| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 12/10/2008 5:39:02 PM | | POF doesn't "remember" passwords, but some programs like Windows or Norton will save them for you. If he was stupid enough to set them to auto-fill, he deserved to get caught. | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 12/11/2008 1:37:12 PM | | I agree with a few!!!! My girlfriend met someone on here and they were with each other for a bit both deleted their accounts....then come to find out today the jackass is back on the site I say to hell with men that can't be true to just 1 woman.....they willl obviously burn in hell when their time comes...... | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 12/12/2008 5:26:53 PM | I got this message from a women who told me my James was her James I was in total shock we have been together for teo years ..........he says he does not know her........god it broke my heart not sure what do do.....................
her message .................
I told you in a previous message..but dont know if it got through..James got in touch with me on a dating website..we have been chatting and emailing and texting for months. He says he loves me..lol. I havnt met him but he was furiuos when I refused to meet him in August at a conference he was on..my Father was dying at the time otherwise I would have..not knowing that he was in a relationship. He is supposed to be coming to see me next week...not now eh?
Its just that you seem so nice.. and I cant stand men who do this to nice ladys..or any lady they have a relationship with.
I am so sorry to tell you. He will probably tell you he only wanted me for phone sex or cyber sex. we have done both many times. But only because he is so demanding..he knows that he has lied to me..and obviously to you as well. He clearly is not the man of honour he professes to be.
If you want more..photos, dating site profiles, copies of texxts..you only have to ask. But I think you have enough information here to decide what to do.
I shall not be in touch with James again. Good luck. Sorry to have to tell you. But I know I am not the only onee he talks to. Elaine x | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 12/12/2008 7:52:25 PM | | If she has the proof, Meg, she should provide it. It could be true and it isn't the site's fault, it is James' fault. He may have duped many women. | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 12/12/2008 8:40:10 PM | | Join the rest of us.....I am beginning to think that is all this site is good for/But on the other hand,wakes us up to reality before it's too late.....Can you imagine,leaving the country with one of these jerks and then finding out what they are?...And here you are in a strange country and can't even speak the language?......Lucky for me,I woke up and smelled the coffee before things got that far but my heart goes out to the ones who were not so lucky! | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 12/13/2008 1:48:04 AM | If he'll do it to you, he'll do it to someone else. I've had it happen to me and the funniest part was the new photos he put up made him look ill. He thought he was hot cause he had me. He's not. My moment of stupidity, I guess. He will get what he deserves-karma.
When he's hurting from it-he'll remember what he did to you-it always comes back to haunt them sooner or later. | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 10/11/2009 3:12:38 PM | | Honey, I just feel like I have to respond to you! Everything you have said is all too familiar to me! I went through it with my boyfriend of over a year. He said all the same things, used very similar excuses but in the end it never works. Trust the kind broken hearted advice of a stranger, it will not work. Go with your gut and where there is smoke there is ALWAYS fire. Love is not always enough to make someone act appropriately in a relationship. He was definitely addicted, and not willing to give it up. He said he was deleting his account, but he only made it private. I had to actually set up a fake account to prove it. Honey, it's just not worth it....please believe me. I am only on here to read others stories for the moral support. Move on. | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 10/11/2009 3:34:42 PM | That's awesome that you took the time to tell all of his contacts about this! Your action has made the world one iota more safe and transparent. Yes, of course he tried to blame you-he was cornered. Hope you don't buy into his gaming in revenge. Also good for you to know his true character, tho it surely has been a painful experience for you to go through :( Next time around you'll probably pay even faster attenton to your instincts, and that's a good thing to take from this quagmire | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 10/11/2009 3:43:42 PM | I wouldn't handle it the way you are handling it.
I would have asked him about it and why and then made a decision. You breached his privacy ... and even though you 'found him out' ... you needn't have contacted all those women.
Because you are now basically not his woman.
People do things for a reason. If you were shadowing his every move, that may be why he was playing.
Meh, I am not justifying his behavior but I hope you both realise that by not dealing with your trust issues between yourselves, you have affected that many more people.
Good on you both, keep doing a good job. | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 10/11/2009 11:55:41 PM | | If he's on here fishing for some trim, then I think it's quite obvious that your aren't satisfying him enough at home. Wouldn't you agree? | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 10/12/2009 3:56:09 AM | Yeah what a whore...you must punish him with not having a brazilian, wearing french-cut underwear, wearing subtle perfume and changing his modem to 56k---that'll do his head in....then blocking this site using Net Nanny or some child proof internet filter.
Really, what the heck are you doing with him...do revenge by tee-ing up with any of us single dudes here...because we're all faithful, and loyal and trustworthy...yeah every single one of us.  | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 10/13/2009 12:54:48 PM | Yea, I had a situation similar to this. I thought we were doing SO good and couldn't wait to have a future with him. When I found out he was on this dating site, I was irate..but didn't do anything but cry like a blubbering baby. But it continued to eat at me, until I just had to end it. Can't, and won't do it. Good luck to his fishing I say  | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 10/15/2009 2:26:32 AM | | Apparently a "bf whoring on plenty of fish" is worse than snooping at a "one night stands computer history and finding child porn, pipe bombs, murder etc"....refer to Ask a guy--computer history does it hold any meaning?? I got totally burned for telling the truth! I didn't even know this thread existed till now...just to update you all i never answered his call yesterday... he called twice.. he is considered dumped...not sure what to do about his family though...at least you have the support instead of getting slammed like i did for looking at computer history.. This is how i look at it now.. it's called His Story for a reason eh?? So he can make up His Story after | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 10/25/2009 9:43:14 AM | It seems many males get trapped in the 'excitement phase' of relationships, in that they find sesuality greater when dating and taking libertys with girls before marriage: in other words stealing what is not even a woman's to give. When they finally get married or co-habit it seems to lose the thrill as it no longer like stealing and they seek flirtations and exciement elsewhere.
I think they just DO NOT know who or what they are supposed to be about and bow to lesser animalistic tendacys like dogs breeding!
But both of you sound like you don't know or didn't know what was going on in the relationship because wasn't this something that should have been disgussed for months prior to your commitment to each other?
Like the truth is not going to come out in the wash! | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 10/31/2009 2:13:40 AM | | Where did she name him????? And why is repressing your angry taking you to a higher place???? Girlfriend if you are mad contact me. I will give some real ways to work out your angry. | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 10/31/2009 2:17:50 AM |
You breached his privacy ...
She is better than me. I would be real evil. I would have let him meet his replacement when he came home one night. Sitting on the sofa drinking a beer all cuddled up with me. I would have gave his clothes away to good will. Changed the locks and tooks his dog to the pound. Taylor Swift aint got nothing on me. | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:37:49 PM | Belle-6,
If someone blames you for his cheating, i.e. blame the victim, he's testing you to see how much guilt he can dump on you to shift the blame from him and the focus from his dishonesty. When you add in that the guy followed you around for a few days after the break-up, to me it's a HUGE RED FLAG : "ABUSIVE STALKER"- if you give him another chance, more than likely he'll start putting you down, and eventually getting physically abusive. He's already shown you that he's emotionally abusive and dishonest. You know you can do much better and you deserve much better treatment. There are plenty of nice guys out there-and luckily you're wise enough and strong enough to move on. Consider yourself the lucky "one that got away". | |
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| I feel for you..
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:25:00 PM | I had been dating this guy and found out that everytime he blew me off/ignored me, it was because he was on dates with girls he was meeting on Craigslist.
I should've been tipped off when he would always say that I was accusing him of cheating on me, when not once did I ever do that. Because I never thought he would. It made me feel like crap when he'd say "I am at home, in my bed alone." or "I work 12 hour days, I get tired"...when in all actuality he was out with other women. Or in their beds.
It hurts and I'm still not over him.
But it gets better. | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 11/4/2009 9:08:35 PM | He totally reversed the argument.......Wow, he is a clever one.
You are better without him. He is totally a game player. | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:30:24 AM | Blaming you for his deceptions and having secret activities is typical sociopathic behavior.
Yes they can devastate your soul.
Please take a look at this webpage as it will explain what you are living with:
http://www.lovefraud.com/Articles_in_Lovefraud_Blog.html | |
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| Boyfriend whoring on Plenty of Fish
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:59:59 AM | Finding out my ex was on here whoring while we were together is how I found this site as well. This was the tamest of them, let me tell you. Oh well, turns out he only hurt himself in doing so, lol. Because now i've met a few people thru HIS mistake and he's still whining that he misses me. Add in that a friend/coworker of his is on here "keeping tabs on me" and reporting to him all the times I post on the forums or change my profile!
And he was the same way. When HE got busted doing something wrong, he always found a way to turn it around on me. Making HIS mistakes MY fault. And that's not limited to cheating either.
Hang in there hun, it seems to be a trend these days.
You are so not alone. | |
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