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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 6/28/2009 5:48:44 PM |
say you got pregnant by someone in a week or you got someone pregnant in a week of knowing them
As a female I can with complete sincerity and assurance say it's very unlikely that I would "get" someone pregnant in a week of knowing them.
And I damm well KNOW I would never have someone "get" me pregnant within a week of meeting them - because hello? I can control how wide my legs spread and know for certain this would never occur.
What decision would I make?
Not to have done something so foolish in the first place. | |
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 6/28/2009 6:28:01 PM | Holy crap!!! Doesn't anyone listen these days? For God's sake, I thought everyone knew that if you take antibiotics with the Pill, it makes the Pill ineffective! They taught us that waaaaaaaaaaaay back in the sixth grade, an then told us again in 10th grade sex ed.
Condom usage these days is not about just pregnancy....ever heard of AIDS? When was the last time you got tested for that and other STDs? Pregnancy is easily taken care of, either you get an abortion before 12 weeks, or you give the child up for adoption, or you raise it on your own, maybe with the dude, maybe not.
However, if you get AIDS, who is going to raise the kids you already have? You are practicing unsafe sexual behavior, and you need to understand that you getting sick affects more than just you at this point.
Oh, and sleeping with someone even with a condom does not protect you against Herpes, I hear that totally sucks too!
Your sexual health is YOUR responsibility. You should take this seriously, and from this day forward start taking better care of yourself and using protection at ALL times. If and when you are in a MONOGAMOUS relationship, and you have BOTH been tested, and you feel you can totally trust the man, maybe then you can just trust the Pill and go 'bareback'.
The pregnancy issue is YOUR decision. It is YOUR body. These are YOUR morals and decisions to make, and absolutely no one on here can tell you what to do. We can tell you what each of us would do in your situation, but you are ultimately left to make your own choice. Personally, at my age, I'd have a heart attack if I turned up pregnant, first I'd sue the Dr that tied my tubes, then I'd figure out how to raise him/her. I would tell my bf immediately, then after his stroke, we'd figure it all out, but he and I have been together for a good time, so it's not like a week.
Good luck. Please get tested, take care of yourself, and use condoms from now on. I hope this all goes well for you.
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 6/28/2009 7:13:00 PM | I agree with Playful4321. Thsi person has the right to know. If he is told later, he will resent it and it would ruin any chance of a relationship. The momen you know you're preggers, TELL HIM; it's his child too, you know.
Also, where does this notion come from, that a man would stay with a woman just because she is pregnant, and not for love? I know of a few some guys that dumped their girlfriends when they got pregnant, and one woman, who dated a friend of mine, dumped him after she found out she was carrying his child - and refused him back in her life even though he basically pleaded with her to let him back in.
When prevention fails, either through contraception or abstinance, the only thing you have left is THE TRUTH. Telling that truth is the most honourable thing left and the most right thing too. Then you can decide what you will do with each other going forward.
Good luck.
I.M. Ulysses. | |
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 6/28/2009 7:39:06 PM | Good lord.....
Firstly, I truly believe that everything happens for a reason....
Secondly, You knew the consequences yet still had unprotected sex....
That's a tough one.... I seriously don't know the answer and I hope to never be in that position to know the answer either!!!!
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 6/28/2009 7:44:15 PM | Your the one that will carry this child for nine months, so yes you do get a bit more say in what happens. However, if your feelings are not figured out then how will HE fell in three months? When you tell him you've known for the past 2.5-3 months and were "trying to figure your feelings out". I'll bet he will assume your sleeping around, it's not his, don't call, don't write, you get the idea here.. Tell him when YOU are a 100% positive that you ARE pregnant. At this point, you don't even know.
Antibiotics WILL cause birth control pills to be ineffective. It is known and there ARE cases where this has happened. The antibiotics causes the levels to drop, thus - ovulation. So, if you really do not want children at this moment I would suggest using protection.
Hope it helps - Best of Luck
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 6/28/2009 9:12:29 PM | I really don't mean to come down on you, but lack of "condom use" has nothing to do with self-esteem,
It absolutely DOES come down to self esteem. Making the man wear a condom when he doesn't want to takes a commitment to your own welfare over his desires since it makes no difference at all to HER (except she doesn't have to do as much laundry) but it makes a lot of difference to men it seems since they resist it so much.
A lot of times the woman doesn't have the self esteem to refuse sex without a condom. Everyone knows that and they know full well men exploit it.
Women need the self esteem to rate themselves as being important enough to say NO instead of giving in to please the man.
For those of you telling her to use protection - why are you harping on at her when it's him who didn't use any. At least she bothered taking the pill even if she didn't do it properly. He left all the responsibility up to her. Why aren't you mad about that??? Why is that ok with you????????????
Five pages of responses to this thread and NOT ONE saying anything about his part in this.
That's pretty basic. | |
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 6/29/2009 1:34:49 PM |
The pregnancy issue is YOUR decision. It is YOUR body. These are YOUR morals and decisions to make, and absolutely no one on here can tell you what to do. We can tell you what each of us would do in your situation, but you are ultimately left to make your own choice. Personally, at my age, I'd have a heart attack if I turned up pregnant, first I'd sue the Dr that tied my tubes, then I'd figure out how to raise him/her. I would tell my bf immediately, then after his stroke, we'd figure it all out, but he and I have been together for a good time, so it's not like a week.
Good luck. Please get tested, take care of yourself, and use condoms from now on. I hope this all goes well for you.
Beth
What she 'should' have said was 'the pregnancy if YOUR decision IF you made the baby all by yourself'..... If you did .. let us know and fox news.. | |
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 10/16/2009 9:33:16 PM | | I think a week knowing someone and then getting pregnant by them is rather irresponsable and no guarantee that a relationship exists. Frankly if I had no real emotional feelings with someone I had sex with and she got pregnant. First I would try to sue the condom manufacturer, then secondly what ever means of birth control the women used. I dont think there would be a solid foundaton except for accepting responsability to provide and helping raise the child if such a thing occured, which wouldnt since I am careful in that respect. | |
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