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Posted: 12/18/2007 11:40:46 AM | Amen sister  Your reasoning as to why men should post their pictures is upsetting, I know that my opinion makes no difference at all. but not every person with no picture is fat or ugly or photographically challenged. A friend I met here on POF had no picture, but the reasong behind it was that he didnt wat anyone to know he was gay. he wanted a quiet relationship, and if one person found him on here, it'd be all over the town. and just for the record, he is the nicest and most gorgeous young man I have ever met.
anywho, just dont put all men or women in the same category just because they dont have a picture.
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| why are there so many men without photos..........
Posted: 12/18/2007 11:41:42 AM | | the reason why we guy decided to be without our pics is bcos some of the girls on this site are begining to make it less intressting.you might have to IM 200 people before you get just 1 response,even none atimes....there are times i dont even want to log on again...so pls girl get someone it takes courage to get a man on dating site we all need each other.go on ,get someone and let have some fun. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2007 11:42:15 AM | ....prefer to date men of African descent
Now there's something I don't see everyday. Kind of limiting oneself, aren't we? Never heard women at my church saying they'll only date african americans.
Sorry, if you're not a "brotha" I wont' date ya. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2007 8:08:17 PM | Can't speak for other guys, but as for myself, I don't have a photo because I have always been told that "personality is more important than looks" and I believe that statement  | |
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Posted: 12/18/2007 8:43:50 PM | Never mind the photos -- why are there so many men who hide their profiles. That is, when I look up their profiles from forums, the site refers me to something other than that person's profile. Makes me wonder what they are afraid of. Do they think they are such a catch no woman could resist pestering them, nevermind contacting them?
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Posted: 12/19/2007 5:16:07 AM | I have read with interest, this debate, and heres my £1 worth ...........
Fiction ............ not all men without pic are married ,have somthing to hide, lying, i dont have a pic, and i have met ladys with pic NONE looked like their pic !!!!! i have also met ladys with out, and in all honesty they have been much nicer !!!
Fact ......... Most Women just want to judge you on a pic, how can you judge a person on a pic ??????? it may be bad, not like you, if they dont like that very small out of focus pic , then no matter how nice, kind, you are they will not take the chance and EVER meet you
Fact .......... Woman want to see a pic so they can keep it on their phone and show their friends all these men that are looking at them !!! they will NEVER meet you !!!
Fact ......... If you want to know what i look like take a chance and meet me, what have you to lose ?? an hour of your time ???????? its the ONLY way you can tell what someone is really like and you allso get to see how genuine they maybe
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Posted: 12/19/2007 5:49:05 AM |
Yes, I can., because I never said women are exempt
Maybe it doesn't apply to you in particular. But there were some threads where some men stated that women without pics were fat and ugly. Some women stated that these men were shallow, ignorant, judgmental etc for making these comments. I still think plenty of ugly, fat, and/or married men ( or women ) would use a fake, old, or deceptive pic. They know that having a pic of a fairly attractive person on their profile will get a lot more attention than having a profile without a pic. | |
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Posted: 12/21/2007 4:41:50 PM | Only as shallow as you men! I am amazed how many men email me who do not have photos, yet on their email filters, they will not communicate with a woman who does not have a photo! What a double standard!
I asked one guy who had a very blurry photo up for a more clear one, and also suggested that virtually everyone has a digital camera, even on their phones, that even if he didn't have a digital camera, someone could take his pic for him and he could put it up shortly. Well, he got mad at me and accused me of being shallow and went on about how looks shouldn't matter, but when I asked him if he selected women based on their photos, especially since he commented on how nice I liked in mine, he got even madder! Of course his email filters were set on photos only - so he does value looks after all! Yet he does not want the woman to judge him on his!
The only other problem is , that most people post deceitful pics - younger, lighter, more hair etc... than they are now! | |
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Posted: 12/22/2007 9:49:08 AM | | For the same reason women don't post photo's. I'm not sure if you've looked at women's posts, a vast majority of them don't have pictures and then a lot have professional photos' posted. Then when you finally meet them, well I think you know the result. Like you I've been burned by photo's such as these or lack of photo's and to tell you the truth women are worst when they use the term, "a few pounds extra." | |
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Posted: 12/22/2007 10:37:28 AM | mine is without pictures because I seek outside of my marriage lover. My daughter patronizes this site.
but I get a lot of hit (tire kickers), but no response. If I get a response, the woman teases, but for some reason, she backs off. Maybe she does not know what she is looking for, even though she indicates she wants an affair. Fickle? | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 12:18:57 PM | In response to Msg 25, it isn't shallow to have preferences with looks. Everyone is attracted to some people and not to others. Doesn't make that person shallow. I'm not out for a great-looking man, but I do want one that I find attractive. Now, what he has on the inside greatly increases the chance that I will find him attractive. But I have to admit that I'm not attracted to some men who don't take care of themselves, are really overweight, etc.
I wish people would stop saying that considering looks is shallow. Everyone does it, and it's natural. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 2:17:43 PM | I dont know what is worse women with no photos or very out of date photos !
I have had numerous dates where an old woman turned up when I was expecting a middle aged woman ! Then they wonder why I turn and walk away when I meet them ! | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 2:28:49 PM | This topic has been done to death. While some people who do not post pics have something to hide, most people don't want their professional lives intermingling with their personal. The internet is public, and once a pic is posted, you lose all control over it.
One last thing, just because a pic is posted, doesn't mean its legit or actually belongs to the person. I've been burned one too many times. I've had dates which involves a
"thing" that slithers into the seat across from you or pushes spandex to its theoretical maximum. Scary - I thought the nicorette troll was only a myth. | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 8:22:20 PM | I think its the same with women, there are as many men with out photos as there is women, if its such a problem, than set you mail box preferences to that they cannot send you a message with out a photo attached to it, thats how mine is set up.
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Posted: 4/5/2008 2:13:41 AM | | Not every person on here that doesn't have a pic on their profile means that they have something to hide and therefore shouldn't be placed under the same umbrella. I have mine hidden. I will also look at profile's whether they have a pic or not and if i read something i like they will recieve a message,whether they read it,well thats up to them. | |
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