| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 4/9/2007 12:53:28 PM |
my brother once said to me, some guys will use alot of flattery to try to get a woman into bed. Some men have hidden agendas.
Aye, some do... but most those types of men aren't really good with flattery. Some of us know what to say, but we is shy.. ya just gotta try something different if the same old isn't workin' :P | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 4/9/2007 1:51:01 PM | Sorry Mustlovedogs but I can't provide you the scientific answer to that generic question.
More specific data is required, but don't worry, as soon as my crystal ball, which at the moment is very busy trying to come up with a logical answer to the similar generic question "Why do women just cheat" ?? completes its task, I will let you know.
In the meantime you can go with the popular saying that someone told me in the Caribbean " Mucho prometer hasta el meter y una vez metido, se acabo lo prometido. "
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 4/9/2007 7:36:22 PM |
This is called Plenty of fish. Therefore there are many other fishies.
Thats where they go most of the time.
I think that's exactly what happens. Clearly it's happened to most of us and is rather perplexing until you take a closer look. Rather than focus on what seems like a good connection, many people keep fishing and another fish catches their attention before they've even finished/explored the possibilities with you. There's almost an addiction to the attention they can find on here if they keep looking. Ego strokes... | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 4/9/2007 7:50:03 PM | | Simple, guys are cowards. They pretend to be nice when it suits them but once they need to be faced with the truth. RUN BABY RUN!! I know I can't explain it. Don't think I ever will understand it either. How hard is it really to even tell the truth online. Could it really be any easier? Well, from experience. Apparently NOT!! ALL the same, can't face reality, no matter how easy it seems to be. So much easier to run and hide. I have yet to meet the decent guy that they all claim to be. Sorry guys, hate to generalize but 98% of you do the same old thing!!! No word of a lie. Get some guts, we'd rather hear the truth, even if its negative than be ignored. I'm sure the ladies on here will agree. Anyways, that's my two cents and my experience. | |
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Shicks
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Joined: 4/1/2007
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 4/9/2007 9:38:19 PM | Please read this book :)
"Why Men Date ****es"
I have been there too. When a man stops pursuing you, he is pursuing someone else. You must see other men and keep this guy in your back pocket *if you like him*. Who knows, you might meet someone better or when this guy comes around you might want to rekindle your passion. Play it safe and when a guy pulls away, do not pursue him. It is his job to worry about you and pursue you. | |
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Shicks
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Joined: 4/1/2007
Msg: 207 | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 4/10/2007 6:33:40 AM | I hate to say--GET USED TO IT---but that's the norm these days. Brace yourself as you approach the 3-month mark. I happened to me 3 times in the past 2 1/2 years. One never called again and the other 2 dumped me via e-mail. I hate to say there's a pattern here and I'm at fault but I have to look at the men involved: They all had women in their lives (ex-wives or
ex-girlfriends) that emotionally beat them up. I'm a decent person with some integrity and conscience and cannot treat someone badly. (Maybe that's the problem--he's waiting to be abused.) Should I take some lessons and start? Maybe he'll stick around a little longer??!!
All I can say is--I'M THROUGH WITH THIS CRAP. Going on with my life and seeking new social situations where I'll meet decent people and get rid of that "gotta have a significant other" mindset. You guys out there who have been treated this way by women--DO THE SAME!!! | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 4/10/2007 8:33:33 AM | Dear MustLoveDogs,
There are so many things that must be going through your head. I'm a man, to explain other men would be nearly impossible, they are all so different, even the married ones. Don't make yourself so "available", let the right man be drawn to you, let him do the work. Good Luck Honey, sorry you got hurt. | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 8/26/2007 6:11:02 PM | | Make damn sure the man you are hooking up with isn't attached or married. My boyfriend was cheating on me. I called the woman up as I was kicking him out to tell her that I was sending him to her. He begged me not to kick him out. He never called her back since. I heard she took it bad through a friend but I had enough. I still hurt from what he did to me. This maybe the reason why some men disappear. | |
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Posted: 8/26/2007 8:03:43 PM | I agree with Sindee and your stepdad was a very intellingent man. Thanks for sharing. I am 42 and have been dating on and off for about 4 years now. I haven't found what I am looking for, but I am not giving up.
I hate to admit this, but I am guilty of doing this myself. I have chatted with guys online and then I get discouraged because I date some and can't find a decent man that is honest and trustworthy so I just give up and log off for months. I don't tell anyone that I am chatting with and just dissapear. I don't do this to the guys I do see physically, but I have done this to guys I just chat with.
Dating isn't easy and I get discouraged and saddened that there are sooooo many single people out there and we are all seeking a companion and yet we just can't seem to find a match (sigh). Life nowadays isn't easy, but nothing is right???? | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 8/26/2007 8:19:02 PM | Ladies...Ladies...Ladies....
Did it ever occur to you that the man is cheating on someone and you were just a booty call? Testing the waters to see if he wants more?
Whatever their reason... so what!!!! You only had a few encounters count your losses and move on! They are not worth it!!!
Red flags sometimes take years...consider yourself lucky yours came early!
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Joined: 7/18/2006
Msg: 213 | |
| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 8/27/2007 9:31:08 AM | | A shiny new object came along. If you get the feeling you have dropped off the radar chances are you have. | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 10/26/2007 7:36:31 PM | I think we are all dating the same guys. It seems the online dating thing is SEX only. Ive been on here over a year and had countless number of dates, I slept with a few but couldve probably slept with all of them. I was hoping the ones I was intimate with would have been a " relationship" but instead they effin disappeared on me! And yes that screams not interested, its probably the most insulting way to communicate it too! I mean there are a million excuses you could give someone, why just disappear? Talk about a lack of common courteousy and manners!
I really feel the online dating scene is cursed. There is too much variety these days, it's so easy to say, "yeah she/he was ok, BUT when I go home and check my POF there might be someone better waiting for me."
I think its time to go back to the old fashioned way of dating. Cause the guys Ive met on here ARE NOT looking for love! Lots of ppl praise online dating for putting us in touch with ppl we'd never meet, I say We arent meeting those ppl for a reason!!!
peace yo! | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 10/30/2007 8:12:57 PM |
I cant' think of what I did to cause this??
Why do you think this is your fault? He is the one doing/not doing something. It is him. He is choosing his actions. Quit blaming yourself and piling on the needless guilt. | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 10/30/2007 8:31:56 PM |
Men disappearing out of no where is their cowardly way of saying "i'm not interested anymore." A lot just don't have the balls to say it to us. That isn't always the case but i'm sure if you talk to lots of girls they will tell you the same thing. But i'm a firm believe that what goes around comes around. They will have it happen to them, or so we hope lol
Women have such double standards is almost ridiculous. The conflict avoidance stance we learned from you girls after dumping us by simply not returning calls or e-mails. We are not stupid either. Hey, why get into an argument, and he said, she said exchange. You do it to us, now we do it to you. We save our balls to better endeavors. Same thing applies to going out on a date and then women get offended when they see their date back here. Hello, hello, you just went out, you are not exclusive so get over. What were you doing here as well? Naughty you. But women get madly offended by that, but let me tell you how double sneakity this is. Most women hide themselves to go check on these guys and other people. Guys, well, we are trying to be straight forward so we don't hide ourselves. Then the woman complaints. So girl, you are right what goes around comes around, thank you we learned from you.
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 11/2/2007 11:30:23 AM | GIRL BECUASE IT WAS CHEAPER FOR HIM TO FIND SOMEONE WHERE HE IS AND ALL HE PROBABLY WANTED OR NEEDED WAS SOME SEXUAL HEALING IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN I LEARNED THAT THERE IS ONLY ONE THING MEN WANT AND ITS NOT GOOD WOMEN WIT GOOD HEADS ON THERE SHOULDERS THEY JUST WANT ALL THE GOODS . AND MOVE ON TO NEXT BECUASE THEY DONT WANT TO TAKE TIME A FIND OUT THAT LOVE MAKING IS BETTER WHEN YOU GET TO KNOW SOMEONE. OR HE PROBABLY WAS WORRIED IF HE FLEW YOU OUT THERE WAS HE GOING TO GET SOME SO HONEY MOVE ON TO THE NEXT CUASE THAT WASNT THE ONE FOR YOU>>>>>   JENNIE | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 11/2/2007 4:19:36 PM | Listen up my dear.
Many people on dating sites just get "caught up"
by the "candy". As in: "hmmm, this one looks hotter, maybe
I can go after that instead". Don't sweat it! Try to get out
and find other ways to meet men. It IS a numbers game!
POF is wonderful; however make it just one of several
ways to meet people, O.K.? That way when that tantalizing
"Big Fish" ignores your bait you have better things to do and
think about!
Realistic... Good Luck!  | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 11/2/2007 9:21:08 PM | | Women do the same thing. I think that some people aren't serious about dating, are married / dating someone else or have the "grass is greener on the other side" mentality. | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 1/29/2008 1:10:13 PM | | I would imagine it is simply because they lost interest, have someone else or they want sex and did not get it (and don't think you are worth waiting for) or got it and have moved on. Sometimes coming on strong is just a way to get into your pants. | |
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| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 1/29/2008 4:10:34 PM | | This has happened to me so many times that it has gotten to the point that I do not even like to get the voicemail. Of course I know it is unrealistic not to ever get a voicemail but when the disappearing act happens a lot especially when everything seems like it is going well you come to expect that there will be that one time you will call and get the voicemail and then they will never return your call and you text message and they will not respond and then you get that feeling in the pit of your stomach and say to yourself oh no it is happening again! | |
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nike46
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Joined: 9/4/2006
Msg: 224 | |
| WHY do men just disappear??
Posted: 1/29/2008 5:57:08 PM | from a mans perspective, a real man doesn't disappear, he takes care of business. i heard of guys disappearing after a one nighter, but just disappear, i would think that he would have someone on the side the whole time, and maybe they took presidence over your friendship. my question i throw back at you, since you can get at least one date, is how and why do females play games on this site??? i have said it before, and believe that most women on this line, are aiming for a brad pitt, or a denzel, when they should be aiming for a woody allen, or an erkel. i'm sorry i'm venting, but don't take it to heart, there are good guys out there, just got to be patient, i pray everyday for miss right, and best believe she doesn't play games, which leads me to believe that she won't be on this line. thanks and good luck  | |
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Posted: 1/31/2008 7:13:31 PM | *cutting and pasting since I dont know how to do that fancy highlighted box effect!*
You know what the best part is??? They think we don't know that they are acting differently and then they chew us out or treat us like shit when we call them on it and of course that is their way to pick a fight and boom.... I am not saying that is the case all the time.. and yes ok woman can over react.... butttttt duuhhhhh we are not IDIOTS!
Well said Redmamma! I must say I concur!!  | |
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