| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 5/12/2007 9:18:40 AM | | I totaly understand. I think that If you love him you should try to work things out and seek professional help. the game works both ways. My ex- wife I found was looking aroiund and playing around durring our six year marriage, yet telling me every day how much she loved me and enjoyed being with me. When I installed a key logger on the computer which she knew about because we were concerned about our youngest daughter and her mental well being things were cool. One day I checked the log and found that my wife had been chatting with several men, she ussually checked the history for our daughter. I asked her about it and she wigged out and demanded that I remove it form the computer. a month later she told me she loved me but I didnt love her any more and it would be best for us if she moved out. She moved out into a guys house whom she claims is just a friend. ha ha. It can work for both genders. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2007 4:54:05 PM | I have a helpful suggestion, here goes if you are feeling enough mistrust towards him to scour his email and personal items for clues to prove your suspicions,than he is probably not who you are meant to be with.healthy relationships generally dont involve that much investigation.but cheer up and have this beer and welcome to pof  | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 9:29:41 AM | | Been there, done that. Mine did the same thing. Tried to put the "dirt in my yard" when the filth belonged to him. I can't stand when someone does that. Just won't be honest and take responsibility for their crap!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 9:40:25 AM | This will not be a popular opinion...
But i think it is wrong to snoop.
Every human being is entitled to some privacy, it is a basic need and you should not deny them of their rights as an individual just because you are a couple.
He may have just been bored and killing time...i mean i sometimes look up my ex's on sites but it doesnt mean i have any intention of hooking up, its just curiosity, natural.
So are you any happier now that you invaded his privacy?? Really, you only hurt yourself OP. He may have been perfectly happy with you but now that he knows what you're capable of, he may have lost some respect for you too. Too many women find dirt and think they are justified. Snooping is wrong whether you find dirt or not. I'm not saying what he did is ok either, especially the way he tried to shift the blame. Then again, if you committed a similar act and he forgave you...why aren't you forgiving him now? The bottom line is you can't control his behaviour, only your own. Keep your dignity and don't stoop to that level of invading anothers right to privacy. Do unto others... | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 7:57:33 PM | Belle,
Consider it a gift of God. I had the same thing happen to me, but I was doing a resume and pop ups came and I called the phone number of the girl. I found out about alot of sites he was on. I had no idea how to begin . The girl he emailed on biker kiss. com helped me catch him. He also played dumb. I almost married this guy . I was hurt like a knife thur my heart, but I was blessed by an angel. This man was not for me. I have learnt alot about the red flags now. I thank the one above everyday that I didn't make the wrong choice. Hang in there and have faith , you will find a good person. You were blessed whether you believe it or not.
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Posted: 6/11/2007 10:10:11 PM | It's really not that hard to get at the guys passwords to find out what he's doing online. There are a wide variety of programs out there that you can secretly install on his computer if you are reasonably suspicious that he may be cheating.
My guy was out whoring on several sites and on MSN. And he followed through sleeping with them as well. Yeah, I spoke to them. As of June 10th he is now my EX!
Oh no, it gets worse! Him and his room mate, another guy had two fake profiles on here as well. They took photos off of the internet of really hot female models to use as the profile pics. Then had fun with the hearts of literally 100's of guys on here! I recall walking in on them having a jolly good time making fun of these poor guys and sending off leading messages.
So yeah, I'm not surprised about the amount of guys/gals complaining about how weird and screwed some people are on here.
I of course did email the guys that had messaged the fake woman and been talking to my ex and his buddy through email on the profiles by logging into the profiles myself and telling them they had been duped and then happily changed all the passwords so that they can't be used anymore. I also edited the profiles to warn any other guys that I might have missed that they had been duped. 
Mozzilla Firefox is a nice browser, so easy to retrieve everyones passwords from when on thier computer just tooling around. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 10:47:41 AM | | hun your not alone there!,ive had that happen to me also ive even taken a punch in the side of the head becos of challanging my then partner as to y he was on the dateing sites in the first place!..i had recently had yet another failed relationship with the same thing with a guy i met off this site!...with internet dateing,i was always lead to think as with any other form of dateing that once you have found the person you feel you want to be with then you basically stop looking and flirting with other ladies but that isnt the case with men you meet off the net hun.best not bother with net men,they just cant seem to stop searching for new ladies to chat up...it becomes like an obsession with some men...thats when someone ends up getting hurt...normally the female as she will always be more emotionally involved then the man she thinks loves her so much!...untill he either goes to work or gets a spare bit of time to use the net without her around!its just abit of fun to most guys....but it breaks a ladies heart when she finds out the truth and it will change the hole way she sees men and relationships in general... | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 9:50:48 PM | Same thing here.
Needless to say that guy is now my ex. He was staying up all night telling me that he had work to finish, and that he was just chatting online to find himself a badminton partner, which was fine with me. Until one night I went to hug him and say good night and I glimpsed what he was looking at POF. I didn't know what it was back then so I thought I'd check it out. Low and behold that low life was on here, with the add saying "Lobster: looking for the one" also he was looking for a long term relationship. (He might actually still be around here since that was only about a month ago. ) I confronted him about it and he blew up at me. He went and blamed everything on me, that I wasn't "like this" and I wasn't "like that". It really hurt at the time afterall he was my fiance, but I found myself again, picked myself up and dumped his ass.  | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 11:02:52 PM | ...well well, or my my....I have had my share oh yes, of unfaithful men in my life... but I too, found myself being unfaithful at some point. Hard cold honesty. It hurts to feel it and hurts to say it. I appreciate the straightforward flaming of a very real issue.. but why oh why do we always think that "cheating" could never happen to us? Let me tell you, when you are in a relationship and somethings' a miss.. you know it.. you just don't want to face it. Too often we tell ourselves how happy we are, and how "we" would never cheat on each other... but in the end... when we go looking for it.. or have a that "sinking feeling that something isn't right".. and the truth comes out.. we are all too eager to act indignant and hurt. The reality is we just got ourselves an excuse to be set free! Yes, Men are aggressors by nature.. but a decent man has honor and pride... just as a decent woman does. He covers up when he flirts, romances and finally has the affair. He figures he isn't hurting anyone..and he. after all is a male... with needs. Yeah. This is called a narcissistic personality. He will never change no matter how much he says he loves you... AND women are narcissistic as well sometimes!They are just as bad. Mental Illness like this rarely improves over time. Therefore, Man or Woman, if you honestly believe you are entitled to play, not be safe with sex, romance and use all the people you can... anyone who doesn't get a clue about it at some point... is a masochist who enjoys pain.
Get strong, leave and get help... or you will just keep dating the same sick people.....WORD,
best, Miss Pirate... | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 11:39:01 PM | I think the OP did made the best decision she could in a situation no one deserves to be in. Snooping isn't right but sometimes we have those nagging gut feelings for a reason. I also think it's good that she let the girls he was chatting to know who they were really chatting to. I'm the first person to advocate a person's right to privacy but when it seems like someone who's meant to be in a committed relationship is, in a sense, living a secret life...all bets are off. What I advocate even more is owning up, in a mature way, to not wanting to be in a relationship with someone before your boredom or restlessness leads you to lying or sneaking around..whether it's actual cheating or not. A little thing called respect. As many people said, I don't understand the need to still be on here if you've found someone you could potentially have a future with. Yeah...I was given the "I only read the forums!" justification myself...along with "I'm waiting for an old friend who's on there to reply...". Inbox notification emails, anyone?  That having been said, I do know a few people on here who do strictly check out the forums...they usually make it pretty clear what their availibility is on their profile. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2007 8:09:14 PM | I am the monogamous type but if I was more into being with different people at the same time I would save my energy and be honest and look for an open relationship.
I think it's disgusting that some people want their partner to be exclusive to them and then they lie and cheat behind their backs.
Adults are supposed to handle their choices and actions, gosh!! Please. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2008 2:52:07 PM | | I think that this site has a lot of cheating partners on it because its free. If they had to pay for it the charge would show up on a credit or debit card every month which could lead to questions. Because its free no charges show up. I've met about 3 different men on this site who, for one reason or another are unavailable in the evenings or weekends. They like to chat it up during normal work hours. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2008 3:46:04 PM | It just goes to show you most people have little morals or integrety and America is full of lowlifes!
It's like when you go to the supermarket, you have to be selective because there is so much junk you could buy to plump you out!
Looking at a person's family and their past can tell you a lot about how their ethics are sewn! | |
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Posted: 11/26/2008 5:23:49 PM | | I dated a guy this year that kept flirting and talking to other woman on a different site then this. He didn't respect us being together at all. It bothers me that men get mad when we want them to delete their profiles on dating sites. I mean the site isn't going to disappear so what's the big deal? And he didn't need to get mad at you. He was the one who did wrong. And of course like a typical man he gets mad and tries to make it seem like you did something wrong. Sometimes the internet can complicate things so badly! | |
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Posted: 11/27/2008 4:43:56 PM | Well ..... Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 9/7/2005 6 43 AM and its now ......... 11/26/2008
more than 3 years later and I see .... Belle is still on this site herself.
wonder if her ex is too ..... and what kind of luck they are having now.
My first thought was .... nice of you to call the women on here whores.
for they must be if he is whoring around on here.
more likely she wasn't quite what he really desired and was looking for that better match. Not whoring at all except maybe with her ... since he didn't like her that much.
Its all a matter of perspective.
personally I won't erase my profile because i like to use the forums. In fact that is mostly what I do in this pond.   | |
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Posted: 11/28/2008 12:07:30 AM | | I went through the same thing with the man I was seeing. I posted on the advice post here and he was so stupid he responded and revealed himself. I guess he couldn't take the truth because he then deleted his profile from pof! Sorry, but what a loser! | |
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Posted: 11/28/2008 3:21:34 AM | | can i just say im so so sorry ...... the very same thing happened to me about 4 months ago .... i caught him a few t this times before but this time was different , we was on holiday in corfu ... in aug and he was mailing women from his phone and telling them he was ther by himself ...... the way mine reacted was to run .... he wouldnt talk to me at all ..... these lying cheats need to know how much it hurts and destroys u ..... i was i could name mine on here look well if it the same b loke that would be bizzare but i wouldnt put it passed him ....... any way hun u take care and i hope u find someone who is deserving of u and someone u can trust at the end of the day its there loss not ours xxxx | |
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Posted: 11/28/2008 8:24:13 AM | LOL!! Man oh man oh mannn. If women did what came natural to them, they would be on a constant search for the "alpha male", which personal experience has taught us time & time again that we have yet to meet. Can you blame us if we cheat? Honestly, we're just trying to find the best of the best, and for you to judge us based on nature's program isn't very logical.
Give your head a violent f*cking shake, buddy.  | |
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Posted: 12/10/2008 3:59:41 PM |
For the record the Old Testament whether Jewish version or other translations other than the feralized versions, defines whore as any woman having sex out of wedlock.
That's why God made confession booths.... | |
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That includes rapists, adulterous males, males who can't control their loins for whatever reasoning!
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