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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 9/15/2005 1:12:14 PM | my guy disappeared 3 hrs after he called and wanted to see me and i couldnt its been almost 7days now still now word.
hes not married and we were seeing ea other for over a yr .....
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 9/15/2005 1:32:45 PM | | `Same thing here. I'm going through ir right now. And I think it's because they can! Their advantage is that it's long distance. We can't just show up on their door step. This is the second time it's happened to me. I and he are in our late 40s so it doesn't change as they get older. They'll still use us and toss us away. I wish you the best and hope it does'nt happen to you again. If he does re-appear tell him to take a hike. He'll do it again. | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 9/15/2005 2:36:06 PM | dee61 i cant find your signon for some reason to write you personally...?
anyway i like what you had to say and it helps so much to see the guys viewpoint as long as they too are being honest. your stepdad sounds like a very nice man and wanted only the best for you.
i would love to chat more w/you on this subject.
i am goin thru the same thing now well theres more to it but all the same.
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 9/15/2005 4:02:49 PM | poshrat said:
Too much emphasis on the Man being the Hunter..and developing his technique to get a girl, and a complete loss of what to do next once he's got one..and more importantly, how do depart gracefully if she isn't what he was seeking in the first place!
My god... that was so well put!!! | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 9/15/2005 7:55:48 PM | | Maybe he was just using you until his conscience or another woman came along... I used to do that, now i'm waiting for the right one and it's been 3 years since I've had a date!! Should I lower my standards? or just keep waiting? I just read a profile where a woman is ESTATIC about her new love... that's what I'm waiting for; no if, ands or buts... I think we know when it's right and fool ourselves when it isn't! | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 9/15/2005 8:19:28 PM | yup...went through it too. The emotions were the hard part, first angry...how dare he disappear without a courtesy call, we are too old for that s***....2nd emotion, hurt.....just because he was hurt before, why take it out on me......3rd emotion.....i need to tell me off.....and then...will i hear something i don't need or want to hear.....finally...back to hurt....i will deal with it and not generalize about men.....hopefully it won't happen again.
the hurt is the worst, espcially if you really were liking the dude.
thanks for listening...good luck to us all! | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 9/15/2005 8:33:14 PM | | Sign me up for that night out Please..I had a similar thing happen..I met this guy and we really clicked, then he disappeared for awhile, but i would send him a short e-mail, once in awhile..but about 3 weeks ago almost 4 now, he e-mailed me and we sent a few back and forth, then we met on msn and and talked for a few hours and he told me how crazy about me he was and that he had dated a woman for 5 months, but his heart wasn't in it and he wanted me..He talked about wanting to settle down and eventually marry..He talked about me being his soulmate and wanting to move here..We exchanged numbers and he called me for the first and only time..We had a great conversation and he was gonna call later that night, but never did..Btw that number he gave me never worked..Keeps saying, person is unavailable to take calls..I have e-mailed him several times, with no reply..I just asked in the last one, to let me know, if he was dead or alive.. Still nothing.. I figure, either he got hit by a transport, or was abducted by aliens lol Gawdd knows, cause i don't..It has happened, too many times to count.. Sign me confused in Canada, Again | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 9/15/2005 9:18:42 PM | | I ahve a question, why do you guys kiss us and say i'll call if u really aren't interested? Are u mad cause u didin't get want u were truly aafter? | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 9/15/2005 9:52:15 PM | | Dump the loser..Your gorgeous gf and you deserve better...He is playing games and sounds like, he will play them, as long as you let him..You'll find someone better, who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated...Actions speak louder than words..He has a gf..Let her deal with him..Give him the silent treatment and ignore him, till he gets the message, that you are through with him and his lies and games...You'll be better off without this guy..Believe me.. | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 9/20/2005 6:49:17 PM | | Hey Sindee: The ladies are every bit as good at the disapearing act. I have had that a few times. It's sssoomuch better to just say. I'm not interested at this time and leave it alone. I get ssoooo screwed up when someone says I'd love to have dinner with you next weekend, We'll chat on thursday to set a time and place. Then you check for them and their profile has been deleated!!!!! | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 9/20/2005 7:11:01 PM | | I didn't even read this thread, but the reason both men and women just dissappear is that they are chicken! They don't have the heart or the guts to let someone down. Bawk bawk, ba clawk. | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 9/20/2005 7:17:01 PM |
And just for the record... Only guys are acting this way, right?
No, there are some women who do it...but I kind of think it's more men than women who do...I could be wrong, though.
I had the same thing happen on another site; he said he'd met about 15 women and there was 'no spark' except with one who lived a couple of hours away and neither one would move, so that went nowhere. The rest all were nothing like their profiles...one he sat next to for 10 minutes till she finally asked if he was ever going to say anything; he was like; do I know you'...she looked NOTHING like her profile...Anyway, we met and things appeared to be going well; as we were leaving the restaurant he asked if he could see me again and I said sure. We made plans to meet that weekend, had a couple more emails where he mentioned there was definitely a spark there and he couldn't wait to see me again...but the day we were to go out he never called to firm up where and what time...he sent an email later apologizing, saying he had gone skydiving (he used to be an instructor) about an hour away and didn't drive his own car and had just gotten back. He wanted to do breakfast the next day but I was having a few people over for the Labor day holiday and aksed if he wanted to stop over. He said sure...and then never showed up. Have no idea what happened there...but as he made sure to mention how 'oral' he was during a conversation after we had met, I believe I have a pretty good idea what he was really looking for, regardless of what his profile said...and I think he knew he wasn't going to get it from me as fast as he wanted to...No loss there for me ;) | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 9/20/2005 7:32:14 PM |
Hey Sindee: The ladies are every bit as good at the disapearing act. I have had that a few times. It's sssoomuch better to just say. I'm not interested at this time and leave it alone. I get ssoooo screwed up when someone says I'd love to have dinner with you next weekend, We'll chat on thursday to set a time and place. Then you check for them and their profile has been deleated!!!!!
Santafe that is exactly the point I was making, it is not only men that do it, women are equally as guilty. My experience has been with a man disappearing but I know women are capable of the same behavior. Either way, either gender, it is a low blow. I got the ole "kiss goodbye and call you tonight" blow off and it sux. But hey I am not losing sleep over it because karma remembers even if I don't *smile* | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 9/20/2005 7:33:31 PM | If I were you, would use that plane ticket, show up at his place and hit him over the head with a frozen turkey....
But get the turkey at your destination, the airport people might object....for reasons that we all know...hope the fundamentalists are not reading this...hate to give them ideas.... | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 9/21/2005 8:43:19 AM |
If I were you, would use that plane ticket, show up at his place and hit him over the head with a frozen turkey.... But get the turkey at your destination, the airport people might object....for reasons that we all know...hope the fundamentalists are not reading this...hate to give them ideas....
That's awesome!!  | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 9/23/2005 4:05:09 PM | i know i wouldnt disappear. im dying to meet someone to spend the rest of my life with. maybe the problem is that you may think for whatever reason, the relationship has started. maybe it has with one and not the other.
may God bless you all.
George | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 9/23/2005 11:04:00 PM | They just do - it's not you, it's them. It's your chance to move on and find someone who treats you like a queen (of course you have to reciprocate). Don't analyse it to death and try not to take it personally.
It's not you!!! | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 9/24/2005 8:06:02 PM | | I have had this happen more times than I want to admit. The last guy I met on here, I told him about it, he promised me it wouldn't happen, we talked for almost a week, we were suppose to meet the following weekend, the wednesday before the friday we were supposed to meet, he disappeared!! I don't know what it is, they say they are looking for something serious, but then poof they are gone. Maybe this is just all too weird for them, maybe they are scared, I don't know, but I am getting pretty tired of it, I am about to throw in my user ID's and passwords and go back to the old fashion way of meeting people, at least you got to actually see those losers before they disappeared, and maybe even squeezed a drink or two out of them. | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 9/24/2005 8:11:19 PM | This has happened to me once or twice as the relationship was building. Only thing I've been able to come up with is they found someone else. In rare instances I've known of family crises or acts of nature interfering but I've learned to expect the worst. It hurts like a mo-do, even if the relationship wasn't serious yet, cause let's face it ANY rejection is hard!
I've had things mutually fizzle, where the emails got further and further apart, but what happened to you was cruel and heartless. I'm so sorry.
Rap | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 9/25/2005 3:10:43 PM | | Some times I think I am running out of fingers to count on! Yes..yes, it's happened to me too. I always wonder, why not just talk to a person and tell them how you feel? And yes, I know it happens to guys too but why can't people just communicate anymore? | |
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