stfu you really just had CYBER sex?? fock you are lame. who cares?? WE DO FOCKER!! I would have done the same thing. I went through a similar incidant. . but whatever like youn said it is over now. . .shitty deal my friend, I feel for you. BUT you are strong and know better.. just one question?
DID you have a feeling that he was messing around? | |
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Posted: 9/12/2005 10:30:27 AM | Hi GVO...I was cracking up at how you put things. To answer your question I didn't think he was messing around only because of how close we seemed to be. That day I only checked because he had a day off without me unexpectedly and this was following Labor Day when something happened. He shut down Labor Day evening because he thought I wasn't involving him in my plans for the future due to how I worded a few things. I told him I meant nothing by it and of course everything I do I include him was my reply. I knew how fragile he is and I had a gut feeling all day at work that he'd be on the computer which is his old standby/ crutch when he feels lonely or that I can't be depended on to stick around. So basically my hunch was right on.
To sum it up..no matter what the catalyst is...I can't tiptoe around his insecurity anymore. Or be afraid of what he'll do next. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2005 10:39:41 AM | | Belle he just tried to make u feel bad to take the blame off of himself.Men can be rotten sometimes.the lousy creep. Ur better off without him.I was married to a cheater and my life was hell.my boyfriendschats all the time.I know this but i dont think i can trust any man this is not a good way to feel. hang in there girl.there have to be some good fish in this sea.I know of aguy on here who is married. His wife is really sweet. Should i tell her what hes up too? I feel awful having to deliver bad news? | |
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Posted: 9/12/2005 10:46:31 AM | | Well I can tell you that you're damned if you do and damned if you don't tell the wife. If you are the bearer of bad news of course she may resent you. However, I always think of how I'd feel if someone was walking around with that knowledge and smiled in my face while thinking they have one up on me. That's just me..I want to know and I want to confront. You could send an anonymous note to her with a tip to check out so and so's username. At least do that. She's better off knowing. Even with all the pain, for me it's better to know. A few on here have voiced the opinion "don't look and you won't find out". As if I should be punished for seeking the truth. All I can say is everyone gains wisdom after experiencing these things and for those with flip/rude/curt replies...I only hope the wrath of karma does not come down on them so hard for prematurely judging me. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2006 8:17:01 PM | Hi belle-6,
The exact same thing happened to me this past March. I feel for you. I emailed the woman on her and she told me too bad that she'd decide. All I have to say is karma for her and him.
Cher | |
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Posted: 8/12/2006 8:35:33 PM | FIRST OF ALL how can you have only found out about this place yesterday when it says that you joined in 2005 and  and uh 2nd of all if you only joined yesterday, you cannot post anything until 3 days after youve joined....but nice try | |
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Posted: 8/13/2006 12:34:51 AM |
FIRST OF ALL how can you have only found out about this place yesterday when it says that you joined in 2005 and and uh 2nd of all if you only joined yesterday, you cannot post anything until 3 days after youve joined....but nice try
Huh? What are you talking about? Did you actually look at the date the thread was actually started... 9/7/2005, while her profile was created 9/6/2005? This thread in itself is almost a year old... it was just resurfaced by the poster previous to you. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2006 12:45:40 AM | | Here is a question that I haven't seen asked yet. Are you two engaged to be married or married? Until then both of you are technically open game. I am tired of hearing these kinds of stories when there is only just an emotional commitment. Second you obviously don't trust him or why else would you be checking his history? | |
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Posted: 8/13/2006 1:28:06 AM | | Hey belle, you think thats bad...............right now, I'm "seperated" from my husband, as we were gunna work on our marraige......( this is what he told me) then we were gunna be back together after the year apart. Well, I found this plenty of fish website in my e-mail, so I checked it out.........and there was MY HUSBAND! watch out ladies sleepyhoneysuckle in Wa state is a complete fraud! Yes, it hurts, yes its horrid, and makes me think alot of people onlinbe at this site are frauds...............my husband even took a pix in a TOWEL! He said he was "get this" SINGLE, well he will be soon enough.........LMAO! | |
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Posted: 8/13/2006 2:02:58 AM | ha ha dont you love it when a guy tries to out smart you lol what you do is is read all the mail photocopy it all then sling it in his lap ha ha ohhhhhhh yes , i know someone whos husband did the same but he was caught out because us women are clever  a smart ass taught me well lol  | |
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Posted: 8/13/2006 4:14:10 AM | OP you should have TRUST in him and you SHOULD be able to tell the signs apart as in how hes acting and if he is NOT himself my opion what ONE talks about on the fourms is THEIR bussiness its NOBODY else's and if you can NOT trust him to come online and on this site why are you LIVEING/DATEING him, you should already get some kind of VIBE that will tell you or show you ways of him MIGHT not being faithful you should be blamed aswell as him for snooping around in his ID and trying dig up dirt...
If he did this to you than i would say the same thing about him but what is a realtionship/marriage WITHOUT trust???........ | |
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Posted: 8/13/2006 4:26:46 AM | on the subject of passwords!! if she knows him a password is not hard to suss out, done it myself... and i found out the man i was gonna marry was a complete tart
Sweetie i wish you all best, do whatever it takes to make you feel better!
and i agree with you naming ans shaming him!! some women would easily belieive anything there told,
it saves them the hurt to..
good luck hun..
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Posted: 8/13/2006 4:39:50 AM | | When someone constantly insists that they value honesty then it gives you a very real reason to distrust them. People who have to continously say that are not honest or trustworthy. They say the same think over and over maybe because they are trying to to convince theirself. | |
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cpk
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Joined: 8/9/2006
Msg: 100 | |
| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 8/13/2006 5:29:57 AM | | If you spend every sleeping and walking moment together, where did he find time to actively search for someone else? It obviously was from home because you accessed the computer. I agree what he did was wrong, but obviously something is missing in the relationship for him for him to do that. I wish I had an answer for you, but it would probably be best to break it off or sit down and discuss the issue. Anger leads to hostility and defensive behavior and gets you nowhere. Trust me on this one. The last thing you want is to keep a guy around because you want him in your life, but he doesn't truly want you in his life. | |
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