| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/2/2007 12:27:22 AM | Cheating is much more complex then just the cheater doing the act. However the ability to cheat says something and then the ability to justify it is even harder to understand or accept. The act of cheating usually indicates something is wrong already in the relationship and it hasn't been addressed. But to lie about it says so much about ones Character that would be harder to forgive then the actual act of it.
If things have gotten that bad or weren't that good in the begining one needs to look at the depths one looks within themselves and others. And if someone is that deceptive that they can hide something like that i've wonder how disconnected the other really was. When my ex had feelings for someone else i knew something was up and asked but she gave no answers till i found the note... I simply knew and i think if people don't shut themselves off or disconnect when things are not going well they would be able to tell as well. If your not reaching out and trying to solve the underlying issues that made it possible in the beginning you are simply part of the problem. If A person is just a deceptive pig they must of been like that when you met I'd find it hard to Change ones Character to be able to cheat.
Just my thoughts,
crazylilting | |
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| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/2/2007 1:19:03 AM | cheating is NEVER right, whether this be a male or female cheater. if your partner does not show you the affection you would like, talk about the issue with them!
if you cant agree, (maybe your partner is not the affectionate sort they once were), then mutually agree to split as there is not much point in staying together if one is warm and the other is just luke warm, or cold.
Cheating is for a low life | |
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| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/2/2007 7:53:32 AM | What makes cheating rite? NOTHING! If it's getting too hot then get out of the kitchen. Get out out of the bedroom, get out of the house, just get out period. | |
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| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/2/2007 6:58:24 PM | | Yeah your right cheating is not forgiven thats why i think lots of guys/gals just want to be friends first it's the trust that has to be gain by him/her and it's not easy I've been single for 4 years I'm just afraid sorry I'm a little off topic | |
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| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/3/2007 4:27:57 AM | I don't know, but there is a rite of cheating. This happens when you are not getting your "needs" met and you are compelled by a force of nature to go somewhere else to get these "needs" met. There are two ways to perform this rite.
1. You don't tell your "partner" about it. This is cheating secretly on the side. This will cause you to be labelled a liar and a low life.
2. You tell your "partner" about it. You say that you are leaving and then you leave to start things up with a new partner. This is considered acceptable practice even though the problem of getting "needs" met usually comes up again with the new partner. | |
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| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/3/2007 5:24:02 AM | | Nothing makes cheating right. If something's not working then try to fix it. If its still broke then leave. | |
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| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/3/2007 6:13:12 AM | Some one who feels the need to cheat, ought to feel the need to move on.
The first one to kick up abput being cheated on, ought to take a good look at them selves first.
Once you cheat, it will happen in any future relationship, again and again.
Then comes the lies and cover ups and such. It is not worth even thinking about.
You cheat, you loose. | |
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| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/3/2007 6:43:39 AM | | and what if your married and theres nothing for 8 yrs and your only there for your child see i didnt cheat and what did it get me the bi### goes late life lesbo and steals my daughter and know im in a custody battle that is killling me why are woman heartless | |
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| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/3/2007 6:54:31 AM | | I agree with msg.60. Absolutely NOTHING makes cheating right. .ever. IF someone wants out then have the decency to just set the other person free. Be upfront and honest and leave with some dignity in telling how you feel. I feel sometimes people cheat due to "their needs" excuse, they say the other person is gone alot with work or such. Then there are those whose feelings fade as time goes on, instead of recalling what made those feelings strong and try to revive them they turn away and let the distance grow. The reason they hang on seems to be the uncertainty or the confusion of if the new person being a better choice initially or that they have that familiarity with the first person, like having their cake and eating it too. I don't say this from what I would have done, NEVER cheated and never would. NOT my nature to. I have been cheated on and have seen these type of behaviors at some points though to refer to. Cheating is worst when there are children involved as they have to live in a broken home often. | |
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| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/3/2007 9:49:20 AM |
what a stupid thread
If you don't want to be in the relationship - get out
Lmao! What makes cheating right?
Nothing
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| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/3/2007 10:04:15 AM | cheating is not right!
but if you are in a love free relationship... then walk... I know it is never that easy but funny enough it really and truly is that easy...
WALK | |
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| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/3/2007 10:20:07 AM | Cheating is not right... Once a cheater always a cheater.
If you want to cheat don't get into a relationship. just keep playing the field.. | |
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| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/3/2007 3:17:37 PM | A spell checker might help. lol
Of course, there are some women who scream CHEATER! for having lunch with a co-worker of the opposite sex. These are hyper insecure or controlling. | |
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| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/4/2007 2:18:24 PM | | bottom line...cheating is just plain wrong. if you're unhappy, then for cripes sake, end the relationship instead of cheating. | |
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| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/5/2007 6:51:41 PM | | Before answering that question, what is cheating? If you are in a relationship that has a reasonable expectation of fidelity, part of fidelity, biblically, is to not withhold your bodies from one another. So, if your partner denies you, from lack of interest, or some sort of power play, that denial severs the "fidelity covenant", and it's an open question if being with someone else is really "wrong". | |
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| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/5/2007 10:41:23 PM | | Cheating is just that.. cheating. Means no right at all. No excuse for that kind of action | |
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| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/5/2007 10:58:46 PM |
Cheating is just that.. cheating. Means no right at all. No excuse for that kind of action
Yes, but what is cheating? Hypothetically, if a woman lost interest, and refused to sleep with her husband for a year, but he wanted to stay to be a father to his children, would he be "cheating" to have sex with someone else, or would she have broken her vows in such a way, that he was no longer bound? | |
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| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/5/2007 11:55:08 PM | Melo, I don't know about yours or anyone else's experiences, but..
to me, the most hurtful thing is not the fact of being cheated on.....but the very thought that I'm too stupid to figure out what's going on, down to every last E-mail.
Hello..??? I know how to use a PC, get passwords, DUH ! And I AM a pretty good judge of character (except for the waste of the last 14 years of my life. BIG exception, huh ?). HOWEVER, my self-esteem/character is intact and my ex's...tortured forever !!
I can LOOK at myself in the mirror with a clean conscience !
Good luck to all of us ! | |
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| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/6/2007 10:03:48 AM | Melo--
I've been reading your posts here in this thread and a few others, and was feeling uneasy, so I went and read your profile...
Let's see 57, alpha male, father figure, interests 'everything, with the right person', etc etc.
Age between 21 and 60
Cheating is just that.. cheating. Means no right at all. No excuse for that kind of action
Yes, but what is cheating? Hypothetically, if a woman lost interest, and refused to sleep with her husband for a year, but he wanted to stay to be a father to his children, would he be "cheating" to have sex with someone else, or would she have broken her vows in such a way, that he was no longer bound?
Either you like playing word games or you need to spring clean your attitudes. And why would you want to date a 21 year old? She'd be younger than any kids you may have.
Of course, it's just my opinion, I could be wrong. | |
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| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/6/2007 10:21:37 AM | Either you like playing word games or you need to spring clean your attitudes. And why would you want to date a 21 year old? She'd be younger than any kids you may have.
Of course, it's just my opinion, I could be wrong.
What this has to do with the topic, I don't know, because I am faithful, when in a relationship. I have to wonder why another guy would be paying attention to my profile, I haven't a clue, but to answer your question. I didn't realize, when I created my profile, that I could leave age as "any", because I can have a conversation with anyone. It has since been changed to "any"
I have, likewise, dated across a wide spectrum of age. I was married for 19 years to a woman near my age, and just ended a 5 year relationship with a woman 29 years younger. In between, I dated women from within 2 years of my age, to the woman I had a 5 year relationship with, who was much younger. In the 5 weeks since my last relationship ended, I've dated a woman 56, one 29, and one 26.
It's a different dynamic, with someone the "same age" as me vs the "much younger" women, but each has its own unique delights. Some young women are drawn to even tempered, approving "father figure" males, for a lot of different reasons. I've found too, that often younger women are more sexually adventurous with fewer hang ups. That, and I sometimes imagine how nice it would be to have another child. On the other hand, there is something nice about being with someone, who has a sense of shared history, and who I can reasonably expect to have figured out life through experience. I love women, and so long as we're in sync, then age is the least important consideration. If some people have a problem with that, well, "talk to the hand".
I'm not defensive about my feelings and opinions. I put them out there openly and honestly. As much as you may not approve, I've managed to make friends, and even held elective office(Mayor) in a small town, where "everybody knew me". I don't actually care if you approve of my attitudes or not. It's who I am, what I think, and how I feel. I'm not looking for a "lot of women", or guys, to "approve" of me. If I find a woman who is drawn to me and my type, cool. If not, I'm ok with where I am in my life, as it is. | |
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| What makes cheatin rite ?
Posted: 7/6/2007 10:24:10 AM | ANSWER :: NOTHING................................................................mefein. | |
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