vp2
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Msg: 101 | |
| | Why do men have affairs?Page 5 of 29 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29) | yup, sorry, have to tell you it's not true. I happened to like what I was "eating". Unfortunately, so did a few other men. | |
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| Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/16/2005 7:12:56 PM | | ^^I've eaten ham and cheese sandwiches for lunch for over 28 years. Still luv um. | |
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| Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/16/2005 7:20:50 PM | Lot of reasons.
a) his wife is bad in bed or has no sex drive left
b) his marriage/relationship is falling apart but he feels a sense of duty to stay
c) he's met someone who makes him feel "manly" again and wants to get that back
d) he wants his ego stroked by a women who hasn't put up with his crap for 10 yrs
e) he can pretend he is someone he is not
f) he wants to taste a different flavour...he gets bored easily
g) he is testing the waters to make sure he still has what it takes to be "the man"
h) he's fishing for a new lady to replace the old hag at home
i) he's been emasculated by his wife and found his balls in "debbie's" bedroom
This isn't a gender issue but for the sake of the question that's what I figure are only a few of the reasons a man might cheat on his woman. | |
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vp2
| | Joined: 8/29/2005
Msg: 106 | |
| Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/17/2005 1:35:43 AM | you're right picker, none of them good. There is no good reason to cheat. Unfortunately, there are some who rationalize their way into cheating so that when they are caught, they already have their excuse lined up. They even go as far as to blame it on their partner, so they feel "forced" into cheating. | |
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| Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/25/2005 4:28:15 PM | why r we generalising on men here women do it too , we all get bored , and think the grass may be greener on the other side , relationship breakdown , gone as far as it can.children involved,they dont wanna walk out because they loose there kids , because they get married too young . women pressure them into marriage , wot is it they say , the day a man gets married ,he's had his last blow job,some people get married because they think there in love , may be they are at the time , love is a four letter word and so is shag, people just do it too young ,the ladies want the fairy tale of the wedding dress , the man wants a nice life . i aint done it yet and i wont till i find the one . as they say nothing last forever , may last forever if you do it later in life ,when u got a few experiences behind you and realise for real wot it is you want ,and not just chasing a dream,,so sorry if i upset any one just my two penneth  | |
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| Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/25/2005 4:47:35 PM | Nothing wrong with a man having an affair as long as he realizes it's not with me that he's gonna get one and if I'm in a relationship with him...his a*s*s would be officially grass.
Hope she was good, cause she's what you're left with! Make it count baby!Make it count! | |
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| Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/25/2005 4:54:25 PM | aaawwww Blast - such a cutie!
OT: Why do women have affairs?
both cause their insecure or cause they dont really care about who their with. | |
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| Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/25/2005 5:06:03 PM |
There is no good reason to cheat.
hee?? since when does anybody rationalize to do anything. I am surprise people think that they do things rationalizing, thye may do it because of past events (using the memory) but not because of actual rationale. everything is a justification a posteriory that tries to match the moral feelings of the person doing the justification. people don't live rationalizing but pretent they do | |
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| Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/25/2005 5:31:03 PM | | HE NEEDS SOMEONE TO TELL HIM HE'S GOOD,IF WE'RE NOT GOING TO.....THEY CHEAT BECAUSE THEY THINK THE GRASS IS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE....WHAT THEY DON'T KNOW IS IT TAKES MORE WATER...... | |
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| Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/25/2005 10:07:57 PM | Both men and women have affairs because they are not having their needs met. Meet their needs, whether emotionally or physically, and they won't have an affair.
Joe | |
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| Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/25/2005 10:12:25 PM | Bull
My needs weren't met physically or emotionally and I never cheated. Some of us believe in our vows completely. | |
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| Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/26/2005 3:26:03 AM | | Probably because life gets dull and boring with the same partner, and or routine...so the chance of some fun and excitement is too tempting to resist....maybe it even makes you feel young and attractive again...whatever the reason, its still a pretty crappy thing to do to someone | |
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| Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/26/2005 12:26:04 PM | | i'd like to know the answer to that.. but when i was married and mine cheated his excuse was " no one understands how i feel" " i feel important" blah blah blah.. he had a good wife and good kids and just couldn't be happy with having a nice house wife kids and jobs had to go mess around.. i'm still not sure why.... | |
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| Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/26/2005 12:47:31 PM | I don't know the answer to that question... I'd sure like to know though.
I found out about this site because someone told me that my boyfriend was on here.
I was able to get into his account(he was stupid enough to sign into the site on my comp) - and read tons of emails to women. I also read an email that verified that he had slept with 1 woman on this site.
We tried working at it - then a week ago I found out that he was on here again... different name, said he was another age, different state.. all that... and found out again that he had slept with someone on this site.
He said that he didn't know why he did it - that he had so many screwed up relationships in the past that he just felt like he had to screw this one up... and finally, that he wasn't at the point in his life where he could be in a committed relationship. I was like, WHAT??? we've been together a year and three months... couldn't you have figured this out sooner and broken it off with me before you went around sleeping with other women.
It's him... but also, women don't care a lot of times. Both women said they thought he was single... as they should b/c that's what he told them.
Anyways... cheating just sucks!!! that's all I have to say! | |
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| Why does ANYONE have affairs?
Posted: 9/26/2005 1:47:37 PM | ya know, if i read "not getting their needs met" one more time i may throw up.
can someone even explain what that means? really?
it's a character flaw. a liar, cheater and betrayer is just that. why is it when someone robs someone we can't just shrug it off and say, well, their financial needs weren't being met. really it's ok, none of my business.
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| Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/26/2005 1:54:21 PM | | Why do men have affair's...maybe becouse they are married to a wife like what I had..! Last 3 years of my marriage...I got ZERO sex of any sort...hell a kiss was almost to much to ask for by her standards. BUT...BUT....I never had a affair, but you bet I thought about it alot after going without any form of love for 2 years. But I took my marriage promises very seriously and NEVER did it. If I would have..I would have lost all my self respect for myself and I am the toughest judge on myself when it comes to things that go against my values and morals. | |
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| Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/26/2005 1:59:26 PM | SNIPPET FROM OTHER POSTING.....
a) his wife is bad in bed or has no sex drive left
b) his marriage/relationship is falling apart but he feels a sense of duty to stay
c) he's met someone who makes him feel "manly" again and wants to get that back
d) he wants his ego stroked by a women who hasn't put up with his crap for 10 yrs
e) he can pretend he is someone he is not
f) he wants to taste a different flavour...he gets bored easily
g) he is testing the waters to make sure he still has what it takes to be "the man"
h) he's fishing for a new lady to replace the old hag at home
i) he's been emasculated by his wife and found his balls in "debbie's" bedroom
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For me...some of "A"....and a over flowing truck load of...."B".....Now D is your standard stupid comment. | |
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| Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/26/2005 2:01:49 PM | | i feel for ya rare find. i do. my ex actually made sex painful, no kidding. but, don't you think it's worth it to try to find out WHY things are falling apart in the bedroom and maybe try to fix them? | |
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| Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 9/27/2005 4:40:02 PM | | Why do men have affairs? The SAME reason women do: Ethics and character or rather the lack of them. Cheating is selfserving and self indulging therefore the result of emotional/pshychological dysfunction. | |
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