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| why are there so many men without photos..........
Posted: 9/16/2005 7:07:43 PM | | If I can post my pic, and subject myself to rejection after rejection, then so can you. I don't want to hide. Also, if a woman likes my personality and wants to meet me, she most likely would feel awkward and try her best to come up with an excuse to get out of the date as fast as possible. That hurts too much. But since my pic is posted she can see for herself if she's interested in replying or getting to know me any further. Of course it hasn't gotten any further than a few friendly responses to say thanks for my interest in them and wishing me good luck in my search. That still hurts but not as bad. It's really ok. I'm used to it. And I'm not in anyway bitter. I am not one to hold grudges. I just keep on trying because I have no other choice. I am practically all alone. I need to love and to be loved in return. And I'm really hoping that somewhere there is a woman who will accept me for being me...a good, kind, caring, and affectionate man but with undesirable looks. | |
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| why are there so many men without photos..........
Posted: 9/24/2005 2:36:54 AM | (directed at original post)
Well... I guess these guys could just take pictures of their wanker instead to draw attention away from their face...kinda like girls take pictures of their tits and asses and then throw in a picture of a sunset or some other calming metaphor of themselves. everyone here has an ego, a subjective mental picture of themselves. "a few extra pounds" may be a just that to someone and a laughing matter to you, but at least we know around here now your inability to build relationships with people that don't resemble you. i don't find it to be deceiving if you knew that he was larger and had no pic...what were you expecting? | |
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| why are there so many men without photos..........
Posted: 9/24/2005 11:35:51 AM | | Just as bad are those men and women that post dark photos. Why post one if you can't see what the person looks like anyway...and com'on really a photo of your dog/cat/cartoon as your main profile shot....where does that get you? | |
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| why are there so many men without photos..........
Posted: 9/24/2005 11:57:50 AM | There are many reasons not to post a picture, myself as I've said in similar threads it is because my ex has a habit of tracking me down on the web, to avoid the hassel no pic.
To OP. I've met many women on here and had a few dates, I see just as many complaints from guys with pictures as from guys without pictures about not getting dates or no responses to e-mails, so I don't think it makes much difference.
I dare say there are just as big a percentage of women as men without pictures.
I would much rather talk to someone with no picture as someone with a fake or really old picture. | |
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Posted: 9/24/2005 3:42:48 PM | Hey Count Ilbili...or whatever....Bite yourself! The reasons are obvious and it isn't just men...sometimes it is women too. And if you are going to say that women are shallow....I am LAUGHING NOW! Men NEVER ARE! They are only looking for good women with sweet hearts and as ugly as can be...RIGHT! YOU NEED TO HIDE NOW. AND BE VERY AFRAID....Vix | |
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| why are there so many men without photos..........
Posted: 10/6/2005 12:17:50 PM |
Looks don't matter. It's what's on the inside that counts. That's what women constantly tell us. So, why should I put up a pic? You women aren't shallow by any chance, are you?
^^^^^^^ Don't know what women are saying looks don't matter...........never heard that in my life.........think it was some sorry looking dude that said that.
Of course he was lacking confidenace and thought by saying it "looks don't matter" would give him some. It's a theory. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2005 12:31:19 PM | | Its a privacy thing....I have a digital camera, know how to use a computer and know that I can hide my pic. I am attractive and have no self esteem issues. I just choose to not post my pic, if you choose to not chat with me and not get to know me because of it, your loss.And no I am not married........its not all about the looks. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2005 2:21:24 PM | I have learned to embrace my hideousness. Once you come to grips with being fugly, it can no longer harm you.
I had this conversation the other day to a pregnant coworker who complained that her husband was no longer "interested" in her.
Q Do you find hunchbacks attractive?
A Eww, No!
Q Do you think men would find female hunchbacks attractive?
A Eww, NO!
Q Then why is it, just because you have the hump in the front do you think your husband is going to get all frisky?
A You are such a dork! (after a pregnant silence)
See, women want to talk to me because of my winning personality, not because of my hideous, disfigured features... | |
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Posted: 10/6/2005 8:19:29 PM | The obvious..looks do count, for the initial impression and then it's downhill from there.
Women look for the hot guy, tall, dark, handsome
Guys look for the hot girl, basically anything.
Then they meet and delete, or, they are impressed with each others statistics, life events, and bragging rights.
So, after 3 months when the farting starts and you have your little pet names and rules nailed down is when the personality games begin, whether you are compatible or not.
For pictures, some like to be anonymous if they are with someone and just shopping the market for someone better (scum), they can post on the forums and say anything (obviously, not a problem for me) and they might not want the attention they get.
Women want to know everything about the guy including looks before meeting or making any commitment to meet whatsoever. So, once a guy goes through the battery of checklists of looks, job, mental, dental, psychological, then, just maybe, you will get a response or a meeting. Case in point, I was messaging with a woman who pressed me on all the filtering details as someone else eloquently put it and then it came down to a final question.
"how much do you make?" Classy, BLOCK. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 4:07:39 PM | well once you do post the picture is out there forever . i pefer to let a person see me on webcam then they know the person at the other end is real . i did not know until today that
you can restrict access to your photo to only the person your messaging. | |
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Posted: 2/25/2006 4:30:48 AM | ^^^^
so if you bug them enough about it and they really don't wanna do it, then... they'll just throw you a bone = meaning they'll just find some pic from the internet of some average person (or anything else for that matter) and that'll get you off their backs. If they aren't wanting a meet up with you, then it shouldn't matter.
And if the only way to get a talk going is to plant some picture on there, then people will do it. No pic + no meet up planned = doesn't matter
Just because someone has a photo up doesn't mean thats who your talking to, but if it makes ya happy to think so.... then so be it. Ya wanna see what they look like? Then ask for a webcam view. Multiple pictures aren't proof either since its easy to find pictures of the same people on photo album sites. Found out about that by accident when posting my own I realized the entire planet could see them. | |
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Posted: 2/25/2006 5:41:46 AM | | ^^^so you just told every person online that all they gotta do to talk to you is just find some picture somewhere and post it. Just because there's a pic there doesn't make the user any more real than having no pic at all. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 7:51:35 AM | | yeah and some say its not in the looks looks change but personality stays the same,but they dont understand looks are decieving too.I met a man who was nice looking on here but was way overweight too much for me that shot that in the head,he still likes me and wants to see me and I said we just didnt click.So Im the same way no photo then youd better say somehting awful fast to get my attention or use a cam | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 7:54:45 AM | Hey Count Ilbili...or whatever....Bite yourself! The reasons are obvious and it isn't just men...sometimes it is women too.
well i finallly put my pic on private view to see how it goes and now when men talk to me and ask if im interested ill send it to them nobody else its going ok that way but NOT AS MANY RESPONSES seeeeeee | |
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