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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 8/14/2008 6:30:57 PM | | Omg blueeyed boy that was not a cool thing to do she could have waited till the date was over and thanked you for a nice evening and said i am sorry i think we really did not hit it off | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 11/25/2008 9:01:58 PM | | im a guy and women do it too its all part of inter net dating hes proberly found some one else and dont relise you are hurt or dispointed as it goes ive done it my self and its been done to me i done it coz she sent me a tx after a date complaining i didt ring her back when i said i would and i thought if you whanted to talk to me why you didt ring ring me and the time it took you to send me a rude tex you could of sent a good one and thoght shes mad im legging it lol | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 12/2/2008 10:13:24 AM | People...men and woman...disappear.
Many people do not like confrontation.
No communication is communication. It says Good bye.
They want to go now. | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 12/2/2008 8:33:22 PM | Wow, so many issues to consider. I think a SIMPLE, hey I'm really sorry but I find that I'm not interested anymore. To blow someone off without an explanantion IS rude and inconsiderate in my eyes.
As they say, ladies, pick up your boot straps and walk on.
Peace to all.
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 12/5/2008 3:41:53 PM | | I think men disappear for the same reason as women do. In fact every woman I have emailed has either ignored me or talked to me for months and then simply stopped, no goodbye, nothing. An "F U buddy", although rude, is preferrable to nothing. The worst is when someone disappears and then comes back 3 months later saying "why don't you write anymore." Hey email works both ways. I think both genders have the same issues and the only reason women think men are bad is because you are only dating men. Trust me, if you dated women too you would find them surprising similar. They disappear, lie, cheat, and manipulate just as much as men. The whole point of dating , wether online or in a bar is to filter out the average jerk and find the jerk who is tolerable enough to spend the rest of your life with. For the record I have never disappeared on someone, nor am I afraid of getting serious. In fact, I am so naive I actually came here looking to be serious with someone. Shows what I know;) | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 12/5/2008 3:56:38 PM | | People disappear because they cannot face the issues at hand. It is far easier to pretend you never existed than to talk things through. | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 12/5/2008 5:32:22 PM | Men disappear most of the time because they are in another relationship.
that's all to it | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 12/6/2008 8:27:15 AM | | Both women and men disappear. There have been instances when I went on 1-2 dates with a woman. Things were going reasonably well between us. Then I suddenly stopped hearing from her. I would contact her one more time a week later after the last conversation. Either she would tell me that she's no longer interested or she wouldn't respond to me. There are many different reasons why this happens. They met someone they liked better. They weren't completely over ex. They are married or are in a serious relationship. They were never that serious about dating to begin with. They became afraid of getting into a relationship because of some previous bad experiences. They are really picky and always think the "grass is greener on the other side". The bottom line is this. Some people don't have the courtesy or the courage to be completely upfront and tell the other person that they are no longer interested. If I lost interest in a woman, I would tell her that ASAP. I wouldn't flat out ignore a woman or ignore a woman until she directly asked me if I was still interested in her. | |
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ml456
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Joined: 5/14/2008
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 12/6/2008 9:25:55 AM |
Some people don't have the courtesy or the courage to be completely upfront and tell the other person that they are no longer interested.
Exactly. As for the reasons why someone loses interest. It could be anything. Some people will lose interest in someone because of some very minor reason. | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 12/6/2008 1:36:21 PM | | People in general disappear because they don't like you that way and they are too scared to say it to your face. Period. | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 12/6/2008 8:49:11 PM | | I have 'disappeared' before. If you make a decision that the person is not for you, what is there left to discuss? Why the need to stick around and explain yourself when you'd probably make the person you're leaving feel worse. I think they can figure it out. | |
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Sefra
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Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 291 | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 12/7/2008 8:48:07 AM | I have 'disappeared' before. If you make a decision that the person is not for you, what is there left to discuss? Why the need to stick around and explain yourself when you'd probably make the person you're leaving feel worse. I think they can figure it out.
If you had dated someone 1-2 times, then a simple text / email message stating we're not a match is fine. No need to go to in any details. If you had been dating someone for an extended period of time, then I think other person should get some explanation. I would much rather have someone tell me that they aren't interested. Because I know it's over at that point. If someone does the disappearing act, when do I decide that she isn't interested in me anymore. A day, 2 days, a week etc. Being rejected always hurts. But the sometimes a way the person was rejected ( such as being ignored ) can make it worse. The disappearing act is the easy and convenient thing to do for the person doing it. Not for the person on the receiving end of it. | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 12/20/2008 2:35:35 PM | | hi i no u dont no me ,and proable not even on here any more,but thanks for the addavice that ur dad gave u.Only new to this. | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 12/21/2008 10:00:29 AM | | something is fishy here. you need to start asking ?s. if you feel something is wrong then it is. do'nt know what his motives are. but you need to get to the bottom of this. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2009 8:20:38 AM | Simple answer they have an oversized ego and need to be in control. Its is probablly due his lack of self esteem. He is afriad you might find out that he is not worthy of you. I have been writing and talking to a guy from Scotland Sometimes 3x a day he would call for hours at a time. I was getting hooked. I said this could be the one. So after the first 2 dissapearing for days and me making contact this time a recent as 3 days ago he dissapered again. NowI i am sure as he thinks I have done before I will contact him but after saying to him not to pull a Houndini he did it again. SO MR DUNDEE WANNABE LATER!! There is a book about this. So as a woman I remember what my dad would tell me and my parents were married 60yrs before they passed. IF A MAN LOVES A WOMAN HE WILL FOLLOW HER TO THE ENDS OF THE EARTH AND NEVER TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER,IF HE DOESNT KICK HISS ASS TO THE CURB.!!!! MEN LOVE THE CHASE. Its about winning. So what i know now that my Scottish Braveheart from Dundee is an overinflated egomaniac and not worthy of a women of character,morals and goodness. Ladies do you work google him if he in UK 192.com check out his background. So If a sweet talking Scotsman who says he travels for a living hits you up RUN!!!! hahahaha He is still cute but now my turn to play. Get tuff ladies and remember what my dad said. So if there is a Tall Scotsman with interigty out there hhmmmmmmm LOL Love your self ladies> | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 2/10/2009 8:23:49 PM | Well first my name is terrisita heres my comment about that first of all most men are very immature and so that means they get scared when a women gets close to them so they run because a lot of men are scared of comment or even getting close even when they feel they are about to get close they pull back and don't never think it's something you did because that's not the case and some men just run like that when they feel they are about to hurt that someone so instead of being a mature man and telling that woman that he will just run men run for numerous of reasons but thats a problem they are gonna have to deal with.But im very sorry to hear that but trust me i know i have dealt with that quit a few times in my ife. | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 2/11/2009 3:51:18 AM | Both of you set up a totally unrealistic situation and then you wonder why he backs off? You don't even know the man and yet he's offering to buy you a plane ticket? Why would you participate in such an unrealistic situation? He probably became nervous because he did something which showed neediness and he didn't want to commit to spending money on someone he does not even know. I think that you need to look at how unrealistic you are about participating in these situations.
Why don't you stick close to home for dating and also, look at your expectations for meeting someone. Most of the time, when you meet someone from this website, the chemistry won't be there. Why are you so surprised? What kind of extreme expectations did you think would occur?
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 2/11/2009 10:19:54 AM | Like you we all are on here because we are looking for something anything that resembles kindness. When a person shows you that we respond human nature. Dating someone from Scotland may be far fetched but geographic location is always the certainty a relationship will work I myself prefer UK men so that there isnt any men in my town you have to seek elsewhere. But you are right some times extreme situations dont work but sometimes they do Good luck to you!! | |
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